Spankings, Why?

[RomanSteel]

The title says it all.

Wondering what the need/desire is exactly.

And thinking (personally, no offense) that maybe some of you
habitual spankers should maybe mention it before a sneak attack
during a fantastic moment.


Just looking for a little insight on the matter.

 

[rosmerta]

I love being spanked. I love it especially when I don't expect it. It is very arousing and I come very quickly if fucked after a good spanking.

I have no idea why.

 

[TexasWife25]

The title says it all.

Wondering what the need/desire is exactly.

And thinking (personally, no offense) that maybe some of you
habitual spankers should maybe mention it before a sneak attack
during a fantastic moment.


Just looking for a little insight on the matter.

Kinks should always be discussed before hand. The worst time to mention you want to be spanked or peed on or tied up, is during sex.

As to the why.... I think it depends on the person. For me is a bit of a dominance issue. I enjoy being submissive and spanking goes along with that. I would suggest asking your partner why he/she enjoys it and then deciding if it's something you're willing to explore or if it's a deal breaker for you.

 

[INeedLove]

Spankings? MMmmmmmm, love getting them. Why? There is something about being over the knee or bent over, exposed, anticipating the blow. It's part of a good mind-fuck. Then when the spank lands, the flash of heat and sound combine into a delicious sensation. Feeling my rear get warmer, and his hand rubbing the spots.....shiver! Oh yes, the submission is a big part of it.

Hope that makes sense?

 

[amofiga]

Kinks should always be discussed before hand. The worst time to mention you want to be spanked or peed on or tied up, is during sex.

As to the why.... I think it depends on the person. For me is a bit of a dominance issue. I enjoy being submissive and spanking goes along with that. I would suggest asking your partner why he/she enjoys it and then deciding if it's something you're willing to explore or if it's a deal breaker for you.

I fully agree that sexual desires, preferences, likes, dislikes, etc should be discussed before entering into a physical relationship. Yeah, I know all about the "swept away" fantasies in the movies where two people meet and tear each other's clothes off while kissing and groping and grunting. In real life, I've found that it's best to make sure that you won't be overstepping some boundary by doing something your partner doesn't like or vice versa, and then being embarrassed, upset, and sitting on the bed feeling like cold water's been dumped on you.

It's also not good to question the motivations of someone's preferences, kinks, fetishes, etc. Everybody is different and deserves respect.

As for spankings per se, my wife happens to like them. I don't really understand why, I don't think she can really articulate why either. Sometimes she asks for it and sometimes I just do it because I know it turns her on. It's just like she goes wild with my finger up her ass when we fuck or I eat her. I do not particularlay like my ass being whacked or probed. Best to know things like that up front.

 

[Carnevil9]

I think spanking goes along with many other submissive desires: we spend so much of our life needing to be in control of things. Our jobs, our kids, our homes, etc. It's nice to let go and let someone ELSE be in charge for a few minutes. COMPLETELY in charge. It's a delicious change of pace that feels like a mini-vacation from responsibility.

Just MHO.......Carney

 

[Riles]

Personally, I've never understood it. I have been spanked by partners before, but it was never erotic to me. In fact....it ticks me right off. Maybe because I was spanked as a kid and there's a mental block that says this activity is associated with punishment? Not sure.

That being said...recently, I've been thinking about it. It's all in association with one person specifically, so I would think it's more the idea of HIM doing it and not the actual spanking itself. But yeah....there's a little devilish tickler inside my brain that is saying "you WANT this, you're just afraid to admit. Chicken!"

...I am currently supressing said devil with all my might, afterall, it really IS my ass on the line. But she's very insistant.

We'll see who wins out.

 

[RomanSteel]

Asked a friend his reply was "I just like seeing that ass jiggle."
Polled a few fellas only to get the response of mainly just "It's just there begging for it."

Personally the first time it ever happened to me it was a surprise. I did get the "cold water" feeling out of it. He kept doing it though and kinda forced me to maintain my position. I was embarrassed, turned off, then I was pissed, and then..... It was kinda hot.

But after that one instance I just can't wrap my head around it. I've got my own personal hate for my ass so that could be my mental block there.

To sum it up, I don't (personally) appreciate it all it makes me wanna do is turn around and beat the piss out of you. But hey, that's just me. We've all got our own on's and offs.

 

[Stella_Omega]

i like getting spankings because the nerve endings in my ass are part of the whole genital system and it feels fucking gooood. Getting whumped jars my clit. And the increased blood flow increases blood flow in nearby areas as well. I love it.
And also because I like that little sense of being overpowered. The two things make a very pleasant whole.

I like giving them because I can tell that other people like the same thing for the same reasons.

But I would NEVER slap ANYONE without checking with them first. For many people the sensation triggers negative feelings for one or another reason. That's not what I am after in bed.

And there are more gentler ways to stimulate a pair of buns-- like kissing, patting, rubbing... I just happen to prefer very strong sensation.

 

[Holley]

I like as long as it's not too hard and hurts too much
Being submissive enjoying the pleasure that comes after the apanking.

 

[RuReal]

I think it is different for everyone. I do not surprise spank my other half occasional during sex she may get a swat, but that is it.

If I am giving her a good spanking there is no sex hell we have learned that for her the spanking is a release kind of like sex can be and she just cannot do both in the same session. I do find it interesting when she craves it and how her mood changes.

What would be a habitual spanker? If someone is not giving warnings and that aspect of the relationship has not been defines someone is not practicing safe kink, but that is just my thought on it.

 

[amofiga]

<<<< And there are more gentler ways to stimulate a pair of buns-- like kissing, patting, rubbing... I just happen to prefer very strong sensation. >>>>

Stella

I think you touched on something there (no pun intended) with the kissing, and rubbing. Many times when I do spank my wife, I randomly alternate the smacks with gentle rubs and tickles and sometimes kisses. It works great when I have her blindfolded and she's not sure what's going to come next, I can be gently rubbing and caressing one ass cheek when I send a resounding thwack to the other with my other hand. Sometimes resounding thwacks to alternating ass cheeks interspersed with double whacks to the same one two or three time follwed by soft caressing and kissing. We've sometimes intruduced ice cubes into the play. Rubbing a cold ice cube on her red ass to soothe it and then smacking it while wet with the cold water from the melted ice. I suppose it can be the guessing game that makes it erotic for those that like it as well as the actual physical stimulation. Everybody has their thing I suppose.

 

[talldad1]

I love being spanked. I love it especially when I don't expect it. It is very arousing and I come very quickly if fucked after a good spanking.

I have no idea why.

That is amazingly hot. I would love to spank you.

 

[rosmerta]

Thanks, talldad. I would love that, too. I really, really would.

 

[Stella_Omega]

<<<< And there are more gentler ways to stimulate a pair of buns-- like kissing, patting, rubbing... I just happen to prefer very strong sensation. >>>>

Stella

I think you touched on something there (no pun intended) with the kissing, and rubbing. Many times when I do spank my wife, I randomly alternate the smacks with gentle rubs and tickles and sometimes kisses. It works great when I have her blindfolded and she's not sure what's going to come next, I can be gently rubbing and caressing one ass cheek when I send a resounding thwack to the other with my other hand. Sometimes resounding thwacks to alternating ass cheeks interspersed with double whacks to the same one two or three time follwed by soft caressing and kissing. We've sometimes intruduced ice cubes into the play. Rubbing a cold ice cube on her red ass to soothe it and then smacking it while wet with the cold water from the melted ice. I suppose it can be the guessing game that makes it erotic for those that like it as well as the actual physical stimulation. Everybody has their thing I suppose.

I love it! I'm taking notes, dude

 

[box13]

Spankings? MMmmmmmm, love getting them. Why? There is something about being over the knee or bent over, exposed, anticipating the blow. It's part of a good mind-fuck. Then when the spank lands, the flash of heat and sound combine into a delicious sensation. Feeling my rear get warmer, and his hand rubbing the spots.....shiver! Oh yes, the submission is a big part of it.

Hope that makes sense?

Goodness, but I think I've just cum.

 

[Miles Long]

First of all spanking is hot because it's power play, both physical and mental. I get the physical dominance of being in control of her body. On the mental side she doesn't know precisely what is in store. Will I use my hand or an implement? Will I take her over my knee or bend her over the desk? How long will I spank her? How hard? Will I tell her to count or will I tell her to stay silent? It's a total mindfuck. It's fun to fuck with her head.

Secondly, it's sensory overload in such a good way. Visually, there is so much to recommend spanking. Think of all the great positions to have her assume - grabbing her ankles, bent over furniture, standing in the middle of the room with her arms bound and drawn up over her head, or draped across my lap to name a few. Those are just fucking lovely sights! And then her body's reactions as the spanking starts. The skin turns bright pink and then red. She writhes and squirms. Her nipples harden and she starts to pant. Her ass and tits jiggle. Her knuckles turn white gripping the sheets or the edge of the desk. Is there a more beautiful sight than my handprints on her cheeks? Maybe the look of desperate lust in her eyes, but it's a close call.

Then there are the sounds. My God, the sounds! The smack of skin meeting skin as my hand finds her upturned ass, the whoosh of the flogger and the crack of the whip accompany her moans, yelps, and screams quite nicely. Depending on the mood of that particular spanking it can be a great time for dialogue. Her cries can go from defiant to resigned to enthusiastic. I can tell her what a good girl she is, what a naughty girl she is, or anything else I want to say to her. That's the advantage of having a captive audience, so to speak. Just think of all the wonderful sounds she can make. She can yell, she can beg, she can moan in pain and pleasure all in one sound. It's so fucking hot to hear her scream "ow!" and then buckle down in preparation for the next spank. And with each cry you can hear her crescendo, getting closer and closer to orgasm. That's music to my ears.

Obviously it's very tactile as well. I love to touch her, explore her, trace my fingers over her skin looking for the perfect place to spank. I can feel my hand sting and start to get hot. I can feel the force of my swats shudder through her body. I can grip and squeeze her luscious ass in between blows. I can feel her squirming on my lap, struggling against me, grinding against me in an attempt to escape. I can smell her arousal. I can spank her pussy and then lick her wetness off my fingers. I can taste her on my palm and then spank her some more. Good spankings can hit all five senses.

Last, spankings are so hot because there is so much variety to be had. The level of intensity, the positions, the duration, so many aspects can be changed depending on what we both want and need. I can spank her ass, hips, pussy, tits, clit, anywhere! The dynamic between us can go in so many wonderful directions. Yeah, I think there is a lot to like about spankings.

Plus if you do it right she'll hump the fuck out of your thigh while you're cuddling afterwards.

But definitely talk about it before you get into the sexy time moment. Not everyone is into it.

 

[Miles Long]

<<<< And there are more gentler ways to stimulate a pair of buns-- like kissing, patting, rubbing... I just happen to prefer very strong sensation. >>>>

Stella

I think you touched on something there (no pun intended) with the kissing, and rubbing. Many times when I do spank my wife, I randomly alternate the smacks with gentle rubs and tickles and sometimes kisses. It works great when I have her blindfolded and she's not sure what's going to come next, I can be gently rubbing and caressing one ass cheek when I send a resounding thwack to the other with my other hand. Sometimes resounding thwacks to alternating ass cheeks interspersed with double whacks to the same one two or three time follwed by soft caressing and kissing. We've sometimes intruduced ice cubes into the play. Rubbing a cold ice cube on her red ass to soothe it and then smacking it while wet with the cold water from the melted ice. I suppose it can be the guessing game that makes it erotic for those that like it as well as the actual physical stimulation. Everybody has their thing I suppose.

I love the ice cube idea. I've never used them with spankings before, but that sounds great so I'm definitely going to try it!

 

[JennyNo1]

*snipped*
To sum it up, I don't (personally) appreciate it all it makes me wanna do is turn around and beat the piss out of you. But hey, that's just me. We've all got our own on's and offs.

Thank you! I've had the same question in my own mind, and I know that that has been my reaction, to just get pissed. I have a submissive nature, so I'm supposed to CRAVE being spanked, right? Nuh-uh. Nope. It does nothing for me. Zip. Nada. In fact, it makes it that much harder for me to enjoy the other stuff I'm feeling. Perhaps it hasn't been done to me with the right intent - it's been more like, "let's see if this turns you on", kind of like it's on the checklist.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thank you! I've had the same question in my own mind, and I know that that has been my reaction, to just get pissed. I have a submissive nature, so I'm supposed to CRAVE being spanked, right? Nuh-uh. Nope. It does nothing for me. Zip. Nada. In fact, it makes it that much harder for me to enjoy the other stuff I'm feeling. Perhaps it hasn't been done to me with the right intent - it's been more like, "let's see if this turns you on", kind of like it's on the checklist.

Having a submissive nature is one part of your personality.

Enjoying pain is a different part. The two can go together, but they don't have to.

Furthermore, a lot of women mistake "Wanting to be done unto" for "having a submissive nature." The truth, as I see it, is that most women-- really, I mean a significant majority of women-- are in fact, dominant, but don't want to be the one doing the lifting. Many "submissive" women are dominant bottoms. And many men are in fact, service tops, meaning they want to make that woman happy. If he needs to Take Charge-- in the way that she prefers-- then that's what he will do-- and he'll enjoy it because she enjoys it.

A true, or as we like to say, Twue, submissive will love getting spanked even if she doesn't love it, simply because it's what her Dom wants. Submissives are pretty rare, actually.


*cough* sorry, got the needle stuck in the record there.

 

[JennyNo1]

Having a submissive nature is one part of your personality.

Enjoying pain is a different part. The two can go together, but they don't have to.

Furthermore, a lot of women mistake "Wanting to be done unto" for "having a submissive nature." The truth, as I see it, is that most women-- really, I mean a significant majority of women-- are in fact, dominant, but don't want to be the one doing the lifting. Many "submissive" women are dominant bottoms. And many men are in fact, service tops, meaning they want to make that woman happy. If he needs to Take Charge-- in the way that she prefers-- then that's what he will do-- and he'll enjoy it because she enjoys it.

A true, or as we like to say, Twue, submissive will love getting spanked even if she doesn't love it, simply because it's what her Dom wants. Submissives are pretty rare, actually.


*cough* sorry, got the needle stuck in the record there.

"Twue" submissive? I really don't know if you'd call me that, and I really don't think I care if I fit that label. That's precisely why I said I have a submissive nature rather than "I am a submissive". Whenever spanking has been involved, it's been because my partner wanted it, with the understanding that at some point, I'd have to let him know "that's enough".

 

[richfun]

"Twue" submissive? I really don't know if you'd call me that, and I really don't think I care if I fit that label. That's precisely why I said I have a submissive nature rather than "I am a submissive". Whenever spanking has been involved, it's been because my partner wanted it, with the understanding that at some point, I'd have to let him know "that's enough".

That is really important, to be able to say when to stop.
I like being spanked, I don't like to spank, but like you say, there is a point when to say "Stop"

 

[JennyNo1]

That is really important, to be able to say when to stop.
I like being spanked, I don't like to spank, but like you say, there is a point when to say "Stop"

Yes, I think my version of "Stop" is more when I stop saying "ow, yes!" and start saying "OUCH DAMNIT!"

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yes, I think my version of "Stop" is more when I stop saying "ow, yes!" and start saying "OUCH DAMNIT!"

hehe that would work

 

[pixxie91]

Why I enjoy spanking

I have a bit of a submissive streak in me and I love the vulnerable position (no pun intended) that receiving a spanking puts me in. Your ass is up, your face is down, most of the time. I also relish the lack of control and being at my partner's mercy; it is both terrifying and excruciatingly sexy. I'm also quite masochiostic, so the pain is a turn-on as well.

Finally, this may come off as a bit odd, but somehow I feel oddly safe, even if it hurts and even if I'm in tears. I don't know. There is just something comforting about feeling his warm lap and (usually) his hard cock against my stomach. His hand stroking my back, or tightly holding my wrist so I don't try to block him, or his fingers twining in my hair, just... nngh.