Kiss and Tell

[YourCaptor]

Everyone seems different on this.

I know people that while go on hours and hours recalling every time they have ever whipped out their dick. Get em drunk, pray they pass out.

Then I know people that you kind of push a bit, so how did last night go, were did you end up sleeping, what happened, and then they passively acknowledge they got some.

One of my best buds, this guy gets mad when I ask how things are going. Which is funny too cause I’m the one he calls to cover him if he happens to abandon a few responsibilities some nights.

Girls tend to be more detailed, you ask them and most tend to reply with some sex acts.

Other girls you’ll never get anything out of, the mere direction of such a conversation is enough to shut them down.

Anyway, I could go on.

So what’s your policy, and can you rationalize why?

 

[confusedtears]

Totally depends who it is I'm talking to.

Clearly my mother knows not a lot!
My friends might know some, I will volunteer if an open conversation is in progress.
And my close friends will know all the gory details, including any worries, hopes, fears etc.

I stagger what I tell to whom for fear of embarrassment, fear of them telling others, and I also ask advice of people whose opinions I trust very much.

 

[Chiara_searches]

For some reason, not that it was purposeful, none of my friends or family really discuss sex together.

Well, that's not true. I have one cousin that discussed her sex life with me in detail...but it was during the year I chose to be celibate so I didn't have anything to share with her. Now I've learned she is a sex addict, so I won't be discussing my current escapades with her.

I also don't disclose details even here or in my blog, although I hint at getting some "action." This is because I feel like my sexual activities with my boyfriend are a form of private communication, of an intimacy just between him and me. It would violate that intimacy to detail every last act even though he doesn't know Lit or my blog exist.

When I was much younger (i.e. nearly half my current age), I still didn't discuss details with friends. I didn't want to compare notes because what I did, I enjoyed. I didn't want to be told, through word or body language, that what I did was wrong or I did it in the wrong way. So I may have said "yeah, I got laid" but I didn't tell the tales.

 

[the captians wench]

*shrug*

I veiw sex like anything else I do to survive. I have no problem telling you all what I had for dinner, or how I made it, I aply the same logic to sex.

And for most people I'm the same way. My mom and I share a very different kind of relationship than any other mother/daughter I've met. She knows some very intimate details, including meeting "my couple" when the time came.

I don't really have a lot of friends, the ones I do have, I seem to have met from here!

Now, co-workers tend to get a toned down version of things, but that's mostly because I struggle with the whole "being the boss" thing anyway, so I have to separate friends and employees.

 

[Etoile]

I have a blog where I put all that stuff. That's my outlet.

 

[shewantsmore]

I dont mind discussing anything or telling the truth as i know my family or relations dont go on this site

 

[wicked woman]

I have no problem discussing sex in a general sense, but don't get specific unless it's with a lover. I tend to be a private person. I don't tell people how much I make either.

 

[YourCaptor]

I have a blog where I put all that stuff. That's my outlet.

Anonymous?

I dont mind discussing anything or telling the truth as i know my family or relations dont go on this site

What about off site?

 

[YourCaptor]

I'll answer.

My good friends, I won't monologue, but after a really good time I can't help but brag a bit out her talents/assets.

Friends I'll only tell that I am involved with someone if its a serious thing. If not, it's a no comment type deal.

Then I got sex talk friends, mostly on the internet, who I'll talk details too. Hey you know I like sex and you gotta talk shop sometime. Partners names are not mentioned on the web though.

 

[marieR19]

Most of the people who hear any sort of details are here on Lit. I've got a few non-Lit friends that I can talk to openly about sex/bdsm, but not many, and only one IRL. That one, though, I do talk to her pretty openly about stuff.

Most of the people I know do know the basics, though.... "basics" as in "lesbian, submissive", and if I'm with anyone at the moment. I don't talk about it with those people though.

 

[Etoile]

Anonymous?

99.9% anonymous.

One person I'm friends with IRL knows - a kinky friend - but nobody else.

 

[HottieMama]

The most details I will tell, I post here on Lit, and even here I tend to discuss things in clinical vs. personal terms. I don't monologue. I simply can't. (This is why I SUCK at role play and phone sex.) Some things are "sacred" for me for lack of a better word, and too many details cheapens it for me.

Like someone said above me though, I don't tend to hide the basics....bi, swinger, power bottom...etc..

 

[cfuhrer]

I have no problem discussing sex in a general sense, but don't get specific unless it's with a lover. I tend to be a private person. I don't tell people how much I make either.

Chalk another one up for this sentiment, in total.

 

[shewantsmore]

I dont go on and on about what i do or when,if people ask then im happy to say but others wise i keep thing short and sweet

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I always get uncomfortable when I'm with friends etc and the conversation turns to sex. Not because sex embarrasses me, but because I have no idea what to share.

There's a few friends who I'll share details of certain acts with, but never venture into the edge play or anything like that, and I keep the dynamics to myself. I can't imagine reactions to things like 'well, I was tired and didn't feel like it, so he rolled me on my side, used a bit of spit for lube and said I could go to sleep if I felt like it while he fucked me, and that was really hot' would be agreeable.

 

[midwestyankee]

I find that celibacy makes this question rather moot.

 

[cfuhrer]

I find that celibacy makes this question rather moot.

Not moot. Just... Altered.
Do you share your celebacy and to what degree with who?

 

[YourCaptor]

Not moot. Just... Altered.
Do you share your celebacy and to what degree with who?

Ha ha, you are cruel. Shame!

 

[kiwi_submissive]

My mother has told me numerous times that I am a prude as I refuse to discuss sex with her. I have been known to start singing Mary had a Little Lamb to drown out her voice.

 

[midwestyankee]

Not moot. Just... Altered.
Do you share your celebacy and to what degree with who?

Where does it say that I'm celibate? I merely made an observation that could apply to anyone.

 

[cfuhrer]

I merely made an observation that could apply to anyone.

And I merely posed a question that could apply to anyone.

 

[midwestyankee]

And I merely posed a question that could apply to anyone.

That's an interesting interpretation. How often do you use the word "you" to refer to anyone in general, particularly with a quoted post?

Do you share your celebacy and to what degree with who?

 

[cfuhrer]

That's an interesting interpretation. How often do you use the word "you" to refer to anyone in general, particularly with a quoted post?

Frequently, when a blanket statement or question is intended. I suppose I could have used "does everyone" or "do y'all" but I try not to let the drawl come out in my written work.

And to quote the OP

"So what’s your policy, and can you rationalize why?"
And I do believe those are blanket "you's" as well.

 

[midwestyankee]

Frequently, when a blanket statement or question is intended. I suppose I could have used "does everyone" or "do y'all" but I try not to let the drawl come out in my written work.

And to quote the OP

"So what’s your policy, and can you rationalize why?"
And I do believe those are blanket "you's" as well.

Then I apologize for having the ego to believe that when you quoted my post and then used "you" that you were addressing me directly, and only me. Of course, that seems to be the general protocol around here so I hope you can understand my confusion.

 

[YourCaptor]

My mother has told me numerous times that I am a prude as I refuse to discuss sex with her. I have been known to start singing Mary had a Little Lamb to drown out her voice.

If I was gonna fuck a girl, and we was talking about it, and she did that. I don't know if that would be hot or not. Hmmmm...