spoiling the missus

[remy_lebeau8]

I'm thinking a nice full body massage with lotions and such. With my work schedule I don't get to take her out very often so I'm looking for ideas of some senual little suprises I could sneak in when not working. So as stated before I plan on suprising her with a full body massage tonight but want to add something to it.

Suggestions

Thanks

Remy

 

[angel2612]

Don't just start with the massage... Maybe a candle lit hot bath.. with lots of bubbles of course.. wash her and dry her.. maybe wine or some fruity drink.. and then start the massage.. and never stop telling her how beautiful she is.

 

[remy_lebeau8]

Thanks. Washing her did cross my mind. It would be a shower though she won't do baths. Thanks for the candle idea I'd forgotten about that. Only got about 10000 in the house.

Remy

 

[bailadora]

Thanks. Washing her did cross my mind. It would be a shower though she won't do baths. Thanks for the candle idea I'd forgotten about that. Only got about 10000 in the house.

Remy

Aww, that's too bad. One of the most memorable love scenes I ever saw is from Out of Africa. Meryl Streep is soaking in a tub as Robert Redford washes her hair. I'm sure a lot of it had to do with movie magic, but it struck me as one of the most romantic things I've ever seen.

Edit: In addition to the candles, how about putting on soothing music?

 

[NippleMuncher]

Nothing beats a good sensual body massage. Just make sure you pay more attention to the massage and less attention to the sensual part. What I mean is, it's easy to get distracted with the bits you're more interested in than concentrating on the total body experience. You'll get your chance at all the good bits soon enough, you can wait for the hour or so it will take to give her a genuine fingertip to toe total body massage.

Definitely use a massage oil, and plenty of it! Massage oils tend to stay on the surface of the skin much better than lotions, providing much needed lubrication for a gentle, but firm and deep massage. You want her to be slick without the oil running and pooling by itself.

It would be a good thing to place large towels down under her so that excess oil doesn't get on whatever surface you are massaging her on (usually the bed for me ). Don't forget to roll her over half way through and do her front too, with as much attention to detail as you gave every square inch of her back.

 

[PhilGarlic]

how about

how about giving her an orgasm

 

[Saxon Stonedyke]

I agree with what Nipple said and if you need pointers on how to do a good massage try http://www.wingsofknowledge.com/ I learned a good bit there.

Also, if you will be doing this very often I'd recommend a portable massage table. I picked up one for less than a hundred bucks and it's saved me more than that in stained sheets.

 

[SweetErika]

If a full body massage isn't in the cards, consider a good foot and/or hand and/or head massage (these could extend up/down, depending on what she likes and you have time for). There's little that makes me feel more spoiled than an enthusiastic foot massage; my feet are a great source of pleasure for me, but I think it turns on the fact that there's no nudity involved and it's something just for me.

Other ideas outside of the massage realm could include making her nice meals (or even making her a favorite dish, dessert, etc.) and taking care of housework/her typical chores while she relaxes.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Other ideas outside of the massage realm could include making her nice meals (or even making her a favorite dish, dessert, etc.) and taking care of housework/her typical chores while she relaxes.

Oh come on! I put the toilet seat down and picked my undies up off the floor, isn't that enough??!!!?!

 

[NippleMuncher]

There's little that makes me feel more spoiled than an enthusiastic foot massage; my feet are a great source of pleasure for me, but I think it turns on the fact that there's no nudity involved and it's something just for me.

What do you mean there's no nudity, your toes are nekid! And I don't know about anybody else, but I'd be nekid as a jaybird!

 

[remy_lebeau8]

Thanks for the tips everyone. I ended up giving her a full body massage with some sorta Victoria secret lotion. I do have some massage oil but it gets kind of sticky and she didn't want to take another shower. I don't know how normal that is for massage oils maybe I have some cheap shit. Yesterday was her birthday so I suprised her with roses and made her breakfast. Peanut butter chocolate chip pancakes with a banana toffee syrup.

Mmm I should put up the recipe in the cook book thread.

Remy

 

[remy_lebeau8]

Oh come on! I put the toilet seat down and picked my undies up off the floor, isn't that enough??!!!?!

I think I said that once....still have the lump lol

 

[bailadora]

Remy;

Is there a Massage Envy in your area? Maybe you could talk to one of the therapists and find out what they use? I go on a regular basis and never leave feeling like I'm sticky or oily. Just a thought for next time.

Oh - and the birthday treatment had me going 'Awwww!'

Good man!

 

[remy_lebeau8]

I don't think so but ill Google them and check. I've no idea where this oil came from. I think it came in a gift box or something from some adult store. It's probably 3 years old at least lol. And thank you I try

Remy.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't think so but ill Google them and check. I've no idea where this oil came from. I think it came in a gift box or something from some adult store. It's probably 3 years old at least lol. And thank you I try

Remy.

Well, there you go! If it was an "adult" product, it was likely marketed as edible or flavored, which means it probably had glycerin and/or a number of other ingredients in it that can get sticky.

Most massage therapists use Biotone because most-all Biotone products are suitable for nearly everyone, are great lubricants and will wash right out of fabrics. I've been to a ton of massage therapists, and I can't think of a single one who didn't use a Biotone product, actually!

However, you do have a ton of other options for home massage. Pure coconut oil, for instance, is amazing stuff that's widely available and safe to use all over (including the female genitalia, where you really shouldn't put most other oils). For a couples massage, I'd suggest starting there. We've also enjoyed oils like grapeseed oil (which also has a bunch of antioxidants that are good for the skin) and almond oil. Typically, you do want to look for a medium-weight oil that has skin benefits and doesn't have any strong scent for a good massage. Obviously you'll need to take any allergies into consideration and realize that most oils will stain or take some special laundry treatment if they get on fabrics. Do some research to pick an oil, then you should be able to get it inexpensively online or at a health food, natural products, holistic or supplement store. I believe a 16oz bottle of grapeseed oil set us back around $8 and provided many, many full body massages over a period of about a year.

For smaller-area and/or totally safe/healthy genital massage, you can't beat silicone lube. Yes, it's expensive (which is why I don't recommend it for massage on larger areas), but a little goes a loooooong way, it's hypoallergenic, moisturizing, won't harm you if you ingest some and it'll never go bad. One 16 ounce pump bottle has covered 99.9% of our lube needs for like 6+, and I even use it as a moisturizer on dry skin sometimes. I'd never be able to say the same thing about a water-based lube!

In short, skip any "adult" and specialty massage products, and either go with the Biotone the professionals use or the time-tested route of a healthy oil.

 

[remy_lebeau8]

Yup that's it the stuff was flavored. I'll look into that other oil. I probably have grapeseed oil around the house as I've cooked with it before. What about olive oil I always have that around. Makes a good gun oil when my black powder guns go up for the winter, as well as cookig

Great advice thanks.

Remy

 

[NippleMuncher]

I think I said that once....still have the lump lol

Yeah, that's a mistake you only make once, isn't it?

 

[NippleMuncher]

Yup that's it the stuff was flavored. I'll look into that other oil. I probably have grapeseed oil around the house as I've cooked with it before. What about olive oil I always have that around. Makes a good gun oil when my black powder guns go up for the winter, as well as cookig

Great advice thanks.

Remy

Olive oil would probably be fine, it's got a good viscosity to it, the thing is, it's kind of tough to wash off and will definitely require a shower and probably your help (damn the luck ) to scrub the places she can't reach.

I get a jojoba massage oil at Trader Joe's that works great. It's a little expensive, but it stays on the skin well and will virtually wipe off with a towel. No staining issues that I know of, but then I'm not the one washing the towels, so I can't say that with certainty.

 

[SweetErika]

Olive oil would probably be fine, it's got a good viscosity to it, the thing is, it's kind of tough to wash off and will definitely require a shower and probably your help (damn the luck ) to scrub the places she can't reach.

I get a jojoba massage oil at Trader Joe's that works great. It's a little expensive, but it stays on the skin well and will virtually wipe off with a towel. No staining issues that I know of, but then I'm not the one washing the towels, so I can't say that with certainty.

IMO, olive oil is way too viscous for massage, and I think it'd almost certainly stain fabrics. Plus, it has a very distinct smell that most people probably wouldn't find pleasant in a massage setting.

Sure, it'd work in a pinch, but I'd never recommend it as a top choice.

And make sure the grapeseed oil you already have on hand isn't the really expensive variety that is preferable for eating! I might be thinking of the wrong thing, but I think that type is usually pretty green in color (kind of like extra virgin olive oil is green, whereas the subsequent pressings and more refined stuff is golden/less pigmented).

 

[ArchLady03]

Not to diverge off the "massage" trail but here's an idea: leave her little notes where she'll find them. Could be in her purse, car, bedside table... heck text works great for this one. Just randomly text her in the middle of the day and tell her you're thinking about her and how amazing she is and how happy you are to have her in her life. My friend's fiance did that for her for a full week and random times during the day and it blew her away. Sometimes the simple things can be the best things!