Sub jewelery.

[Kallik]

My sub and I have hunted for quite sometime online and wherever we could find niche shops and things like that for jewelery and other accessories that she could wear out in the vanilla world and most wouldn't know the difference but those who were also indulging in our world would mostly know.

I have found and really liked the bracelet with a length of chain that hooks onto a ring, I just have no idea whats it called we happen to see it in Sleeping Tiger Imports. But we didn't get it because we were unable to get the length of chain to detach from the ring without breaking it and then we wouldn't be able to reattach it anyway. I believe she wants it to hook to her wedding ring.

I've been looking for things that look like collars but to the untrained eye wouldn't think twice.

We have looked around saw a few things that piqued our interest but I was wondering if any of you have any suggestions on a website that sort of tailors to this or possibly where you might have gone to get your unassuming submissive jewelery.

I am hoping someone else has had our problem and solved it without having to go and get it custom made like we had to do with her collar.

Thank you.

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

The bracelet-to-ring jewelry is often called a "hand flower" or slave bracelet. Take a look at a site like Etsy for a variety of styles.

Then there's just going with a necklace that has meaning to both of you but actually is vanilla otherwise. Or a bracelet or anklet. I've a friend who has one of those Pandora bracelets with beads she and her sir chose.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

It doesn't have to be jewelry that one might think of as kinky - a toned down version of a collar, for instance. It doesn't have to be jewelry at all, in fact. It could be a talisman of some kind, that has no meaning to anyone else. Think about the symbolism in your relationship, or some aspect of it that you want to accentuate. What is important is that it has meaning for the two of you.

 

[MasterandSir]

Weighing in

I'm with DeepGreenEyes, it doesn't have to be something people in the scene would recognize but just something that means something to each of you. Etsy is a great place to get simple custom jewelery made fairly cheaply. If you can't find something you like most people on there are happy to make you something. I have also found that my local jeweler (well one of them) has always been fantastic about helping me with custom things and happy to help me design things.

 

[Pandorica]

We have military style dogtags. You can get them on eBay for next to nothing. Mine state that I'm his property and have the date I became his. His state that he owns my ass. You can have anything you like stamped onto them and be as explicit or circumspect as you like about the D/s side of things. They also come with rubber silencers, so I can wear them under my office clothes for work without attracting attention or sounding like an errant windchime.

Another option is to get a piece of regular jewellery engraved with something that's significant to your D/s relationship, such as the date you collared her.

 

[Bette_coquette]

We also have dog tags. His says, "Serving Bette since 2010" and he wears it all the time around his neck. Mine simply has some meaningful initials and I have it on my keychain.

 

[Kallik]

Indeed, We have thought about this. What we were wondering if there was a website dedicated to jewelry or accessories for a D/s lifestyle. I haven't heard of Etsy we will take a look there.

We both know it must mean something to us and we don't truly care if we can't find something that others will recognize we were just mainly looking for something that you don't see everyday that is still acceptable out in the world that most wouldn't think twice about except wow that was a little different.

I've already gotten her a nice necklace that she wears frequently. Just looking for something different I suppose.

But thank you for suggestions.

 

[dexwebster]

I really haven't been a fan of items specifically sold as 'D/s jewelry'. I second the rec for etsy for unique pieces, and I'm also a big fan of things like this black titanium cable. It's completely plain and vanilla, but also has a slightly industrial/heavy duty look that seems fitting for a collar.

 

[wicked woman]

Don't know where you're located, but this jeweller has received many recommendations.

http://www.fetjeweller.com/

 

[Cockring]

Stockroom have some pretty good sub jewlery, google 'em!

 

[CandiCame]

I really like that dogtag idea.

 

[Goodgirl4him]

Stockroom have some pretty good sub jewlery, google 'em!

Stockroom is great for lots of accessories, but most are pretty obvious. Hehe but I love to shop here. Its what I was going to recommend.

 

[lne_iii]

I like the BDSM symbol.

Most people do not know what it is but I see it around on people, I grin a little when I do.

 

[MasterandSir]

My sub and I have hunted for quite sometime online and wherever we could find niche shops and things like that for jewelery and other accessories that she could wear out in the vanilla world and most wouldn't know the difference but those who were also indulging in our world would mostly know.

I have found and really liked the bracelet with a length of chain that hooks onto a ring, I just have no idea whats it called we happen to see it in Sleeping Tiger Imports. But we didn't get it because we were unable to get the length of chain to detach from the ring without breaking it and then we wouldn't be able to reattach it anyway. I believe she wants it to hook to her wedding ring.

I've been looking for things that look like collars but to the untrained eye wouldn't think twice.

We have looked around saw a few things that piqued our interest but I was wondering if any of you have any suggestions on a website that sort of tailors to this or possibly where you might have gone to get your unassuming submissive jewelery.

I am hoping someone else has had our problem and solved it without having to go and get it custom made like we had to do with her collar.

Thank you.

I've always been a fan of handmade and custom jewelery but expense can be an issue sometimes when it is custom made. I'd recommend Etsy for an inexpensive custom solution, many of the people on there are willing to price out what you want and fabricate it if the price is good for both of you or you could always poke around ebay, antique jewelery while quite nice can be well priced from things like estate sales.

 

[cfuhrer]

I like the BDSM symbol.

Most people do not know what it is but I see it around on people, I grin a little when I do.

Didn't know we had a symbol!
Is it the ying_yang looking thing with a little summthin' extra?

Kybele, here on Lit, makes fetish jewelry. She has some great pebbles with fingerprints.
http://forum.literotica.com/member.php?u=927417

 

[Wizard]

I really haven't been a fan of items specifically sold as 'D/s jewelry'. I second the rec for etsy for unique pieces, and I'm also a big fan of things like this black titanium cable. It's completely plain and vanilla, but also has a slightly industrial/heavy duty look that seems fitting for a collar.

Fantasic, I love this, thanks for sharing!

 

[taniarice]

Jewellery...

The bracelet-ring thing is also a really common piece of indian jewellery (I have a fair few) - I think they are called Hath Panjas or Panjas. I have two sets for dance performances, each with five rings that hook onto a chain that is then attatched to another chain around the wrist - can't remember where I got it from, but uber fashionable a couple of years ago so should be available somewhere on the net!

 

[emipet]

If I go out in public I have three items significant of my collaring to Mistress. One is a chain with a gold padlock I wear around my waist. The lock is really small, like a toy, but jewelry quality gold.

Also I have a choker of velvet with Mistress's portrait in the cameo. I dunno where She got it made but She told me She had it done for Her.

The last piece is my piercing on my clit, but no one gets to see that unless W/we go somewhere fun or at home.

 

[where]

Didn't know we had a symbol!
Is it the ying_yang looking thing with a little summthin' extra?

Kybele, here on Lit, makes fetish jewelry. She has some great pebbles with fingerprints.
http://forum.literotica.com/member.php?u=927417

thanks for the mention!

the BDSM symbols are actually derived from old celtic symbols, so don't necessarily mean that the wearer is 'one of us'.

For my part I wear a 5mm silver collar which padlocks shut and has various pebbles on it including one with a leash attachment on it with a dog tag the reverse of which says "Sir's darling slut". Despite being pretty substantial with all the fingerprint pebbles and stuff, no one has ever ever commented on it beyond the odd person saying they thought it was pretty. One of my work colleagues bought a bangle off me and asked to see my web site. It was only then that she knew there was any significance to my collar.

Basically people are pretty much oblivious to collars and other forms of jewellery like cuffs and symbols unless they are actually in the 'scene'. As well as Etsy, there are a whole load of collar makers and kinky metalsmiths on fetlife working in stuff from vegan leather and paracord right up to stainless steel and gold.

I think it's a bit of a myth that you can get custom stuff cheap though. I charge very little for my labour and people still baulk at my prices.

 

[Lancecastor]

I was looking at the 3 items you have on your Esty site and the prices are outrageous.

You're priced at least 3 times the going rate for similar items in North America.

 

[Noira]

You're priced at least 3 times the going rate for similar items in North America.

It's true.

North Americans gravely undercharge for their time out of desperation to make sales.

When you make and sell jewelry, you should be getting AT LEAST 1) double the cost of materials, preferably triple to make a decent profit 2) plus the amount you're worth "per hour" to make that piece 3) plus consideration for "large-scale incurred costs" such as a sewing machine to make clothing, because that also ultimately should be recouped in cost rather than just barely making back the cost of supplies.

A necklace that took an hour to make and the supplies cost ten dollars should be sold for thirty-forty dollars, for example. Your average North American jeweler, however, in the undercutting desperation to make sales, will likely charge fifteen-twenty dollars, creating an artificial notion of what fair market value and fair trade for what you're getting actually is. Now, if I put three beads on a wire and hook it to an earwire, it probably won't take me fifteen minutes to make a pair of earrings and the supplies probably only cost a couple of bucks from Walmart, at that. I figure my time's worth around twenty dollars an hour, so I can sell those earrings for 5-7 dollars and profit.

You can't buy sterling silver and the supplies to make castings from Walmart. Nor can you buy silver metal clay and a kiln from Walmart (which is what I would be using if I was going to make fingerprinted stones, but I suppose one could also use wax).

Right now, silver is 31 dollars per ounce. That's not big. I believe that's the size of a silver dollar?

So, no. They're not overpriced. Americans are just undercharging themselves for the value of their time and materials and creating an impossible market value where artisans don't make a significant enough profit to support themselves and their work, OR using inferior materials.

But yes, you can get custom work done cheap. Make an Alchemy request and SOMEONE with a stash of crafting materials and a desperate urge to make a sale (probably young, and from the States) will undercut the artisans who charge legitimate amounts for their time, for those who want cheap and want it now. Or, alternatively, you can find people who make decent vanilla work in your line of interests (price and style, as it were) and make a custom item request. The worst they can say is no.

Oops, my other side is showing. Sorry about that. (puts back on the kinkster face) In other news, this thread inspired me to start working on a series of kinky pearl "it looks like a necklace BUT" series. Still working out the, ahem, kinks, but I'm trying to make "converts into kinky item" pearl jewelry. It'll be pretty awesome, though I may have gotten distracted by making chain handcuffs for my own use. I will post finals in the crafty thread once I actually get finished results.

(Can I just add that I love the silver pebbles. While fingerprints wouldn't be for me, they just look great!)

 

[where]

It's true.

North Americans gravely undercharge for their time out of desperation to make sales.

When you make and sell jewelry, you should be getting AT LEAST 1) double the cost of materials, preferably triple to make a decent profit 2) plus the amount you're worth "per hour" to make that piece 3) plus consideration for "large-scale incurred costs" such as a sewing machine to make clothing, because that also ultimately should be recouped in cost rather than just barely making back the cost of supplies.

A necklace that took an hour to make and the supplies cost ten dollars should be sold for thirty-forty dollars, for example. Your average North American jeweler, however, in the undercutting desperation to make sales, will likely charge fifteen-twenty dollars, creating an artificial notion of what fair market value and fair trade for what you're getting actually is. Now, if I put three beads on a wire and hook it to an earwire, it probably won't take me fifteen minutes to make a pair of earrings and the supplies probably only cost a couple of bucks from Walmart, at that. I figure my time's worth around twenty dollars an hour, so I can sell those earrings for 5-7 dollars and profit.

You can't buy sterling silver and the supplies to make castings from Walmart. Nor can you buy silver metal clay and a kiln from Walmart (which is what I would be using if I was going to make fingerprinted stones, but I suppose one could also use wax).

Right now, silver is 31 dollars per ounce. That's not big. I believe that's the size of a silver dollar?

So, no. They're not overpriced. Americans are just undercharging themselves for the value of their time and materials and creating an impossible market value where artisans don't make a significant enough profit to support themselves and their work, OR using inferior materials.

But yes, you can get custom work done cheap. Make an Alchemy request and SOMEONE with a stash of crafting materials and a desperate urge to make a sale (probably young, and from the States) will undercut the artisans who charge legitimate amounts for their time, for those who want cheap and want it now. Or, alternatively, you can find people who make decent vanilla work in your line of interests (price and style, as it were) and make a custom item request. The worst they can say is no.

Oops, my other side is showing. Sorry about that. (puts back on the kinkster face) In other news, this thread inspired me to start working on a series of kinky pearl "it looks like a necklace BUT" series. Still working out the, ahem, kinks, but I'm trying to make "converts into kinky item" pearl jewelry. It'll be pretty awesome, though I may have gotten distracted by making chain handcuffs for my own use. I will post finals in the crafty thread once I actually get finished results.

(Can I just add that I love the silver pebbles. While fingerprints wouldn't be for me, they just look great!)

lank is just trying to goad me into giving him attention, pay no head, but you are right, craftspeople seriously undercharge for their work. With the fabrication, and polishing, my collars take a couple of days to make plus there is £25 hallmarking costs and postage on top.

I'm interested in your kinky pearl stuff. What i really love is the idea of pervy stuff worn in plain site though I don't let people fiddle with my 'love bead' lariat when I wear it. well not unless they realise where it's been first.

The fingerprint pebbles are etched on btw. Given the weight I realise I'm really undercharging. thise crappy mass produced TINY pandora beads are £30!

 

[monicalynne68]

I really haven't been a fan of items specifically sold as 'D/s jewelry'. I second the rec for etsy for unique pieces, and I'm also a big fan of things like this black titanium cable. It's completely plain and vanilla, but also has a slightly industrial/heavy duty look that seems fitting for a collar.

mmmmm I like these. They are very cool!

 

[MichaelWest]

I had a custon made necklace in her favorite colors fabricated by a local artist. It is chainmail style and anodized aluminum so its light and virtually indestructible. The significant component is the lock. I give one every year. She has heart shaped ones, rhinestones ones and this year a Tiffany Lock (sold as a keychain). To most people its just a stylish artsy necklace and locket. Next year I have plans to get a crystal covered one since she loves diamonds.