i want a dom!

[smfc]

Relations..

ive enjoyed bdsm and ive always wanted to be involved in a relationship that centers around master and slave. i dont know how to go about asking anyone. if this is where real life experiences come in and are talked about, i would love to just.. know what it feels like to be a submissive. i read so many stories on literotica.com and i wonder if people really do that, to that extent. other than porn, if the usual house wife and business man or any other classes of people can really experience such a thrill.

 

[ravi64]

ive enjoyed bdsm and ive always wanted to be involved in a relationship that centers around master and slave. i dont know how to go about asking anyone. if this is where real life experiences come in and are talked about, i would love to just.. know what it feels like to be a submissive. i read so many stories on literotica.com and i wonder if people really do that, to that extent. other than porn, if the usual house wife and business man or any other classes of people can really experience such a thrill.

Can we talk about that

 

[smfc]

what do you mean?

 

[ravi64]

what do you mean?

get help

 

[smfc]

hmhmhm...

i need a strict hand, i want to enjoy myself tonight.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yes, many regular folks can and do identify as D/s or M/s relationships. How well it all works, how satisfying it all is to each person is dependent on each person's personality and intellect, I think. Hardly none of us get to play these things out like the romance novels would have it.

 

[smfc]

Romance novels are too gushy for me.

But thanks for your insight. I really do want to experience this level of pleasure, and pain.

 

[smfc]

bump =)

 

[seela]

If you're looking for someone to dominate you, the BDSM Personals is the right address. BDSM Talk is for discussion about BDSM topics.

 

[smfc]

If you're looking for someone to dominate you, the BDSM Personals is the right address. BDSM Talk is for discussion about BDSM topics.

Whoops, thanks!

 

[abella117]

too many people to love a little bit bolder and naughtier are married to or in a relationship with people who are vanilla. It is ashame and I feel for your need to want a taste of this bom/sub way of life.

Im dont live in a sub role all the time, though i am submissive, But my husband and I know each other well enough to have fun, explore and share with people who we trust.

I wish u well in finding the some1 for u, and be safe

 

[smfc]

too many people to love a little bit bolder and naughtier are married to or in a relationship with people who are vanilla. It is ashame and I feel for your need to want a taste of this bom/sub way of life.

Im dont live in a sub role all the time, though i am submissive, But my husband and I know each other well enough to have fun, explore and share with people who we trust.

I wish u well in finding the some1 for u, and be safe

Thank you, that is the kind of insight I wanted to know. I'm glad you guys have fun. And I will, thanks.

 

[smfc]

bump ^_^

 

[StrayKat]

bump ^_^

Try personals?

 

[smfc]

Try personals?

^_^; Thank you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

If you want a real-life relationship, literotica is not really your best venue.

Try fetlife.com and look for the groups in your area. Take your time, don't fall into the trap of handing your power over to the first asshole who claims to be a Dom, any more than you would marry the first man who asked you out on a date. Remember that for far too many men, D/s equals "getting laid" and they are not going to treat your submission with respect-- and this is important because in D/s the D holds the cards.

BDSM is more complicated than regular missionary humping. It really is. Be aware of that fact before you throw on that little Red Riding hood and traipse out into the woods.

 

[smfc]

I would only want an online relationship. I just want some insight to the real happenings, and to know what it really feels like.

 

[BiBunny]

I would only want an online relationship. I just want some insight to the real happenings, and to know what it really feels like.

You're not going to find what it really feels like online.

 

[smfc]

You're not going to find what it really feels like online.

Touche, touche.

 

[Avellan13]

You're not going to find what it really feels like online.

Exactly. I still haven't found a Mistress yet and im still looking only for an online one. I don't feel like trying it in real life. At least not until I'm more familiar with it. Heck, that's why this, and other threads are here.

 

[StrayKat]

Exactly. I still haven't found a Mistress yet and im still looking only for an online one. I don't feel like trying it in real life. At least not until I'm more familiar with it. Heck, that's why this, and other threads are here.

Not really. Some threads are here as support or discussion about online stuff, but not all of them. I find a lot of thoughts and insights I can apply on my rtl relationships. Cyber does not even come close to real thing for me, I am long way past feeding someone fantasies in typing.

 

[rosco rathbone]

This thread made me think a random thought. I wonder how long it would take me to find a mistress if I came out as a sub. You always see these guys moaning " I can't find a mistress!...." how hard can it really be??

 

[His_pet_slut]

I wanted to win the Powerball last night, but it didn't happen.

 

[StrayKat]

This thread made me think a random thought. I wonder how long it would take me to find a mistress if I came out as a sub. You always see these guys moaning " I can't find a mistress!...." how hard can it really be??

Its because most of them are do-me-subs. They want what they want and when they want it, preferably in IMs, God forbid they grow some balls and actually meet irl. "Mistress" is supposed to give them a jerk off material as close to their fantasies as possible.
So yeah, good luck finding a woman willing to invest time and effort to be a wanking fodder and get next to nothing in return.

 

[boredVAwife]

When I first joined Lit I was wanting a fem domme so badly and had the pleasure of meeting a fab lady that lived within a days drive of me but her time was a bit too thinly stretched to be what I wanted. The next one was in the UK and I just don't see the point in the whole cyber D/s thing. I now live in a much much bigger city than I used to so who knows maybe there will be options down the road that I didn't have before.