Choking

[playful_lady]

I was introduced to being choked while being fucked or told what to do and it really turns me on! It was gently at first but now I'm liking it harder each time. Is this a BDSM thing? Please share your experiences

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

It's breath play.

It can lead to unpleasant side effects, such as death. Or brain damage. That's what happens when your body is deprived of oxygen. If your partner is reliably able to simulate choking – that would be "pretend" – and you trust him or her absolutely, then that may be a different story.

 

[Crescent_Kit]

It's breath play.

It can lead to unpleasant side effects, such as death. Or brain damage. That's what happens when your body is deprived of oxygen. If your partner is reliably able to simulate choking – that would be "pretend" – and you trust him or her absolutely, then that may be a different story.

Thank you for this.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Thank you for this.

It's all fun and games until someone comes hard and dies.

 

[playful_lady]

Of course I absolutely have to trust them. And yes it is only pretend...isn't it all? I'm not talking about crushing my wind pipe or anything, just enough pressure to slightly fight for air which leads to an intense orgasm.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It's breath play.

It can lead to unpleasant side effects, such as death. Or brain damage. That's what happens when your body is deprived of oxygen. If your partner is reliably able to simulate choking – that would be "pretend" – and you trust him or her absolutely, then that may be a different story.

Nah, choking is choking and breath play is breath play. Well, choking play *can be* breath play as well, but they're usually rather different. But, you don't have to deprive someone of oxygen to engage in choking play. Think sleeper holds and martial arts.

I hate breathplay, adore choking. I can still breathe while being choked, though admittedly, due to positioning of hands and whatnot, it's more laboured than usual. But it's still happening. In fact, usually the lack of breath while snap me straight back out of the nice fuzzy space I'm in.

 

[Ravenwind]

My Husband likes to randomly exert a little force on my gag reflex while choking me... that way, I bounce back and forth between "omgyes!" and "damnit, don't *do* that!". I think he gets a kick out of my frustration when he does that, or something. lol

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Nah, choking is choking and breath play is breath play. Well, choking play *can be* breath play as well, but they're usually rather different. But, you don't have to deprive someone of oxygen to engage in choking play. Think sleeper holds and martial arts.

I hate breathplay, adore choking. I can still breathe while being choked, though admittedly, due to positioning of hands and whatnot, it's more laboured than usual. But it's still happening. In fact, usually the lack of breath while snap me straight back out of the nice fuzzy space I'm in.

I guess it depends if the intent is oxygen deprivation or not, and again, on the trust factor.

I had a friend die of autoerotic asphyxiation, so I'm particularly wary of sexually-fueled oxygen deprivation.

 

[cromsgirl]

Love it

I love being choked. He doesn't restrict air flow or blood flow, but something about the pressure of his hand on my throat instantly turns me on. As far as I can tell, the only thing he puts pressure on is my neck muscles, but damn it works. And, yes I trust him 100% and would never let anyone else do this.

 

[DVS]

This is kind of like electrical play, if you don't know what you're doing, or get caught up into the arousal of it all and go too far. In electrical play, there are some instances when you can play above the waist, but you need to have the correct equipment and the knowledge of what not to do...ever. There's no room for error.

I see "simulated", "partial", "almost" or "just enough pressure", to mention a few of the words used when explaining how breath play or choking is achieved. The human body doesn't know you are only kidding and there are no second chances. Someone goes too far just one time and they're brain dead or just dead.

Always be aware of what can happen, if you go too far and never let your sexual lust get in the way of that. Play hard, but play safe.

 

[Brutal1ty]

Bad: Choking on food

Good: Choking with a Dom's hands around your neck

Best: Choking on a Dom's cock


[At least that is the analysis from this Dom's perspective.]

 

[Ellafun]

I was introduced to being choked while being fucked or told what to do and it really turns me on! It was gently at first but now I'm liking it harder each time. Is this a BDSM thing? Please share your experiences

While I completely understand your turn on, you and your partner need to establish a signal of some sort as soon as possible. There is nothing that will destroy a mood more quickly than your partner having to drag your oxygen-deprived body back to consciousness. Trust me on this one...been there, done that. Whether it be choking, or breath play where your mouth and nose are covered...you MUST know your limits!

 

[catalina_francisco]

If you want to read up on the safety aspects etc., you can find a lot of information here.

Catalina

 

[Kinky_Sprite]

thank you Catalina... I love choking.

 

[Kinky_Sprite]

I meant to say thank you for posting the safety information. I love choking but I do understand that it is dangerous.

 

[Quiet_Kitty]

I was introduced to being choked while being fucked or told what to do and it really turns me on! It was gently at first but now I'm liking it harder each time. Is this a BDSM thing? Please share your experiences

Personally I get so turned on with a firm
Hand around my throat while making
out and of course, during sex. I have no idea why but I love it.

I don't like squeezing and actual choking though, because like mentioned- it can be dangerous

 

[txoutlawgirl]

Holding Breath

I love the feel of a large hand around my neck...but I agree with all, it can be dangerous. My hubby isn't preventing me from breathing; he's just slowing down the rate at which the oxygen gets to my brain (still not good!) but it's such a wonderful fuzzy feeling.

Even if he doesn't do it, I hold my breath when I cum. I think that can be more dangerous to a point, because I totally restrict oxygen. I get a high, fuzzy feeling. I swear I am addicted to it. I even do it when I masturbate....that's damn sure not safe! But it feels soooooo good

 

[SimonBrooke]

Of course I absolutely have to trust them. And yes it is only pretend...isn't it all? I'm not talking about crushing my wind pipe or anything, just enough pressure to slightly fight for air which leads to an intense orgasm.

Breath play is never 'just pretend'. Having your carotid arteries compressed isn't a sensation one can fake. Your brain really is being starved of oxygen. If it isn't being starved of oxygen, you don't get the sensation. And if it gets too starved you will black out and might die very quickly.

I do breath play and I haven't killed anyone yet. I don't plan to, but there's no doubt that there is risk. It does mean the person doing the choking has to be in control of themselves and not getting over-excited, but it (doing it) is a tremendous buzz in itself.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Even if he doesn't do it, I hold my breath when I cum. I think that can be more dangerous to a point, because I totally restrict oxygen. I get a high, fuzzy feeling. I swear I am addicted to it. I even do it when I masturbate....that's damn sure not safe! But it feels soooooo good

I do sometimes too. I don't mean to, it's like my throat just clenches shut, along with every other muscle in my body tightening. Also happens if I'm crying due to something particularly painful. I've been smacked a few times to get me going again.

 

[whippedprincess]

I just recently had my first experience with the "choking" aspect that y'all are discussing. And while I thought it would be a line I would not cross it turned out to be fine. Although it was minimal pressure it did excite me. Now I will say I am not sure if it was excitement from the "choking" or from the restriction of being held down that got me off but I think it is a touchy subject where danger lurks around the corner. But I am glad someone decided to start the thread as I now have more information.

 

[estragon]

Take it easy, folks. This is one State's law on the subject:

A person is guilty of criminal obstruction of breathing or blood
circulation when, with intent to impede the normal breathing or
circulation of the blood of another person, he or she:

a. applies pressure on the throat or neck of such person; or

b. blocks the nose or mouth of such person.

A person is guilty of strangulation in the second degree when he or
she commits the crime of criminal obstruction of breathing or blood
circulation, as defined in section 121.11 of this article, and thereby
causes stupor, loss of consciousness for any period of time, or any
other physical injury or impairment.
Strangulation in the second degree is a class D felony.

A person is guilty of strangulation in the first degree when he or she
commits the crime of criminal obstruction of breathing or blood
circulation, as defined in section 121.11 of this article, and thereby
causes serious physical injury to such other person.
Strangulation in the first degree is a class C felony.

So watch it. Too much of a good thing can be dangerous to one person's life and another's liberty.

 

[sophie1987]

This has been a fantasy of mine for a while, just waiting on someone waiting to do it

 

[slavebitch]

I like choking, but I did have one bad experience with it. The guy had a belt around my neck and I fell back on it which tightened it around my neck, and subsequently I passed out and turned purple. It was a scary and careless mistake that definately won't be happening again.

 

[AJlanc]

This goes without saying, but I have always believed that the appeal of it is the relinquishing of power and the danger involved. The physical sensations just back up the thrill of the threat. My first experiences with this were girlfriends (mostly all, strangely enough) asking my to do it while we were having sex. So you have to think: arteries, throat. A certain amount of pressure will garuntee some good feeling without hurting the other person. So try it on yourself first! I'm not a doctor, but I'm pretty sure it's hard to strangle yourself to death with your own hand. But if you're going to use belts or rope, be VERY VERY careful. There was a story above about someone passing out from this. I know people who want to be choked into oblivion, but they are big time thrill seekers. I usually go from behind and put the neck in between my forearm and bicep so I can flex my muscles to increase pressure and keep control over the situation. Basically, my rule is: always be aware of how much pressure you are applying. Sometimes you can lose control in the moment.

 

[CeriseNin]

A firm hand around my throat..hell yes. Choking, no.