Finding Lesbian Friendship And Fun

[searchergirl]

i am simply starting this thread because i am tired of reading through so many posts. I am not looking for a man...only female friendship interests me. I am asking the ladies who are looking for fun and friendship for either advice on how to drop the shyness, or help in working through it. Please no males reply.

 

[bigtit21]

i am simply starting this thread because i am tired of reading through so many posts. I am not looking for a man...only female friendship interests me. I am asking the ladies who are looking for fun and friendship for either advice on how to drop the shyness, or help in working through it. Please no males reply.

Looking for the same. Add me on yahoo-bigtit21

 

[Etoile]

Unfortunately you can't really control who replies to your thread, you'll just have to ignore the ones you don't want.

 

[celticbtrfly]

i am simply starting this thread because i am tired of reading through so many posts. I am not looking for a man...only female friendship interests me. I am asking the ladies who are looking for fun and friendship for either advice on how to drop the shyness, or help in working through it. Please no males reply.

I'm in a similar situation. I'm a married, bicurious woman who's dated a couple of women, but it never really went anywhere. I've now found myself really attracted to a particular woman, but have no idea how to even approach the whole situation (I've never had to), and being married adds a whole other layer to it. I'd love some advice...or even just support.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's very difficult to create a lesbian relationship while also being married to a man. Many lesbians have problems with that-- for one thing, they are extremely un-attracted to men, and they know that you are "sharing your energy" as we say, with one of them. And for another, nobody likes the sensation of playing second fiddle-- playing second fiddle to a sex you don't want to be involved with is double trouble.

I am not saying this is right or wrong, just saying this is how it is for the kind of women you might be trying to get involved with, and you have to be aware of that.

 

[celticbtrfly]

It's very difficult to create a lesbian relationship while also being married to a man. Many lesbians have problems with that-- for one thing, they are extremely un-attracted to men, and they know that you are "sharing your energy" as we say, with one of them. And for another, nobody likes the sensation of playing second fiddle-- playing second fiddle to a sex you don't want to be involved with is double trouble.

I am not saying this is right or wrong, just saying this is how it is for the kind of women you might be trying to get involved with, and you have to be aware of that.

This has been one of the challenges, and I get it. Just like I know that there are many lesbians that have trouble understanding how women can be bisexual. I think, it's because of these reasons, that I tend to shy away from lesbians and would really prefer to get involved with a bi woman. One of my lesbian friends suggested finding another married woman who was looking for something similar.

It's not the easiest position to be in, both enjoying the man you're married to and being sexually attracted to women.

 

[Farrah]

I'm in a similar situation. I'm a married, bicurious woman who's dated a couple of women, but it never really went anywhere. I've now found myself really attracted to a particular woman, but have no idea how to even approach the whole situation (I've never had to), and being married adds a whole other layer to it. I'd love some advice...or even just support.

Wow, we just have all sorts of things in common, chica. I'm a bisexual woman in a committed relationship with a man. Lucky for me, he's bi also. He completely understands that though I've dated women in the past, I've only been with women "just enough" to have an idea of what I'm missing out on. I've never made love to a woman, and the idea of it keeps me up at night. I'm not sure I have any advice to offer, but I hope it helps a little to know someone else is in a very similar boat. ((hugs))

 

[cliterus]

I do hope you find and enjoy a great experiences with other ladies
I would also caution you to be careful,and make it very clear from the begining what your expectations are and what you are prepared to give......especially if you are in a committed relationship..
otherwise....go for it ....ssex with another woman can be .....mindblowing......
good luck

 

[celticbtrfly]

I do hope you find and enjoy a great experiences with other ladies
I would also caution you to be careful,and make it very clear from the begining what your expectations are and what you are prepared to give......especially if you are in a committed relationship..
otherwise....go for it ....ssex with another woman can be .....mindblowing......
good luck

That's great advice. I will say that when things started heating up between a friend of mine and I (long distance so there was no physical stuff going on), it became complicated really quick. The feelings were really intense, and I think that I failed to make clear what the expectations were with her...but I also failed to really understand what to expect on my part. I fell hard and was completely torn between my friend and my husband.
But it was a lesson learned.

 

[janeyruth]

I would also caution you to make it very clear from the beginning what your expectations are and what you are prepared to give......especially if you are in a committed relationship...

If you follow her advice, all the adventure and drama and craziness that make an affair "on the side" so special and magical will be lost. Remember this: dissembling, deceit and betrayal are part of life's journey. Don't tell her a thing. And take, take, take. And never, ever give...

 

[Etoile]

If you follow her advice, all the adventure and drama and craziness that make an affair "on the side" so special and magical will be lost. Remember this: dissembling, deceit and betrayal are part of life's journey. Don't tell her a thing. And take, take, take. And never, ever give...

Well now I'm depressed.

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

To meet people here, one of the best things is to have a completed profile and a picture if possible.

 

[Krystal89]

I'm around, too. PM me if you're interested in chatting. I'm bi, married, and looking for a woman to chat with......

 

[tammyw]

I was bisexual long before I met my husband and was always honest with him about my wants and needs as far as being with women. Being open and honest worked for us and now I occasionally sleep with women or have threesomes to satisfy my desires. All my husband asks is that I am honest and ask him first. If he's uncomfortable I dont take it any further.

 

[Krystal89]

That's great advice. I will say that when things started heating up between a friend of mine and I (long distance so there was no physical stuff going on), it became complicated really quick. The feelings were really intense, and I think that I failed to make clear what the expectations were with her...but I also failed to really understand what to expect on my part. I fell hard and was completely torn between my friend and my husband.
But it was a lesson learned.

Been there, done that. I learned alot too.

 

[loralei3000]

If you follow her advice, all the adventure and drama and craziness that make an affair "on the side" so special and magical will be lost. Remember this: dissembling, deceit and betrayal are part of life's journey. Don't tell her a thing. And take, take, take. And never, ever give...

Janeyruth you are an evil mistress, but I love the way your mind works. [evil laugh]

 

[amy1969]

I feel lucky to never have been married... yet.. and to not have to deal with any conflicts such as people mention, but I totally understand as have met some now friends who have gone through much of what is talked about here.
Oh, to be free from all of that..