BDSM Start

[unknownz]

Anybody look back and remember how BDSM started into your life? I remember back in Jersey when I was a kid around Nursery School time when I was playing in the basement of the apartment where we lived and a girl a year or two older made me stand with my face in a corner of the basement and spanked me a time or two. It wasn't necesssarily an erotic thing or that I new what BDSM was at the time, just something that I think I enjoyed and it is a memory that sticks with me.

 

[Etoile]

Somewhere I wrote up my "hot dogs and bondage" story. Might dig around for it sometime.

 

[Laina057]

my first time

The first time my husband slapped my ass during sex. At first I was a little startled & thought 'what the hell did he just do?' Kinda surprised myself with how much it turned me on. We weren't vanilla up to that point by no means but we've been having a roaring good time since.

 

[masterdrakin]

Well you know when your parents tell you to stay out god something or somewhere and you just don't listen well that's my case. I went snooping around and got into there room I had always had a thing for my mother and was up to no good trying to find something to fuel thay desire. Well you could say I found it as I looked thru many different toys and such I found the mother load as I slid a tape into the VCR and was rewarded with quiet a sight. As I watching my mother playing the domme over my father i was in heaven until I the tape went on and seen other people we knew having sex with and playing with them the biggest thrill was my aunt on the tape. Planning on taking the tape but loosening track of time in walks my parents tape still playing as I looked up dad just turned bright red and mom asked if I liked what I seen. Yea of course I said as mom dad and my aunt were busy on the tape. Well that day changed my life bdsm became a major part of my life along with other aspects had changed.

 

[His_pet_slut]

Many years ago my spouse tied me up in a closet and teased and played with me. I went into subspace for the first time and it scared the crap out of me. Refused to try any bondage after that for many years, although slaps to the ass could send me into orgasm readily and our life was not strictly vanilla. Years later discovered bdsm, began experimenting and had the light bulb moment of 'duh...subspace, no wonder I freaked out'...

 

[yourhardlimits]

It was several things coming together - realizing how much not only I but also my girlfriend enjoyed it when I took her wrists in my hands and held her firm while we kissed, or reached around to spank her bottom. It was also the particular tingle I got earlier on when I came across the porn my parents had hidden in their bedroom, and getting particularly aroused by restraints in the stories. Then the girl who begged me to hold her down while we fucked, or told me "If you can catch me, you can do anything you want to me ..." I caught her, of course, and of course I did. It was pretty tentative to start, learning the limits of power and force, and balancing it with care for my partner (but not balancing so much it killed the moment). Things definitely improved in college, when I met men and women of similar interests, and got the benefit of a little community mentoring.

 

[Sangsuesub]

When I was a kid would have really vivid dreams of being chained up by Jafar from the cartoon Aladdin.

As for adult bdsm, I couldn't get a lover to spank me properly until #3 and that opened a whole new can of worms that hasn't been shut since.

 

[llynnyWein]

when I met men and women of similar interests, and got the benefit of a little http://www.******.info/g.php

 

[amofiga]

Anybody look back and remember how BDSM started into your life? I remember back in Jersey when I was a kid around Nursery School time when I was playing in the basement of the apartment where we lived and a girl a year or two older made me stand with my face in a corner of the basement and spanked me a time or two. It wasn't necesssarily an erotic thing or that I new what BDSM was at the time, just something that I think I enjoyed and it is a memory that sticks with me.

My first recollations of anything resembling "bondage" that excited me are when I was a kid and loved seeing people tied up in western movies. Often it was the villian tying up the hero's girlfriend and holding her hostage while he blackmailed the hero or hero's friend into "selling the ranch" or "letting the outlaw" out of jail or another sort of demand. It was something about seeing that woman bound, gagged, and helpless in a chair or tied t a tree that excited something in me. I'm sure it wasn't "sexual" when I was only 7 or 8 years old, but I always liked that part of a movie. As I got older and saw similare scenes, I started thinking about doing sexual things to her like unbuttoning her dress or putting my hand up her dress.

 

[monkeyman057]

My first recollations of anything resembling "bondage" that excited me are when I was a kid and loved seeing people tied up in western movies. Often it was the villian tying up the hero's girlfriend and holding her hostage while he blackmailed the hero or hero's friend into "selling the ranch" or "letting the outlaw" out of jail or another sort of demand. It was something about seeing that woman bound, gagged, and helpless in a chair or tied t a tree that excited something in me. I'm sure it wasn't "sexual" when I was only 7 or 8 years old, but I always liked that part of a movie. As I got older and saw similare scenes, I started thinking about doing sexual things to her like unbuttoning her dress or putting my hand up her dress.

This for me too, but when I was a kid it was the Dukes of Hazard, and Daisy always got tied up. As I got older, I kind of back-burnered those kinds of thoughts - that is until the internet came along...

 

[Literotti]

For me, it began very early with fantasies of being spanked. However, there has been some childhood abuse in my background, not only at home but in school.

I tended to play with tomboy type-women when I was a very young boy. I remember there being a bit of spanking play back then, but can't really say that it was sexual or non-sexual, because it happened during pre-puberty.

I did not know if I was dom or sub until I was in my early 20s, but I really enjoyed the fantasy.

 

[LordMorningwood]

I'm in my forties, and one of the things that brought it all together for me was the use of BDSM/Fetish imagery in British punk in the late 70's: "I want some of THAT!" Siouxsie Sioux was a particular icon.

 

[Poision]

Oh to the days of old...

Hmm, I guess I realized what I was someday in between when I spent months searching the History channel for specials involving torture, rape and war, and when I stumbled onto BDSM in name while reading. It is such a pity that the History Channel doesn't air any such shows any more.

 

[Mesmerist]

I think it was a couple of Wonder Woman episodes when I was a kid.

In the first she was fighting a guy who could control minds and for a brief time she was under his control.
In the second she was frozen as a mannequin and displayed in a wax museum.

Both times I remember being quite disappointed that she prevailed.