Playing w/my sub in public and in private

[headcasechick]

My sub's nearsightedness is a big part of some of our play because in reality he can't even see to walk across a room without his glasses or contacts. It usually starts with with him wrestling me to the floor and me knocking off his glasses, leaving him vulnerable as he blindly gropes along the floor for them. I'll keep knocking them from his reach as he gets close to finding them and I'll make him beg and perform various acts if he wants his precious glasses back.

I've toyed with the idea of taking a version of our little game out of the living room and bedroom and into the public world. Doubt it can be as rough as we usually do in private. Maybe just making him leave his glasses at home and go shopping with me since without them he would be more or less helpless and totally dependent on me. Any ideas we could do out in public without attracting too much attention or in the event we run into people we know?

 

[eyer]

Why do you hate visually impaired people?

 

[KoPilot]

My nearsightedness is getting worse and worse, and I constantly leave my glasses at home (I've only had them for about a year, and I'm STILL not used to wearing them). It's usually pretty frustrating, but when I'm with S I like it as it's an excuse for him to lead me around like a puppy even more, haha.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I took a bottom partner out for a night on the town in a blindfold hood. She absolutely had more fun that night than I did.

 

[Etoile]

Why do you hate visually impaired people?

That is a totally unfounded assumption. If you got that from the OP, you need to read it again.

 

[CookingDom]

I've been going to club for a few years and met lots of great people there. one such couple is a Domme and her sub. They have both been to the club about 50 times+ and he has NEVER seen or heard the inside of the club.

Every time they go to this club, he is always blindfolded and wearing big headphones. She uses him in many ways, offering his body to others. They are both very out on the scene every where else, he's actually a switch but it's amazing seeing their dynamic at work in this club like this.
I admire the trust he has in her and once she asked my sub and I if we could watch him for awhile so she could go get a drink. he was tied to a bench so it was ok. I actually caned him which was different. She came back about 20 mins later and asked if we could watch him for longer as this was the first time she'd been able to check out the club properly without the responsibility of her sub. It was quite funny, like a new parent having a baby sitter for the first time and making the most of it.

Back to the OP, I'm assuming this is a relationship and you are simply making the most of the tools you have, in this case, your sub has poor eyesight.
I think it could be a great experience and a perfect opportunity for some pretty good mind fucks.
I'd take full advantage if it were me.

 

[Aurantica]

As an eyecare professional, I think I'm qualified to say this isnt really a good idea. What if something happened to you and he had to take charge? Not being able to see properly can be very dangerous. He could seriously hurt himself or someone else. Oh, and if you break his glasses you're doubly screwed, especially if you cant replace them quickly. I'd suggest you find other ways to mess with your sub's head.

 

[marieR19]

As an eyecare professional, I think I'm qualified to say this isnt really a good idea. What if something happened to you and he had to take charge? Not being able to see properly can be very dangerous. He could seriously hurt himself or someone else. Oh, and if you break his glasses you're doubly screwed, especially if you cant replace them quickly. I'd suggest you find other ways to mess with your sub's head.

This is a very, very good point, and something that should be thought about very seriously.

Playing around with sight-issues is one thing, but actually denying a person their sight in a way that could prove dangerous is just plain stupid. Taking away glasses when you are home and safe is fine. Telling a sub not to wear their glasses when you go out in public is fine. But the sub has *better* have easy-access to their glasses in case of emergency. If you get hurt, have a heart attack, or anything else unexpected happens, and the sub can't do a dang thing because they can't see and don't have access to their glasses, it could very easily put *both* your lives in danger.

Case in point: I hate wearing my glasses and only do so when I absolutely must. However, when riding in the car with anyone, I always have them on hand, because if there was ever a situation where I had to take over driving and I didn't have my glasses, we would end up in a crash.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am with those who mention the safety issues. Boring? Yes, I know, but life is not always as predictable as we sometimes convince ourselves it is. From my perspective as a person with sight issues to the extent it is not a matter of choosing when to wear glasses, I have trained myself to be able to cope to some extent short term without them, but find I get highly frustrated in a not so good way, and still reach for them before I dare step out of bed.

Catalina

 

[headcasechick]

Thanks for the replies. Maybe it would be a good idea if kept his glasses with me instead of leaving them at home. I kind of like the idea of having hold of them and keeping him at my mercy.

And yes, it's more of a working with the tools provided. Sure, I could tie him up, but it's much more easy and spontaneous to just take away his glasses.

And he does have more than one pair. It would be foolish not to as helpless as he is without them.

 

[Chaingun]

I like it as long as you figure a way to keep that back up of his glasses nearby. Could be fun.

 

[DVS]

As an eyecare professional, I think I'm qualified to say this isnt really a good idea. What if something happened to you and he had to take charge? Not being able to see properly can be very dangerous. He could seriously hurt himself or someone else. Oh, and if you break his glasses you're doubly screwed, especially if you cant replace them quickly. I'd suggest you find other ways to mess with your sub's head.

I'm also a past eyecare professional and agree that out in public, it could be a bad thing to mess with his inability to see without glasses. Other than his sight, he's a viable human being and would be helpless, if something happened to you. He would be able to help otherwise and so in the interest of safety, I'd say don't take your play out of the safety of the home, without taking the necessary precautions. One of those would be to have a spare pair, or even two, if his myopia is so bad that he can't function without them.

It takes a while to get replacements made, so stay prepared. While eyes are pretty flexible in how they adjust, in extreme cases, it can also take a while for them to re-adjust to the glasses, after being without them. And some people will get headaches, if they are without prescription glasses for long periods of time.

If I couldn't function without glasses, I'd likely have a panic attack. I NEED TO BE IN CONTROL!

 

[Aurantica]

Oh cool, another ECP person on here. You know, I just reread the original post and it sounds like her sub also happens to have contacts. If he does, at least he has some other option if something happens to his glasses. Maybe she could have his glasses in a case in her purse, just in case. If something does happen, he could probably find them and put them on by touch.

 

[DVS]

Oh cool, another ECP person on here. You know, I just reread the original post and it sounds like her sub also happens to have contacts. If he does, at least he has some other option if something happens to his glasses. Maybe she could have his glasses in a case in her purse, just in case. If something does happen, he could probably find them and put them on by touch.

There's always a scenario that could put them out of his reach. What if they were in an accident and her purse and its contents were strewn about, inside the car? He would effectively be blind to what her injuries were, or how to help.

 

[Aurantica]

Point taken...
Maybe he could have a pair of sunglasses with the lenses painted black on over his contacts. If he takes them off, for any reason, he can see.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Another idea, maybe put the glasses around his neck, or in a thin enough case they can go in his pocket? There's a number of options that I think could be taken to keep the glasses available.

 

[DVS]

Point taken...
Maybe he could have a pair of sunglasses with the lenses painted black on over his contacts. If he takes them off, for any reason, he can see.

Contacts could be kept in his pocket. They are in small enough cases. As a safeguard, put a spare pair of glasses somewhere like the glove compartment, etc. for a fail safe. But, there are no sure fire ways to cover all possibilities. Plan each scenario out ahead of time, thinking of how things could go wrong and how to counter them, then stick to the plan.

 

[serijules]

Yeah, it sucks when you are blind or deaf (like me) and you are out somewhere and crap, you forgot your eyesight and hearing at home!

I understand and appreciate the idea of wanting to be safe, but just wanted to point out in my own lovely way that not everyone with sight or hearing issues HAS that option and somehow we manage to function, even in emergencies lol.

People are a lot more adaptable than we give them credit for. You can still hear, speak and communicate if there is some dire emergency that arises in the middle of shopping at walmart without your glasses.

Now if we were talking about being in the middle of the desert with no human soul around for hundreds of miles and a very real risk of getting lost or hurt....that's another thing.

I used to have my hearing taken away from me in scenes or in daily life as a method of control by being blindfolded (since I read lips). It was probably one of the most intensely submissive acts I've ever been involved in.

Oh, I wanted to add, for safety reasons or whatever, the true submission in such an act to me would be having access to my hearing aids or ability to remove a blindfold or put my contacts/glasses on, but not being ALLOWED to. The fact that those things are handy if needed, but permission is not granted to use them except in an absolute emergency, is just yet another way to apply control to the situation successfully.

 

[headcasechick]

If I couldn't function without glasses, I'd likely have a panic attack. I NEED TO BE IN CONTROL!

In the rare situation (outside of playtime) where he has lost them, he does get panicky. In fact, it was one of those times when I was around to witness it happen that took us down this road.

 

[headcasechick]

I used to have my hearing taken away from me in scenes or in daily life as a method of control by being blindfolded (since I read lips). It was probably one of the most intensely submissive acts I've ever been involved in.

Oh, I wanted to add, for safety reasons or whatever, the true submission in such an act to me would be having access to my hearing aids or ability to remove a blindfold or put my contacts/glasses on, but not being ALLOWED to. The fact that those things are handy if needed, but permission is not granted to use them except in an absolute emergency, is just yet another way to apply control to the situation successfully.

That definitely plays into it. He's mentioned the intensity of the feelings, knowing that the glasses he so desperately needs are so close but as long as I have them and won't give them back, he's terribly vulnerable until I decide otherwise.