Swinging+BDSM+Three/Foursome=How?

[BellaIsabella]

My submissive (or bottom) husband and I are also swingers, and we met a lovely couple the other day to play with. My husband I just started to experiment with BDSM and so did we.

The thing is, I am the only domme in the group, everyone is submissive...we tried things out for the first time this morning. I tied my husband up to watch me with the other man and woman, it was a lot of run and very sensual, but I am not really sure how to incorporate the BDSM portion.

Help?

 

[teknight]

My submissive (or bottom) husband and I are also swingers, and we met a lovely couple the other day to play with. My husband I just started to experiment with BDSM and so did we.

The thing is, I am the only domme in the group, everyone is submissive...we tried things out for the first time this morning. I tied my husband up to watch me with the other man and woman, it was a lot of run and very sensual, but I am not really sure how to incorporate the BDSM portion.

Help?

What aspects of BDSM do you wanna incorporate?
Mind you, the term BDSM is so huge as to be nigh meaningless.

 

[madam_noe]

Bdsm 101

I am a professional Dominatrix (been a personal one a total of 11 years as of this month and pro 3 of them).

The best place to start is to identify your fetishes. Start here: http://mistressreview.com/Mistress-Services/ It's geared towards pro Domming, but I'm sure you know on the personal side "forcing" sexual acts (like queening, forced-bi, etc) is all part of it too.

When you know what your fetishes are, I highly recommend "The Mistress Manual" by Mistress Lorelei ( http://www.amazon.com/Mistress-Manual-Girls-Female-Dominance/dp/1890159190 ) i make all my apprentices read it before they begin training.

Lastly, when you've covered that ground, think about getting a mentor. the best place is FetLife.com, the social networking site for kinksters. All of us that were mentored properly mentor others when we become true Masters and you can find online help as well as local real life help.

Being a former swinger and a 24/7 Domme myself this is a great lufestyle, but like with everything, the more knowledge you have the better it will be.

Good luck!

 

[catalina_francisco]

All of us that were mentored properly mentor others when we become true Masters and you can find online help as well as local real life help.


Good luck!

Claiming to be a 'true' anything around here usually makes others question where you get your definition of 'true'.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

My submissive (or bottom) husband and I are also swingers, and we met a lovely couple the other day to play with. My husband I just started to experiment with BDSM and so did we.

The thing is, I am the only domme in the group, everyone is submissive...we tried things out for the first time this morning. I tied my husband up to watch me with the other man and woman, it was a lot of run and very sensual, but I am not really sure how to incorporate the BDSM portion.

Help?

I am not a Domme, but my imagination runs riot with a myriad of ideas of what you could do. A start would be to extend what you usually do with your partner to include the others, and also remember to incorporate everyone on some level so no-one feels left out, nor have time to get bored. Check what each person is into, what works for them, then begin your adventure from there once you know what appeals and is acceptable...and of course, remember to incorporate your preferences as well so you do not simply become a tool for their pleasure alone.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

I'd say just decide what you'd like. If you'd like something kind of vanilla and the novelty of just directing people sexually does something for you, have fun. Make your own Roman orgy.

 

[CuriousKitten25]

Mmmm...I'm a sub but I can imagine some fun scenarios with this.

You should order the wife to fuck your husband....have the other man get you off while you watch your husband with her.

Make all three get you off....and once all have performed to your satisfaction, you get them off as a reward.

I think this has endless possibilites, regardless of them al being submissive.

 

[MasterandSir]

My submissive (or bottom) husband and I are also swingers, and we met a lovely couple the other day to play with. My husband I just started to experiment with BDSM and so did we.

The thing is, I am the only domme in the group, everyone is submissive...we tried things out for the first time this morning. I tied my husband up to watch me with the other man and woman, it was a lot of run and very sensual, but I am not really sure how to incorporate the BDSM portion.

Help?

Are any of them switches?