Women- what most attracts you to a man?

[renard_ruse]

For heterosexual (and bisexual) women, what is the single greatest factor that attracts you to a man. Poll to follow.

Handsome face
Big penis
Tall
Money and/or earning potential
Respectful gentleman
Shares same or similar values, beliefs and/or attitudes
Is a good lover
Can physically protect you
He's a thug or "bad boy"
Other, don't know, or can't specify

If "other" please specify.

 

[Jedi_Princess]

Similar attitude.

 

[warrior queen]

Teeth and nails (both hands and feet).
If both are well-looked after, it's a fair bet he meets my standards.

 

[butters]

i find it quite odd how your poll focuses on the physical

suppose 'other' might cover the things women tend to find most attractive but the very nature of your options is ... well ... strange

confidence, smile, the ability to communicate well with their eyes, sense of humour, smelling great, showing respect for other people without making themselves a doormat, intellect, kindness, honesty, curiosity - loads of stuff that come way before how big a wallet or cock a man has. *disgusted emote*

and someone who has a way with words...

 

[Fuckingforhobby]

Physical vs Other Attributes

There has to be some physical attraction or chemistry in order to connect, but as far as a relationship the other attributes play a greater role. Once you get to know someone their personality, spirit, humor, and even future goals may make them more attractive.

On the flip side you may find someone striking and once you get to know them find they are cruel, self-centered, shallow and have an ugly heart.

**Guess some of the cliches are true**

 

[Lorilei]

Humor, intelligence, kindness, confidence without arrogance. Appearance is way down on the list if you're talking about real attraction, and not just scratching a physical itch.

 

[MisterMuffin]

Is this a true benchmark? Like a real deal breaker?

Teeth and nails (both hands and feet).
If both are well-looked after, it's a fair bet he meets my standards.

 

[Johnny_Ray_Wilson]

Humor, intelligence, kindness, confidence without arrogance. Appearance is way down on the list if you're talking about real attraction, and not just scratching a physical itch.

Want some popcorn?

You offered me some in a thread where I was whining about not having any snacks. Made me laugh, even if you were not trying to be funny.

 

[Lorilei]

Want some popcorn?

You offered me some in a thread where I was whining about not having any snacks. Made me laugh, even if you were not trying to be funny.

LOL. I like popcorn, but I might have to pass on it as a breakfast food.

 

[Johnny_Ray_Wilson]

Teeth and nails (both hands and feet).
If both are well-looked after, it's a fair bet he meets my standards.

Women look at my hands a lot once we have become acquainted. I have noticed I look at women's hands w/out really thinking about it. Why do we do that?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Dont be fooled women prefer the man's wallet.

 

[Drewzie]

I chose 'other'. Because when I look at the men I have loved in my 38 years, they have almost no common physical traits. The common thread was laughter, accepting some part of me I thought was unlovable, and laughter.

 

[naughtycakes]

Retard thread from a retard poster... no surprise there.

Some of the options in the poll are beyond ridiculous. How's a woman supposed to know the size of a man's cock or if he's a good lover by just looking at him? Psha

 

[Druthers]

Women are like snowflakes.

 

[Pleasesuckle]

Women look at my hands a lot once we have become acquainted. I have noticed I look at women's hands w/out really thinking about it. Why do we do that?

I have a thing for hands, too...and forearms. Even in an erotic photo in some other threads, I'm drawn to the hands first if I can see 'em.

Once the initial visceral reaction to "do I find him physically attractive" is over, and that's pretty quickly usually, then it's on to sense of humor, how he treats those around him, chemistry of the personalities, etc. With just a physical attraction it's eye candy and no more and not usually for long.

 

[clutch1]

Dont be fooled women prefer the man's wallet.

Just the wallet?
There doesn't have to be anything in it?

Now I know what to ask for christmas.
I like a womans wallet too.

 

[NewEnglandGirl]

Silly options, legitimate question.

Intelligence, kindness and compassion, fun sense of humor - ability to pun creatively is a definite plus - but no interest in humor at someone else's expense. The ability to see himself clearly coupled with the willingness to fix what he sees is less desirable - to have the first without the second is lazy and disingenuous. Although matching values are important, it depends on what they are - politics are less important than, say, attitudes about education and money, for example. Looks are so low down the scale they almost don't matter.

Funny, I always look at hands as well, and am drawn to long, thin fingers. And eyes that sparkle. But that is the first spark, not the continued attraction that makes me want to get to know the man.

 

[renard_ruse]

Retard thread from a retard poster... no surprise there...

You're retarded.

 

[renard_ruse]

The reason for the thread was in response to LJ's statement here:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=786965

No they don't.

Women understand exactly 2 things when it comes to intimate relations with men: What can you provide her? Okay, that's one, but it's broken up into 2 things - one, money, or two protection.

If you're rich or an alpha male, she gives a shit about you. Beyond that you're absolutely nothing to a woman.

To which I actually disagreed and defended women. My reward for that, being called a retard.

What's wrong with being mentally challenged anyway? We should celebrate our differences.

 

[renard_ruse]

I put the physical things up top on the poll in an attempt not to bias it in favor of the money / earning potential option. True, I didn't think of all those subtle personality traits that many have mentioned and also the polls here only allow you to pick 10 options.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Sense of humor
Intelligent
Similar beliefs (living a kind life)
Dominant personality (quietly, not the chest-pounding type)
Older (50's)
Financially secure

 

[RoryN]

Retard thread from a retard poster... no surprise there.

Exactly.

 

[redheadedtxn]

And sorry, for me, yes, financial security matters. It shows drive and ambition and responsibility. I do NOT want to support a man. Period.

 

[firenzi]

Definitely similar values, beliefs, attitudes...but also intelligence, humour, confidence, and generosity, which were missing from the list.

Clothing and grooming are also missing- a man who is well put together is always attractive. I tend to notice shoes, and hair cuts, and whether clothes are pressed properly (although men in London with their rumpled suits are cute). And smell! I love when men smell wonderful and use a bit of good cologne.

There's really no single factor- I think attraction for women can be a little more complicated and intangible than it is for men.

 

[butters]

And sorry, for me, yes, financial security matters. It shows drive and ambition and responsibility. I do NOT want to support a man. Period.

but what happens if you fall in love with someone and then life takes one of its uexpected turns? unemployment, an accident, mental health issues, sickness? when you love someone, don't you take on the possibilities that might arise? i don't see you as cold-hearted, red, more someone protecting themselves and their family so independence is important to you and you expect a partner to have a similar independence. but would you cut them loose if they suddenly became incapable of self-support?