Percentage of women who orgasm

[delightdawn]

Found this stat in a magazine yesterday. 67%. Percentage of sexually active women age 40 and up who always or usually achieve orgasm during sex.

That is all it says. No idea where the numbers come from, does sexually active implying partners or does that include solo.

If you look at the other side of the coin, 33% of women do not usually or never achieve orgasm.

Curious what people think of that number?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Women can have orgasms?!?!

Kidding. To be honest, I would think that number is high. Maybe not here on Lit, as this is a more sexually charged population.

 

[delightdawn]

Women can have orgasms?!?!

Kidding. To be honest, I would think that number is high. Maybe not here on Lit, as this is a more sexually charged population.

I wondered that about the LIT population as well. I am sure somewhere in the forum there is a poll or something. Just didn't take the time to search for it.

You think the number is high. I thought it seemed average. If it is high then I feel bad for alot of women out there.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I don't understand why women who don't orgasm bother to have sex in the first place. They must live miserable lives just going through the motions to make some guy happy.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't understand why women who don't orgasm bother to have sex in the first place. They must live miserable lives just going through the motions to make some guy happy.

I have never had sex and not orgasmed. It's like chewing food and spitting it out. Maybe a girl can shed some light. Is it okay to have sex and not orgasm? I mean, that seems blasphemous. My wife has had sex with me and not orgasmed, but simply for the fact that she was just doing it for me. Like a quickie or something. But no chance on earth would she allow that to happen very often. And she shouldn't.

 

[delightdawn]

I have never had sex and not orgasmed. It's like chewing food and spitting it out. Maybe a girl can shed some light. Is it okay to have sex and not orgasm? I mean, that seems blasphemous. My wife has had sex with me and not orgasmed, but simply for the fact that she was just doing it for me. Like a quickie or something. But no chance on earth would she allow that to happen very often. And she shouldn't.

Bless you. Maybe if people felt that way more then number would be even higher. But I agree, it is a waste of a great time. I would imagine women who do not have orgasms would like nothing better than to be able to experience that.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Bless you. Maybe if people felt that way more then number would be even higher. But I agree, it is a waste of a great time. I would imagine women who do not have orgasms would like nothing better than to be able to experience that.

If I don't hush they will crown me Pope. I know, I'm a saint.

 

[ky_fella_57]

I do believe that as women age, they discover hidden elements of their body through finger stimulation. However, th eyoung people of today are more sexually charged due to available information on the Internet and perhaps that 33% will go down. But, prudity has limited many women in manually stimulating themselves during sex. As for me, I encourage it for if a woman does not climax, then only half of the game was played! Just my thoughts for what it is worth.

 

[delightdawn]

I do believe that as women age, they discover hidden elements of their body through finger stimulation. However, th eyoung people of today are more sexually charged due to available information on the Internet and perhaps that 33% will go down. But, prudity has limited many women in manually stimulating themselves during sex. As for me, I encourage it for if a woman does not climax, then only half of the game was played! Just my thoughts for what it is worth.

Bless you too. See there is more than one saint out there.

 

[ky_fella_57]

My "Sainthood" may be questionable, but thank you Dawn for saying so darlin. As I see it, the pursuit of a female orgasm is often overlooked by many men who are focused on their own orgasm. My goal is to elicit as many orgasms from a woman as she can handle long before penetration. Therein is the goal to really intense sexual pleasure! Don't get me wrong, if a woman does achieve multiples prior to her orgasm through manual manipulation, be warned....she will come after you aggresively!!! and I am okay with that!

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I have never had sex and not orgasmed. It's like chewing food and spitting it out. Maybe a girl can shed some light. Is it okay to have sex and not orgasm? I mean, that seems blasphemous. My wife has had sex with me and not orgasmed, but simply for the fact that she was just doing it for me. Like a quickie or something. But no chance on earth would she allow that to happen very often. And she shouldn't.

Exactly, it's not OK every time. There are times I've had sex for the wrong reasons like boredom and I can't say it was actually fulfilling. Like you said, it's happened with your wife who probably wouldn't have ever married you if the sex wasn't good. Or are there women that actually go through with marriage even though they've never orgasmed? Well, there are probably a few as crazy as it sounds.

 

[Juliewife]

sex

I have had sex plenty of times without orgasm and yet really enjoyed it. Sometimes I am just not enough into it and yet I enjoy being held, the feel of his skin against me and especially the feel of him in me. I want to feel him come in me.

 

[LadyVer]

Sex is great without the orgasm, but it's better with it. There's been very few times I haven't orgasmed, and it was usually due to stress I think. A friend of mine who was years older than me told me once she had never orgasmed and had tried everything, vibrators, masturbation, doctors, etc. Maybe it was a physical problem, maybe it was a mind problem. But it definitely helps if the man doesn't only focus on what he gets. I have a feeling that may have been part of my friend's problem because the man she was involved with at the time didn't have the highest IQ and went through women like a house on fire.

 

[wicked woman]

I don't understand why women who don't orgasm bother to have sex in the first place. They must live miserable lives just going through the motions to make some guy happy.

Or perhaps you've never had sex where the journey was so great that it didn't matter if the 'end' of an orgasm was reached.


As to the OP, I wonder if 'usually' is defined as a simple majority. If so, it saddens me that the number is so low.

 

[EroticApology]

I have had sex where I've not orgasmed. I don't feel it has been an unfulfilling experience if U haven't. I certainly don't feel as sleepy or sated but I still thoroughly enjoy the actual act of having sex for what it is. I'd say 99% of the time I'll orgasm.

In addition, I rarely orgasm from vaginal sex and almost always need clitoral or anal stimulation to orgasm. Unless of course you're a power packed Lelo Elise with the perfect vibration combination.

I've had lots of sex without an orgasm. I enjoyed the sex a great deal. That's because what I was looking for was intimacy rather ran the actual orgasm...plus sex for me during those times was about power.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Exactly, it's not OK every time. There are times I've had sex for the wrong reasons like boredom and I can't say it was actually fulfilling. Like you said, it's happened with your wife who probably wouldn't have ever married you if the sex wasn't good. Or are there women that actually go through with marriage even though they've never orgasmed? Well, there are probably a few as crazy as it sounds.

My wife married me without having sex with me beforehand. Yup. I'm that much of a catch.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

My wife married me without having sex with me beforehand. Yup. I'm that much of a catch.

hahaha was that in the early 1800s?

 

[ConfusedAgain]

Or perhaps you've never had sex where the journey was so great that it didn't matter if the 'end' of an orgasm was reached.


As to the OP, I wonder if 'usually' is defined as a simple majority. If so, it saddens me that the number is so low.

Uhh wouldn't that be some kind of intimacy like EroticApology mentioned? What is the point of sex if feelings are being built up with no release?

 

[Bramblethorn]

I have never had sex and not orgasmed. It's like chewing food and spitting it out. Maybe a girl can shed some light. Is it okay to have sex and not orgasm? I mean, that seems blasphemous. My wife has had sex with me and not orgasmed, but simply for the fact that she was just doing it for me. Like a quickie or something. But no chance on earth would she allow that to happen very often. And she shouldn't.

Orgasms are nice, and usually I get there when having sex, but they're not everything.

Sometimes the physical sensation of arousal and touch is beautiful on its own, without feeling the need to end it with fireworks.

And sometimes I'm in the mood to experience a vicarious orgasm through my partner. Getting somebody else off can be a very satisfying experience in its own right.

 

[Ellafun]

I don't understand why women who don't orgasm bother to have sex in the first place. They must live miserable lives just going through the motions to make some guy happy.

I find your opinion to be rather ... opinionated.

I have been married 23 years. I very rarely orgasm vaginally. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex. I wouldn't say I have a "miserable life," either. It does mean that sometimes I have to be creative.

Congratulations on being able to make every woman you've ever had sex with achieve orgasm. Cause women never fake it or anything.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I find your opinion to be rather ... opinionated.

I have been married 23 years. I very rarely orgasm vaginally. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex. I wouldn't say I have a "miserable life," either. It does mean that sometimes I have to be creative.

I wasn't talking about vaginally orgasm. I was talking about orgasm in general. That would be where that creative thing comes in.

Congratulations on being able to make every woman you've ever had sex with achieve orgasm. Cause women never fake it or anything.

Uh..thanks..

 

[LadyVer]

I find your opinion to be rather ... opinionated.

I have been married 23 years. I very rarely orgasm vaginally. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex. I wouldn't say I have a "miserable life," either. It does mean that sometimes I have to be creative.

Congratulations on being able to make every woman you've ever had sex with achieve orgasm. Cause women never fake it or anything.

.....

 

[Ellafun]

I wasn't talking about vaginally orgasm. I was talking about orgasm in general. That would be where that creative thing comes in.




Uh..thanks..

You must be a whole lot younger than me...that was my point. When I started having sex, back when the dinosaurs still roamed the earth, the guys I was with didn't give a shit if I orgasmed or not. It wasn't until a few years ago that I ever heard a guy going off about how "she always has to cum first," and I wondered where the hell he was when I was in college. It just has never been a priority.

Would I like to orgasm every time I have sex? Sure! But I am happy with I have, and how I make him feel.

as to your "thanks" comment...apologies. I can't tell from your name if you're male or female, and your profile isn't much help, either. You might want to put some info on there.

 

[SweetErika]

Found this stat in a magazine yesterday. 67%. Percentage of sexually active women age 40 and up who always or usually achieve orgasm during sex.

That is all it says. No idea where the numbers come from, does sexually active implying partners or does that include solo.

If you look at the other side of the coin, 33% of women do not usually or never achieve orgasm.

Curious what people think of that number?

I think it's impossible to interpret the results without knowing how the survey was conducted. How many women were questioned? What were the demographics of the respondents? What questions were asked, exactly? Were they talking about entire sexual experiences, or just intercourse? There's A LOT of room for skewed results on most surveys. For all we know, a good portion of the 33% could have interpreted "How often do you orgasm during sex: always, usually, infrequently or never?" (or whatever they were asked) to mean 'only intercourse' vs. entire sexual encounters. Some of respondents might have been assuming the question(s) were only asking about orgasms resulting from manual stimulation, oral sex or intercourse vs. toys, anal, other types of stimulation and even masturbation.

I'm guessing "sexually active" means the women are currently with a partner, or being asked about their current sexual experiences vs. maybe women who haven't had a partner for years and could only report on any past experiences they may have had. Anyway, "sexually active" almost always means 'other than masturbation/solo', but that certainly brings up another possible point of confusion that could have skewn the results!

Sex is great without the orgasm, but it's better with it. There's been very few times I haven't orgasmed, and it was usually due to stress I think. A friend of mine who was years older than me told me once she had never orgasmed and had tried everything, vibrators, masturbation, doctors, etc. Maybe it was a physical problem, maybe it was a mind problem. But it definitely helps if the man doesn't only focus on what he gets. I have a feeling that may have been part of my friend's problem because the man she was involved with at the time didn't have the highest IQ and went through women like a house on fire.

Well said, LV!

I think it's also imperative for our partners to focus on the journey, rather than an orgasmic destination. Focusing on getting a woman to orgasm (especially in a particular way or situation) is a losing proposition because it creates a sense of expectation and stress. And in that environment, not only will orgasm elude most women, a lot of women will just get so anxious and/or frustrated that they choose to fake it. Putting plenty of effort into a partner's overall pleasure and doing everything possible to help them orgasm if they want to are wonderful, but it's crucial to avoid any kind of pressure or expectation.

 

[EroticApology]

Uhh wouldn't that be some kind of intimacy like EroticApology mentioned? What is the point of sex if feelings are being built up with no release?

If you are going to look at sex where A+B=C then why not ask the basic question of: why are we having sex if the objective isn't to reproduce. After all that's the point of sex.