Does anyone wish they had a penis, but still like men?

[UltimateSwitch]

So i'm having some issues with this....I am wondering if any other females have similar issues...it's like i am two people. One is a Bisexual male, one is a bisexual female, one is dominate and one is submissive, and i don't know how to reconcile them all into one mind...

 

[Stella_Omega]

So i'm having some issues with this....I am wondering if any other females have similar issues...it's like i am two people. One is a Bisexual male, one is a bisexual female, one is dominate and one is submissive, and i don't know how to reconcile them all into one mind...

nearly every morning since I was about... say twelve-- I've woken up grabbing for the morning wood that does not exist. I detest hearing the word "She" or "her" when someone is talking about me-- but i don't exactly have a substitute. I don't feel male. I feel profoundly un male, in fact, missing a portion of my anatomy as I am.

Although I am bisexual still, I am less and less comfortable being intimate with men.

At this time I call myself a "bisexual butch dyke with gender issues."

(you misspelled "dominant")

 

[UltimateSwitch]

yeah Bisexual Femme dyke with gender identity issues....and I actually did not just make that up, I have always said it

 

[gagginforit]

and i don't know how to reconcile them all into one mind...

You could try the vulcan meditation technique of wh'ltri.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

You could try the vulcan meditation technique of wh'ltri.

That would require more concentration then i have...

 

[gagginforit]

That would require more concentration then i have...

Well you could take the approach that I do to come to terms with aspects of my sexuality that I wasn't always comfortable with, and accept that people are complicated beings, and our sexuality if often the most complex aspect of us. In other words just accept yourself for the way you are and not try to understand it or find reason in it.

It takes a while. I'm forty one now and I'm only just coming to terms with myself.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

I'm trying very hard. But it is difficult to be myself when i have no idea who i am

 

[danigrl84]

I'm a straight (mostly) female who has always wanted to know what it felt like to have a cock. I also would not want to be a male, I like being a woman, but I would love to know what it feels like to jerk off. ....

 

[UltimateSwitch]

See that i can agree with. but there are other things too. Sure it's partially the novelty of it...finding things I can stick it in LOL but then there is the part of me that feels as if i can never truely be happy unless I have one. then there is the part that remembers...Oh crap...I would probably end up in prison...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well you could take the approach that I do to come to terms with aspects of my sexuality that I wasn't always comfortable with, and accept that people are complicated beings, and our sexuality if often the most complex aspect of us. In other words just accept yourself for the way you are and not try to understand it or find reason in it.

It takes a while. I'm forty one now and I'm only just coming to terms with myself.

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. Always was.

My problem is that my body doesn't have the plumbing that would adequately express my sexuality. it's a slightly different problem.

And sometimes... imagination just doesn't cut it.

 

[TheLM]

Hermaphrodites have all the fun...

 

[UltimateSwitch]

Yeah, I feel the same way...I sometimes considered going through the process of getting an SRS, my therapist told me just to lie about my sexual inclinations and say I only liked women and stuff. But I also know...truthfully...If I was allowed a penis, I would not be a good person and I would not like myself. As a female i am submissive and gentle, but as a male i would be the opposite....

 

[Naughty_Misty]

So i'm having some issues with this....I am wondering if any other females have similar issues...it's like i am two people. One is a Bisexual male, one is a bisexual female, one is dominate and one is submissive, and i don't know how to reconcile them all into one mind...

Every time I am on a long road trip and end up 50 miles away from the next rest area I wish I were a guy. It would make a "middle of nowhere. stop on the side of the highway with just enough traffic passing that I can't squat and pee" break far more doable.

A part of me though would be afraid to have a penis. I have a morbid fascination with them. I like touching them, holding them, sucking them, stroking them, watching them get stroked, and watching them expel cum.

If I had one of my own I'm afraid I'd spend waaaaaaaay too much time playing time with it to get anything else done. Dishes would stack up, laundry would go undone, dinner would go uncooked and bills would go unpaid.

Having said all of that - I'd still love to have one. Just for a day... *sigh*

 

[UltimateSwitch]

Every time I am on a long road trip and end up 50 miles away from the next rest area I wish I were a guy. It would make a "middle of nowhere. stop on the side of the highway with just enough traffic passing that I can't squat and pee" break far more doable.

A part of me though would be afraid to have a penis. I have a morbid fascination with them. I like touching them, holding them, sucking them, stroking them, watching them get stroked, and watching them expel cum.

If I had one of my own I'm afraid I'd spend waaaaaaaay too much time playing time with it to get anything else done. Dishes would stack up, laundry would go undone, dinner would go uncooked and bills would go unpaid.

Having said all of that - I'd still love to have one. Just for a day... *sigh*

I have the same wish...and the same fear...though there is more to it then that..not just playing with myself LOL I'm afraid i would find anything i could to stick it in...even if that "thing" didn't particularly want it....

 

[Boundlife]

Yeah, I feel the same way...I sometimes considered going through the process of getting an SRS, my therapist told me just to lie about my sexual inclinations and say I only liked women and stuff. But I also know...truthfully...If I was allowed a penis, I would not be a good person and I would not like myself. As a female i am submissive and gentle, but as a male i would be the opposite....

I don't understand. If you had a penis, it would change your basic personality to someone you wouldn't like
This sounds bigger than we can see here

 

[UltimateSwitch]

I don't understand. If you had a penis, it would change your basic personality to someone you wouldn't like
This sounds bigger than we can see here

I really don't know how to explain it...but i have very little will power..as a female i can't act out my fantasies, but I am afraid if i were male I wouldnt be able to not...

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

So i'm having some issues with this....I am wondering if any other females have similar issues...it's like i am two people. One is a Bisexual male, one is a bisexual female, one is dominate and one is submissive, and i don't know how to reconcile them all into one mind...

Penis envy.... hmmmmm. Realistically, there is no answer to your question. If by magic you could be given a penis for a single day, your testosterone levels would be considerably higher, and because your hormone levels would be different, you would see life very differently. Our hormone levels is what makes men think like men, and women think like women.

I realize this sounds like double-speak, but if you were given a penis, you would become a man and because you were a man, you would be confused as to what it would be like to be a woman. In other words, you would have the same conflicting emotions, only in a mirror image.

Everyone has conflicting emotions, (even men), so you do what everyone else does: chose who you want to be, and that is the direction you go in life.

There are quandaries in life to which there is no answer.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

In other words, if you had a penis, but still liked men, you would be a gay male, and the question that puzzles you so now, would seem irrelevant.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

In other words, if you had a penis, but still liked men, you would be a gay male, and the question that puzzles you so now, would seem irrelevant.

I don't have any questions, I don't want to change myself. I just was wondering if anyone had any advice on how I could go about accepting myself. And find someone who understands how I feel.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yeah, I feel the same way...I sometimes considered going through the process of getting an SRS, my therapist told me just to lie about my sexual inclinations and say I only liked women and stuff. But I also know...truthfully...If I was allowed a penis, I would not be a good person and I would not like myself. As a female i am submissive and gentle, but as a male i would be the opposite....

I think I'd be just about the same as a man. As a woman I seem queer and butch-- as a man I would seem queer and femmy. My male role models are not especially macho or aggressive. Johnny Depp, not Sylvester Stallone.

I don't have any questions, I don't want to change myself. I just was wondering if anyone had any advice on how I could go about accepting myself. And find someone who understands how I feel.

Well that would be me... and a few other folk here and there...

I would suggest taking a small dose of testosterone, if you can talk your doctor into it. It does quite your mind-- that sense of things that should match but don't.And it doesn't have to be so much as would start obvious physical changes. I'm about to finally ask my doctor about it.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

I think I'd be just about the same as a man. As a woman I seem queer and butch-- as a man I would seem queer and femmy. My male role models are not especially macho or aggressive. Johnny Depp, not Sylvester Stallone.


Well that would be me... and a few other folk here and there...

I would suggest taking a small dose of testosterone, if you can talk your doctor into it. It does quite your mind-- that sense of things that should match but don't.And it doesn't have to be so much as would start obvious physical changes. I'm about to finally ask my doctor about it.

Well I would consider it...but I love my fiance, and he is very much a straight male. If it ever comes down to a point that I would not have him...I might consider it, but I am honestly afraid of myself sometimes...The man...who is in my head...is not a nice person...Though i will admit he is queer and femmy...He's just also very dominate...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well I would consider it...but I love my fiance, and he is very much a straight male. If it ever comes down to a point that I would not have him...I might consider it, but I am honestly afraid of myself sometimes...The man...who is in my head...is not a nice person...Though i will admit he is queer and femmy...He's just also very dominate...

Have we spoken about the many subtle differences between dominant/submissive, and top/bottom?

I suggest that the man inside your head is you. Those desires are NOT only "if you were male." You have them already, regardless of your body.


I find that so interesting, and you're not the only woman who does it-- somehow, being male would allow them to fuck three (other men) in the same night, indulge in rough sex, talk rude, whatever it is, and women don't do that. Of course in those fantasies, they can come three times in one night, too-- or more. And of course, it IS a woman wanting to do that "if she were a man."

Work it out! I say. That's not part of the missing penis issue.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

Have we spoken about the many subtle differences between dom/sub, and top/bottom?

I suggest that the man inside your head is you. Those desires are NOT only "if you were male." You have them already, regardless of your body.


I find that so interesting, and you're not the only woman who does it-- somehow, being male would allow them to fuck three (other men) in the same night, indulge in rough sex, talk rude, whatever it is, and women don't do that. Of course in those fantasies, they can come three times in one night, too-- or more. And of course, it IS a woman wanting to do that "if she were a man."

Do it anyway! I say. That's not part of the missing penis issue.

Ok...i have this whole...submissive thing...I think a womans place sexually is to be dominated, and a males is to dominate. its just in my head. Ive tried being dominate, but I can't get from the teasing torturing punishing and rewarding part to the...getting fucked part. And I don't enjoy strap ons, if I'm gunna have sex i better be getting physical pleasure out of it

 

[Stella_Omega]

Ok...i have this whole...submissive thing...I think a womans place sexually is to be dominated, and a males is to dominate. its just in my head. Ive tried being dominate, but I can't get from the teasing torturing punishing and rewarding part to the...getting fucked part. And I don't enjoy strap ons, if I'm gunna have sex i better be getting physical pleasure out of it

Ah, well. That.

So, being penetrated is submitting? And you can't enjoy a good rogering and still be dominant? Try this; put a naked man in a kitchen chair, tie or handcuff his wrists to the back of it, and loop some rope around both his knees and the chair legs. Put some clamps on his nipples. Amazingly, most men will be hard as a rock, right then-- especially if they are masochists.

You can straddle his lap, facing him, and slide right down onto his cock. You'll feel him frantically trying to thrust while you pull on his clamped tits... Until he screams right into your open mouth.

Who's dominant in that scenario? So what if you moan and cream? It isn't like he's in any position to tell you not to.

 

[UltimateSwitch]

See the problem is i genuinely don't find the idea attractive. I like the idea of being tied down and used by a man (or a female honestly) but i don't really like the idea of doing it to someone...putting someone inside me against their will...doesn't do anything for me...The idea of sticking my "cock" in someone is a completely different story. I get off on both sides of it, but only in certain roles...the female in me doesn't like dominating. The male in me does. (and I know how to spell dominant I just spell dominate so often my fingers type it automatically)