For Discussion: BBW's and Fat Attraction

[Luna_Wolf72]

so they either go mommy or they go status.

if you're a dyke,
can i pretend to be dutch and stick my thumb in you?

Got it in one (at least in my experience). Only place I differ from black dudes is that I don`t find super skinny attractive at all so I tend to be attracted to women with my shape, only larger....all over.

Also, you may pretend to be anything you`d like if it results in you inserting anything

in me.

 

[Luk]

Let it go ... do this for me. He's trash.

Oh fuck, that would be funny as hell if he actually listened to you. I'm trash? Good. You lay down with busybody, KB and vette so I am more than fine with what your fucked up little brain thinks of me.

Ass. You know I am headed to Cali to see my extended fam soon, right? May even stop through Houston on my way back East.

I have an extra room.

not that we would need it.

 

[December]

This is a discussion about the perversion known as BBW and the men who find them attractive (AF's).

There is no hate coming from this end of the wire.

So far, your posts in this thread have all been personal attacks upon me...if you are unable to discuss the topic like an adult, please feel free to post elsewhere.

You telling anyone else to act like an adult is just bloody priceless.

 

[Luk]

You telling anyone else to act like an adult is just bloody priceless.

This isn't Cheebs' thread.

 

[butters]

I'm fat. I don't like being fat, and know i can change it if i do what's needed to change it. If i get bothered enough, which i do from time to time, then i'll find the focus to remember not to eat after 6 at night, remember to eat a breakfast, remember to drink more water and less coffee. and dance more! when i do these things, the weight starts falling immediately. but it's way too easy after a long day to lay back on the sofa, watching tv or using the net, with a glass of wine, some munchies, eat dinner too late... all that kind of stuff. when i get in the right routine, i physically eat more (a full 3meals a day plus healthy inbetween snacks) than when i'm out of it, but it's less processed food, and smaller, more frequent portions.

somedays i'm a bit 'oh well, i'm 52, a granny, single, and yes thanks, i will have a can of lager and a bar of chocolate. wtf not? i don't mind right now, and don't care if anyone else does either.'

 

[Beco]

Do I wish I was thin? Yep, sure do. I could find clothes to fit me better. I would probably have an easier time finding dates.

Am I lazy? No. I work out several times a week and I don't eat junk.

I'll date ya!

 

[Beco]

I think she is right...lots of guys think its easier to pick up an overweight woman.

Of course she's right....overweight women are easy prey.

 

[butters]

Of course she's right....overweight women are easy prey.

 

[Riles]

I won't attempt guesses as to the reasoning behind this thread - it really matters very little. The topics involved are what speak to me. It does strike me as a little peculiar that so many plus sized women are describing their current selves as healthy and happy though. My reason for questioning? I've been there.

As a teen, I was overweight and yesss I too could list all the physical activities I did and foods I ate that should have made things otherwise, but the point of the matter was that I was NOT healthy - not as healthy as I could have been, and THAT was what made me unhappy.

My greatest gift to myself those years ago was first forgetting the negativity and judgement so I could drop my defences. Then taking a hard, realistic look in the mirror and admitting I didn't like what I saw.

In short, awareness and acceptance of ourselves - shortcomings and all is a great thing, but don't let acceptance tip the scale in it's favour.

 

[Sonny Limatina]

I won't attempt guesses as to the reasoning behind this thread - it really matters very little. The topics involved are what speak to me. It does strike me as a little peculiar that so many plus sized women are describing their current selves as healthy and happy though. My reason for questioning? I've been there.

As a teen, I was overweight and yesss I too could list all the physical activities I did and foods I ate that should have made things otherwise, but the point of the matter was that I was NOT healthy - not as healthy as I could have been, and THAT was what made me unhappy.

My greatest gift to myself those years ago was first forgetting the negativity and judgement so I could drop my defences. Then taking a hard, realistic look in the mirror and admitting I didn't like what I saw.

In short, awareness and acceptance of ourselves - shortcomings and all is a great thing, but don't let acceptance tip the scale in it's favour.

This is a very good post, and as such, will be mocked or ignored.

 

[where]

lance is in his poopyhead mood.
in a month or two he'll vanish.
then, when he returns, he may be charming lance again.

i wonder why it is that obese men aren't fetishised to the same degree...

I quite like big guys. not really obese ones, but ones who would be considered to fat for modelling, say.

So that james gandolfino look does more for me than brad pitt.

 

[Devil'sChild]

Ass. You know I am headed to Cali to see my extended fam soon, right?

You damn sure don't want to let family down. You have been missed.

 

[renard_ruse]

I agree with you, especially on the men's part. I have actually had a guy friend tell me that he liked being with bigger girls because they were easier to get into bed, because they were "lonely & desperate", as he put it. Needless to say, we're not really friends anymore......

So now, you project on to men who are attracted to cuddly women that somehow there is something wrong with them because you have low self-esteem? Men are always the "bad guys" who have "bad motives" in every single issue that ever comes up? What is this the Victorian age without the moral standards (that is to say women are virtuous saints and men horrible beasts who are always wrong and need civilizing?).

No, I don't think its easier to get with fat babes. On the contrary I find it easier to get with skinny ones. Maybe because I don't prefer skinny ones I'm more confident around them and that pays off. Ones I'm perticularly attracted to perhaps less confident, so the reverse of your theory maybe true.

 

[renard_ruse]

To be blunt, I find attractive chubby women more physically arrousing. I'm like a teenager again around them. They can be like big cute cuddly polar bears.

I'm not saying anyone should be morbidly obese, or that that is attractive. No, but of the 30% or 60% or whatever that are supposedly overweight, most of these are not morbidly obese, the definition of fat is silly. A lot of them are hotter than most skinny girls. I need more kissing and foreplay to get into a skinny girl these days unless they have a really cute face. I like cute and I like cuddly. I like cute overload, and chubby is often cuter. It just is.

This whole thread is stupid.

 

[Lancecastor]

I won't attempt guesses as to the reasoning behind this thread - it really matters very little. The topics involved are what speak to me. It does strike me as a little peculiar that so many plus sized women are describing their current selves as healthy and happy though. My reason for questioning? I've been there.

As a teen, I was overweight and yesss I too could list all the physical activities I did and foods I ate that should have made things otherwise, but the point of the matter was that I was NOT healthy - not as healthy as I could have been, and THAT was what made me unhappy.

My greatest gift to myself those years ago was first forgetting the negativity and judgement so I could drop my defences. Then taking a hard, realistic look in the mirror and admitting I didn't like what I saw.

In short, awareness and acceptance of ourselves - shortcomings and all is a great thing, but don't let acceptance tip the scale in it's favour.

Yes, a good post, one of a handful in this thread from women that wasn't defensive...it's appreciated.

There are probably some women who are genuinely happy being fat...but that would be the rare exception.

Most people who are fat are fat because they are unhappy....that's hardly new.

For that reason, I think Milky's "curvy Women" thread is insincere and unhealthy.

We know it's true there are opportunistic men who "specialize" in fat girls because fat girls are easy and easy to treat badly....which I find reprehensible.

To the extent that we as an online community encourage those behaviors on the GB is (I think) a disservice to the women and men alike who engage in that dance.

To my way of thinking, if they want to practice the BBW/AF fetish, they can do it on the Fetish Forum with the people who enjoy beating/being beaten, jacking off in shoes, etc.

And those women who are "fat and unhappy" and stay on the GB ought to be both encouraged....AND challenged...to move forward in a more positive direction.

 

[blunt_trauma]

what is your bmi, lance?

 

[Lancecastor]

what is your bmi, lance?

Not high enough if you're a chubby chaser.

 

[blunt_trauma]

Not high enough if you're a chubby chaser.

show me your chubby!

 

[Lancecastor]

show me your chubby!

Do you have a big screen monitor?

 

[blunt_trauma]

Do you have a big screen monitor?

it's both L and E.

 

[Image]

As far as men go, and this is only my take on it, I think they lack a self confidence as well. How do I put this delicately? They may think it's easier to bed or date an overweight woman thinking, mistakenly or not, that she has less self esteem and therefore would be less picky or easier prey...

You have some serious comprehension problems. That is not what she said.

Lots of insecure men think they can pick up heavier women because they think they are insecure. There is a difference.

That's exactly what I said, fool Now go back and read it again and then tell me it isn't. Men who have no confidence will not take the chance of being shot down by the prom queen. It's a sad and vicious cycle...

Image, there are other reasons to be attracted to people with non-mainstream beauty. I'm attracted to bigger guys, people with acne scars, non-proportionate features, and other non-barbie dolls. People who can't conform to popular beauty standards aren't freaks, but they get treated like they are. I think I'm attracted because when you're that different from the so-called norm, you (sometimes) start to cultivate a different sort of inner life, a different sensitivity and a surprising outlook. Being attracted to that is deviance?

Now, this is a different and interesting perspective. Thank you...

 

[Luk]

That's exactly what I said, fool Now go back and read it again and then tell me it isn't. Men who have no confidence will not take the chance of being shot down by the prom queen. It's a sad and vicious cycle....

Tomato/Tomato.

 

[Image]

Tomato/Tomato.

Seriously?

You've devolved considerably since we've met here. I think it's the company you've been keeping...

 

[Luk]

You've devolved considerably since we've met here.

How much more do you think I have to devolve to be on par with the likes of you and Cheebs?

 

[Beco]

As far as men go, and this is only my take on it, I think they lack a self confidence as well. How do I put this delicately? They may think it's easier to bed or date an overweight woman thinking, mistakenly or not, that she has less self esteem and therefore would be less picky or easier prey...

That's exactly what I said, fool Now go back and read it again and then tell me it isn't. Men who have no confidence will not take the chance of being shot down by the prom queen. It's a sad and vicious cycle...

Now, this is a different and interesting perspective. Thank you...

It doesn’t have to be a lack of self-confidence. I think there is a fallacy that heavy women are desperate and lonely, therefore, easy prey. Or just easy….