Psoriasis, dating & sex

[Sean]

and Jewish....

Isn't it time you busted out one of your racist scumbag alts to comment, you piece of shit?

 

[RoryN]

Isn't it time you busted out one of your racist scumbag alts to comment, you piece of shit?

He's head over heals for Funk, and the only way he knows how to express it is to be a douchebag.

 

[Beco]

He's head over heals for Funk, and the only way he knows how to express it is to be a douchebag.

What? Funk loves Jewish men, I was making a joke......go back to attacking Zip

 

[unregistered]

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Yeah let's call off the dogs, I totally get what Beco was saying and found it a bit amusing.

 

[garbage can]

Does anyone here have psoriasis? I am curious about your thoughts on how it impacts your life. It's something I've never considered until recently.

Funk, psoriasis runs in our family. My Aunt had it the worst (decades ago), I'm sure she suffered as a teen and young adult. But married and had 8 or 9 kids, it didn't seem to hinder her sex life.

My brother has it, but he has regular visits with his dermatologist, it seems to be under control.... he has a girlfriend.

I don't have psoriasis, but have been bothered with basal cell carcinomas from time to time..

 

[Midfielder86]

Hi...first-time general board poster here (AFAIK).

I've battled with psoriasis for about 15 years now along with other harmless-yet-unsightly skin conditions, notably many instances of halo nevus/depigmented skin. Both of those conditions run in the family. When I was younger (teens, early 20s), I was very, very self-conscious about both conditions. Luckily for me, my conditions have largely subsided, save for patches of winter psoriasis.

He is probably thrilled - and, yes, more interested in you - since you're ok with his conditions....many women probably write him off from the start. Good on you for giving him the chance.

 

[albertaboy]

No, someone I am dating recently revealed that he has it. Quite a lot too, I'd say it probably covers 50% of his body. It only occurred to me after the fact that he feels self conscious about it; honestly I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Oh what the hell, here is the story:

So I'm dating someone, let's call him Craig. I like Craig, but I have noted that he sometimes acts rather fidgety and scratchy. It reminded me of dope scratching, to be honest, but nothing else about his personality seemed amiss. And besides, I liked him so what the hell, I thought I'd see what develops. I'm 41 and he's 45, at this point compatibility seems a little more scarce.

Anyway I went back to his place for the first time a couple of nights ago. as you would expect we ended up making out on his couch, which led to heavy petting, then he went down on me. So I'm barely wearing any clothes at this point, and he gets up to go get a condom. Fully dressed, he unzips his pants, pulls them down a tiny bit, puts on the condom and we started having sex. After a few minutes, while we were fucking, he spoke.

Craig: I'm still wearing all of my clothes.

Me: Yes, I've noticed. Why don't you at least take off your jacket?

He does, and that was the end of the conversation. The sex continues, and I slipped my hands into his pants and felt his ass. It felt very textured, and I wondered if he was a burn victim or something. Long story short, sex is over. He walked across the room and sat in a chair looking at me for a moment.

Craig: Something you should know is, I have psoriasis. Badly. But it isn't contagious, it's just something I have to deal with.

Me: OH so that's it. This explains why you are kinda fidgety sometimes, I was wondering about that.

He talked about it for another minute or so, and I was like, whatever, who cares about eczema... Anyway the conversation faded into something else, I don't recall what.

So anyway, we sit around talking for a couple more hours drinking beer, listening to music. By now he has made his way back to the couch next to me. It's really late, and he asks if I'd like to spend the night. I said yes. He showed me to his bedroom, and said he'd be back in a minute.

I was in a bra and panties, got into bed and was drifting back to sleep in the dark when he finally came back into the room. This time he was completely naked. He told me that if I was interested, he would really like to have sex with me again. I'm thinking, yes! Truth is a lot of guys in their 40s really aren't up to the task and certainly can't go more than once in a night. It's in part why I have a thing for shagging younger guys (as one or two people around here may recall). Oh, and I should also point out that he has a big cock.

The next morning I gave him a blowjob - it must be done, something I really love to do - and since it was a really bright morning I could see that a good 50% of his body was covered in those psoriasis sores or whatever you call them. It didn't really bother me though. It's kind of surprising in a way, but it really didn't.

So since I really like him, I have been replaying the entire evening in my mind over and over again. Which now makes me wonder if this psoriasis thing is a big deal to him. That's what the whole naked presentation was about, right? And now that I am over thinking it, I wonder if I'm supposed to say or do something in particular about this. Or not. I was definitely better off when I wasn't thinking that much.

And the thing is, we've talked over the last couple of days since this happened, and he is really into me, really likes me a lot. But now I am wondering, does he actually really like me, or is it just that I don't really care about the psoriasis that makes me more attractive? Maybe it has nothing to do with me and my personality. But I don't want to ask, because that would make me seem insecure, or it might make him think that i care when I don't.

I'm over thinking!!!

(Anyone who doesn't want to discuss this on the thread is welcome to PM me if you like!)

I have it pretty bad, at times it has covered 30%+ of my body. Over time we get used to it and don't notice it anymore other than the pain and constant itching and cracking. When I had it bad my wife practically had to follow me around with a broom, I was very conscious of it when wearing a suit. Luckily for me I developed the disease after I got married and it got gradually worse.

I had a hairdresser once refuse to cut my hair.

None of the creams etc work, suntanning works a bit. There are a number of biologic treatments today that have been developed over the past the 10 years but are wildly expensive. The shots I give myself which keep it in largely in check cost $1700/mth of which I pay the 20% my drug plan won't pay for. The drug I am on is Embrel.

It can be very painful, but after a while you forget you have it. I would have been nervous about a new sexual partner when it was bad.

I wouldn't overthink the liking you or the fact that you don't care about his skin. The fact that you don't care is probably part of why he likes you. Partly because he feels comfortable and partly because you are the type of person who looks past it.

Either way you are a good person and he's lucky.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Hi...first-time general board poster here (AFAIK).

I've battled with psoriasis for about 15 years now along with other harmless-yet-unsightly skin conditions, notably many instances of halo nevus/depigmented skin. Both of those conditions run in the family. When I was younger (teens, early 20s), I was very, very self-conscious about both conditions. Luckily for me, my conditions have largely subsided, save for patches of winter psoriasis.

He is probably thrilled - and, yes, more interested in you - since you're ok with his conditions....many women probably write him off from the start. Good on you for giving him the chance.

Thanks for making this your first GB post.

Believe you me, I'm not giving him a chance. I'm a shallow asshole who won't date fat guys, for instance. I just really like him, and i really don't care about the psoriasis. It just doesn't bother me, though I have no idea why. I see it, but I kinda don't see it. When I woke up in the morning his naked back was to me and covered in those sores... But I was more interested in snuggling up to the man I had great sex with (the 2nd time, anyway) so i just kinda forgot about it after 5 -10 seconds.

 

[John Doe]

I can think of worse skin diseases.

 

[Angellica1612]

Bert and Beco...that was uncalled for and decidedly not funny.

 

[Beco]

Bert and Beco...that was uncalled for and decidedly not funny.

What did I say??

 

[Bert Notorius]

Bert and Beco...that was uncalled for and decidedly not funny.

It's called logic. Embrace it.

 

[RoryN]

What did I say??

See how easy it is for anyone to figure out you're an asshole?

 

[Beco]

See how easy it is for anyone to figure out you're an asshole?

go back and TRY to attack Zip some more.....Also, go step outside, you've been posting ALL DAY!!!!

 

[Midfielder86]

Thanks for making this your first GB post.

Believe you me, I'm not giving him a chance. I'm a shallow asshole who won't date fat guys, for instance. I just really like him, and i really don't care about the psoriasis. It just doesn't bother me, though I have no idea why. I see it, but I kinda don't see it. When I woke up in the morning his naked back was to me and covered in those sores... But I was more interested in snuggling up to the man I had great sex with (the 2nd time, anyway) so i just kinda forgot about it after 5 -10 seconds.

Poor choice of words on my part, then. We're all shallow in our own ways, no doubt about it. But I speak for the skin-problem-guys everywhere when I say thanks for not immediately writing him off because of the psoriasis....that's all I was getting at.

 

[Angellica1612]

and Jewish....

I took this as insulting...guess LadyF was okay with it, though. On it's face, it looks as racist as the 'white dude' comment above it, or the 'nigger' comments all over this board. I hate seeing anyone using racist terms in jest, no matter who says it.

 

[Bert Notorius]

I took this as insulting...guess LadyF was okay with it, though. On it's face, it looks as racist as the 'white dude' comment above it, or the 'nigger' comments all over this board. I hate seeing anyone using racist terms in jest, no matter who says it.

Seriously? She can take it. Trust me.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Poor choice of words on my part, then. We're all shallow in our own ways, no doubt about it. But I speak for the skin-problem-guys everywhere when I say thanks for not immediately writing him off because of the psoriasis....that's all I was getting at.

It wasn't a poor choice of words at all. Since you don't post on this board you don't know my posting history, I just wanted to make it clear that I'm not a saint.

I really appreciate that you took the time out to post on this thread, thank you.

I took this as insulting...guess LadyF was okay with it, though. On it's face, it looks as racist as the 'white dude' comment above it, or the 'nigger' comments all over this board. I hate seeing anyone using racist terms in jest, no matter who says it.

I get it due to a long history of posting alongside Beco and his many alts. I can see why you and others wouldn't.

 

[Beco]

I took this as insulting...guess LadyF was okay with it, though. On it's face, it looks as racist as the 'white dude' comment above it, or the 'nigger' comments all over this board. I hate seeing anyone using racist terms in jest, no matter who says it.

What nigger comments?? Seriously, you're an idiot....You have no idea what you are saying....

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I have it pretty bad, at times it has covered 30%+ of my body. Over time we get used to it and don't notice it anymore other than the pain and constant itching and cracking. When I had it bad my wife practically had to follow me around with a broom, I was very conscious of it when wearing a suit. Luckily for me I developed the disease after I got married and it got gradually worse.

I had a hairdresser once refuse to cut my hair.

None of the creams etc work, suntanning works a bit. There are a number of biologic treatments today that have been developed over the past the 10 years but are wildly expensive. The shots I give myself which keep it in largely in check cost $1700/mth of which I pay the 20% my drug plan won't pay for. The drug I am on is Embrel.

It can be very painful, but after a while you forget you have it. I would have been nervous about a new sexual partner when it was bad.

I wouldn't overthink the liking you or the fact that you don't care about his skin. The fact that you don't care is probably part of why he likes you. Partly because he feels comfortable and partly because you are the type of person who looks past it.

Either way you are a good person and he's lucky.

Nice post, thank you!

 

[Angellica1612]

What nigger comments?? Seriously, you're an idiot....You have no idea what you are saying....

I said on this board, not this thread. Busybody uses it all the time, and I hate it.

 

[Bert Notorius]

I said on this board, not this thread. Busybody uses it all the time, and I hate it.

I've quoted you twice. You must know me well enough to not engage. How many alts do you have?

 

[warrior queen]

Ok, here goes.
I have plaque psoriasis (psoriasis vulgaris) and have had it from the age of 2.
At one point in my late teens, I had approximately 95% coverage.

Luckily, I found an extremely good dermatologist who gave me a treatment regimen that cleared my plaques within 6 months, and they have not returned.
I haven't had any plaques for over 20 years, and I have no scarring.
I do a maintenence of that treatment once a week to ensure they don't come back.

I've been tested for the accompanying arthritis markers, and I do not have them - so I most likely won't develop it.

 

[RunningJib]

Obviously it is important to him

No, someone I am dating recently revealed that he has it. Quite a lot too, I'd say it probably covers 50% of his body. It only occurred to me after the fact that he feels self conscious about it; honestly I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Oh what the hell, here is the story:

So I'm dating someone, let's call him Craig. I like Craig, but I have noted that he sometimes acts rather fidgety and scratchy. It reminded me of dope scratching, to be honest, but nothing else about his personality seemed amiss. And besides, I liked him so what the hell, I thought I'd see what develops. I'm 41 and he's 45, at this point compatibility seems a little more scarce.

Anyway I went back to his place for the first time a couple of nights ago. as you would expect we ended up making out on his couch, which led to heavy petting, then he went down on me. So I'm barely wearing any clothes at this point, and he gets up to go get a condom. Fully dressed, he unzips his pants, pulls them down a tiny bit, puts on the condom and we started having sex. After a few minutes, while we were fucking, he spoke.

Craig: I'm still wearing all of my clothes.

Me: Yes, I've noticed. Why don't you at least take off your jacket?

He does, and that was the end of the conversation. The sex continues, and I slipped my hands into his pants and felt his ass. It felt very textured, and I wondered if he was a burn victim or something. Long story short, sex is over. He walked across the room and sat in a chair looking at me for a moment.

Craig: Something you should know is, I have psoriasis. Badly. But it isn't contagious, it's just something I have to deal with.

Me: OH so that's it. This explains why you are kinda fidgety sometimes, I was wondering about that.

He talked about it for another minute or so, and I was like, whatever, who cares about eczema... Anyway the conversation faded into something else, I don't recall what.

So anyway, we sit around talking for a couple more hours drinking beer, listening to music. By now he has made his way back to the couch next to me. It's really late, and he asks if I'd like to spend the night. I said yes. He showed me to his bedroom, and said he'd be back in a minute.

I was in a bra and panties, got into bed and was drifting back to sleep in the dark when he finally came back into the room. This time he was completely naked. He told me that if I was interested, he would really like to have sex with me again. I'm thinking, yes! Truth is a lot of guys in their 40s really aren't up to the task and certainly can't go more than once in a night. It's in part why I have a thing for shagging younger guys (as one or two people around here may recall). Oh, and I should also point out that he has a big cock.

The next morning I gave him a blowjob - it must be done, something I really love to do - and since it was a really bright morning I could see that a good 50% of his body was covered in those psoriasis sores or whatever you call them. It didn't really bother me though. It's kind of surprising in a way, but it really didn't.

So since I really like him, I have been replaying the entire evening in my mind over and over again. Which now makes me wonder if this psoriasis thing is a big deal to him. That's what the whole naked presentation was about, right? And now that I am over thinking it, I wonder if I'm supposed to say or do something in particular about this. Or not. I was definitely better off when I wasn't thinking that much.

And the thing is, we've talked over the last couple of days since this happened, and he is really into me, really likes me a lot. But now I am wondering, does he actually really like me, or is it just that I don't really care about the psoriasis that makes me more attractive? Maybe it has nothing to do with me and my personality. But I don't want to ask, because that would make me seem insecure, or it might make him think that i care when I don't.

I'm over thinking!!!

(Anyone who doesn't want to discuss this on the thread is welcome to PM me if you like!)

Glad to hear you are sensitive to his feelings. Thus far you have re-assured him that it isn't a big deal and we're willing to invest some time with him.

I think if you continue to be patient and sensitive, you both could have the time of your life.

Sounds like a win-win to me