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First....thank you for the welcome!
That part of your comment is something that it took me many, many years to get thru and over; in order to continue the walk I was supposed to be taking, but hadn't been.
I'm no 'there every Sunday' or 'member of the choir' or 'big tither' or all the other things some people think "being a GOOD Christian" must be....but I am at peace with my Maker and Savior. Of all the other drama and trauma of being gay; that one is most likey the most serious one many have to deal with to be able to become whole, or so they can even accept themselves first. Because of a long-standing friendship with the Christian (and gay & legally married to each other) singing duo of 'Jason & deMarco' I more than share their deep concern for the number of gay teen suicides that have roots in Sunday schools and pulpits.![]()
That; among many other things; had me finally decide that the biggest problem with organized religion is that it *IS* organized! Far too often, churches look more like a business, and operate like a political convention with all the back room meetings and plotting & planning; than it does the faith family they claim to be.
Well....that and the fact that I really believe, that thanks to all the various denominations and diametrically opposed interpretations of scripture they come up with; that "organized" religion today, is little more than the modern day version of the Tower of Babel.
Most of them have forgotten the so very basic teachings of the two men that probably were the most successful while spreading the Good News during their walks on the earth....Christ and Billy Graham. Both worked from the premise that it isn't about "looking like a good christian" or "belonging the correct church"; but rather having a PERSONAL relationship and be at peace with God. And then sharing that by LIVING it.
That belief comes from discovering a verse in the Bible, few people realize is there. Most everyone that's ever been to more than 3 church services, knows what John 3:16 says....and can quote it even. But few "good Christians" and their pastors too; can't tell you what the very next verse says....and I believe those two are back-to-back for a reason.
Nope! Not going to quote it....go look it up, if you (the general you) don't know either. That's "homework" for everyone today.![]()
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LuvZya all and blessings all day long!![]()
I love my church members. They're some of the most loving people I've ever met and I am a big part of church life. I sing in the choir, was a PPC member and secretary up 'til last week, am on the worship commitee and I read prayers and I'm involved in Sunday School.
I do all that 'cos I like to do it, I love being involved with my church.
But it's becoming harder. My at first understanding vicar is pushing harder and harder for me to give up my writing. We had a meeting just after my article in the Independent in which I found out some things I really wasn't happy with.
Like he's anti gay wedding, in fact he signed a petition against it. He's worried about a massive backlash from the community over my writing (I am a governor in our church school too) and really would just prefer it if I dropped the whole thing.
To him, it's a sin. And he used (as I knew he would) Jesus telling Mary Magdalene 'Go and sin no more' as an example for me.
Except I'm not shagging about while being married. Different kettle 'o' fish there.
Anyway, long story short I'm feeling much less comfortable in my little church family now. Especially as the vicar told me the concerns of other church members he's talked to about me. I knew these people knew, it didn't bother me but to know they talk about me behind my back and not one of them has brought said concerns to me face to face does hurt a bit.
So I saw something on the national news last Saturday about a set of Bishops saying that Gay marriage is a blessing. I looked up more and found the Inclusive Church movement.
http://www.inclusive-church.org.uk/
Oh, it made my day. I wrote an email to the head honcho there and got a lovely reply a few days ago. It was so welcoming. I told him about my writing and my hardships in church and he was even nicer. Saying what a gift I have and how my vicar obviously has bigger issues than my writing that need addressing.
I've found an Inclusive church which although isn't exactly down the road it's commutable too. I'm going to see if I can get there sometime soon. I emailed the vicar -I'm not going to be caught out this time- and told him up front about my writing.
He was so encouraging it brought a tear to my eye, truly. He spoke of the song of songs and what a great gift I'd been given.
So yes. I know what you mean. The church needs to read beyond John3:16 and onto the next verse and put it into action. It will make a big difference in the world! It's made a big difference to me to see it in action.