LADIES: Where's a good place to meet you?

blackstallion21

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Where's a good place to meet women?

In my own findings, the best relationships came out of a "Match-Maker" situation, but lately there's NO ONE my age around my area that isn't either ENGAGED to be married, or MARRIED with kids!

I also am kind of looking for a girl WITH OUT kids, but I can't seem to find that either, with girls getting pregos at 12 now days, there seems to be NO SUCH THING as a single mid-twenties girl with out kids!!

AND the bar, at least around my area, isn't the most opportune place to meet girlies... so where is the best place to meet a lady?

Never had a grocery store hook up, and I'm kind of stumped on how to do that... Do you just stalk them in the cereal aisle - or ask if they use zucchini to masturbate with while in the produce section?

OR

Do you Hit on the waitress at your favorite restaurant or your favorite bartender, or stripper?

SOME HELP would be GREATLY APPRECIATED! (and this question doesn't have to be just answered by the ladies, you men out there in radio land can give your feedback too!

THESE ANSWERS are greatly appreciated!!!!!

thx,
blackstal21
 
"Prince(ss) Charming" fantasy

Do you remember each relationship/encounter you've enjoyed in your life?

Where did you meet each person?

(And if you're bored, what was so special about your times together?)
 
Do you remember each relationship/encounter you've enjoyed in your life?

Where did you meet each person?

(And if you're bored, what was so special about your times together?)

Interesting question.

I have enjoyed a bunch of my encounters but the most interesting ones were the ones that weren't relationships!

I had a lesbian contact me about having sex, and we participated in recreational green, and fucked and went our own ways...

then another girl, who was a one night stand, we broke her bed, put a whole in her wall, and fucked on the stairs...

another girl, we were engaged in foreplay, and I squirted chocolate whipped cream in her mouth, not knowing she didn't like chocolate, and she ended up spitting it all over the place! ALL because she was giving me head after we took the condom off and the taste of the spermicide made her sick! oh well... she sure could suck a mean dick...

but all of these were one night stands, and I met these girls online!

all of the real relationships I've ever been in, the sex is boring and plain, and the girls don't last long!

So that's why I came up with this thread!

I NEED a lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed!

CAN'T FIND ONE!
 
Oh, they're out there I'm sure, you may just be trying too hard. Maybe she's in the right place, and you're looking in the wrong place. Nothing wrong with good conversation and see what/where it ends up.

I do know the wrong place to try that is the gym. From personal experiece, and talking with all of my friends, that just pisses them off. They're there for one thing, and finding the man isn't one of them :eek:

Tifani
 
I'm also interested in what the ladies have to say . . . I can tell you, BlackStallion, it doesn't get any easier when you hit 30!
 
I'm also interested in what the ladies have to say . . . I can tell you, BlackStallion, it doesn't get any easier when you hit 30!

that's sad to hear, I'm only 5 years off... and as you can see, no one is answering to this thread... I guess it's time to start hitting on the MARRIED ONES so I can try to steal them from their man who isn't giving them what they need anymore!

ON TO THE NEXT ONE!
 
This thread made me laugh a lot xD

I'm a lady in my lower twenties, and almost all of my female friends fit your description: married, about to be, or have kids. I often wonder if there's something wrong with me because I don't have any of those things going for me. ;P

Anyways, to answer your question (if you're still wondering), most men approach me when I'm out at the karaoke bar, when I'm walking my dog at the park (dogs are a huge chick magnet, haha), and at my job. If there isn't a karaoke bar near you, sometimes restaurants host a "karaoke night" every week. Or if you look on meetup.com, a lot of towns have meetup groups for singles. I've never tried it, but could be fun! And it seems like a nice alternative to a dating site, since you could go to one of the events and mingle with a lot of single women in one night.

I've also had men approach me at the grocery store in the produce aisle. They usually say something like "I know you don't work here, but I'm trying to make (insert dish here) and the recipe calls for (insert obscure fruit or vegetable here). By any chance, do you know where it might be?" After I help them, they strike up casual conversation. =)

Good luck out there! :rose:
 
Depends what you're looking for doesn't it? To be honest I know I don't go looking for relationshios, you just fall into them. Plus I never go out looking for one nighters, but some nights it just happens.

Have never used the internet to meet, althugh guess it must be an appropriate place for no strings fun? Generally speaking I have met blokes through friends/family, usually get introduced to their friends or other people they hang around with, so have you tried to meet a new girl via your friends? Its usually reliable, and you already have that quality control as in your mates probably don't hang around with complete losers. Well, not always :p

Hope that helps a bit?
 
What are some hobbies you enjoy? Asking b/c it's always nice to find others who share the same interest.

Just giving a few ideas...comedy club, book store, coffee shop, sporting event, a concert, etc.,

Everyone has their "type" that they go for, and while there's nothing wrong w/ having preferences sometimes you limit yourself -severely- by imposing a "not interested" label on a person who may not be your "type" but may very well be the person that could complete you ;)
 
What are some hobbies you enjoy? Asking b/c it's always nice to find others who share the same interest.

Just giving a few ideas...comedy club, book store, coffee shop, sporting event, a concert, etc.,

Everyone has their "type" that they go for, and while there's nothing wrong w/ having preferences sometimes you limit yourself -severely- by imposing a "not interested" label on a person who may not be your "type" but may very well be the person that could complete you ;)


I'm with SD, from what you said were your most awesome memories, you talked totally sexual - not special moments, or good times with girlfriends, not the hilarious night out at dinner, or the great weekend you had sexing it up and getting outdoors at a boutique resort... If you're actually looking for a relationship you have to be willing to look beyond hot one night stands.

I do believe you have to be open minded, How do you know that normal looking woman isn't a kinky woman between the sheets? No one would pick me from a crowd as highly sexual, but that is the best way for it to be.

In regards to your question about places... I would say the library, if you have one near you might be a good place, unlike book stores, people are normally in there for a long time, happily looking, and you could easily strike up a conversation with someone who has similar tastes in books.

I've been approached by men in the supermarket, similar to the one posted but stuff like, where you cross paths or are looking at the same things and he will give the clueless look and be like "Oh, I so don't know the difference between... do you know which one I should buy..?" and off you go on a conversation about that. I have never picked up from it, but then I'm not looking.
Also, depending on where you work, if you're in a service industry, thats a nice way, if you have regulars, or I've had men serving me who have flirted outrageously while they have you for that 5-10 min window and try and pick up.

Interests are a good thing too, men who aren't talking out of their arses about whatever we're discussing are always appreciated more than guys who are obviously picking up.

I really think looking for a more genuine relationship, and trial and error... basically will find you someone who suits you best.
 
My single girlfriends seem to like the online dating scene... though it seems like an awful lot of effort when a simple phone conversation might prove more effective... bars are still where most singles congregate... but i agree w/mutual hobbies... the gym, book stores, writing group? Friends are still real helpful in matchmaking... so making sure everyone knows ur looking helps too. :)
 
Get out of the house and do stuff you enjoy, sign up for a park district volleyball team, do some charity work, join a book club, host a wine tasting with yor married friends and the wives single friends, dont look for chance meetings involve youself in something you enjoy with a group
 
Get out of the house and do stuff you enjoy, sign up for a park district volleyball team, do some charity work, join a book club, host a wine tasting with yor married friends and the wives single friends, dont look for chance meetings involve youself in something you enjoy with a group

This is the correct answer.
 
This thread made me laugh a lot xD

I'm a lady in my lower twenties, and almost all of my female friends fit your description: married, about to be, or have kids. I often wonder if there's something wrong with me because I don't have any of those things going for me. ;P

Anyways, to answer your question (if you're still wondering), most men approach me when I'm out at the karaoke bar, when I'm walking my dog at the park (dogs are a huge chick magnet, haha), and at my job. If there isn't a karaoke bar near you, sometimes restaurants host a "karaoke night" every week. Or if you look on meetup.com, a lot of towns have meetup groups for singles. I've never tried it, but could be fun! And it seems like a nice alternative to a dating site, since you could go to one of the events and mingle with a lot of single women in one night.

I've also had men approach me at the grocery store in the produce aisle. They usually say something like "I know you don't work here, but I'm trying to make (insert dish here) and the recipe calls for (insert obscure fruit or vegetable here). By any chance, do you know where it might be?" After I help them, they strike up casual conversation. =)

Good luck out there! :rose:
Thanks, I've tried a few things here, but there's one that I know won't work for me. I'm a chef, so the grocery store thing won't work.
But I'll try the Karaoke thing. I do sing at a local karaoke bar, but I don't seem to be able to meet ladies from the Michael Jackson and Prince songs that I like to sing when I'm a little buzzed from social lubricants!

Ha ha! Right here at Lit.
Tried it 6outof8, No one is around Pittsburgh Pennsylvania!
DAMMIT! lol

Depends what you're looking for doesn't it? To be honest I know I don't go looking for relationshios, you just fall into them. Plus I never go out looking for one nighters, but some nights it just happens.

Have never used the internet to meet, althugh guess it must be an appropriate place for no strings fun? Generally speaking I have met blokes through friends/family, usually get introduced to their friends or other people they hang around with, so have you tried to meet a new girl via your friends? Its usually reliable, and you already have that quality control as in your mates probably don't hang around with complete losers. Well, not always :p

Hope that helps a bit?
I've tried the friends of friends thing, and some of my friend's girl's girlfriends are NOT the brightest light bulbs on the Christmas tree!

Precisely!

What are some hobbies you enjoy? Asking b/c it's always nice to find others who share the same interest.

Just giving a few ideas...comedy club, book store, coffee shop, sporting event, a concert, etc.,

Everyone has their "type" that they go for, and while there's nothing wrong w/ having preferences sometimes you limit yourself -severely- by imposing a "not interested" label on a person who may not be your "type" but may very well be the person that could complete you ;)

I need to try to be more outgoing in these places: comedy club, book store, coffee shop, sporting event, a concert; because I do go to all of the above!

I'm with SD, from what you said were your most awesome memories, you talked totally sexual - not special moments, or good times with girlfriends, not the hilarious night out at dinner, or the great weekend you had sexing it up and getting outdoors at a boutique resort... If you're actually looking for a relationship you have to be willing to look beyond hot one night stands.

I do believe you have to be open minded, How do you know that normal looking woman isn't a kinky woman between the sheets? No one would pick me from a crowd as highly sexual, but that is the best way for it to be.

In regards to your question about places... I would say the library, if you have one near you might be a good place, unlike book stores, people are normally in there for a long time, happily looking, and you could easily strike up a conversation with someone who has similar tastes in books.

I've been approached by men in the supermarket, similar to the one posted but stuff like, where you cross paths or are looking at the same things and he will give the clueless look and be like "Oh, I so don't know the difference between... do you know which one I should buy..?" and off you go on a conversation about that. I have never picked up from it, but then I'm not looking.
Also, depending on where you work, if you're in a service industry, thats a nice way, if you have regulars, or I've had men serving me who have flirted outrageously while they have you for that 5-10 min window and try and pick up.

Interests are a good thing too, men who aren't talking out of their arses about whatever we're discussing are always appreciated more than guys who are obviously picking up.

I really think looking for a more genuine relationship, and trial and error... basically will find you someone who suits you best.

Thanks! I really liked this answer and I'm going to adhere to your advice!!

My single girlfriends seem to like the online dating scene... though it seems like an awful lot of effort when a simple phone conversation might prove more effective... bars are still where most singles congregate... but i agree w/mutual hobbies... the gym, book stores, writing group? Friends are still real helpful in matchmaking... so making sure everyone knows ur looking helps too. :)

Thanks.

Get out of the house and do stuff you enjoy, sign up for a park district volleyball team, do some charity work, join a book club, host a wine tasting with yor married friends and the wives single friends, dont look for chance meetings involve youself in something you enjoy with a group

Thanks! I do get out, I guess I just have to start being more outgoing!
 
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