New ways to incorporate vibe in foreplay?

[redguitarplays]

Hi Forum,

This is my first post on literotica after being a reader for some time. I'm disappointed to say that it took me a long time to build up the courage to become a member and post.

So, I'm a 25 year old male with a 24 year old girlfriend, and we have been together some 3 and a bit years. We have an incredible sex life, that is full of communication and we celebrate it. (Admittedly there has been the odd post sex high five here and there. Hehe)

I recently introduced a vibe to our sex lives and it really gets her to the edge when I'm starting to run out of stamina. She has come to really enjoy it! Most times it comes out when we like to wrap things up at the end, and other times it comes out for foreplay and 69s. We try to limit use so as not to depend on it.

So what are some other suggestions for vibe use? Any cooling gels or warming gels we should consider? What about using the vibe as a massager, where would it be most useful.

I would love to hear some female opinions. I'd usually ask her myself, but sometimes she get's shy admitting her turn-ons, so occasionally I like to surprise her with a new trick or two.

redguitarplays

 

[SweetErika]

What kind of vibe is it? Can you find a picture that's similar, or describe it at the very least?

 

[redguitarplays]

We've 'downgraded' so to speak. Went from something very pink and 'penis' like which was around 5 inches long. To one that is only 3 inches long and no wider than a thumb. She prefers this one because it is less intimidating, and blue. She hates pink. Hehe.

 

[redguitarplays]

http://shop.literotica.com/Shots-10-speed-bullet-vibrator---purple/sku-CNVELD-SHT028PUR?a=literotica

Hopefully it's cool to post links up here. This is almost it. Different brand but same 10 speed function etc. Didn't keep the box long enough to remember the brand.

 

[amofiga]

There are many ways to incorporate a vibe into your sex repertoire. It can be used simply as a warm up with her using it on herself or you using it on her and watching, licking, etc. You can finger her ass or fuck her ass while she uses the vibe on her clit or in her cunt. Same goes for sucking your cock while she uses the vibe on herself. You mentioned the 69 approach. That's a good option and gives her the option to fantasize about being in a threesome if she likes that.

One of the things we always liked is using the vibe between us, on her clit and the base of my cock while we fucked. It's a double whammy. Let yourself just enjoy the playtime and don't get hung up on trying to find the perfect approach. It's all good. Try a different variety and sizes of vibes. We had one that velcro'ed onto my cock so it made my own cock vibrate. That was pretty good while it lasted. It was junk and didn't work after about 10-12 usages. Unfortunately, a lot of the stuff out there is just relatively expensive junk.

 

[albertaboy]

We use a magic wand alot during foreplay.

It's very powerful and effective, my wife often holds it on her clit as she sucks me.

 

[mike2010fc]

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[amofiga]

My girlfriend has a toybox but she was always shy to dive into it with me. I recently just told her that I really like it when she puts the vibrating egg between us, and that I don't feel threatened at all as a man (like she's going to leave me for her vibrator or something) and it seemed to help.

Also sometimes we do protection way early before we even make out, so in the heat of the moment, we can just grab for whatever will do the trick and not break the mood.

I think perhaps women are more shy about toys, because it's taboo for them to be caught with them, like catching a man crying. It's too bad, because I see them more as tools that women can use to get to a higher plane of sexuality than men, and as a society we've taken that away because we're so male dominated, at least in the US. But what do I know..

It seems odd to me that you say that it's the women who feel shy about vibrators and toys. I've seemed to see the opposite. I tend to think that women are much more accepting of them than a lot of men. I've known several women who say that their husbands or boyfriends seemed to feel intimidated by the toys and a bit shy about using them. I don't know why. I suppose there are a lot of guys with this macho attitude that their cock is the greatest thing on Earth or something, and nothing could be more satisfying to a woman. Too bad. They miss out on some good erotic fun.

 

[submissive_fire]

Use the vibe in the middle of sex when you are still going strong, not at the end when you are about to finish and need to get her off. By using it in the middle (actually from start to finish), you can keep going while she is having the most amazing orgasm with both the vibe and you going and going and going.....

 

[SweetErika]

It seems odd to me that you say that it's the women who feel shy about vibrators and toys. I've seemed to see the opposite. I tend to think that women are much more accepting of them than a lot of men. I've known several women who say that their husbands or boyfriends seemed to feel intimidated by the toys and a bit shy about using them. I don't know why. I suppose there are a lot of guys with this macho attitude that their cock is the greatest thing on Earth or something, and nothing could be more satisfying to a woman. Too bad. They miss out on some good erotic fun.

I didn't read it as a comparison to men, but rather, 'women are more shy about using toys than they need to be, like men are more shy than they should be about crying.'

And I can agree with that. Society doesn't send very positive messages about women using toys in general. Often, the media portrays them as things that are liberating, but women should be embarrassed about having and using. How many times do we see TV or movie scenes about toys hidden away, the woman feeling embarrassed when her toy is discovered, and toys are masturbation aids for single and/or desperate women? Compare that to the number of times toys are referenced as normal/healthy/helpful for everyone and not an embarrassment.

You're right that a lot of men feel threatened by toys. I don't get it either, since most of those men will say they're focused on their partner's pleasure.

 

[dicky911]

Use the vibe in the middle of sex when you are still going strong, not at the end when you are about to finish and need to get her off. By using it in the middle (actually from start to finish), you can keep going while she is having the most amazing orgasm with both the vibe and you going and going and going.....

this is a VERY informative post, greatly appreciated. Do you have other tips and / or advice?

 

[Bors]

My wife and I have sex ...a lot.

We however have busy schedules, and children.

So sometimes....time is of the essence.

When we have All The Time In The World, we usually work 30-60 minutes of cunnilingus into the beginning of our fun, which gets her wonderfully in the mood for most anything.

However, when we both realize we have 20 minutes before we need to head out the door....

Out comes our favorite sex aid - the Hitachi Magic Wand. My wife brings herself off with it quickly 1-3 times while I pet her, then she gets me super-hard with it by applying it mostly to my perineum, then she hops on cowgirl-style, she applies the Hitachi to her clit, and we, well, explode. It's all I can do to hang on, frankly.

Done in < 10 minutes, both of us can barely walk afterwards.