Ladies:: Best Oral Sex?

[bllight]

So ladies, we men may claim to know what we're doing down there, but we don't. So my question is this, what is the best oral sex you have ever received and what suggestions can we men take away from it?

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I beg to differ

I know what I'm doing down there. My wife lets me know every time.

 

[NippleMuncher]

So ladies, we men may claim to know what we're doing down there, but we don't. So my question is this, what is the best oral sex you have ever received and what suggestions can we men take away from it?

There is nothing you can be told, you have to pay attention not only to what you're doing, but to her reactions while you're doing it. Every woman is different, no matter how similar their fun bits and pieces might seem.

I've been with women who claim they've never cum by oral alone, yet I've taken them there. I've been with women who are incapable of expressing what they need to bring them to the big O, yet I've taken them there by oral alone.

While technique is important, you have to be able to read your opponent and improvise accordingly. You get these cues not only from visually watching her reactions to what you're doing, but by listening to the sounds she's making.

Let's assume you have a rudimentary understanding of a woman's physical parts. Now imagine those were YOUR parts, what would you like done to them? Do THAT and watch for her reactions. Let's also assume that you have a rudimentary understanding that sex from a woman's perspective is more about stimulating their brain than their body. Are you fucking her brains out or are you fucking her body?

 

[bllight]

Thank you Nipple Muncher and PleasePeesMe.

I understand that there is no technique. I'm mainly asking women, what sexually turns them on through oral sex. My women have told me what they like, I'm simply trying to better the discussion of how to make oral sex better for woman.

 

[danigrl84]

Wish i could offer good advice, but I have never.....and I mean never, had oral sex (on the receiving end) that was anything that great

 

[desertslave]

So ladies, we men may claim to know what we're doing down there, but we don't. So my question is this, what is the best oral sex you have ever received and what suggestions can we men take away from it?

Clone my Master, it's the only way.

 

[subwannabe]

I can't help but wonder how this would have been answered if it were a woman asking a guy about their best oral sex ever. If it were I guess I would have to answer that there's not much I can say as you are either good at it or you're not. The only concrete answer I would have is that my best oral sex ever is when I cum in her mouth and she swallows. If she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth then in my book it really isn't even oral sex or a blow job, it is merely someone sucking on your cock for a short period.

 

[lynn-23]

I think the best advice to men is to be patient and go slow. Dont be in a hurry to get your woman to climax in a few minutes. Its not going to happen (generally). Soft kisses, gentle licks, caressing her hip or holding her hand, those sort of things. I had had bfs go down on me before and it was ok, and I did climax. But with my husband, even when we were just dating, there was much more emotional attachment, so I relaxed and trusted him and felt in general more comfortable with him doing this most initimate of acts. I knew he enjoyed doing it and he would tell me how beautiful I was etc. Listen to the woman, her words sometimes, but mostly listen to her body and her breath and her reactions.

 

[amofiga]

On a slight turn around to the question, I think women need to be able to relax and enjoy and not feel pressured or that they need to "get along with it". I've had lady friends that truly relaxed and enjoyed being pleasured orally and I've had some that acted like (and even said) that they felt uneasy or embarrassed with it. I suppose it goes to that old notion that women don't feel that their private parts are particularly something that men enjoy having their face in. I've had women friends who let themselves enjoy and then in return let me enjoy. If a guy gets the feeling that his partner would just as soon have him out of there, then it's not going to be that good for either. If both partners can relax and enjoy, then I think it is better all around.

 

[Lynn33]

On a slight turn around to the question, I think women need to be able to relax and enjoy and not feel pressured or that they need to "get along with it". I've had lady friends that truly relaxed and enjoyed being pleasured orally and I've had some that acted like (and even said) that they felt uneasy or embarrassed with it. I suppose it goes to that old notion that women don't feel that their private parts are particularly something that men enjoy having their face in. I've had women friends who let themselves enjoy and then in return let me enjoy. If a guy gets the feeling that his partner would just as soon have him out of there, then it's not going to be that good for either. If both partners can relax and enjoy, then I think it is better all around.

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[ConfusedAgain]

My best was with an ex. He could tell I try and fight it and hold back. He'd either tell me to stop fighting it or do whatever he was doing more intense so I couldn't hold back any longer. I also have this habit of telling someone to stop when it gets too good. Some of them actually stopped.

 

[lynn-23]

I think there is something to that, yes. If a guy can make the woman feel she is beautiful down there and that he really wants to do this both for his and her pleasure, and they have trust and respect, it helps her to relax and then it will be wonderful for both.

On a slight turn around to the question, I think women need to be able to relax and enjoy and not feel pressured or that they need to "get along with it". I've had lady friends that truly relaxed and enjoyed being pleasured orally and I've had some that acted like (and even said) that they felt uneasy or embarrassed with it. I suppose it goes to that old notion that women don't feel that their private parts are particularly something that men enjoy having their face in. I've had women friends who let themselves enjoy and then in return let me enjoy. If a guy gets the feeling that his partner would just as soon have him out of there, then it's not going to be that good for either. If both partners can relax and enjoy, then I think it is better all around.

 

[69Ranger69]

We don't know what we're doing down there? I've done a little reading and got in some practice during my life... My wife loves it and she shows it in many ways... If I want sex, I just make mention of "going downtown" and she's all up for it. I must be doing something right!

 

[Goey]

In all honesty I've never had a bad oral session. As long as he's enthusiastic about it I enjoy it. Not really sure what he does down there but when I ask all he says is "Just using my tongue" so he's either being secretive or I'm easy to please.

 

[NippleMuncher]

One of the things I do that seems to work is to suck her clit, not hard enough to be painful, but forcefully enough to help engorge it and make it more sensitive.

Ladies?

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

sad

Wish i could offer good advice, but I have never.....and I mean never, had oral sex (on the receiving end) that was anything that great

That is dad gummed SAD. Sorry.

 

[loquere]

I love going down!

 

[koalapunch90]

My ex girlfriend would always get extremely shy and embarassed and wouldn't let me go down on her very often but the few times I was able to I really enjoyed doing it. Wish I got more opportunities to try and get better at it.

 

[bailadora]

I personally always feel that I take too long to get there, so I stress myself a bit trying to make it go faster, which as many know has the opposite effect

This is more common than most would think. One of the blogs I follow on a semi regular basis talked about those "voices" some women get in their heads during oral: the ones that worry about how long it's taking, that worry that his neck getting tired, and that generally worrying about HIS head space. There were SO many responses to that entry from women who've had/have the same problem. For some, getting out of one's head and "just relaxing" is easier said than done.

 

[missgiter]

Best advice? PAY ATTENTION!

Every woman is different in what feels good and what works for her. By paying attention, you'll reap the best rewards. Each woman wants a different level of roughness... and that can go a long way to how pleasurable oral is for a woman.

Personally, I want some bites, some rough play, and a ton of clit attention. But for the most part, oral just doesn't -do- it for me. That's not to say I haven't had a few great oral fun times - but I'd rather give it than receive it.

 

[sintexs]

magic answer

there is no magic answer is there or someone here would be rich! Judging from the variety of ways I've been approached I would guess that guys try out things they read, all women are different, and different days of the week matter. Lately I read Claudia Dey's Guide to Being a Bush Pilot and I thought she had an excellent way of describing all the mental blocks. (disclaimer - I have no connection to this author publishing co, etc etc).

 

[Cattypuss]

I used to think receiving oral sex was over-rated. Was never able to cum from it. Always much, much preferred being fingered. And then one day, over 20 years after I became sexually active, a lover went at my clit from the other direction** and I've been with him ever since and every time he goes down on me I cum big-time.


** (I mean that instead of the usual way where he would be lying between my legs, his head closest to me and his feet furthest away, he adopted a 69-like position so that he was licking down from the top rather than up from the bottom. It also works when I sit on his face, looking at his feet rather than at the headboard. Again because of the direction of his licking.)

 

[desertslave]

Interesting, Catty! Master most often attacks me sideways, and he sends me to the moon like that. I think having the ability to play with my breast or to finger me (or both, dear gods) makes a huge difference. When I had all of my piercings, I especially loved when he would hold my labia rings wide open and pull them in different directions. <sigh>

The key ingredient is definitely enthusiasm. I remember, when we were LD and writing bunches, he asked me if I felt it was 'un-domly' to go down on me. I told him, honestly, that whatever he chose to do was fine by me, no judgment, but that I wasn't particularly enamored of receiving oral. HE changed my mind, big time!

I love when he sucks my clit. What really makes me crazy is when he licks me, end to end, with a big sweep of his tongue. <swoon> Oh, who am I fooling, I love anything he does with his tongue, anywhere. He can make me cum from licking my nipples! He makes me react in ways that I never did in the past.

After the first time we were together I knew that I would move heaven and earth to be with him as often as he allowed me. That was 13 years ago.

 

[pisces_girl]

it's good when the guy doesn't just stick to the clit and flick his tongue around... it feels nice to have him move his tongue fast and slow, and to feel him sucking every now and then. also, fingering while licking feels very nice.