How do you feel about friends with benefits?

Experience in Friends with Benefits

  • Never experienced, would NOT try it

    Votes: 11 2.9%
  • Never experienced, would like to though

    Votes: 121 32.4%
  • Have experienced, but turned out badly

    Votes: 17 4.5%
  • Have experienced, and would do it again

    Votes: 225 60.2%

  • Total voters
    374

Afterhours22

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I always had very good luck with this throughout my adult life. I think that it's in part to the fact that we were very good friends before the benefits came into the picture. That is very important first and foremost.

What is your experience with it and/or your experienced opinion. If you have never experienced this, would you like to?
 
I'm in that sort of relationship with one of my best friends actually. We're both girls and we just sort of ended up making out one night. After that, it went further. We are very close friends and we consider our relationship more of a Victorian style relationship. We are sisters, best friends, the closest of companions... we do almost everything together. We write erotic stories together. We communicate very well which I feel is paramount to this sort of relationship.
 
I had one and we were great together. He was about 10 or so years older than me, married but separated. He's the one that introduced me to fisting. He was so dirty. I loved it! One night I was at his apartment and his wife showed up. Guess who had to leave? :( Never saw him after that. He moved soon afterwards. I was quite the naughty girl in my mid 20s and early 30s. I was into married men but that's another story.
 
I have several friends with benefits and it's the best kind of relationship(s) I've ever had. Only had to end it with one guy who got a little clingy, but I made it swift and painless.
 
I think in my opinion...

that there are many that confuse friends/benefits with someone they are just hooking up with for sex..... not the same at all. The friends that I had were just that. We were great friends for quite awhile, strictly platonic, until just by fate I guess, we found each other sexually, too. We continued to be great friends even when the sex stopped, usually because they got into a relationship with someone, or I did.
 
Love friends with benefits .... But

I had a few friends with benefits, but I had to put a hold on it.. I am in to white guys... I usually end up with the ones that are fascinated with black women(first timers) ... I was friends with one guy... He had all these rules... Since we were friends first, he wanted it to be a no strings attached... Not hard, considering we were both married... I agreed to his rules, no perfume, no phone calls, etc... Got together once, I mean literally one time, he cried, screamed, kept calling me asking me, what did I do to him,.. It's been 3 years and he still stops by my office, inviting me to luch, for drinks after work... My opinion of friends with benefits... Is to find someone equally matched, less complications.
 
I had a few friends with benefits, but I had to put a hold on it.. I am in to white guys... I usually end up with the ones that are fascinated with black women(first timers) ... I was friends with one guy... He had all these rules... Since we were friends first, he wanted it to be a no strings attached... Not hard, considering we were both married... I agreed to his rules, no perfume, no phone calls, etc... Got together once, I mean literally one time, he cried, screamed, kept calling me asking me, what did I do to him,.. It's been 3 years and he still stops by my office, inviting me to luch, for drinks after work... My opinion of friends with benefits... Is to find someone equally matched, less complications.


I agree. I'm thinking he had feelings for you, beforehand, just didn't want to admit it. :D
 
I had always found it fun and to be quite honest here on lit I wish that I had stayed single and not married this second time.

There was more than one time that I had two fuck buddies at the same time, I wonder what would have happened had I suggested the three of us have cocktails together, damn missed opportunities! :eek:
 
I've had a few FWBs over the years, but all but one are married now. That one is still in play, however, even though we haven't hooked up for a couple of years. Nevertheless, assuming he is not out of town, I am sure I could call him up right now and have him come over for "lunch". The last time we had "lunch", he came to my office, locked the door, and boned me with great gusto as I was bent over my desk. The whole office visit lasted under twenty minutes, and ten minutes later, after straightening up a bit, I was back on the job and meeting people while sitting at that same desk.

The oddest FWB I ever had (or ever even heard about) was a guy I knew in college. We had a rather unique relationship. After a drunken discussion one night about oral sex and how he never had done it, I let him learn by doing me. I told him to do this and that and to not do some other things. He started off rather clumsily, but after a couple of "lessons" he became quite a master at it. The weirdest thing about it was that we never did anything else other than cunnilingus. Seriously. We never fucked or anything else. He never got undressed, and hell, he never even saw my breasts since I always kept my top on. He'd simply eat me out, I'd come once or twice on his face, and he'd leave to go back to his room. I assume that he jerked off afterwards, but I never inquired. We had about ten "lessons" over a two week period, and then it ended suddenly when he got himself a girlfriend. He pretty much moved off campus to live with her, so I hardly ever saw him again after that.
 
I've had a few FWBs over the years, but all but one are married now. That one is still in play, however, even though we haven't hooked up for a couple of years. Nevertheless, assuming he is not out of town, I am sure I could call him up right now and have him come over for "lunch". The last time we had "lunch", he came to my office, locked the door, and boned me with great gusto as I was bent over my desk. The whole office visit lasted under twenty minutes, and ten minutes later, after straightening up a bit, I was back on the job and meeting people while sitting at that same desk.

The oddest FWB I ever had (or ever even heard about) was a guy I knew in college. We had a rather unique relationship. After a drunken discussion one night about oral sex and how he never had done it, I let him learn by doing me. I told him to do this and that and to not do some other things. He started off rather clumsily, but after a couple of "lessons" he became quite a master at it. The weirdest thing about it was that we never did anything else other than cunnilingus. Seriously. We never fucked or anything else. He never got undressed, and hell, he never even saw my breasts since I always kept my top on. He'd simply eat me out, I'd come once or twice on his face, and he'd leave to go back to his room. I assume that he jerked off afterwards, but I never inquired. We had about ten "lessons" over a two week period, and then it ended suddenly when he got himself a girlfriend. He pretty much moved off campus to live with her, so I hardly ever saw him again after that.

one of my FWB would find me after work and all I did was eat her pussy, she asked if I had condoms once and I did not, perhaps I should have fucked her somehow else that day but no all I ever did as eat her out having her cum for my mouth
 
my current FWB

is pretty new actually.... we've been best friends for several years now, but just recently took it to another level... her husband always has his face planted in video games, neglecting her..... I can't for the life of me understand.. she is incredibly hot. The type of girl that I would have thought way out of my league.... but she says I have a great personality, thoughtful and that I eat pussy better than any other man she's been with... :D
 
married

is pretty new actually.... we've been best friends for several years now, but just recently took it to another level... her husband always has his face planted in video games, neglecting her..... I can't for the life of me understand.. she is incredibly hot. The type of girl that I would have thought way out of my league.... but she says I have a great personality, thoughtful and that I eat pussy better than any other man she's been with... :D

That could be enjoyable for the both of you, but be warned of the implications of being with a married woman!! You don't want to end up in the middle of the drama, if you are all friends... I understand the desire, but I am guessing most fwb relationships along those lines, do not go well!!

I prefer to be fwbs with men who have the same policy. I've maintained these friends for well over 2 years now, and when we get together there are never any issues. I prefer no strings attached, than a relationship where I don't get to be me...
 
I have 3 at the moment, which works quite nicely for me. All of us like sex but are too busy and / or selfish to have a full on relationship and after a good 40 odd years on this earth I have discovered I don't like monogamy very much!

They've all been in the same band in my home town, which is amusing to me. Two know, the ex member doesn't!
 
Be careful

is pretty new actually.... we've been best friends for several years now, but just recently took it to another level... her husband always has his face planted in video games, neglecting her..... I can't for the life of me understand.. she is incredibly hot. The type of girl that I would have thought way out of my league.... but she says I have a great personality, thoughtful and that I eat pussy better than any other man she's been with... :D
Good thing he's not a good friend... Watch out... I've seen this scene play out too many times... I'd say the same thing if I was starved and a man wanted to eat me out at will... Nothing better than have your pussy licked , sucked, nibbled..... Anyway.. Be careful.. Personally I think she knows you're attracted to her and she's doing it to get her old mans attention.
 
I think friends with benefits is one of the best friendships you can have. I've experienced this before twice and both went absolutely great! You have to keep in mind, that you are not in a relationship with the person, you're both just having fun in a more sexual way than regular friends. If you're good at separating your emotions from the sexual fun, know that sooner or later one if not both will find someone they want to be serious about, and that its all just for some naughty fun, then you will have a great time!:)
 
I worked with a girl and we we became pretty good friends. Nothing ever came of it until she left and we started mailing each other. I texted her once and we met in a grocery store parking lot at night...I got in her car and we made out. It was so hot. She had the biggest tits! At the nd of the week I went to her apt and we had mind blowing sex. We're still good friends even though we are in dif states now.
 
I tried it once, it was great at first, then he wanted to get way too involved and it ended on a very bad note. I wouldn't do it again.
 
I tried it once, it was great at first, then he wanted to get way too involved and it ended on a very bad note. I wouldn't do it again.


Exactly the reason I stay clear - as much as I'd love to be a guy that stays uninvolved emotionally thats not how I work. Thats kind of why I'm here, to blow off steam without too much complication.
 
She may be doing just that....

Good thing he's not a good friend... Watch out... I've seen this scene play out too many times... I'd say the same thing if I was starved and a man wanted to eat me out at will... Nothing better than have your pussy licked , sucked, nibbled..... Anyway.. Be careful.. Personally I think she knows you're attracted to her and she's doing it to get her old mans attention.

It doesn't bother me though.... if she puts a stop to it, I'd be fine with that, too. She's been a great friend for too long, though, for me to think she is just trying to get his attention. She told me that she tired of trying to get his attention, so she's content with my extra help with her sexual needs. She knows I'm safe and that she is very comfortable with me, and she has no desire to go out looking for sex with any strangers.
I am friends with him, but her and I were friends before he came along.
 
Exactly the reason I stay clear - as much as I'd love to be a guy that stays uninvolved emotionally thats not how I work. Thats kind of why I'm here, to blow off steam without too much complication.

Smarted than the average bear...I mean male! Sorry.:)
 
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