He Owns Me - And it makes the sex REALLY GOOD

[destined]

My husband and I have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He owns me and I would have it no other way..... Last night was those FANTASTIC NIGHTS of SEX that result. I love being his whore, knowing he pays for me and expects me to satisfy all his desires.

I love nights like last night when that look he had said that in his mind I was just a pair of tits and a pussy for him to play with. And we did for hours.... And it was mind blowing too

 

[mandoscot]

My husband and I have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He owns me and I would have it no other way..... Last night was those FANTASTIC NIGHTS of SEX that result. I love being his whore, knowing he pays for me and expects me to satisfy all his desires.

I love nights like last night when that look he had said that in his mind I was just a pair of tits and a pussy for him to play with. And we did for hours.... And it was mind blowing too

Sounds like the perfect night - I'm almost jealous. Hope he enjoys using you for a long time

 

[jackstud]

My husband and I have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He owns me and I would have it no other way..... Last night was those FANTASTIC NIGHTS of SEX that result. I love being his whore, knowing he pays for me and expects me to satisfy all his desires.

I love nights like last night when that look he had said that in his mind I was just a pair of tits and a pussy for him to play with. And we did for hours.... And it was mind blowing too[/QUO Your a good Bitch

 

[destined]

My husband and I have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He owns me and I would have it no other way..... Last night was those FANTASTIC NIGHTS of SEX that result. I love being his whore, knowing he pays for me and expects me to satisfy all his desires.

I love nights like last night when that look he had said that in his mind I was just a pair of tits and a pussy for him to play with. And we did for hours.... And it was mind blowing too[/QUO

Your a good Bitch

I just try to please him. Have learned that more more i focus on trying to please, the more satisfaction I seem to receive as well.

 

[4bidnfruit]

My husband and I have a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He owns me and I would have it no other way..... Last night was those FANTASTIC NIGHTS of SEX that result. I love being his whore, knowing he pays for me and expects me to satisfy all his desires.

I love nights like last night when that look he had said that in his mind I was just a pair of tits and a pussy for him to play with. And we did for hours.... And it was mind blowing too
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If there is no inequality, no violation, no dominance, no force;
there is no sexual arousal.”
- Catherine MacKinnon

This sounds more like a blurt than a topic of conversation but it isn’t unusual for me to be confused in these forums. However, I’m trying to understand why you would come in here talking about a Master/Slave relationship but carry a quote from a feminist that believes in sexual equality.

Is it possible to have sexual equality in a Master/Slave relationship?

 

[welkin]

This sounds more like a blurt than a topic of conversation but it isn’t unusual for me to be confused in these forums. However, I’m trying to understand why you would come in here talking about a Master/Slave relationship but carry a quote from a feminist that believes in sexual equality.

Is it possible to have sexual equality in a Master/Slave relationship?

I think she's trying to make the very point that MacKinnon is mocking.

 

[destined]

I think she's trying to make the very point that MacKinnon is mocking.

Exactly - MacKinnon is a well known "feminist" and legal scholar. But she always seems so bitter to me.. If she would loosen up she migh not seem so frustrated with her life.

The quite seems so apt for my life. And I do enjoy the irony.

 

[satindesire]

Is it possible to have sexual equality in a Master/Slave relationship?

Yes, it absolutely is possible.

Remember, not everyone does M/s the same way as everyone else.

 

[4bidnfruit]

I think she's trying to make the very point that MacKinnon is mocking.

Maybe I just need to loosen up a bit because I’d never promote someone that goes against my beliefs.

Yes, it absolutely is possible.

Remember, not everyone does M/s the same way as everyone else.

When I first started to ask that question, I thought it was a stupid because something about it seems like an oxymoron but then I started to wonder if they are both giving and getting what they want than maybe it is possible. I’ve never seen a slave in here talk about equality. Then again, I avoid quite a few threads.

In all honesty, I am surprised that someone said yes. I am not saying I agree with it but I don’t have enough knowledge to disagree either. It is something to think about and maybe invest a little bit of time to research.

Thank you Satin.

 

[Etoile]

I look forward to your contributions to further discussions, destined.

 

[satindesire]

When I first started to ask that question, I thought it was a stupid because something about it seems like an oxymoron but then I started to wonder if they are both giving and getting what they want than maybe it is possible. I’ve never seen a slave in here talk about equality. Then again, I avoid quite a few threads.

In all honesty, I am surprised that someone said yes. I am not saying I agree with it but I don’t have enough knowledge to disagree either. It is something to think about and maybe invest a little bit of time to research.

Thank you Satin.

Well, here's the thing. Equality in sex doesn't necessarily mean there's equality in EVERYTHING in the relationship.

There's a lot of equality in my relationship with my Dom, but there's a few things that are unequal. Equality in one area doesn't have to mean equality in all, and that's for any relationship, not necessarily ones flavored with BDSM spices.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

This sounds more like a blurt than a topic of conversation but it isn’t unusual for me to be confused in these forums. However, I’m trying to understand why you would come in here talking about a Master/Slave relationship but carry a quote from a feminist that believes in sexual equality.

Is it possible to have sexual equality in a Master/Slave relationship?

Yes.

Equality, to me, means that both people are getting equal satisfaction in the deal.

Just because they get their satisfaction in vastly different ways, doesn't mean the feelings/emotions/whatnot aren't of equal proportion.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Interesting.

The sexual part of the relationship I have with Master is hands-down the absolute best, most satisfying, mind-blowing sex I've ever experienced as well.

I'm with you; I wouldn't have it any other way

 

[LisbethElliot]

This seems as good a place to ask my questions as any. It says 'virgin' under my name and I certainly am when it comes to BDSM...never having experienced it in real life. I've been reading and there is a man I correspond with. It's not really even a 'distance domination' relationship, although he has given me a few tasks to carry out. But we have both found much more satisfaction in sending and replying to scenes for one another. The thing is, we talk about a lot more than just sex...although it always seems to come back to that. LOL We talk about books and music and religion and politics and everything in between.

What I'm wondering is what this 24/7 type of D/s is like? Or is it Master/slave? And I suppose it's different for every couple. But I've read some stories and comments about waiting on him and serving all of his needs, and (I guess this is what I understand the least) not speaking unless spoken to. I find D/s fascinating and the idea of being bound and dominated sexually very exciting. But if in the rest of our lives I can't speak unless I'm spoken to, if we can't have these passionate discussions and exchanges of ideas, it would seem very boring to me. Is that how it is or am I misunderstanding how it works? And most of all...is it just too complicated to really understand?

 

[catalina_francisco]

This seems as good a place to ask my questions as any. It says 'virgin' under my name and I certainly am when it comes to BDSM...never having experienced it in real life. I've been reading and there is a man I correspond with. It's not really even a 'distance domination' relationship, although he has given me a few tasks to carry out. But we have both found much more satisfaction in sending and replying to scenes for one another. The thing is, we talk about a lot more than just sex...although it always seems to come back to that. LOL We talk about books and music and religion and politics and everything in between.

What I'm wondering is what this 24/7 type of D/s is like? Or is it Master/slave? And I suppose it's different for every couple. But I've read some stories and comments about waiting on him and serving all of his needs, and (I guess this is what I understand the least) not speaking unless spoken to. I find D/s fascinating and the idea of being bound and dominated sexually very exciting. But if in the rest of our lives I can't speak unless I'm spoken to, if we can't have these passionate discussions and exchanges of ideas, it would seem very boring to me. Is that how it is or am I misunderstanding how it works? And most of all...is it just too complicated to really understand?

It is different things to different people. We live in a 24/7 M/s relationship and I certainly do not have to stay mute unless spoken to....for others that may be true. He welcomes me having an opinion, especially when he needs to get another POV on something important. If you read many of the threads in the library here you will se how many varieties there are of 24/7, and just how it works for each relationship.

Catalina

 

[Lilac_Sky]

This seems as good a place to ask my questions as any. It says 'virgin' under my name and I certainly am when it comes to BDSM...never having experienced it in real life. I've been reading and there is a man I correspond with. It's not really even a 'distance domination' relationship, although he has given me a few tasks to carry out. But we have both found much more satisfaction in sending and replying to scenes for one another. The thing is, we talk about a lot more than just sex...although it always seems to come back to that. LOL We talk about books and music and religion and politics and everything in between.

What I'm wondering is what this 24/7 type of D/s is like? Or is it Master/slave? And I suppose it's different for every couple. But I've read some stories and comments about waiting on him and serving all of his needs, and (I guess this is what I understand the least) not speaking unless spoken to. I find D/s fascinating and the idea of being bound and dominated sexually very exciting. But if in the rest of our lives I can't speak unless I'm spoken to, if we can't have these passionate discussions and exchanges of ideas, it would seem very boring to me. Is that how it is or am I misunderstanding how it works? And most of all...is it just too complicated to really understand?

This is interesting because just last night Mistress and i were having a conversation about the fact that she finds me intellectually stimulating and we love to play strategy games and discuss books and movies and debate topics (though i need to be respectful always). In addition i love that she controls me completely. My body is hers to use as she wants. But we fit together so well. She knows me and understands me and wants me to be fulfilled in our relationship. I am also a service sub and love to wait on her and take care of her. And in return she gives me such wonderful love and attention. We have many passionate discussions and exchanges and that is just as important to me as the fact that she uses my body for her pleasure.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Different for everyone

I do consider Master & I 24/7 - mentally - he always owns me.
I live by myself, he lives in his own home. I don't want a live in relationship and neither does he.
I hang out with my friends, he does things with his friends, we hang out together sometimes as well.
It's a very "free" type of involvement - but he owns me. My pussy, lips, tits, ass, body, heart, belong to him only. And, his heart is entwined with me.

We just don't care to have a co-dependent, living together, or marriage type of relationship; it works for us wonderfully

 

[LisbethElliot]

Thank you for the answers...this just gets more fascinating!

 

[eastern sun]

What I'm wondering is what this 24/7 type of D/s is like? Or is it Master/slave? And I suppose it's different for every couple. But I've read some stories and comments about waiting on him and serving all of his needs, and (I guess this is what I understand the least) not speaking unless spoken to. I find D/s fascinating and the idea of being bound and dominated sexually very exciting. But if in the rest of our lives I can't speak unless I'm spoken to, if we can't have these passionate discussions and exchanges of ideas, it would seem very boring to me. Is that how it is or am I misunderstanding how it works? And most of all...is it just too complicated to really understand?

I am in an M/s relationship where I am free to speak. He also makes it very clear when I should shut up. And, usually, I do.

Remember, some guys like to have conversations about books, and movies, and music, and politics, and sports, and celebrity gossip and . . . whatever. The question really is - can I find someone who likes to have conversations about the things that interest me?

Once in a while there are times when he really isn't interested in what I want to talk about - and then I need to find someone else to have that conversation with. But I have the freedom and encouragement to do that too.

 

[Floribunda]

Interested in this!

I signed up to Lit only last night, but this is exactly one of the questions that I have been curious about.

It's so interesting to read everyone's replies.

My immediate question is, (as a newbie) you may feel a pull to the sub life (as I do), but does that mean that you need to leave your opinions and needs behind, just because you want to be dominated in some respect(s)?

Personally, I know that I have many desires to be dominated, but at the same time, I don't really want my opinion about things/life/stuff.. whatever! - to be obliterated by someone else.

I'm sensing from replies that there are a huge range of different relationships possible. I think I knew this anyway. But this is my first contact with an active group.

Take care all.

Flora x

 

[destined]

I signed up to Lit only last night, but this is exactly one of the questions that I have been curious about.

It's so interesting to read everyone's replies.

My immediate question is, (as a newbie) you may feel a pull to the sub life (as I do), but does that mean that you need to leave your opinions and needs behind, just because you want to be dominated in some respect(s)?

Personally, I know that I have many desires to be dominated, but at the same time, I don't really want my opinion about things/life/stuff.. whatever! - to be obliterated by someone else.

I'm sensing from replies that there are a huge range of different relationships possible. I think I knew this anyway. But this is my first contact with an active group.

Take care all.

Flora x

There are a huge range of arrangements in D/s relationships and there is no rule for what is right or wrong; what can or cannot work, etc. Admittedly, my husband and I are more to an extreme in our D/s than might most couples be but I still don't feel like i am treated like my ideas or opinions are not valued in our relationship.


We live this lifestyle all the time. We both feel that a man ought be at the head of a household and we both agree that domestic discipline is beneficial and we both believe we ought maintain what some consider "traditional" roles in our marriage. It works for us and we endorse others trying it too. But neither of us feel we have cornered knowing what is best for everyone.

In other words, it works for us. You need to do what works best in your relationship.

 

[Floribunda]

Thank you, Destined!

"There are a huge range of arrangements in D/s relationships and there is no rule for what is right or wrong; what can or cannot work, etc."

Really good to meet you.

I'm still feeling my way. Thank you for your kind words. Flora x

 

[Lilac_Sky]

I signed up to Lit only last night, but this is exactly one of the questions that I have been curious about.

It's so interesting to read everyone's replies.

My immediate question is, (as a newbie) you may feel a pull to the sub life (as I do), but does that mean that you need to leave your opinions and needs behind, just because you want to be dominated in some respect(s)?

Personally, I know that I have many desires to be dominated, but at the same time, I don't really want my opinion about things/life/stuff.. whatever! - to be obliterated by someone else.

I'm sensing from replies that there are a huge range of different relationships possible. I think I knew this anyway. But this is my first contact with an active group.

Take care all.

Flora x

Flora, welcome to Lit .... you have certainly come to the right place if you are looking for a range of opinions and open discourse.

I am extremely submissive and subservient. Mistress loves me as i am and values my thoughts and opinions and doesn't suppress or change any of the core beliefs i hold. In fact, she enjoys discussing things with me and values my insights.

We also enjoy that she has enough control over my mind that she can change things about me - feelings, thoughts, interests. And that is thrilling to both of us. But she doesn't change anything that is core to who i am.

 

[Floribunda]

Hi Lilac Sky

Flora, welcome to Lit .... you have certainly come to the right place if you are looking for a range of opinions and open discourse.

I am extremely submissive and subservient. Mistress loves me as i am and values my thoughts and opinions and doesn't suppress or change any of the core beliefs i hold. In fact, she enjoys discussing things with me and values my insights.

We also enjoy that she has enough control over my mind that she can change things about me - feelings, thoughts, interests. And that is thrilling to both of us. But she doesn't change anything that is core to who i am.

Thanks so much for your welcome. I am finding everyone's stories so interesting. I think that I will possibly take a step back, rather than putting myself in the ring immediately, just so I can think about what it is I might really want. I have been reading stories on Lit for a while now. Sometimes they really do it for me, but other times they don't and I think I need to concentrate on what it is I really want from a relationship like this.

I have had experiences in the past where my submissiveness has become clear, but the other person involved has not treated it with the care they possibly should. So I have felt quite humiliated... Not good.

Once again, thank you for your candid thoughts.

I would love to hear any comments from others.

Take care

Flora x

 

[seela]

I have been reading stories on Lit for a while now. Sometimes they really do it for me, but other times they don't and I think I need to concentrate on what it is I really want from a relationship like this.

Please keep in mind, that the stories on Lit are just that - stories. They don't necessarily portray reality as much as fantasies, so they might not be the best place to go to, if you're trying to figure out, what you really want from a relationship. I think the BDSM fora give a much more balanced view of what the reality might look like, if you entered a power exchange based relationship. Of course, every relationship is its own entity and no two are alike.

You might get more replies to your original question here, if you posted it on a separate thread. On this thread it's a bit off-topic, and while off-topic is so common in Lit, that it can really almost be considered being on-topic, a lot of people might not notice your question here.

Enjoy the boards and don't hesitate to join the conversations!