Ok... I'm going to admit it

[SirenSweet]

I'm desperate to try anal sex. I've never done it but all my fantasies, for as long as I remember, involve being taken in the ass. Is this appealing to men? I've never had the nerve to ask anyone to do it, but I really want to try. I can orgasm just looking at pictures of anal sex. I'm obsessed!

Women, am I the only one wanting this?

Men, is a woman wanting anal a turn off?

Well.. they say confession is good for the soul. ...

 

[SirenSweet]

so... after I post this, I look through other messages and realize, I'm not alone!

 

[rikaaim]

I think part of your initial excitement is just the fact that you're so curious, and you've never tried it. So, it's a bit of a mystery to you right now.

That being said, you're perfectly normal! I can't even recall who said it, but one of my favorite quotes is that "It's only kinky the first time." To me, that always meant, the taboo, the mystery, the risk, the thinking this is unusual all play into the excitement of trying something. After you try it, you'll see it's not crazy unusual. In fact, if you enjoy it, and keep enjoying it, then it ceases to be a "kink" and becomes part of your normal routine. So, remember, it's all in the eye of the beholder. To me, straight vanilla, missionary sex is very unusual!

That said, I am a man. I LOVE anal sex. There is a few reasons for this. One, the prostate gets stimulated. A man's G-spot equivalent is a prostate. I use a few different Aneros products designed specifically to stimulate the prostate. In doing so, I've avoided penile masturbation and stimulation to allow my body to experience what's referred to as a "Super-O". Yes, men can orgasms WAY better than ejaculatory orgasms. Second, the nerves around the sphincter and anal ring are very sensitive to touch, and pleasure. Since I was in my exploratory days I would masturbate anally. I didn't even know what I was doing specifically. I just knew it felt great! I've had several orgasms from anal stimulation alone. It's become important to note that "orgasm" does not equal ejaculation. There are many different types of orgasms for men just as there are for women. That's the "male" perspective.

From my experience as a male, I can only tell you what I know of the women I've been with. I've not been with many women, but every single one has enjoyed anal. I've rimmed a girl, had anal sex straight out, used plugs and toys, used fingers, basically everything. Each different stimulation choice yields its own wonderful results. Since a woman does not have a prostate, I'm not sure the physical enjoyment a woman gets from being stuffed or deeply penetrated. I can attest that when I do vaginal intercourse, and I use a finger or two anally, I know it drives her wild. I think it's the varying thrust directions, pressures, etc... I'll also rim a girl just like I'm eating her out. That's brought about orgasms of its own. I've not really used vibrators anally, but I might. Most of the toys I've used in that area are plugs or designed anal toys.

Now, a note about safety. First, try to clean the area as best as possible. The challenge women can have is that if a woman uses vaginal fluid to lube the anal area, and then double dips sorta speak, the risk of infection exists. Keep the vaginal area exclusive of the anal area to avoid risk of infection cross-contamination. Second, relaxation is key. Remember, that area anatomically is designed to push things out, not exactly suck them in. That doesn't mean it's difficult, it's not at all. Just if your body resists, don't force anything inside. Don't blast past the natural defense the body is creating. Instead, rest however deep you are, relax, let the body adjust, and progress some more. Enjoy the sensations you're feeling. That will help immensely.

Third, use a good lube. If you've not been told, using a silicone based lube on a silicone based toy WILL destroy it. If you have a favorite "flesh" like dildo made of silicone, and you slap some silicone lube on it, it will dissolve right in front of you. So, use a water based lube. Personally, in all of my sessions I use KY-Jelly and then a thin layer of Astroglide on top of that. You can do what's referred to by us Anerosians (the other product site I post on) as pre-lubing. This is done by taking a small oral syringe, like one used to give children liquid medication, and filling it with lube, then sticking it inside of your anal area, then squirting the lube directly into yourself. Then lube the product as normal, and insert. Voila!

That's my "basics" course on anal in the sense of taking precautions and a general idea of what to do.

To answer your other question, I GREATLY love anal sex, and a woman wanting it is a massive turn on. For one, the sensation for my cock is different. It's smoother, a little tighter, seems to be more responsive to my cock thrusting in and out. Also, as I mentioned with vaginal sex and fingers in the ass, the opposite also applies. With my cock in her ass, I can rub the clit, insert a finger or two into the vagina, or rub the clit with my first and second finger with my thumb in the vagina, if I'm barebacking it. There are so many options available! So, once you feel comfortable, just go for it! You'll definitely find a person or two who would jump at the chance to let you explore.

Remember to keep clean. Try to keep the anal residue away from the vaginal area. If you feel like you need to douche or "clean out" yourself prior, there are cheap and effective anal douches. Lube well. Relax. Let go of mental notions holding you back. Enjoy!

 

[nastyman12a]

I'm desperate to try anal sex. I've never done it but all my fantasies, for as long as I remember, involve being taken in the ass. Is this appealing to men? I've never had the nerve to ask anyone to do it, but I really want to try. I can orgasm just looking at pictures of anal sex. I'm obsessed!

Women, am I the only one wanting this?

Men, is a woman wanting anal a turn off?

Well.. they say confession is good for the soul. ...

Is a woman wanting anal sex a turn off?? Hell no, it's a hell of a turn on.. Hun, I've known woman who always hinted about anal sex. and that by itself is exciting. But a hot lady that is fully admitting she completely desires anal sex. Well sign me up. I'll be there. Let's get your sweet ass lubed up.

 

[SirenSweet]

Wonderful advice! Thank you. I crave it to be forceful and a little rough - although I don't want to be brutalized. I guess taking it slow at the beginning is a good idea.

I was thinking, if I ever actually get the chance to try it, that I'd douche or do an enema first. Good idea?

 

[AdjectiveNounVerb]

I'm desperate to try anal sex. I've never done it but all my fantasies, for as long as I remember, involve being taken in the ass. Is this appealing to men? I've never had the nerve to ask anyone to do it, but I really want to try. I can orgasm just looking at pictures of anal sex. I'm obsessed!

Women, am I the only one wanting this?

Men, is a woman wanting anal a turn off?

Well.. they say confession is good for the soul. ...

The answers to your questions are "no, you're not the only one" and "for some of us but not others". For instance, while all but one of the women I've ever been with were adamantly opposed to anal, that one LOVED it - and was accordingly quite disappointed with me since it was such a turn-off for me I couldn't maintain an erection when she wanted me to try it with her. But since she had been telling me about how anal with an ex had given her multiple orgasms, clearly for other men her wanting anal had not been a turn-off.

 

[rikaaim]

Wonderful advice! Thank you. I crave it to be forceful and a little rough - although I don't want to be brutalized. I guess taking it slow at the beginning is a good idea.

I was thinking, if I ever actually get the chance to try it, that I'd douche or do an enema first. Good idea?

Don't take laxatives to excess by any means! Doing so can drastically reduce the amounts of electrolytes in the body as well as dangerously imbalance sodium and postassium levels. This is if laxatives are abused. That would be rather difficult to do. So, I only mention it because I didn't want you thinking that you had to go crazy, uber clean or anything. Even an enema can be a bit too aggressive.

Something like this is what I use.
http://male.stockroom.com/Butt-Pirate-P3392.aspx

Note that it's cheap too.

I was told that this:
http://male.stockroom.com/Universal-Water-Works-System-P3676.aspx

was far too aggressive for anal cleaning by a poster at Aneros. The challenge is that the water pressure from the shower can dangerously rupture the thinner walls of the sphincter.

So, mild is your friend! Just filling your cavity up with water will allow your body to respond in the way it knows how and expel. Something gentle, and cheap, will be just fine.

 

[IamTom42]

One of the hottest things I've EVER heard was "Please fuck my ass."

 

[SirenSweet]

Hmmm.. now I just have to figure out who to say that to!

 

[SirenSweet]

Don't take laxatives to excess by any means! Doing so can drastically reduce the amounts of electrolytes in the body as well as dangerously imbalance sodium and postassium levels. This is if laxatives are abused. That would be rather difficult to do. So, I only mention it because I didn't want you thinking that you had to go crazy, uber clean or anything. Even an enema can be a bit too aggressive.

Something like this is what I use.
http://male.stockroom.com/Butt-Pirate-P3392.aspx

Note that it's cheap too.

I was told that this:
http://male.stockroom.com/Universal-Water-Works-System-P3676.aspx

was far too aggressive for anal cleaning by a poster at Aneros. The challenge is that the water pressure from the shower can dangerously rupture the thinner walls of the sphincter.

So, mild is your friend! Just filling your cavity up with water will allow your body to respond in the way it knows how and expel. Something gentle, and cheap, will be just fine.

Excellent advice again. Thank you for your candor.

 

[rikaaim]

Excellent advice again. Thank you for your candor.

Heh. I think this is the biggest reason it's a "turn off" for some. It's can get a little messy! I just remember that everything can clean up with soap and water.

Never use soap inside yourself! There's an entire bodily ecosystem of maintenance inside that area. Using anti-bacterial soap would mess it up. Just clean anything along the outside or that might "rub off" on something...eh hem.

This is one of the biggest reasons my girl stopped using her strap-on on me. It was insanely hot! I nearly ejaculated hands free from her thrusting alone. Watching her straddle me, force me legs open, push me back so my legs rest on her shoulders, lean into me, slip it in, and then rock back and forth while she watched my eyes widen...mmm...still sends shivers down my spine when I think about it! Seeing the look on her face as she completely took me, and did so hard, is an image I'll not soon forget. She leaned down to force her nipples into my mouth, and I sucked like a greedy newborn. It ended far too soon as she grabbed my cock and began to stroke. But, she surprised me that night, and a little residue on the strap-on grossed her out enough that she hasn't done it since. Taking the right precautions should limit or eliminate such an incidence from occurring.

 

[jasonmason]

I'm desperate to try anal sex. I've never done it but all my fantasies, for as long as I remember, involve being taken in the ass. Is this appealing to men? I've never had the nerve to ask anyone to do it, but I really want to try. I can orgasm just looking at pictures of anal sex. I'm obsessed!

Women, am I the only one wanting this?

Men, is a woman wanting anal a turn off?

Well.. they say confession is good for the soul. ...

Well I can not and will not answer for all men, but I personally find a woman wanting anal a huge turn on. I love the thought of anything anal. I love fingering her ass, licking it and fucking it.

 

[SirenSweet]

Well I can not and will not answer for all men, but I personally find a woman wanting anal a huge turn on. I love the thought of anything anal. I love fingering her ass, licking it and fucking it.

Now where do I find a man like you?

 

[jasonmason]

Now where do I find a man like you?

So I am right here LOL. Where might I find a hottie like you?

 

[MagicFlute]

No. You re not alone. And I'm not sure why yet feel that it's difficult to find a guy willing to do anal. I'm reluctant to give as I'm 9inches and have piercings. So I'm more worried about the receiver being hurt. But i won't say no if the person is still interested once they've seen me.

 

[Shimp]

Have you started with a finger...tering him to play with your ass or finger it can easily lead to anal

 

[pierrelarue161]

Anal seriously turns me on.

 

[talldad1]

Hmmm.. now I just have to figure out who to say that to!

Say it to someone you know well and trust.

 

[PreOwned]

Relaxed vs. Tight

. . . relaxation is key.

For what it's worth, I too was given this particular bit of advice years ago when I first tried anal, and while it intuitively seems like common sense, I found it to be dead wrong. I'm sure people vary in this regard, just as in everything else, but in my case, I found that tightening the sphincter somewhat greatly eased the passage of the dildo, cock, whatever. So if the relaxed approach is not reducing the pain enough, just imagine Sarah Palin as president, and that sucker should pop right in there!

Enjoy ~

 

[rikaaim]

For what it's worth, I too was given this particular bit of advice years ago when I first tried anal, and while it intuitively seems like common sense, I found it to be dead wrong. I'm sure people vary in this regard, just as in everything else, but in my case, I found that tightening the sphincter somewhat greatly eased the passage of the dildo, cock, whatever. So if the relaxed approach is not reducing the pain enough, just imagine Sarah Palin as president, and that sucker should pop right in there!

Enjoy ~

This is actually a very valid point. I'm going to elaborate in regards to two different situations.

One: If someone is being fucked anally, something is being pushed into them. If this is the case, there should be no need to "pucker up" as the object is entering regardless. This is when relaxation is paramount. If anal sex is going full blast, after the initial insertion and a few good thrusts at an easy pace, then the sphincter should be nice and accomodating to the point where a rougher thrust shouldn't more an issue.

Two: If a person is inserting something themselves, such as a prostate device, then the "pucker up" may be required. I often open myself up when I insert something by "bearing down" as if I were having a movement. This just opens all the muscles and creates a nice passage for the object to enter. Once the object is inside initially, I can suck it in by squeezing down and closing everything up. In terms of using a toy, repeating this "opening up and pucker up" routine with a toy inside can lead to a nice "auto fuck".

Does that sound about right to you PreOwned? I'm glad you mentioned that.

 

[PreOwned]

Mmmmmmmm, OK.

This is actually a very valid point. I'm going to elaborate in regards to two different situations.

One: If someone is being fucked anally, something is being pushed into them. If this is the case, there should be no need to "pucker up" as the object is entering regardless. This is when relaxation is paramount. If anal sex is going full blast, after the initial insertion and a few good thrusts at an easy pace, then the sphincter should be nice and accomodating to the point where a rougher thrust shouldn't more an issue.

Two: If a person is inserting something themselves, such as a prostate device, then the "pucker up" may be required. I often open myself up when I insert something by "bearing down" as if I were having a movement. This just opens all the muscles and creates a nice passage for the object to enter. Once the object is inside initially, I can suck it in by squeezing down and closing everything up. In terms of using a toy, repeating this "opening up and pucker up" routine with a toy inside can lead to a nice "auto fuck".

Does that sound about right to you PreOwned? I'm glad you mentioned that.

 

[jomar]

...So if the relaxed approach is not reducing the pain enough, just imagine Sarah Palin as president, and that sucker should pop right in there!

Enjoy ~

SirenSweet, there should be NO pain. If there is your partner isn't doing you right. Preparation is key and use plenty of lube. Seriously, there should be no pain involved (unless that is part of the pleasure).

Also, no reason for mess. A simple fleet enema sometime before had should take care of things, if needed (they're very cheap and available OTC at your drug store).

 

[dedenina]

We do it at least twice a months

But we really prepare and take our time. At first I just tolerated it, but in the last year or so I have enjoyed it and sometimes I can take all of his 8". I know hubby really likes it and shoots hugh loads. If you try it remember to take an enema before and after to clean out your rectum.

 

[Lit_Wetawd]

You awe full of hot wind and wetawded.

I think part of your initial excitement is just the fact that you're so curious, and you've never tried it. So, it's a bit of a mystery to you right now.

That being said, you're perfectly normal! I can't even recall who said it, but one of my favorite quotes is that "It's only kinky the first time." To me, that always meant, the taboo, the mystery, the risk, the thinking this is unusual all play into the excitement of trying something. After you try it, you'll see it's not crazy unusual. In fact, if you enjoy it, and keep enjoying it, then it ceases to be a "kink" and becomes part of your normal routine. So, remember, it's all in the eye of the beholder. To me, straight vanilla, missionary sex is very unusual!

That said, I am a man. I LOVE anal sex. There is a few reasons for this. One, the prostate gets stimulated. A man's G-spot equivalent is a prostate. I use a few different Aneros products designed specifically to stimulate the prostate. In doing so, I've avoided penile masturbation and stimulation to allow my body to experience what's referred to as a "Super-O". Yes, men can orgasms WAY better than ejaculatory orgasms. Second, the nerves around the sphincter and anal ring are very sensitive to touch, and pleasure. Since I was in my exploratory days I would masturbate anally. I didn't even know what I was doing specifically. I just knew it felt great! I've had several orgasms from anal stimulation alone. It's become important to note that "orgasm" does not equal ejaculation. There are many different types of orgasms for men just as there are for women. That's the "male" perspective.

From my experience as a male, I can only tell you what I know of the women I've been with. I've not been with many women, but every single one has enjoyed anal. I've rimmed a girl, had anal sex straight out, used plugs and toys, used fingers, basically everything. Each different stimulation choice yields its own wonderful results. Since a woman does not have a prostate, I'm not sure the physical enjoyment a woman gets from being stuffed or deeply penetrated. I can attest that when I do vaginal intercourse, and I use a finger or two anally, I know it drives her wild. I think it's the varying thrust directions, pressures, etc... I'll also rim a girl just like I'm eating her out. That's brought about orgasms of its own. I've not really used vibrators anally, but I might. Most of the toys I've used in that area are plugs or designed anal toys.

Now, a note about safety. First, try to clean the area as best as possible. The challenge women can have is that if a woman uses vaginal fluid to lube the anal area, and then double dips sorta speak, the risk of infection exists. Keep the vaginal area exclusive of the anal area to avoid risk of infection cross-contamination. Second, relaxation is key. Remember, that area anatomically is designed to push things out, not exactly suck them in. That doesn't mean it's difficult, it's not at all. Just if your body resists, don't force anything inside. Don't blast past the natural defense the body is creating. Instead, rest however deep you are, relax, let the body adjust, and progress some more. Enjoy the sensations you're feeling. That will help immensely.

Third, use a good lube. If you've not been told, using a silicone based lube on a silicone based toy WILL destroy it. If you have a favorite "flesh" like dildo made of silicone, and you slap some silicone lube on it, it will dissolve right in front of you. So, use a water based lube. Personally, in all of my sessions I use KY-Jelly and then a thin layer of Astroglide on top of that. You can do what's referred to by us Anerosians (the other product site I post on) as pre-lubing. This is done by taking a small oral syringe, like one used to give children liquid medication, and filling it with lube, then sticking it inside of your anal area, then squirting the lube directly into yourself. Then lube the product as normal, and insert. Voila!

That's my "basics" course on anal in the sense of taking precautions and a general idea of what to do.

To answer your other question, I GREATLY love anal sex, and a woman wanting it is a massive turn on. For one, the sensation for my cock is different. It's smoother, a little tighter, seems to be more responsive to my cock thrusting in and out. Also, as I mentioned with vaginal sex and fingers in the ass, the opposite also applies. With my cock in her ass, I can rub the clit, insert a finger or two into the vagina, or rub the clit with my first and second finger with my thumb in the vagina, if I'm barebacking it. There are so many options available! So, once you feel comfortable, just go for it! You'll definitely find a person or two who would jump at the chance to let you explore.

Remember to keep clean. Try to keep the anal residue away from the vaginal area. If you feel like you need to douche or "clean out" yourself prior, there are cheap and effective anal douches. Lube well. Relax. Let go of mental notions holding you back. Enjoy!

 

[adambom]

Turn on?

I'm desperate to try anal sex. I've never done it but all my fantasies, for as long as I remember, involve being taken in the ass. Is this appealing to men? I've never had the nerve to ask anyone to do it, but I really want to try. I can orgasm just looking at pictures of anal sex. I'm obsessed!

Women, am I the only one wanting this?

Men, is a woman wanting anal a turn off?

Well.. they say confession is good for the soul. ...

Sexual honesty is a huge turn on for me! I also have fantasies of being taken.