Just how Dominant is "grudge fucking"?

[SEVERUSMAX]

I hold that there is some subtle aggression with strong D/s overtones, but it's not mainstream BDSM, of course. Still, it's a rather hot kink for me, at least. The idea of (consensual, of course) sex between two people who have strong, but conflicting emotions such as anger and lust is a serious turn-on. It's dangerous, but that's part of the attraction. Of course, on some level, the girl (or guy, for that matter) getting fucked could be said to "top from the bottom" in that he or she provokes someone into giving him or her the nasty rough sex he or she craves.

Again, I want to distinguish between this and rape. The latter might make a for a good NC/R Lit story but is never sexy in real life.

 

[TheLM]

I have a serious cursh right now that stems from grudge/hate.

I had a classmate who is blonde, a smoker(I hate smoking; we're medical professionals!) who NEVER showed up to class or the hospital or took tests on time or came to class on time... And she still graduated with me. Her voice is totally valley-girl (I HATE that) and she hit on me despite having a boyfriend.

Now she's single, and I want nothing more than to fuck her so rough her extensions fall out! Part of me knows she's spark a smoke after I finished her off, and that just makes me even more angry... and conflicted..

UGH. So erotic.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I have a serious cursh right now that stems from grudge/hate.

I had a classmate who is blonde, a smoker(I hate smoking; we're medical professionals!) who NEVER showed up to class or the hospital or took tests on time or came to class on time... And she still graduated with me. Her voice is totally valley-girl (I HATE that) and she hit on me despite having a boyfriend.

Now she's single, and I want nothing more than to fuck her so rough her extensions fall out! Part of me knows she's spark a smoke after I finished her off, and that just makes me even more angry... and conflicted..

UGH. So erotic.

I have a supervisor who gets on my nerves with her obsessions with reality TV and other crap, but she's still sexy in a plump, swarthy, Middle-Eastern way. Her gray-green eyes are a special attraction and I have a certain weakness for chunky women (not exclusively, but still...). I also love the way she bends over and makes it necessary for me to turn my head or else get a boner, because she flashes you the crack of her ass half of the time. Just thinking about that makes me get hard.

The fantasy is to take her over a hard table or other surface, yank down her trousers completely, and fuck her hard from behind while spanking her soft cheeks. Then turn her over my knee for more spanking once I came.

Just a fantasy. So many reasons NOT to act on that impulse, but it's a fun one, anyway.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

Not going to lie, I've definitely provoked guys into grudge fucking. Not the healthiest or wisest habit, but so addicting.

There's nothing quite like a good hatefuck or grudgefuck.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Not going to lie, I've definitely provoked guys into grudge fucking. Not the healthiest or wisest habit, but so addicting.

There's nothing quite like a good hatefuck or grudgefuck.

Very hot.

 

[TheLM]

I've been e-mailing aforementioned blonde girl. Quite a thrill.

She's admitted to wanting me in the past but I've made no such admittance to her... It's such a thrill just to talk to her. Because she makes me furious.

I think I have a screw loose!

 

[Crea(m)]

Not going to lie, I've definitely provoked guys into grudge fucking. Not the healthiest or wisest habit, but so addicting.

There's nothing quite like a good hatefuck or grudgefuck.

Details, please?

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I've been e-mailing aforementioned blonde girl. Quite a thrill.

She's admitted to wanting me in the past but I've made no such admittance to her... It's such a thrill just to talk to her. Because she makes me furious.

I think I have a screw loose!

Nah, you're just a glutton for punishment.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

Details, please?

Haha. Oh wow. There's been a few lovers of mine that I'll taunt and tease. It's not very difficult to do, I'm naturally a quiet girl so when I'm spirited, people notice. One lover in particular I'm normally very submissive and respectful to, but when I get annoyed with him I'll give little verbal jabs in public and make a show of outwitting him. Sometimes all it takes to provoke him is taking the spotlight away from him. He's a bit of a traditional fellow and isn't used to a girl outdoing him.
The minute we're off in a corner and people can't see us, he'll force me against a wall and finger me until I cum, or make some excuse for why we have to leave early. Afterwards he'll use my throat so hard my lips crack and bleed, or he'll make my ass sore for days.

Also: I believe this is a very not healthy thing to do. Hot as it is, use with caution.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Haha. Oh wow. There's been a few lovers of mine that I'll taunt and tease. It's not very difficult to do, I'm naturally a quiet girl so when I'm spirited, people notice. One lover in particular I'm normally very submissive and respectful to, but when I get annoyed with him I'll give little verbal jabs in public and make a show of outwitting him. Sometimes all it takes to provoke him is taking the spotlight away from him. He's a bit of a traditional fellow and isn't used to a girl outdoing him.
The minute we're off in a corner and people can't see us, he'll force me against a wall and finger me until I cum, or make some excuse for why we have to leave early. Afterwards he'll use my throat so hard my lips crack and bleed, or he'll make my ass sore for days.

Sounds uber hot.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Who cares how "dominant" it is? It's mad hot.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Who cares how "dominant" it is? It's mad hot.

It's certainly that. Funny thing is that many of my grudge fuck story ideas end up with the grudge fuckers getting along a lot better after their roll in the hay.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It's certainly that. Funny thing is that many of my grudge fuck story ideas end up with the grudge fuckers getting along a lot better after their roll in the hay.

Indeed, I don't understand how normals do it. Same goes for spanking. How do non spankers make relationships work??

 

[rexhame317]

I think it can be hot if , and a big if, you are comfotable with the partner.

I have provoked my boy toy, and will purposely say no to him to get him to use a little force. He likes to spank, sometimes a little overzealous with it
Agreed not the best, but sometimes you need that little outlet

 

[DehviantGirl]

Who cares how "dominant" it is? It's mad hot.

"Mad hot" it is indeed.

 

[Licia]

It's certainly that. Funny thing is that many of my grudge fuck story ideas end up with the grudge fuckers getting along a lot better after their roll in the hay.

Heh. When I'm particularly annoyed, I will wrestle, spank and toss him down on the bed. He's a big boy so the Kentucky Derby can be quite the release. Being married for nearly 13 years, this stuff has kept us closer during times of strife. Afterward it's always easier to talk to one another about what's going on in the relationship without all the aggresion getting in the way.

Or...

Maybe we're just strange. *shrugs*

 

[Edith_UK]

On a personal level, I like a hate fuck. Give me shit and I'll spit in your face, slam me against the wall and I'll laugh if you fumble for your cock.

On a professional level, I take care to identify and control hate. I think you've got to demand you're treated with respect. Cos although there's not a punter alive who don't get off in part on the 'dirty whore' aspect of a booking (even if they dint say it lol), if you give em an inch they'll take a mile. So I don't overtly encorage it if I work, but judging the man I give n take a little. It's a subtle game that.

 

[eastern sun]

I don't think there's anything unhealthy about "grudge fucking" at all. It was a staple in the first few years of our marriage, and I don't know how we would have stayed together without it.

I also have always thought it was how he expressed his dominance at that stage of our relationship. Granted, we had no language to talk about what we were doing then.

Today, the only way he spontaneously gives me the kind of sex I want is if I trigger his jealousy. He needs the emotional trigger to treat me that violently. Fortunately, as a master with a cuckold fetish, it works for both of us.

Is it better to talk it all out beforehand? and negotiate each moment? Is it healthier? I don't know. I wouldn't give up that passion for a dose of cold sober reason and a series of checklists.

But "grudge fucking" isn't really an element of the BDSM play party.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

I don't think there's anything unhealthy about "grudge fucking" at all. It was a staple in the first few years of our marriage, and I don't know how we would have stayed together without it.

I also have always thought it was how he expressed his dominance at that stage of our relationship. Granted, we had no language to talk about what we were doing then.

Today, the only way he spontaneously gives me the kind of sex I want is if I trigger his jealousy. He needs the emotional trigger to treat me that violently. Fortunately, as a master with a cuckold fetish, it works for both of us.

Is it better to talk it all out beforehand? and negotiate each moment? Is it healthier? I don't know. I wouldn't give up that passion for a dose of cold sober reason and a series of checklists.

But "grudge fucking" isn't really an element of the BDSM play party.

I believe grudgefucking that happens naturally is healthy, and can get a lot of aggression out. When I said I believe it's unhealthy, I meant that it's unhealthy that I've provoked men and made them mad in order to get the overly passionate-to the point of dangerous- grudgefucks. It's not a good idea, it leads to too many dark feelings and can be very toxic.

A brief intense moment of passion works for a lot of people, and there's nothing wrong with it. Passion is what keeps most relationships together, good passion and bad passion.

 

[throbsalot]

Not going to lie, I've definitely provoked guys into grudge fucking. Not the healthiest or wisest habit, but so addicting.

There's nothing quite like a good hatefuck or grudgefuck.

I just love your lips.

And I would fuck you. Fuck you like I hate you!

 

[Yourneighbor]

Setting aside the title of the thread as it's a question I don't feel needs to be answered, the concept itself is incredibly hot imo, and as I sit here thinking about being on the receiving end of a grudge fuck, I am wondering just how to go and procure a willing fucker!

 

[Licia]

Setting aside the title of the thread as it's a question I don't feel needs to be answered, the concept itself is incredibly hot imo, and as I sit here thinking about being on the receiving end of a grudge fuck, I am wondering just how to go and procure a willing fucker!

Piss off a sadist who cares about you, and pray they still give a fuck.

 

[troubledone]

Piss off a sadist who cares about you, and pray they still give a fuck.

Calm down lady you may bust a gut

 

[Licia]

Calm down lady you may bust a gut

Perfectly calm over here. Clearly, ya don't understand my post.

S'ok.

*pat pat*

 

[VanessaVixen]

Who cares how "dominant" it is? It's mad hot.

This. Fuck the labels. If it feels good for all involved, do it.