Psoriasis, dating & sex

[LadyFunkenstein]

Does anyone here have psoriasis? I am curious about your thoughts on how it impacts your life. It's something I've never considered until recently.

 

[bronzeage]

It's an autoimmune disease and not contagious, if that helps.

 

[Destinys_Bitch]

I think it is common that we don't consider how something will affect our lives until it does.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

It's an autoimmune disease and not contagious, if that helps.

I already know that much, I'm more interested in personal feelings.

 

[RunningJib]

I've had it on my hands

I already know that much, I'm more interested in personal feelings.

Do you suffer w/ Psoriasis also?

I've had on my fingers. Luckily I was in a long-term relationship at the time as it is quite the buzz kill.

My outbreak was mid-seventies and treatment options were rather limited. Therapies are more varied and with better (and quicker) results.

As mentioned previously, non-contagious. However, even long term lovers are apprehensive about being touch--especially in sensitive areas.

 

[Dionysian Beast]

My best friend's had it for the longest time, and it never seemed to bug him much in that regard.

 

[Peregrinator]

I am somewhat put off by the title of this thread.

 

[Jm J Bullock]

I'd prefer someone with psoriasis over someone with halitosis.

 

[CandiCame]

I used to date a chick who had that. She bitched about it or I wouldn't have noticed- she had it on her head, so it was covered by her hair. It was irrelevant. Except that she bitched about it. Not even that it hurt- she bitched that it made her look bad. She kinda sorta sometimes looked like she had dandruff or something, but it was so easy to ignore that she would get pissed because I totally forgot about it.

Our math teacher had it on his hands really bad- and I'm an asshole, so I was making fun of him one day- to her. I forgot that she had it. She was really pissed... bad. To the point that she screamed at me and left- and I was like WTF? She ran into the bathroom crying and sent one of her friends out, because I couldn't go in there, to yell at me by proxy. I was like, "WTF?" She was like, "YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAS PSORIASIS! YOU WERE MAKING FUN OF PSORIASIS!"

I was like, "Oh. I'm an asshole."

So... I tried to be less of an asshole.

 

[bronzeage]

I already know that much, I'm more interested in personal feelings.

A few years ago, I sold a copy of Madame C. J. Walker's text book for training beauticians. I think it was from the 1920's. There was a chapter on diseases of the scalp. The opening paragraph was an admonition to beauticians to overcome their personal revulsion at the sight of psoriasis and remember their duty as a beautician to help those who needed their service.

The book went on to list all the treatments and remedies for psoriasis and other problems. This made me curious, so I looked up modern treatments and found not much has changed.

My personal feelings would really depend upon the severity. I saw pictures of severe outbreaks and while I know it's not contagious, I wouldn't want to touch the affected area because it looks painful.

 

[Scentofawoman]

I have it over 70% of my body. Most of it I got after stopping my meds to be pregnant and breastfeed. When I got married it was in patches so it didn't bother me as much to be exposed. I'm in several studies for a repression drug hopefully for my kids as they have now found a new genetic link that shows it passes generation to gerenerTion directly.

 

[hobbit.]

Does anyone here have psoriasis? I am curious about your thoughts on how it impacts your life. It's something I've never considered until recently.

I find that psoriatic women make good lovers. the skin they shed absorbs the fluids from the sheets afterwards and saves on room service....

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Do you suffer w/ Psoriasis also?

I've had on my fingers. Luckily I was in a long-term relationship at the time as it is quite the buzz kill.

My outbreak was mid-seventies and treatment options were rather limited. Therapies are more varied and with better (and quicker) results.

As mentioned previously, non-contagious. However, even long term lovers are apprehensive about being touch--especially in sensitive areas.

No, someone I am dating recently revealed that he has it. Quite a lot too, I'd say it probably covers 50% of his body. It only occurred to me after the fact that he feels self conscious about it; honestly I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Oh what the hell, here is the story:

So I'm dating someone, let's call him Craig. I like Craig, but I have noted that he sometimes acts rather fidgety and scratchy. It reminded me of dope scratching, to be honest, but nothing else about his personality seemed amiss. And besides, I liked him so what the hell, I thought I'd see what develops. I'm 41 and he's 45, at this point compatibility seems a little more scarce.

Anyway I went back to his place for the first time a couple of nights ago. as you would expect we ended up making out on his couch, which led to heavy petting, then he went down on me. So I'm barely wearing any clothes at this point, and he gets up to go get a condom. Fully dressed, he unzips his pants, pulls them down a tiny bit, puts on the condom and we started having sex. After a few minutes, while we were fucking, he spoke.

Craig: I'm still wearing all of my clothes.

Me: Yes, I've noticed. Why don't you at least take off your jacket?

He does, and that was the end of the conversation. The sex continues, and I slipped my hands into his pants and felt his ass. It felt very textured, and I wondered if he was a burn victim or something. Long story short, sex is over. He walked across the room and sat in a chair looking at me for a moment.

Craig: Something you should know is, I have psoriasis. Badly. But it isn't contagious, it's just something I have to deal with.

Me: OH so that's it. This explains why you are kinda fidgety sometimes, I was wondering about that.

He talked about it for another minute or so, and I was like, whatever, who cares about eczema... Anyway the conversation faded into something else, I don't recall what.

So anyway, we sit around talking for a couple more hours drinking beer, listening to music. By now he has made his way back to the couch next to me. It's really late, and he asks if I'd like to spend the night. I said yes. He showed me to his bedroom, and said he'd be back in a minute.

I was in a bra and panties, got into bed and was drifting back to sleep in the dark when he finally came back into the room. This time he was completely naked. He told me that if I was interested, he would really like to have sex with me again. I'm thinking, yes! Truth is a lot of guys in their 40s really aren't up to the task and certainly can't go more than once in a night. It's in part why I have a thing for shagging younger guys (as one or two people around here may recall). Oh, and I should also point out that he has a big cock.

The next morning I gave him a blowjob - it must be done, something I really love to do - and since it was a really bright morning I could see that a good 50% of his body was covered in those psoriasis sores or whatever you call them. It didn't really bother me though. It's kind of surprising in a way, but it really didn't.

So since I really like him, I have been replaying the entire evening in my mind over and over again. Which now makes me wonder if this psoriasis thing is a big deal to him. That's what the whole naked presentation was about, right? And now that I am over thinking it, I wonder if I'm supposed to say or do something in particular about this. Or not. I was definitely better off when I wasn't thinking that much.

And the thing is, we've talked over the last couple of days since this happened, and he is really into me, really likes me a lot. But now I am wondering, does he actually really like me, or is it just that I don't really care about the psoriasis that makes me more attractive? Maybe it has nothing to do with me and my personality. But I don't want to ask, because that would make me seem insecure, or it might make him think that i care when I don't.

I'm over thinking!!!

(Anyone who doesn't want to discuss this on the thread is welcome to PM me if you like!)

 

[Jm J Bullock]

Craig? Does he have a list?

 

[SweetErika]

My husband has had moderate to severe plaque psoriasis (plus one bout of pustular psoriasis in 2010) for probably 20 years. It's definitely affected him, from the itching and pain, to the looks he's gotten and comments people have made about it time and time again. Even though it's far better that it's ever been since we started dating in 1998 (a short course of cyclosporin, then about a year of methotrexate and a powerful topical reduced it from about 60% to 5% surface area), he still avoids wearing shorts and worries about swimming at public pools due to the looks and comments. I think it's scarred his body image and self-esteem severely.

In terms of dating, I know I was forced to ask him about it when we started having sex because there was a small spot on his cock that could have been an STI. I didn't know anything about it at that time, but I was fine once he explained it and showed me he had the same thing on his scalp and elsewhere. It has affected our sex life at times, but that hasn't been a huge issue.

It's a terrible condition (although the upside for him seems to be an outrageously robust immune system), and we definitely worry about his future in terms of Rheumatoid Arthritis. If the biological medications (Embrel, Stelara, etc.) weren't so fucking dangerous and expensive, we'd definitely go that route, but it's obviously easier to deal with the lesions than life-threatening side effects.

 

[Angellica1612]

No, someone I am dating recently revealed that he has it. Quite a lot too, I'd say it probably covers 50% of his body. It only occurred to me after the fact that he feels self conscious about it; honestly I didn't think it was that big of a deal.

nothing else about his personality seemed amiss. And besides, I liked him so what the hell, I thought I'd see what develops. I'm 41 and he's 45, at this point compatibility seems a little more scarce.




The next morning I gave him a blowjob - it must be done, something I really love to do - and since it was a really bright morning I could see that a good 50% of his body was covered in those psoriasis sores or whatever you call them. It didn't really bother me though. It's kind of surprising in a way, but it really didn't.

So since I really like him, I have been replaying the entire evening in my mind over and over again. Which now makes me wonder if this psoriasis thing is a big deal to him. That's what the whole naked presentation was about, right? And now that I am over thinking it, I wonder if I'm supposed to say or do something in particular about this. Or not. I was definitely better off when I wasn't thinking that much.

And the thing is, we've talked over the last couple of days since this happened, and he is really into me, really likes me a lot. But now I am wondering, does he actually really like me, or is it just that I don't really care about the psoriasis that makes me more attractive? Maybe it has nothing to do with me and my personality. But I don't want to ask, because that would make me seem insecure, or it might make him think that i care when I don't.

I'm over thinking!!!

(Anyone who doesn't want to discuss this on the thread is welcome to PM me if you like!)

Yes, you are over thinking it. What I see is a man who is understandably a little sensitive and self-conscious about his body. I'm sure he's been rejected because of it more than once. But he put himself on the line because he really likes you, and the fact that you weren't turned off by it only increased his interest in you. That's a normal, natural response. Consider yourselves lucky to have found each other, and enjoy the ride.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Yes, you are over thinking it. What I see is a man who is understandably a little sensitive and self-conscious about his body. I'm sure he's been rejected because of it more than once. But he put himself on the line because he really likes you, and the fact that you weren't turned off by it only increased his interest in you. That's a normal, natural response. Consider yourselves lucky to have found each other, and enjoy the ride.

Alright I think I'm going to go along with this post, thank you very much.

 

[RoryN]

Alright I think I'm going to go along with this post, thank you very much.

I like Angellica's post, too. Simply put, and most likely true.

 

[Beco]

I'd prefer someone with psoriasis over someone with halitosis.

Given the choice....I'd agree. Doesnt cream fix psoriasis?

 

[Bert Notorius]

Race can also be a predisposing genetic factor; those with fair-skin have a higher likelihood of developing the disease than darker-skinned individuals.

 

[Beco]

Race can also be a predisposing genetic factor; those with fair-skin have a higher likelihood of developing the disease than darker-skinned individuals.

Really? I'm fair, never had an issue.....then again, I have to watch the sunshine or I get toasted

 

[Wings27]

I agree with Angellica's post as well. He cared enough to even say something to you, that shows a lot of trust in the first place. Good luck with the rest of it.

 

[Bert Notorius]

Really? I'm fair, never had an issue.....then again, I have to watch the sunshine or I get toasted

It means, statistically speaking, Funk is dating an old, white dude.

 

[Beco]

It means, statistically speaking, Funk is dating an old, white dude.

and Jewish....

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I'll be seeing him again in a couple of hours, first time snce that sexual scenario.