Older man, younger woman...

[dirtyoldman36]

We hear about this all the time, but what would you do if you were actually presented with this situation? Well, that's where I'm at. I'm 36, and there is a particular 20 year old that wants to fuck me. Which is awesome, I'm excited. I'm also a bit concerned. This lady has experience with older men, and I have none with women her age. I would really like to chat with any male(or female) LIT member that has done this before. I'm curious to find out if there are any do's or dont's in this type of situation. Its important to me that we BOTH have a good time, and I'm hoping hearing some of your experiences will help me make that a reality. Feel free to reply here, or by PM. Thanks.

R

 

[LindsayRae]

Welcome to Lit. This thread sounds slightly more "ad"-like than a general fetish chat, unless you're asking people with age fetishes to come here to voice their opinions.

I am thirty-three (will be thirty-four at the end of this month) and my fiancé is fifty-nine (will be sixty next month). He hadn't been with a woman my age since he was my age, and our sex life is wonderful.

Sex is sex. It's either good or bad. Either "you're" good at it or "you're" not. (And I don't mean you specifically. I don't know you.) So, it shouldn't matter if there's an age gap between the two lovers or not. It won't make "you" a better lover to sleep with someone your own age versus one that is younger or whatever.

 

[dirtyoldman36]

Thanks for the reply...I didn't mean to make it sound like an "ad". I'm honestly interested in talking to someone who's done the "younger girl" thing before. I just want to pick someone's brain about the experience. Maybe that better summarizes it.

Welcome to Lit. This thread sounds slightly more "ad"-like than a general fetish chat, unless you're asking people with age fetishes to come here to voice their opinions.

I am thirty-three (will be thirty-four at the end of this month) and my fiancé is fifty-nine (will be sixty next month). He hadn't been with a woman my age since he was my age, and our sex life is wonderful.

Sex is sex. It's either good or bad. Either "you're" good at it or "you're" not. (And I don't mean you specifically. I don't know you.) So, it shouldn't matter if there's an age gap between the two lovers or not. It won't make "you" a better lover to sleep with someone your own age versus one that is younger or whatever.

 

[LindsayRae]

Thanks for the reply...I didn't mean to make it sound like an "ad". I'm honestly interested in talking to someone who's done the "younger girl" thing before. I just want to pick someone's brain about the experience. Maybe that better summarizes it.

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This new fetish board, as described by the owners, is a place to

Talk about whatever really gets you going...whatever you can't live without in your sex life!

Some people do have a fetish for the age gap.

I'm not sure what you'll receive for replies here. I just wanted to welcome you to this web site and, perhaps, open your eyes to the different boards here just in case.

 

[dirtyoldman36]

Well damn...maybe I should have done some homework 1st. I'll take a look around.

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This new fetish board, as described by the owners, is a place to

Some people do have a fetish for the age gap.

I'm not sure what you'll receive for replies here. I just wanted to welcome you to this web site and, perhaps, open your eyes to the different boards here just in case.

 

[SweetNatasha]

I'm not sure what the big deal is - she wants it, you do, so just do it. Forget about the age difference, treat her like a woman and have fun.

Or are you just boasting? Or looking for advice about bringing out the whole daddy thing? Leave the daddy thing out, just because she likes older guys doesn't mean she is into that stuff.

 

[rainbowbrite_87]

Well, being on the 20 year old side of things Im gonna have to say if the sex is good, the sex is good. But aside from the sex if you try to act like you know everything because you're older there's a good chance you'll piss her off or send her running

 

[GoodReasons]

Hahaha

Just take it as you are a lucky guy.

And make sure you do right by her.

It's not a big deal...

Fuck I'm into older men big time...
I like a guy who knows what he's doing.

That being said make sure you listen/pay attention to what she wants. Just because your experienced doesn't mean you know how to deal with her... She will like some things and other things she won't. It'll be a learning experience for both of you. Just like any couple.

You are both on equal grounds no matter what... that's what couples strive for... well... until you go into domination and whatnot but that's 'ifs', 'ands', 'buts', and 'laters'.

She will likely surprise you...

 

[NOBGE]

I wouldn't say I've got a fetish for younger women but I'm sort of in the same boat Lindsay is...except I'm the 56 yr old male with the 38 yr old lover. And yes, the sex is incredible.

The one thing I would be careful about with a 20 yr old...while she's of legal age to have sex, if you go to dinner, you can't buy her a glass of wine or a drink. She's under age. I'd be careful there.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

We hear about this all the time, but what would you do if you were actually presented with this situation? Well, that's where I'm at. I'm 36, and there is a particular 20 year old that wants to fuck me. Which is awesome, I'm excited. I'm also a bit concerned. This lady has experience with older men, and I have none with women her age. I would really like to chat with any male(or female) LIT member that has done this before. I'm curious to find out if there are any do's or dont's in this type of situation. Its important to me that we BOTH have a good time, and I'm hoping hearing some of your experiences will help me make that a reality. Feel free to reply here, or by PM. Thanks.

R

I have often dated women 10 to 15 years younger than myself, and in my experience, it depends on whether you want a relationship with her, or just sex. Not always the case, but a young woman of 20 can be immature, and sometimes annoying in a relationship. And in some cases, younger women are attracted to older men because we tend to spend more on women we are dating; maybe not the best basis for a relationship.

A young woman’s body can be more firm, and her breasts more perky, but that is no guaranty that she will be a good sexual partner. Some of the best sexual partners that I have had have been older women. In the end, it all depends on why she wants to fuck an older man. If all she wants to do is fuck, why not? But if she wants a long-term relationship, look before you leap.

 

[minn]

Women at any age

As an older man (me) the age of the woman is irrelevant to me. The key to a great sexual relationship is more than sex. It's as much as what happens before and after as during. When I was a young man I just wanted to "get off" with little concern about my partner. As I have grown older, if I just wanted to get off my right hand is pretty good. Today it's all about pleasing my partner. Her pleasure is more important than mine and I really work (well, I guess it's not really work is it!) at satisfying her needs.

 

[greenjacobin]

Most often for me the age is irrelevant. However, there is one man with whom I have developed a "daddy/little girl" relationship. It wasn't something we discussed and worked at. It just happened. But being so natural between us, it feels really, really good.

If a relationship tends to stray to this type of thing, I say let it happen. If not, I would leave it alone.

...but then that should be the case for any fun or kink or fetish, shouldn't it?

 

[cheekychic]

Dirtyoldman36 - 20 isn't too much younger than yourself! Just think back to what you were into at 20.

If it's just sex, I say do it! NSA fun has its rewards.

Like another posted replied, young girls can be clingy and immature so just be careful!!! If you require discretion, this girl may not be your best bet but you have to be the judge of that.

Oh, and when you do fuck her, we all want details!

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

DISCLAIMER: The below is just my humble opinion and how I do things and in no way implies my way is the only way

I am 48 years old and luckily in good shape more from good genetics than hard work. I love pussy of all ages or should I say legal ages. I have found a lot of girls have a daddy fetish and as such if you have a little bit on the ball and can talk the talk the pickings are there.

One thing is that many of the young girls looking for a mature man is looking for a generous man. So this means be prepared to spend some cash on your date. In my experience they are looking for more than an age difference, they are looking for a man with a bit of refinement who while generous is dominant.

For myself when I pick a lady up I usually have a small gift in hand such as a small box of chocolates (this does not mean a box of goobers) or her favorite flower. Chocolates and sweets seem to be a favorite token of adoration by the ladies I have dated. Before picking her up through a few phone calls discover her interests to decide a gift. One young lady I bought her a small book of erotic poetry and we never made it to dinner.

A thing to remember when dating a lady much younger. As an older mature male you are not the young supple stud of your youth who could win girls over with your six pack and athletic prowess. Generally those days are over. You now must rely on your mind and a lifetime of experience. We all have heard the adage, "If I knew then what I know now" and oh how true that becomes.

As we get older and hopefully gain wisdom we discover the most seductive muscle is not the penis but the mind. No matter how hot you look if your mind is vacuous you will lose her fast. I have discovered women of any age are very much into their head and as such you must use yours.

In conclusion, my thoughts are if us old fucks want young pussy be prepared to pony up the cash

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

In conclusion, my thoughts are if us old fucks want young pussy be prepared to pony up the cash

I agree, if an older man wants to date a younger woman, he has to be ready to spend some cash; however, I'm such a tightwad, if I cough up the bucks to date a young woman of 20, she bettered be able to suck-start a Harley.

 

[LindsayRae]

Immaturuty straddles all age groups and genders

Amen to that. Back when I was twenty-seven and my ex husband thirty, he was a "child" mentally. And though he was still older than me and all, I would oftentimes say that "he was too young for me"!

 

[LifeofRiley2010]

Amen to that. Back when I was twenty-seven and my ex husband thirty, he was a "child" mentally. And though he was still older than me and all, I would oftentimes say that "he was too young for me"!

Well put.

Just because someone has lived a certain number of years doesn't mean they've reached a certain level of maturity.

Conversely, some youngsters can be quite the 'Old Souls,' wise and mature beyond their age.

 

[RjThoughts]

DISCLAIMER: The below is just my humble opinion and how I do things and in no way implies my way is the only way

In conclusion, my thoughts are if us old fucks want young pussy be prepared to pony up the cash

So what you're saying: In order for old men to date younger women, they have to be.....


Tall, dark, and HAVE SOME?

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

So what you're saying: In order for old men to date younger women, they have to be.....


Tall, dark, and HAVE SOME?

There are no absolutes in life other than death and taxes. I but gave my thoughts based upon my experiences and conversations with young ladies I have dated in their early 20's. I have found that young girls that have attached themselves to older guys like myself are looking for maturity, sophistication, experience and a bit of financial security that generally comes with an older man.

My mother taught me that nothing speaks louder than consideration and generosity when courting a woman. I am by no means implying you need drop hundreds of dollars but in general very few woman are looking to date a cheap ass motherfucker not willing to spend a little cash to impress them. Obviously I am not referring to a casual fuckdate you met in a bar as that is just physical attraction. But please tell me how many hot young chicks you seen with a 40 something daddies that did not have some bucks. I been around some and I never seen it.

But then again I am only basing it on my experience. (shrug)

 

[Galactic_Perv]

There are no absolutes in life other than death and taxes. I but gave my thoughts based upon my experiences and conversations with young ladies I have dated in their early 20's. I have found that young girls that have attached themselves to older guys like myself are looking for maturity, sophistication, experience and a bit of financial security that generally comes with an older man.

My mother taught me that nothing speaks louder than consideration and generosity when courting a woman. I am by no means implying you need drop hundreds of dollars but in general very few woman are looking to date a cheap ass motherfucker not willing to spend a little cash to impress them. Obviously I am not referring to a casual fuckdate you met in a bar as that is just physical attraction.But please tell me how many hot young chicks you seen with a 40 something daddies that did not have some bucks. I been around some and I never seen it

But then again I am only basing it on my experience. (shrug)

I have to agree. A hot young chick is not going to give that shit up to some old guy with no cash to buy her stuff. Oh yeah I know that sounds awful but lets get real. Set fetish and fantasy aside and let us be honest.

 

[LindsayRae]

I have to agree. A hot young chick is not going to give that shit up to some old guy with no cash to buy her stuff. Oh yeah I know that sounds awful but lets get real. Set fetish and fantasy aside and let us be honest.

Not all younger women use older men. Some of us happen to be in relationships with them and love them. And quite frankly, speaking from personal experience, my fiancé and I have the opposite "money arguments" than most couples...as in "I'm paying tonight" ... "No! I am!"

 

[literotica_guy]

I have known young women who do love having an older guy pleasure them, - a lot

It is sweet to see a young woman (adult) who appreciates being eaten or taken or filled by an older guy who pays attention to her pleasure

J

 

[GuiltyAsCharged]

Not all younger women use older men. Some of us happen to be in relationships with them and love them. And quite frankly, speaking from personal experience, my fiancé and I have the opposite "money arguments" than most couples...as in "I'm paying tonight" ... "No! I am!"

Yeah ummmm you are 34 years old.

I think the optimum words used were hot young chick

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

Yeah ummmm you are 34 years old.

I think the optimum words used were hot young chick

Oh, Snap !

 

[LindsayRae]

So, thirty-four is over the hill, eh? Okay Kanye. Well, when I was eighteen, nineteen, twenty, and so on I never used men for their money. Not all females are golddiggers.