No Compliments

[blobfish]

So Blob do you compliment her? Lol

I'd rather complement a woman than compliment her.

To answer seriously, yes, of course I would compliment her. Only serious assholes wouldn't. I would never be an asshole to somebody that I loved. This is a dumb thread full of dumb questions.

 

[EroticApology]

Thank you!



No silly. I'm saying a sexual compliment can be taken the same as 'Your hair looks nice today', or 'You're a great Mom', WHEN you know that the person is sincere. It's the intent behind it.

I don't know how ANY relationship can sustain without some sort of flattery. They would be life suckers.

I agree...

 

[EroticApology]

I'd rather complement a woman than compliment her.

To answer seriously, yes, of course I would compliment her. Only serious assholes wouldn't. I would never be an asshole to somebody that I loved. This is a dumb thread full of dumb questions.

If its dumb why did you elect to be apart of something dumb? Lol

 

[dolf]

a compliment can be an appreciative look, it can be a kiss, or obvious enjoyment. it can be respect for my opinions. it can be a lot of things. i don't need a man to say i'm pretty. i dislike compliments given because it's the done thing in that situation.

if i give a compliment it's genuine.

 

[pete]

So you've accepted being unattractive....and in order to avoid disappointment you limit your expectations to not receive a compliment? So is it you are REALLY unattractive or do you meet those who validate what you've aalready concluded of self....have you in fact lowered your exoectations to avoid being hurt out of fear?

once i accepted my looks for what they were/are, i no longer expected anything in the way of compliments, flattery, free drinks, etc.

superficial expectations in life, in general, seldom reward. my expectations are more about goals, personal achievement, and getting sandra bullock to return my calls.

i wasn't looking to avoid pain. that was just a bonus.

 

[EroticApology]

a compliment can be an appreciative look, it can be a kiss, or obvious enjoyment. it can be respect for my opinions. it can be a lot of things. i don't need a man to say i'm pretty. i dislike compliments given because it's the done thing in that situation.

if i give a compliment it's genuine.

Of course we want what's genuine....but I'm asking if its genuine or not.

 

[blobfish]

If its dumb why did you elect to be apart of something dumb? Lol

I'm never apart of dumb. It follows me like a black dog.

 

[blobfish]

Of course we want what's genuine....but I'm asking if its genuine or not.

Some people are, and some people are not. Compliments for the sake of complimenting is ego masturbation.

 

[EroticApology]

once i accepted my looks for what they were/are, i no longer expected anything in the way of compliments, flattery, free drinks, etc.

superficial expectations in life, in general, seldom reward. my expectations are more about goals, personal achievement, and getting sandra bullock to return my calls.

i wasn't looking to avoid pain. that was just a bonus.

So how would you know you are being successful in reaching your goal if someone doesn't give you feedback which is complimentary? How would you know they are pleased?

 

[EroticApology]

I'm never apart of dumb. It follows me like a black dog.

I created this thread...you responded. Who is doing the following at this point? Not once but repeatedly. If you know its dumb why continue? Lol

 

[Aquagal]

So how would you know you are being successful in reaching your goal if someone doesn't give you feedback which is complimentary? How would you know they are pleased?

I think he's saying he can differentiate between aesthetic compliments and compliments about a life action. Which is true.

Looks are fleeting, it may catch an eye but a winning personality is much more attractive.

 

[EroticApology]

Some people are, and some people are not. Compliments for the sake of complimenting is ego masturbation.

No one said anything for the sake of.

And what's wrong with stroking ones ego...lol

 

[EroticApology]

I think he's saying he can differentiate between aesthetic compliments and compliments about a life action. Which is true.

Looks are fleeting, it may catch an eye but a winning personality is much more attractive.

Even if looks are fleeting it doesn't deserve to be complimented?

 

[pete]

So how would you know you are being successful in reaching your goal if someone doesn't give you feedback which is complimentary? How would you know they are pleased?

now you're talking about performance. i was only talking about appearance, previously.

i accept it as human nature the desire to sate other people's ego's by complimenting their efforts, whether sincere or not. i've done it, i assume it's been done to me. i'd be a hypocrite if i expected sincerity 100% of the time.

if a girl gives me a compliment after i've gone down on her for half an hour or so, i'll assume she means it. if it's only been a quickie and she pretended to cum at the same time i did, i'll assume she was just being nice.

but, again, i keep expectations low. high expectations are like a guy walking a tightwire 50m above the ground: one simple gust of wind rattles him. the guy with both feet on the ground doesn't even notice.

 

[Aquagal]

Even if looks are fleeting it doesn't deserve to be complimented?

Ach! You're twisting my words! Of course looks can be deserving, but even that alone won't sustain a relationship.

 

[blobfish]

No one said anything for the sake of.

And what's wrong with stroking ones ego...lol

It's the basest form of the human relationship. Complimenting someone just because you think that's what they want to hear diminishes both parties involved.

 

[EroticApology]

now you're talking about performance. i was only talking about appearance, previously.

i accept it as human nature the desire to sate other people's ego's by complimenting their efforts, whether sincere or not. i've done it, i assume it's been done to me. i'd be a hypocrite if i expected sincerity 100% of the time.

if a girl gives me a compliment after i've gone down on her for half an hour or so, i'll assume she means it. if it's only been a quickie and she pretended to cum at the same time i did, i'll assume she was just being nice.

but, again, i keep expectations low. high expectations are like a guy walking a tightwire 50m above the ground: one simple gust of wind rattles him. the guy with both feet on the ground doesn't even notice.

I see you point. Makes sense...but seems more like a safety net. Do your expectations remain the same for casual relationships as for committed relationships? I'm thinking the level of expectations would raise for someone you have deeper feelings for or have high values for?

 

[warrior queen]

My man isn't big on flattery for its own sake.... he rarely compliments me just because it seems right.
When he does, however, it's from somewhere deep inside and he absolutely means it.
Interestingly, he shows me how he feels rather than tells me... doing little things that he knows I appreciate, without telling me he's done it.

I don't have an issue with it... I am secure enough in myself to know that he's with me because he WANTS to be, not because of any other reason.
I never go fishing for compliments, like some women who ask 'How do I look?' or 'Is this ok?'

 

[EroticApology]

Ach! You're twisting my words! Of course looks can be deserving, but even that alone won't sustain a relationship.

Of course it takes more to sustain a relationship. That's not the issue. Plus you and i have agreed compliments are good.

 

[Adre]

Compliments cost nothing to give, and you never run out of them.

 

[blobfish]

Compliments cost nothing to give, and you never run out of them.

The same can be said of shit.

 

[warrior queen]

Compliments cost nothing to give, and you never run out of them.

True. However insincere compliments diminish in value very quickly.

 

[EroticApology]

It's the basest form of the human relationship. Complimenting someone just because you think that's what they want to hear diminishes both parties involved.

Why are you being so negative....lol. Have we talked about giving compliments just to appease someone...no. I'm asking about giving a compliment.

 

[Adre]

The same can be said of shit.

And the wit goes on.

 

[blobfish]

Why are you being so negative....lol. Have we talked about giving compliments just to appease someone...no. I'm asking about giving a compliment.

I'm always negative unless given reason to act otherwise.