So, my ex proposed remarriage....

[yevkassem72]

......which took me back a bit. She had me deported, after all. Why in God's name would I want to remarry her? On the other hand, it is fun in a sick way to see her grovel like this.

Still inclined to tell her to kiss my ass. Six years ago, this was a rebound thing. Now, it feels more like the whole Brad-Jen-Angie thing....going on forever.

And, yes, for those wondering, I cut her off completely a long time ago....despite a strong lust still directed at her. Which was probably why she had me deported. Now that I'm back, she doesn't seem to get the message. Half of the time, I feel as if I'm being stalked. On the other end, she can actually be rather sweet when she wants to be.

But I'm looking elsewhere. Not sure how this applies to this forum, really, but I don't feel like posting in the GB right now. I'm sick of their crap.

 

[ChristopherMaxwell]

Good luck. Everyone has a different path. For me, it meant engagement, breaking up, then re-engagement, marriage, divorce, and finally reconciliation, though as boyfriend/girlfriend these days. We're discussing the terms of her new re-collaring if she becomes my sub again. Wish me luck, too.

 

[VanessaVixen]

Whenever you consider getting back together with an ex, it's usually a good idea to take a long hard look at whatever problems fucked the relationship over the first time. And then both people sit down and figure out an actual plan about how they'll avoid those problems this time, and what, exactly, you will do if the problems begin to resurface. Seriously, a step-by-step with what-ifs. Clear expectations and backup plans can save a lot of heartache.

Good luck with this, whatever you choose.

 

[TorontoBoyWest]

Am I the only one who is really interested in how that first conversation went??

"Hi honey. I know i deported you, but......"

 

[ChristopherMaxwell]

Am I the only one who is really interested in how that first conversation went??

"Hi honey. I know i deported you, but......"

Yeah, that's a touchy subject, I can imagine. Some things are easier to forgive. Having a hand in one's deportation wouldn't be one of them. Especially given where Mr. Yev is from. Lebanon is no picnic these days.

 

[yevkassem72]

Yeah, that's a touchy subject, I can imagine. Some things are easier to forgive. Having a hand in one's deportation wouldn't be one of them. Especially given where Mr. Yev is from. Lebanon is no picnic these days.

Yes, to err is human, to deport is a betrayal of the worst sort.

 

[yevkassem72]

Am I the only one who is really interested in how that first conversation went??

"Hi honey. I know i deported you, but......"

Not very well, as you can imagine.

 

[Lady Reiha]

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[VanessaVixen]

Yes, to err is human, to deport is a betrayal of the worst sort.

If you're going to resent her for that every time you look at her for the rest of your life, don't get back with her. It won't work as long as that's between you. If you can forgive her, if you think it really could work this time, go for it. Otherwise stay the hell away, because neither of you needs that.

 

[yevkassem72]

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LMAO. Very true, I suppose. Mind you, before there were hoes, there were mistresses. The difference was that mistresses had the good sense not to try to break up the marriage. After all, as Churchill observed, "A man who marries his mistress creates a job vacancy."

But, yeah, there's a lot of crazy exes and shifty friends involved in wrecking a marriage.

 

[yevkassem72]

If you're going to resent her for that every time you look at her for the rest of your life, don't get back with her. It won't work as long as that's between you. If you can forgive her, if you think it really could work this time, go for it. Otherwise stay the hell away, because neither of you needs that.

You're right. And this is too much for me to overlook. It started today, but I don't even get hard around her anymore. I can't think of her more attractive qualities...the past gets in the way. Her casual assumption that I would just "get over it" was the last straw. Nothing more emasculating than someone who takes you that much for granted.

She thought that with only a small amount of groveling, we'd be okay again. Not gonna do it.

 

[Emmcee20]

I know it is a bit of an old joke but given the divorce rate world wide these days, you'd be better off going out and finding someone you hate and just giving them a house than trying to re-build a ruin.

Timebombs shouldn't get the chance to go off twice!! Just my humble opinion.

PS Been there; done that - got the T-shirt and she took it back in the divorce. LOL

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Couldn't agree more.

 

[yevkassem72]

I know it is a bit of an old joke but given the divorce rate world wide these days, you'd be better off going out and finding someone you hate and just giving them a house than trying to re-build a ruin.

Timebombs shouldn't get the chance to go off twice!! Just my humble opinion.

PS Been there; done that - got the T-shirt and she took it back in the divorce. LOL

Yeah, it took me a while, but I'm so fed up with Veronica that after six years of this drama, she doesn't even turn me on anymore.