Going commando/sleeping naked

[cdnwordsmith]

Ok, two things to start off; first I hope this question is appropriate to the forum. Second I am a guy so going without underwear isn't really a sexy thing like it can be if a woman does it.

I recently tried going without underwear for the first time in a long time. The problem I've run into is that after pooping unless I shower I feel like I'm ruining the pants I'm wearing. I also tried sleeping naked and even after just passing gas it made me feel like I was making the bed unable to be slept in.

So the how to part to make it forum appropriate, how do I get over these feelings without professional help? I'm uncomfortable even posting this topic where I am anonymous so I can't ever see myself asking someone in person for help with this.

ps. Though I haven't written anything for Literotica yet I hope this topic will not dissuade anyone from liking my work if I do write something.

 

[SweetErika]

It sounds like you need to do some work on addressing irrational thoughts and fears. There's tons of information on that online and in you local library, so do some research and start practicing the exercises you find. Also, I know you said you don't want professional help, but you may need medication for anxiety if a chemical imbalance is an underlying cause of your fears (you have more irrational thoughts and fears than the two you listed, correct?). So, I'd say you also need to talk with your doctor.

Regarding going commando, intermediate steps might be to remove any hair around your anus and/or use those flushable wet wipes after you've pooped along with working on the psychological component. Also remind yourself that poop will wash out if any ever did get on your pants. It's no big deal, really; those of us who are parents have laundered poop out of a million outfits and/or cloth diapers!

For your bedding, you might find it reassuring to remind yourself that farts are just gas that dissipates quickly. It's like breathing on your pillow with morning breath - that doesn't actually make your pillow dirty, right? Without allowing it to become a compulsion, you may want to physically look at your bedding to see farting doesn't soil it at all.

Anyway, that's all I can think of for now, but it should give you some things to start working on and I'm sure others will have some great suggestions for you!

 

[Tryharder62]

Why?

Why are your feelings about this bad? I don't normally say anything but since I like being a sub I actually think of it as a punishment when I have to go without. I don't like it. Especially in the day with clothes. Plus I have the problem of being horny a lot. If your underpants aren't there your pants are wet. Sleeping isn't so bad but again night dreams and wetness in my bed? Like my panties. LOL. If it is important to your partner discuss it with them and maybe come up with a compromise so you don't have to go without all the time. I know it is done a lot to give easy access but it isn't that hard to get in there with even panties or underwear. Don't feel bad, you are not alone. I suppose if you do it long enough you would get use to the feeling little by little. Good luck!

(I vote for underwear)LOL

 

[amofiga]

cdnwordsmith

As has already been indicated, your concerns are really not anything to worry about. Cleaning yourself after a BM is easily handled with the wet wipes which I like to use all the time now days anyhow. It's just a cleaner feeling all around. Unfortunately we here in the us don't use bidets like they do a lot in Europe.

I personally don't like to go commando because my junk is always getting wrapped up in the wrong place in pants if I'm not wearin underwear, especially in summer when the "boys" tend to hang low. Yes, I don't wear boxers for the same reason and have always preferred jockeys to keep things in their place. However, I think that wearing silk boxers or lounging pajamas while spending the evening with your partner having a few glasses of wine is quite sexy. My wife prefers the boxers like that because it's easier to get her hand into them and "find what she's looking for" as she likes to say. I think the silk on my "dangly bits" feels very nice. Silk on a hard-on is one of the finer feelings. It's easy to see why women like those silky things on their skin.

Sleeping naked is just plain sexy no matter how you look at it, although sleeping naked alone is pretty much a waste of time anyway. If you're going to be alone, warmth and comfort are just as well. I wouldn't worry about the farts if you're alone. Being with somebody else makes them just plain nasty anyway.

 

[JudyJ]

I wasn't aware there was another way to sleep. I absolutely can not sleep with anything on. It makes it tough when we visit friends etc. but I work that out. My hubby is the same way.

BTW... I read one time that it is warmer to sleep naked than with any type of cloths on. Something about your body heat warming up the entire area around you. In addition, if you do happen to sweat a bit it can get your nightie damp

Just my 2 cents

 

[Jackotheshadows]

Cool, until I roll over and Mr. Happy gets stuck in the sheets. Or the damned dog jumps on the bed. Invariably stepping on my crotch in the process....

 

[desertslave]

Or the damned dog jumps on the bed. Invariably stepping on my crotch in the process....

I'm not sure how a thin piece of fabrics helps you for this. LOL

I agree with Sweet Erika about working on irrational fears in some way. As far as going commando and hygiene, either you have to trust that you can, as an adult, wipe yourself effectively or learn to do so. The gas in bed part, well, that strikes me as a rather irrational concern. Do you freak in the same way about passing gas while clothed? Maybe there are deeper issues here?

I just have to make a side comment. Where does this notion come from of women not wearing underwear being sexy? I guess it's the easy access? It doesn't FEEL sexy, especially in the summertime, believe me!

I just spent a week visiting at my mom's. I usually sleep nude, but wasn't going to do so there. No matter what I wear, my sleepwear tries to throttle me somehow. I'd be a nudist if I could.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

I sleep nude for most of the year and have yet to wake up to shitty sheets... and according to my wife I fart a lot in my sleep.

I say go for it!

 

[NaturistLouise]

I wasn't aware there was another way to sleep. I absolutely can not sleep with anything on. It makes it tough when we visit friends etc. but I work that out. My hubby is the same way.

Judy's first paragraph sums ir up for hubby and I too.

 

[rbone04]

I think it's safe to say that laundry day around your house is a nightmare.

 

[thomash]

I always sleep nude...like right now

 

[Villanueva1]

all right