I like the whole idea of dom/sub

[crazychemgirl]

but I like to play too.... every time I've done dom/sub play... I always fight against the dom... cuz I like to be punished.. I have yet to find a dom who can wrangle me.

 

[troubledone]

but I like to play too.... every time I've done dom/sub play... I always fight against the dom... cuz I like to be punished.. I have yet to find a dom who can wrangle me.

That is not very nice

 

[crazychemgirl]

I would like you to tie your nipples for me

I have NO idea how to do that.... I need some education.

 

[troubledone]

I have NO idea how to do that.... I need some education.

Education indeed

 

[crazychemgirl]

maybe some assistance.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Chemgirl, see if this helps;

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=40603931

 

[JasonTAlexander]

but I like to play too.... every time I've done dom/sub play... I always fight against the dom... cuz I like to be punished.. I have yet to find a dom who can wrangle me.

I'm curious about what your headspace is, what you're after. From "I like to be punished", I guess you want resistance play -- somewhere on the spectrum from a brat who expects to be put in their place, to full-on rape fantasy.

If so, then it doesn't sound to me like the Dominant Bottom notion in the link that Stella_Omega posted.

 

[Redkate]

Ilike to resist a bit because I LOVE to be seduced into being naughty and slutty. I like saying no and resisting. It's not always an act either. If I say no I really mean no... Or that I haven't been seduced enough or I need to be forced. Or sometimes I don't resist at all and I do as I'm told.
I enjoy both, one being a mental domination and the other being a physical.

 

[sweepthefloor]

I like a struggle too.

 

[Loverskitten]

I like a struggle too.

Count me in too! Didn't someone coin this "battle sex"

 

[sweepthefloor]

Battle Sex! Sounds good to me, that is what I will call it from now on.

 

[Prince Albert]

It is all about power/control. Who has it, who gives it p.

 

[MusicmanJ]

control

 

[Stella_Omega]

Back in the day, the original Leathermen pretty much played that way. If you were strong enough and/or determined enough to bend a guy over and fuck him, then-- you could. If he wanted to blindside you and return the favor, then-- he could. The power exchange only lasted as long as the encounter did.

Those were agreed upon rules going in, and Ive heard stories of amazing free-for-alls.

 

[Primalex]

but I like to play too.... every time I've done dom/sub play... I always fight against the dom... cuz I like to be punished.. I have yet to find a dom who can wrangle me.

We get to guess your mood and pick between hot sex and a domestic assault charge.

Sorry, hun, if you don't get what you need, then YOU do something wrong, not the Dom.

 

[Stella_Omega]

We get to guess your mood and pick between hot sex and a domestic assault charge.

this.

 

[lovecraft68]

We get to guess your mood and pick between hot sex and a domestic assault charge.

Sorry, hun, if you don't get what you need, then YOU do something wrong, not the Dom.

I don't know, I like the occasional fight, but that only really works with someone you've got a good amount of experience with, so you know where the line really is.

 

[Primalex]

I don't know, I like the occasional fight, but that only really works with someone you've got a good amount of experience with, so you know where the line really is.

So please tell me, after how much time in your current relationship did you reach this goal?

 

[lovecraft68]

So please tell me, after how much time in your current relationship did you reach this goal?

In the current one? Hmmmm, not yet, the wife isn't the violent sort.

Previously, the only woman I could really do this with was about a year in. It was pretty much an extension of some rough "rape play" for lack of a better term. Some violent role playing.

 

[Primalex]

In the current one? Hmmmm, not yet, the wife isn't the violent sort.

Previously, the only woman I could really do this with was about a year in.

I guess I must have missed my magic moment of enlightenment then. But maybe I'm just a very slow learner. After a year I couldn't even tell if I would want to marry her or not.

 

[lovecraft68]

I guess I must have missed my magic moment of enlightenment then. But maybe I'm just a very slow learner. After a year I couldn't even tell if I would want to marry her or not.

I got married young, bad choice, got divorced. Swore I would never marry again.

Did whatever the hell I wanted for 12 years and one night ran into this woman at a bar who was my exact opposite, so sickeningly sweet, she could give you a cavity.

I just had to have her and we just celebrated our ten year anniversary last month.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Hey @crazychemgirl. I order you to have the best birthday ever.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Ilike to resist a bit because I LOVE to be seduced into being naughty and slutty. I like saying no and resisting. It's not always an act either. If I say no I really mean no... Or that I haven't been seduced enough or I need to be forced. Or sometimes I don't resist at all and I do as I'm told.
I enjoy both, one being a mental domination and the other being a physical.

If you really mean no, please use your safeword. I don't want you actually getting raped for real.

I really hope the Dom is not expected to guess here if your no really means no or you are playing through a rape fantasy.

If you *want* to be physically forced while saying no, that is consensual non-consent, a kind of D/s play.
If you actually mean no and are forced, it's rape.

This all needs to be crystal clear for you and your Dom before play begins.

Please for the love of kittens don't tell people you really mean no but also want to be forced. That's how rapists claim women think.

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Sounds like your play style could be described as "brat sub" and the Dom you're looking for is a "brat tamer" who also enjoys consensual non-consent play. Some Doms don't like brat style play at all so it's good to ask before playing.

The BDSM library thread has excellent reading suggestions about this. I highly recomment Playing Well With Others in addition.

The New Bottoming Book by Easton and Hardy
The New Topping Book by Easton and Hardy
S&M 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
Playing Well With Others by Harrington and Williams

 

[MiaBabe23]

but I like to play too.... every time I've done dom/sub play... I always fight against the dom... cuz I like to be punished.. I have yet to find a dom who can wrangle me.

I agree with what Lotus says, but I wonder if a different reading of what you says suggests what you’re looking for is someone who I think would be called a ‘Brat tamer’ - a dominant who will respond playfully or punitively to your resistance, who will stretch or control you as they - and you - see fit when you rebel
If you find the right person, it can be a lotta fun; but some may take it as actual dislike, (again, I’m assuming the meaning I’ve said above, that you were wanting it to continue?)
I think as with everything, communication is the key - letting someone who seems a good fit know that you enjoy the power struggle and / or rebelling