How to tell if you're bi-sexual or bi-curious female?

[Katelyn_tkd]

Okay so i got out of a bad relationship about 2 years ago. I havent had a partner since then. I have been having sexual fantasies about my roommate and other girls. Is this normal for a girl who is almost 19 who hasnt had a relationship in a while? I have been fantasizing about having sex with girls.. Am i just bi-curious? or something more??

 

[Safe_Bet]

Okay so i got out of a bad relationship about 2 years ago. I havent had a partner since then. I have been having sexual fantasies about my roommate and other girls. Is this normal for a girl who is almost 19 who hasnt had a relationship in a while? I have been fantasizing about having sex with girls.. Am i just bi-curious? or something more??

Seeing as how you are almost 19 you might think about stopping in at the LGBT Resource Center at a school near you. (something like http://imu.uiowa.edu/lgbt/). They often have people available that can just sit and talk to you about things and the thoughts/feelings you are having.

I promise that they won't drag you into the back room and turn you into a butch lesbian or anything (that comes later, after you get your membership card. )

BTW, you said that you are fantasizing about having sex with girls. Is it just girls (lesbian sex) or both a guy AND a girl at the same time (bi sex)?

 

[Little Bird]

Ehm, I think the last one is rather irrelevant.

Being into threesomes is something entirely else from being bisexual.

As I said in the other thread I think you started somewhere else, I believe that the important thing to ask is if you feel attraction to people of your same and the other sex. If you think that there are at least some people of either sex you could potentially want to become sexually intimate with, that's enough for me to consider a person bisexual.
If it goes away and you realize you really don't want to have sex with a person of the same sex, then you're most probably not bisexual.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Ehm, I think the last one is rather irrelevant.

Being into threesomes is something entirely else from being bisexual.

As I said in the other thread I think you started somewhere else, I believe that the important thing to ask is if you feel attraction to people of your same and the other sex. If you think that there are at least some people of either sex you could potentially want to become sexually intimate with, that's enough for me to consider a person bisexual.
If it goes away and you realize you really don't want to have sex with a person of the same sex, then you're most probably not bisexual.

Honey I said "bi sex" not bisexual. A BISEXUAL is a person who wants to have sex with a man and/OR a woman. You can still have lesbian sex and be a bisexual. You just can't be a lesbian and have bi sex (at least in a close time frame).

The reason I asked was because she might want to think about her orientation rather than just "assuming" she's bi.

Who knows... she might get lucky and really be a dyke!

 

[Katelyn_tkd]

Well i'm at a military college that i chose to attend right now. And it's kinda hard to talk to anyone here about what i'm thinking. And the dreams i'm having is just having sex with girls no guy included so far... And since its a military school everyone is kinda really really against gays. So i think i'll just keep this to myself for now.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Well i'm at a military college that i chose to attend right now. And it's kinda hard to talk to anyone here about what i'm thinking. And the dreams i'm having is just having sex with girls no guy included so far... And since its a military school everyone is kinda really really against gays. So i think i'll just keep this to myself for now.

Then you should stop by and introduce yourself on the Isle of Lesbos thread. There are a bunch of nice chicks there who will gladly answer your questions and even let you flirt a little bit if you want.

BTW, there is no "requirements" to post on that thread, other than asking guys not to. I was created by by late wife as a safe place for bi's. lesbians, TGs and just curious chicks to hang out and feel safe and comfortable. That might up your "comfort level" a bit.

P.S. And I promise we won't give you a case of the "gays" if you ain't one of us, K?