LucyH
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So back in November, while discussing bisexual men in Lit stories, Queen Vicki, Candicame, and I had this discussion (edited to remove bits not relevant to this post):
Queen Vicki:
Candicame:
Me:
and
Anyway, I wanted to resurrect this discussion. My experience has been that when I was a teenager, I was definitely bi. After I dated this girl, I got married to the guy we'd been involved with. For a while I still considered myself bisexual and fantasized about women sometimes, but eventually, I started calling myself straight because I lost interest in women (except in dreams, oddly enough). I never understood why that happened, and I felt like a part of me had gone missing.
I got divorced at the beginning of this year. Now, for the first time in over 10 years, I'm single and not obsessing about a man. Suddenly I'm finding myself noticing women here and there, and spontaneously having sexual thoughts about them that aren't some kind of deliberate mental experiment. I still notice men a lot more, but I feel like I'm going back towards normal.
Anybody else have similar experiences? What do you make of all this?
Queen Vicki:
Because by my definition if two people of the same sex dates each other exclusively, and only wants the opposite gender for some sex, and send them else where once they are done, then they are in a gay relationship. The same thing can be said for women too.
and if a bi guy dates a woman, then I guess he is just dating a woman, or he have nothing else better to do.
Candicame:
I had a drunken argument with my boyfriend about this. He's so fucking gay- apparently, despite having dated women exclusively before me- and I can't help but think that that's a load of bullshit. You don't just "go gay" for someone. He says that once he's in a relationship, he stops being attracted to or even noticing other attractive people. I don't. I'm totally still attracted to women, would still sleep with/date women, except for the whole 'relationship' thing I've got going on. I honestly don't think that dating a man, even exclusively, makes me gay.
Me:
Sure, it'd be a gay relationship, but it doesn't suddenly change the sexual orientation of the people involved. Been there, done that, and I'm quite sure that I didn't turn into a lesbian for a year. In fact, there was this guy my girlfriend and I started off just playing with and then sending him away, but then we got attached and next thing you know, we were all living together and thinking it was too bad that a 3-way marriage was probably never gonna be legal in our lifetimes.
and
Well, I even had a bit of that going on with my girlfriend for a couple of months at first. I didn't much notice or think about men. I wondered if I was turning into a lesbian or what. But then I realized I just had an enormous crush on her and I was obsessing about her a ridiculously large fraction of the time. If I took the time to think about it, men were still appealing. I didn't have time to obsess about her AND think about men AND pass all my courses, though. Then the hormonal madness wore off around midterm, and my brain went back to normal.
Anyway, I wanted to resurrect this discussion. My experience has been that when I was a teenager, I was definitely bi. After I dated this girl, I got married to the guy we'd been involved with. For a while I still considered myself bisexual and fantasized about women sometimes, but eventually, I started calling myself straight because I lost interest in women (except in dreams, oddly enough). I never understood why that happened, and I felt like a part of me had gone missing.
I got divorced at the beginning of this year. Now, for the first time in over 10 years, I'm single and not obsessing about a man. Suddenly I'm finding myself noticing women here and there, and spontaneously having sexual thoughts about them that aren't some kind of deliberate mental experiment. I still notice men a lot more, but I feel like I'm going back towards normal.
Anybody else have similar experiences? What do you make of all this?