what would you do that you wouldn't with husband?

[Petetheman]

Wives/gfs I want to know what sex act you would do with another that you do not or would not do with your husband. Albeit in fantasy or real life. Or with him there or in private. For instance my wife is NOT into anal or facials...but i would love to see her channel her inner slut and see her do this with another given the opportunity.
This question may be moot given the ladies of lit and what i have read so far!!!!

 

[LindsayRae]

Wives/gfs I want to know what sex act you would do with another that you do not or would not do with your husband. Albeit in fantasy or real life.

Nothing. There is nothing that I would do sexually that I would not do with my fiancé. "Not even in fantasy only."

I do not know the mindset of a cheater, so perhaps I cannot fathom the "why" and all, but I do wonder WHY someone would shut out their SO, sexually, if there is something that interests them.

You say that your wife does not like anal and will not give it to you. You are projecting your desires and wishes here of wanting to see her do it. That does not mean that she "secretly does desire anal but refuses to give it to you".

I guess what we really need is to have the cheaters come in and answer your question!!

 

[Carnevil9]

This question does make sense. Some people think of their SO as too pure and perfect for some of the nasty, defiling sex acts they crave, and would rather protect them from it. I doubt many Literotica people feel that way, but some do.

There is a great scene in "Analyze This" where the shrink is asking the mobster why he has a mistress: "Don't you have a good sex life with your wife?"

"Yeah, sure I do. But there are certain things, you know, a wife doesn't do."

"Can't your wife do those things too?"

"Hey! That's the mother of my children you're talking about!"

So yeah, I can see the psychological basis of the situation........Carney

 

[Fmature2play]

Much as I hate to admit this I was pretty much told that at the end of my marriage. After many many years of being married we divorced due to my ex's infidelity. One of the questions I asked that he actually answered straight forward was -why? What was I doing wrong or not at all to make him search for someone else? His answer was I simply was not erotic enough. It takes TWO to tango OP. I was not erotic enough? ?? I have dated more women than men since my divorce, have more fetishes and kinks than I really care to admit quite frankly. Have a part of me that craves being controlled and yet love the thought of being a bitch in thigh high boots. There are a few things I cannot imagine trying but that list is far shorter than what I WILL do for my lover. I was not erotic enough?? Problem with my ex was he was never comfortable enough to broach the subject with me and our sex life got so stale and predictable that it was sad really. But to reinforce my point. It takes TWO to tango.

 

[KarlMartinK]

Much as I hate to admit this I was pretty much told that at the end of my marriage. After many many years of being married we divorced due to my ex's infidelity. One of the questions I asked that he actually answered straight forward was -why? What was I doing wrong or not at all to make him search for someone else? His answer was I simply was not erotic enough. It takes TWO to tango OP. I was not erotic enough? ?? I have dated more women than men since my divorce, have more fetishes and kinks than I really care to admit quite frankly. Have a part of me that craves being controlled and yet love the thought of being a bitch in thigh high boots. There are a few things I cannot imagine trying but that list is far shorter than what I WILL do for my lover. I was not erotic enough?? Problem with my ex was he was never comfortable enough to broach the subject with me and our sex life got so stale and predictable that it was sad really. But to reinforce my point. It takes TWO to tango.

It sounds like he was looking at you like you were the problem and found it easy to find what he was looking for in someone else. I think that was the problem with my ex, too. After a while, I was just the wrong person.

 

[Kat73]

I have done most everything with my husband. He knows my kinks and my fantasies.

That being said, I would like to be Dominated by someone, just once, to see what it is like. That is a roll I do not want my husband to do because we are pretty much equals in all areas of our marriage and it would seem weird to both of us.

(BTW...I have someone in mind...)

 

[Petetheman]

Wow...such serious replies. Was just hoping for some sexy stories
Thanks kat for getting it and offering some ideas.

 

[mrtomthumb]

I think this is a more interesting idea than it is being given credit for..

there are so many nuances in a relationship that lead to lack of comfort or willingness to share.

I feel that most women have a particular something that really sets them off and if you are observant enough to find it it can really pay off.

I find in almost all my relationships that lasted past the initial crush that without exception (in my personal experience) the less interested I acted the more sex I had..

it is too bad really that it is so predictable like that..

even in some of the threads that I read from men that talk about wanting to have more sex or better sex there seems to be a common theme..

they have been with the woman for a long time and are always being the understanding pursuer..

I feel most women want the man to know when and how they want it ...if they only knew how hard that can be to figure out for us stupid males.

also sometimes people just don't click sexually.

I hope that some women can make some honest confessions about those things that they want but don't share..

I could see a woman that wanted to be taken and used by a black man..(if she was white and married to a white man)...not knowing if she could share that easily with their man..

or being gang banged..

or all kinds of things really.

to those that that spoke and have that you should feel very lucky.

 

[KarlMartinK]

I can see how some women might not admit some things to the man they're with.

I would also consider that there might be some reluctance one one partner's part because he/she wouldn't want the other person to say, "If you can do that, why can't I do this?"

My girlfriend and I talk about these things and she's really open and understanding, which really helps. She mentions something the might like to try and then frames it like it's something that sounds good, but she doesn't know if she could go through with it, which is understandable. Some things are better to just talk about and act out than to actually do.

 

[LindsayRae]

Wow...such serious replies. Was just hoping for some sexy stories
Thanks kat for getting it and offering some ideas.

Sorry my answer wasn't sexy. I thought you wanted answers. Period. Forgive me for not reading your mind.

 

[ctgirl1]

If there's something I want but won't do it with my SO, then he obviously isn't the one I should be with.

For some, fantasies are one thing and some fantasies will stay fantasies. Men and women have fantasies but know that they could never actually do those acts with anyone.
But there are other things that people will try and they should always feel comfortable with their SO to try those acts.

But, there are those relationships where people get off on having multiple partners. Hopefully, all people involved are of the same mind.

I, personally, would never keep to myself what I like and what I don't like in a relationship and sex. I've been there and done that. It just dooms the relationship to failure.

 

[LindsayRae]

If there's something I want but won't do it with my SO, then he obviously isn't the one I should be with.

But there are other things that people will try and they should always feel comfortable with their SO to try those acts.

Exactly.

There are things that I think are "sexy in theory" (like having a bukkake or sucking at a glory hole), but I wouldn't even go as far as to say that I fantasize about them. They do not consume my mind and they're not "all I can think about". They are also things that I know I will never do in my life. Ever.

Therefore, things I have fantasized about I have turned into reality at some point in my life. I am not afraid or ashamed to share these things with my man. Nor will I ever cheat on him.

The above quoted parts were very well said.

 

[pcarp]

I was not erotic enough? ?? I have dated more women than men since my divorce, have more fetishes and kinks than I really care to admit quite frankly. Have a part of me that craves being controlled and yet love the thought of being a bitch in thigh high boots. There are a few things I cannot imagine trying but that list is far shorter than what I WILL do for my lover. I was not erotic enough?? Problem with my ex was he was never comfortable enough to broach the subject with me and our sex life got so stale and predictable that it was sad really.

Well if you believe that your sex life grew "stale and predictable" then did you bother to broach these desires, "fetishes and kinks" with him? As you said, it takes two to tango. Obviously he found someone that wanted to tango. For whatever reason it would appear that neither of you bothered to speak to the other. My ex-wife was not as open minded as you claim you are. I spoke to her about adding some spice to our sex life....something other than "I'm on top, you're on bottom". I asked for her ideas, of which she claimed to have none, nor did she wish to indulge any of mine.
For years, I was the cheater. An ex of mine invited me into her sex life, of which her husband was aware of and approved of. (yes I know him, he knows me and he knows of what his wife and I do.) I finally divorced my wife and am looking for a new g/f who is more openminded.
The ex that I meet with does many things with me that her husband is not into. I am that release for her. While he isn't game, I am. It seems to me that some of you women need to loosen up and answer the question more from a fantasy aspect and not a cheater aspect. I find it hard to believe that none of you have a fantasy that your husband would not be willing to indulge, whether it was group sex, m-m bisexuality, fem dom or whatever.

Also, there are some people who just can not imagine seeing certain people doing things they consider "kinky", as Carnevil9 stated. And the mother of their children could qualify. I mean, how many of us can really invision dad on his knees with mom behind him wearing a strapon? But we all know that somewhere, someone has parents that were doing it long before we even knew what a strapon was.

 

[ctgirl1]

Well if you believe that your sex life grew "stale and predictable" then did you bother to broach these desires, "fetishes and kinks" with him? As you said, it takes two to tango. Obviously he found someone that wanted to tango. For whatever reason it would appear that neither of you bothered to speak to the other. My ex-wife was not as open minded as you claim you are. I spoke to her about adding some spice to our sex life....something other than "I'm on top, you're on bottom". I asked for her ideas, of which she claimed to have none, nor did she wish to indulge any of mine.
For years, I was the cheater. An ex of mine invited me into her sex life, of which her husband was aware of and approved of. (yes I know him, he knows me and he knows of what his wife and I do.) I finally divorced my wife and am looking for a new g/f who is more openminded.
The ex that I meet with does many things with me that her husband is not into. I am that release for her. While he isn't game, I am. It seems to me that some of you women need to loosen up and answer the question more from a fantasy aspect and not a cheater aspect. I find it hard to believe that none of you have a fantasy that your husband would not be willing to indulge, whether it was group sex, m-m bisexuality, fem dom or whatever.

Also, there are some people who just can not imagine seeing certain people doing things they consider "kinky", as Carnevil9 stated. And the mother of their children could qualify. I mean, how many of us can really invision dad on his knees with mom behind him wearing a strapon? But we all know that somewhere, someone has parents that were doing it long before we even knew what a strapon was.

When a couple decide together that allowing someone else into the relationship just for whatever reasons, that isn't considered cheating. If only one person of the couple is having sex with other person without their SO knowing about it and OKing it, then that would be cheating.

I'm very open minded when it comes to other people having sex. To me, as long as everyone is of age, everything is consensual and no real harm is being done, pretty much anything goes.

 

[gregy70]

My wife use to have a long time crush on a guy from back before we ever meet. As we got more comfortable with each other she ended up telling me if she ever had a chance she would fuck him & or suck his cock. She dosn't swallow & dosn't swallow me .I asked would you swallow him & she said YES! I asked why & she said she would want it to be something he never forgot.
She also told me she would fuck him bareback & would let him cum in her. At the time she wasn't on the pill & even I wasn't allowed to come in her.
She was serious as hell & told me if she was gonna fuck him it didn't matter if I wanted to let her or not.

 

[sunandshadow]

I find it hard to believe that none of you have a fantasy that your husband would not be willing to indulge, whether it was group sex, m-m bisexuality, fem dom or whatever.

The way the question in the original post is phrased, though, is asking about things a person would not want to do with their spouse (but would want to do with someone else) not things the spouse does not want to do with the person.

Me, I can see how I might not want from a specific person something that clashed with my mental image of that person/why I thought that person was sexy. Like, if I was attracted to one guy because he seemed innocent and nice, I might not want to do a roleplay with him where he would be a villain. He'd probably be really bad at being a villain, which wouldn't be sexy, but if he was actually good at being a villain it would be disconcerting because it would change my whole impression of him.

 

[LindsayRae]

The way the question in the original post is phrased, though, is asking about things a person would not want to do with their spouse (but would want to do with someone else) not things the spouse does not want to do with the person.

Thank you. I was starting to wonder if I was the only one who realized that!

 

[Fmature2play]

Well if you believe that your sex life grew "stale and predictable" then did you bother to broach these desires, "fetishes and kinks" with him? As you said, it takes two to tango. Obviously he found someone that wanted to tango. For whatever reason it would appear that neither of you bothered to speak to the other.

Talk about it? I did everything except jump out of a cake naked in the front yard. I would have done anything just about for and with him. I never once even considered going outside my marriage tho. Some men look at their wives as the mother of their children and cannot or will not see us as anything else it seems no matter what we try. The girl at the office sometimes has more appeal and if that happens....so be it. It turned out not to be the end but rather the beginning for me. My only problem is why do men feel or think like this? Why NOT look at your wife with lust just because she is the mom of the house? dunno. As for the remark "obviously he found someone that wanted to tango" implying I was unwilling.......kiss my ass.

 

[mrtomthumb]

Talk about it? I did everything except jump out of a cake naked in the front yard. I would have done anything just about for and with him. I never once even considered going outside my marriage tho. Some men look at their wives as the mother of their children and cannot or will not see us as anything else it seems no matter what we try. The girl at the office sometimes has more appeal and if that happens....so be it. It turned out not to be the end but rather the beginning for me. My only problem is why do men feel or think like this? Why NOT look at your wife with lust just because she is the mom of the house? dunno. As for the remark "obviously he found someone that wanted to tango" implying I was unwilling.......kiss my ass.

I volunteer to kiss your ass...

maybe more than the way you meant...

fyi this man has no problem with having hot sex with the wife..

just more would be nice...

compared to what allot of people deal with I cannot complain.

but I still do.

 

[Fmature2play]

*drops her underwear and bears her fanny*

 

[twister947]

*drops her underwear and bears her fanny*

::joins queue::

 

[Fmature2play]

are you teasing me??

 

[twister947]

are you teasing me??

Are you feeling teased?

 

[Fmature2play]

feeling a lot more than that

 

[twister947]

lol...you know what to do.