Mind fuck

[MasterandSir]

I thoroughly enjoy mentally Dominating.... The mental aspects of Domination get me off. I like being able to wriggle my fingers into a sub's mind and play with their desires and triggers and mmmmmm. Anyone else love mental play?

 

[teknight]

Ain't this a BDSM topic?
A BDSM personals topic, possibly?

 

[switchbitch]

I thoroughly enjoy mentally Dominating.... The mental aspects of Domination get me off. I like being able to wriggle my fingers into a sub's mind and play with their desires and triggers and mmmmmm. Anyone else love mental play?

Withinin the many different flavours of BDSM this is also a fetish for me, both as submissve and dominant.while I enjoy the many BDSM aspects, it is the mind fuck that I simply CAN NOT RESIST.Even thinking about mind control and mental domination or submission makes me shudder and get wet.The craving for it can be overwhelming to the point where it affects every aspect of my sexuality.
Surely anything that can turn you into such a sexually charged gibbering mess, that doesn't want it to stop for anything, is the mark of a true fetish.

 

[mcaffer06]

Mind Fuckery

I am a fan of it. I love having a Dom/Domme take control of my mind and twist it to their pleasure...

 

[switchbitch]

I am a fan of it. I love having a Dom/Domme take control of my mind and twist it to their pleasure...

God yes!To the point where their pleasure becomes your only focus and desire.

 

[Exploringsub]

It all begins and ends in the mind. The body is a conduit. But how the mind processes sensation and desire and shame and need is what turns an otherwise straightforward bodily process like sexual arousal/procreation into a rich, endlessly fascinating, intricate, intoxicating obsession.

 

[mcaffer06]

I couldn't have said it any better! I'm longing for it now actually...

 

[lagomorphosis]

Absolutely! Although for me it's not necessarily a BDSM thing. Getting deep inside someone else's fantasies is extremely hot, regardless of whether those fantasies are of a BDSM type. It's one thing to know your partner's fantasies... then you can help fulfill them. But when you understand why she/he has those fantasies, then you can really explore... anticipate the fantasy that hasn't been spoken yet, understand the limits that can be pushed, etc.

 

[Fuckette]

yes, i'm pretty twisted

 

[MasterandSir]

It all begins and ends in the mind. The body is a conduit. But how the mind processes sensation and desire and shame and need is what turns an otherwise straightforward bodily process like sexual arousal/procreation into a rich, endlessly fascinating, intricate, intoxicating obsession.

I love being able to flick switches in a girl's mind and have her ready to orgasm at a word.......

 

[MasterandSir]

yes, i'm pretty twisted

in what ways? hmmmmmmmmmmm?

 

[MasterandSir]

Absolutely! Although for me it's not necessarily a BDSM thing. Getting deep inside someone else's fantasies is extremely hot, regardless of whether those fantasies are of a BDSM type. It's one thing to know your partner's fantasies... then you can help fulfill them. But when you understand why she/he has those fantasies, then you can really explore... anticipate the fantasy that hasn't been spoken yet, understand the limits that can be pushed, etc.

I agree, it doesn't have to be a BDSM thing at all, that is just where I've done it most. I love pushing and expanding fantasies and boundaries.

 

[Emerald_Lilly]

I love being able to flick switches in a girl's mind and have her ready to orgasm at a word.......

Wonderful and amazing that someone can have that much power over how my body reacts to things beyond my direct control .... never would have thought it possible actually .... until Mistress took control of me.

(and quite surprised Mistress hasn't commented here yet)

 

[mcaffer06]

All this talk about mind fuckery is really making me wish I had a Domme in my life

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ain't this a BDSM topic?
A BDSM personals topic, possibly?

I would think it a BDSM topic too. Certainly don't see D/s as a fetish, nor getting to know what your partner's fantasies are and playing with them. Isn't that just a healthy sexual relationship?

Catalina

 

[PenIsMightier1]

Wonderful and amazing that someone can have that much power over how my body reacts to things beyond my direct control .... never would have thought it possible actually .... until Mistress took control of me.

(and quite surprised Mistress hasn't commented here yet)

Because it's not a fetish for me, it's a way of life


But really because this is not a fetish, this is an aspect of D/S, no matter how you dress it up.

 

[mcaffer06]

Because it's not a fetish for me, it's a way of life


But really because this is not a fetish, this is an aspect of D/S, no matter how you dress it up.

I couldnt have said it better!

 

[Braschi]

I'm with catalina_francisco on this one: Knowing what your partner likes sexually and being able to stimulate them with ideas and exchange of thoughts just seems like a healthy relationship. Sure, there's physical aspects, but they only work if the mind is involved.

That doesn't mean you can't add a BDSM twist to it and make it into a kink

Surely anything that can turn you into such a sexually charged gibbering mess, that doesn't want it to stop for anything, is the mark of a true fetish.

Uhm, no.

A fetish is a desire that negatively affects you, or impedes your normal functioning as a person. That's the technical definition, but a lot of people use it colloquially to mean something they are very interested in sexually. (You can have deep-seated, non-sexual desires that impede your normal functions, and they too are called fetishes.) Otherwise, you're talking about kink, and that's hot

 

[teknight]

Uhm, no.

A fetish is a desire that negatively affects you, or impedes your normal functioning as a person. That's the technical definition, but a lot of people use it colloquially to mean something they are very interested in sexually. (You can have deep-seated, non-sexual desires that impede your normal functions, and they too are called fetishes.) Otherwise, you're talking about kink, and that's hot

Umm... yes, unless you're reading the DSM derived definition. In that case, it's a disorder, and it would apply to a minimum of the people on lit.

 

[Braschi]

Umm... yes, unless you're reading the DSM derived definition. In that case, it's a disorder, and it would apply to a minimum of the people on lit.

Exactly Colloquial use is fine as long as everyone knows what you're talking about.

 

[teknight]

Exactly Colloquial use is fine as long as everyone knows what you're talking about.

FWIW, this is all in the "define fetish" thread.

Or are we just fucking gray matter here by setting airtight definitions?

 

[PeteofPA]

I thoroughly enjoy mentally Dominating.... The mental aspects of Domination get me off. I like being able to wriggle my fingers into a sub's mind and play with their desires and triggers and mmmmmm. Anyone else love mental play?

God yeh. I'd love to speak with you (I mean unless you have zero interest in another dude).

PM and reach out when convenient for you, and if you so wish

 

[danigrl84]

I've recently been exposed to this sort of delight. I've always been into the cerebral aspect of eroticism, but recently met a man who could take me to what felt like another world with his words. He uncovered passionate desires in me, that I had never acknowlegded before. The key, I feel, is finding someone that probes your brain....that relates and understands, that earns enough trust to allow yourself uninhibited and unbridled pleasure.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I'm with catalina_francisco on this one: Knowing what your partner likes sexually and being able to stimulate them with ideas and exchange of thoughts just seems like a healthy relationship. Sure, there's physical aspects, but they only work if the mind is involved.

That doesn't mean you can't add a BDSM twist to it and make it into a kink


Uhm, no.

A fetish is a desire that negatively affects you, or impedes your normal functioning as a person. That's the technical definition, but a lot of people use it colloquially to mean something they are very interested in sexually. (You can have deep-seated, non-sexual desires that impede your normal functions, and they too are called fetishes.) Otherwise, you're talking about kink, and that's hot

Colloquial use is what's described in the forum sticky, so I'd say let the natives have their fetishes, and stop giving yourself an ulcer every time someone doesn't mean it in the text book way.

 

[switchbitch]

Because it's not a fetish for me, it's a way of life


But really because this is not a fetish, this is an aspect of D/S, no matter how you dress it up.

I believe you are quite right if it is not a fetish to you. For some D/S is a fetish and for others it is not, it is attitude and context that make something a fetish. Otherwise every time we each put on a pair of shoes we would be feeding fetish simply because some people find shoes their ultimate turn on.