Being Bicurious

[MmmMadam]

Most recently I've been exploring lesbian literature, audios and porn, despite classing myself straight.

There's just something about a woman's body, the reactions and my desire to play with another woman's breasts. Don't get me wrong, I'd never give up the grunts and groans of a male cumming, nor would I want to actively date women (as offensive as that may sound - apologies in advance).

I'm curious as to what it's like being with a woman, especially as I'm in my twenties and still looking to explore a few things.

I guess my real question is: for those who were bicurious that have acted upon their desire, how was it and would you now say you were no longer curious and have left it at that? Or, would you say that the experience has meant you lust for women more and would now class yourself as bi?

 

[Krystal89]

I would have to say I'm in the second category. I have experienced another woman and crave more. But I am happily married. I have just recently started calling myself bi.......

 

[loralei3000]

Most recently I've been exploring lesbian literature, audios and porn, despite classing myself straight.

There's just something about a woman's body, the reactions and my desire to play with another woman's breasts. Don't get me wrong, I'd never give up the grunts and groans of a male cumming, nor would I want to actively date women (as offensive as that may sound - apologies in advance).

I'm curious as to what it's like being with a woman, especially as I'm in my twenties and still looking to explore a few things.

I guess my real question is: for those who were bicurious that have acted upon their desire, how was it and would you now say you were no longer curious and have left it at that? Or, would you say that the experience has meant you lust for women more and would now class yourself as bi?

Always wanting more, women are in another class you can't compare them to men. I would love to get my hands & mouth on those beautiful breasts of yours.

L

 

[MmmMadam]

Always wanting more, women are in another class you can't compare them to men. I would love to get my hands & mouth on those beautiful breasts of yours.

My, what a tantalising scene!

 

[MmmMadam]

I would have to say I'm in the second category. I have experienced another woman and crave more. But I am happily married. I have just recently started calling myself bi.......

I see. What do you feel categorically makes someone bisexual? Is it the plain desire for both sexes or something else? I find a number of my female friends will sleep with women but not class themselves as bisexual. I find most people think it's almost fashionable to be intimate with other women in public and in a club, etc.

 

[afriendg]

Most recently I've been exploring lesbian literature, audios and porn, despite classing myself straight.

There's just something about a woman's body, the reactions and my desire to play with another woman's breasts. Don't get me wrong, I'd never give up the grunts and groans of a male cumming, nor would I want to actively date women (as offensive as that may sound - apologies in advance).

I'm curious as to what it's like being with a woman, especially as I'm in my twenties and still looking to explore a few things.

I guess my real question is: for those who were bicurious that have acted upon their desire, how was it and would you now say you were no longer curious and have left it at that? Or, would you say that the experience has meant you lust for women more and would now class yourself as bi?

I understand what you're saying..I definitely classify myself as straight..don't want to date women either ( I'm long married)...but lately I am curious...want to know what it feels like to make a woman cum, watch her out of control...probably won't act on it..tho I have lately really enjoyed some girl/girl porn...turned on by the idea of watching another woman masturbate, while I do too..would I ever go beyond that? only in my fantasies

 

[Hitchiker69]

Go for it...be bold

As a young man I had a huge sex drive and a lot of curiosity about sex. When the opportunities came up to explore sex with men I was open to it. Though it was initially akward, I enjoyed it. I slowly became more comfortable being with men, and in my late 20's I had sex with men and women equally. I only regret that I didn't sleep with more men more often. I had some great sex with guys, and it really opened my mind about my own identity, my sexuality, and what it means to be a full person, not constrained by other's ideas of gender role. It changed me.
Now I'm older and married, and bisexuality is in my past only. But I would advise a younger person such as yourself to explore. Life is an adventure. Whatever you learn or discover about yourself makes you a richer person. Plus you might have some mindblowingly good sex.

 

[rbone04]

Be Careful Guys...

If Safe_Bet sees this thread she'll be PISSED!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I see. What do you feel categorically makes someone bisexual? Is it the plain desire for both sexes or something else? I find a number of my female friends will sleep with women but not class themselves as bisexual. I find most people think it's almost fashionable to be intimate with other women in public and in a club, etc.

The "plain desire for both sexes"

Is what makes someone bisexual. It's that simple.

Whether or not you act on that desire is what might make you actively bisexual.

No, having said that, there are a lot of different ways someone might be bisexual. They might have been attracted to ONE person of their own sex in their lives, and consider themselves straight, really bacause one anomaly doesnt mean much in the big scheme of things. Or, they could have been attracted to only one member of the opposite sex, and consider themselves gay as far as that goes.

They could prefer one sex for fucking and flirting and the other sex for fucking, flirting, and relationships.

The Kinsey scale is helpful; http://www.iub.edu/~kinsey/research/ak-hhscale.html

Something that this page mentions-- Kinsey, and many other researchers agree, that each of us might come up at a different point on the scale at different times of our lives.

 

[Krystal89]

I classify myself as "bi" because I am happily married to a wonderful guy, but I crave women, and fanasize about them, and watch videos of them. But I also love the feeling of a cock inside me.

 

[MmmMadam]

If Safe_Bet sees this thread she'll be PISSED!

I'm not so sure you can be mad at someone for wanting to educate themselves and understand something, especially when it comes to their own personal feelings.

My questions were simply seeking the answer to: when does bi-curious become bisexual? Some people explore the same sex and put it behind them, others continue to explore their own sex but still see themselves as straight. Although, I guess I can conclude from the replies to this thread that sexuality isn't clear cut and labels aren't necessary as long as you know how you feel.

Thank you all for your replies regardless.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I'm not so sure you can be mad at someone for wanting to educate themselves and understand something, especially when it comes to their own personal feelings.

My questions were simply seeking the answer to: when does bi-curious become bisexual? Some people explore the same sex and put it behind them, others continue to explore their own sex but still see themselves as straight. Although, I guess I can conclude from the replies to this thread that sexuality isn't clear cut and labels aren't necessary as long as you know how you feel.

Thank you all for your replies regardless.

You're right, there is no reason to be. You asked a question in a polite, respectful manner and I'm sure that some folks who have come from that side will give you some good answers. I'm not going to respond, BTW, because for me, it's the exact opposite of being 100% hetero - absolutely no interest in men, but I feel about women exactly like you do about males.

As for the comment: that's just from a butt hurt, whiny, little man bitch who is being trollish. Please ignore him. (cuz gawd knows I do! )

 

[FemmeDyke89]

For me I went from 'curious' to knowing I was at least bi, to experiencing being with a woman. I now don't really conemplate being with a man, however I would never rule it out.

 

[Sweet_Rose64]

Being bicurious

Most recently I've been exploring lesbian literature, audios and porn, despite classing myself straight.

There's just something about a woman's body, the reactions and my desire to play with another woman's breasts. Don't get me wrong, I'd never give up the grunts and groans of a male cumming, nor would I want to actively date women (as offensive as that may sound - apologies in advance).

I'm curious as to what it's like being with a woman, especially as I'm in my twenties and still looking to explore a few things.

I guess my real question is: for those who were bicurious that have acted upon their desire, how was it and would you now say you were no longer curious and have left it at that? Or, would you say that the experience has meant you lust for women more and would now class yourself as bi?

First off, if you're curious and have the opportunity, you should just go for it.
I don't think "getting it out of your system" really exists; you either like the experience and continue doing it or you don't like it and that's that.

I'd been interested in the whole girl/girl thing for a long time but didn't think much of it until the opportunity presented itself (a bi friend of mine confessed she was interested in me) a few years ago and I decided to take it. At first I thought it was a "one time thing" but then I realized how much I liked it and continued hooking up with her. Im more dominantly into men but I prefer to watch lesbian porn and I do enjoy being with a girl sexually. I don't think I would date a girl, but if the opportunity presented itself and I was into it I would just go for it. Why not??

I think people are too concerned with labels and labeling sexuality, and fearful of being labeled negatively by others. It's too bad we can't just like who we like and not have to worry what gender they are.

 

[RawMonsterLove]

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[Safe_Bet]

like the saying goes..."never say never".

And like another saying goes... "When pigs fly", dude. You've got NOTHING that would interest me or any other lesbian.

Oh, one more saying for ya... "Mind your own business"!!!! This thread is a chick asking other chicks what it's like to be with a woman. You and your pitiful little dick have NOTHING to contribute.

P.S. Your "daddy" fetish reeks of wannabe pedophilia, dude. You realize what a sick fuck that makes you???

 

[RawMonsterLove]

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[FemmeDyke89]

like the saying goes..."never say never".

Well minus the *wink* yes, I suppose for me it is. If I were to have a relationship with a man it would be because of a serious connection between us, not just a casual fuck. Women are too good good in bed for a man to interst me in just sex, it would have to be so much more.

Ivy

 

[RawMonsterLove]

Well minus the *wink* yes, I suppose for me it is. If I were to have a relationship with a man it would be because of a serious connection between us, not just a casual fuck. Women are too good good in bed for a man to interst me in just sex, it would have to be so much more.

Ivy

that makes complete sense, considering how passion and sensuality or so much of a mind/body connection.

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

For me, I was curious and now have experienced but in some ways will always be curious because everyone is different. I don't care about labels either, be who you are and enjoy that which excites you.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

And like another saying goes... "When pigs fly", dude. You've got NOTHING that would interest me or any other lesbian.

Oh, one more saying for ya... "Mind your own business"!!!! This thread is a chick asking other chicks what it's like to be with a woman. You and your pitiful little dick have NOTHING to contribute.

P.S. Your "daddy" fetish reeks of wannabe pedophilia, dude. You realize what a sick fuck that makes you???

I agree here. If a woman is a lesbian, just give it up. It annoys the fuck outta me to heat a guy say they can turn a girl out. No you cant. Some guys just dont believe there are women out there who could care less about a dick much less how big it is. Hopefully i read that right and dont sound like a rambling fojol.

 

[rbone04]

Even though you said this...

You're right, there is no reason to be. You asked a question in a polite, respectful manner and I'm sure that some folks who have come from that side will give you some good answers. I'm not going to respond, BTW, because for me, it's the exact opposite of being 100% hetero - absolutely no interest in men, but I feel about women exactly like you do about males.

As for the comment: that's just from a butt hurt, whiny, little man bitch who is being trollish. Please ignore him. (cuz gawd knows I do! )

This...

And like another saying goes... "When pigs fly", dude. You've got NOTHING that would interest me or any other lesbian.

Oh, one more saying for ya... "Mind your own business"!!!! This thread is a chick asking other chicks what it's like to be with a woman. You and your pitiful little dick have NOTHING to contribute.

P.S. Your "daddy" fetish reeks of wannabe pedophilia, dude. You realize what a sick fuck that makes you???

...is great!
I know we won't always (if ever) see eye to eye but damned if you don't have conviction.

 

[FemmeDyke89]

The comment 'never say never' was just a bit of banter, I think. It was aimed, as you can see, at a comment I made about not ruling out men. The guy never said anything about trying to sway anyone, it's getting taken out of context.

I appreciate that it can be tiresome being harassed by chauvinistic men but I don't think getting super angry and name calling is the answer. So just try and calm down a little and appreciate that some, not all, but some may be doing it out of ignorance or mean no harm because they see it as a joke.

So, please, let's not be so quick to fly off the handle over a bit of banter, as it were.

 

[Safe_Bet]

The comment 'never say never' was just a bit of banter, I think. It was aimed, as you can see, at a comment I made about not ruling out men. The guy never said anything about trying to sway anyone, it's getting taken out of context.

I appreciate that it can be tiresome being harassed by chauvinistic men but I don't think getting super angry and name calling is the answer. So just try and calm down a little and appreciate that some, not all, but some may be doing it out of ignorance or mean no harm because they see it as a joke.

So, please, let's not be so quick to fly off the handle over a bit of banter, as it were.

Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei thought it was just a joke too. Words have meaning, BTW, and when spoken indiscriminately in the wrong situation, much like yelling "fire" in a theater, words also have consequences. (believe me I know! I catch he'll over my words constantly! )

 

[FemmeDyke89]

Good point and as someone who was bullied all the way through high school for not having a boyfriend and being called a 'lesbo' even before I knew I was actually gay, I can definitely see where you are coming from.

However, I really don't think that man's comment merited the shit he received. Also, the comparison you have used is very extreme. A fragile boy having been driven to suicide over having his actions filmed and then posted on the internet for millions to see versus a guy on an LGBT forum saying 'never say never' to a lesbian (particularly when taking into account my revelation) is a bit ridiculous and by all means disrespectful to Tyler Clementi's name.

(Also, didn't realise this story was back in the media. Thanks for drawing it to my attention )