I need to borrow SeaCat (RANT)

[FallingToFly]

Sooo frustrated.

My estranged husband and I recently got back together to try and make things work. We'd both been seeing other people and had both recently separated from those people. No big deal- although nothing is ideal, J and I were fine, getting along, working well together and generally getting our family back on track. The only ones not happy with everything are apparently his ex-gf and my ex-bf. The ex-bf just whines, but I'm not so sure about the ex-gf.

Today our neighbor came out and confronted my husband, claiming that she got reported to animal control- by me. That AC told her I made the report (in FL, that would never happen, but I don't know about here), gave her my name as the caller. The problem is- I didn't do any such thing.

I don't have a car.
I don't leave the house.
I don't know anyone here at all.
The only time I have spoken to the neighbor about the dog (a 1.5yo Rottie) was to her BF, to tell him that she was out and we had put her in the yard with our dog, and to extend the offer for Lady to come play with Jasmine any day of the week- my dog misses socializing and playing with other dogs.

I would lay dollars to donuts that it's the ex-gf. The last thing I want, after the bullshit I've gone and put myself through for the last few years, is any trouble with anyone. I want to be left alone, take care of my family, write my books and do my little job. I sure as hell wouldn't start shit with my neighbor.

I need Cat's inventive genius on revenge and justice. The only thing I can think of is a small-yield targeted nuclear strike centered on her address in CO, and that's not exactly feasible for someone who failed science a few times...

 

[TxRad]

Sounds more like you need to go have a one on one talk with the neighbor and explain things from your point of view. Clearing the air might help a bunch.

 

[oggbashan]

Is it possible that there is one or several pieces of misunderstanding here?

If the Animal Control people said "a neighbour" reported the dog, might your neighbour have assumed that the report came from you?

If Animal Control did give your name, might it have been another neighbour who used your name because they didn't want to be identified?

You say the ex-bf 'just whines'. Maybe he decided to do more than just whine?

So: 1. Someone else could have reported the dog to Animal Control and might or might not have used your name, and 2. it might have been the whining ex-bf and not the more upfront ex-gf.

I'd hold off the nuclear strike until you are sure who to hit.

Og

 

[FallingToFly]

The ex-bf doesn't know a dog lives next door.

The ex-gf used to live in this house.

I don't know and haven't met any of the ther neighbors, no one really knows I'm here as I never reaslly go outside, except in the (fenced all around, pretty private) backyard to smoke a couple times a day. And she was very specific that the animal control had given my name.

*sighs*

I'm planning on speaking to her or her bf once she or he comes home from work. I'm really upset about this, as it's a pattern I don't want to see repeat- this happened before under very similar circumstances- the (then gf) girl in question was starting all sorts of drama among our circle of acquaintances after she started dating J. Mainly by telling people I had said/done things I hadn't.

She's young and stupid- I could give her a pass on most of her crap because of that, but this is really just ridiculous.

 

[FallingToFly]

And as an edit- she also has a history of stealing my info and other identification- she ran up several hundreds of dollars in bills in my naem by stealing my social security number and other personal info.

 

[TxRad]

And as an edit- she also has a history of stealing my info and other identification- she ran up several hundreds of dollars in bills in my naem by stealing my social security number and other personal info.

File criminal charges.

 

[FallingToFly]

It was several years ago (she and my husband dated for about 4 years), and I got the debts cancelled when I could prove that I hadn't ordered the items and that they had not been delivered to my address, or even the state I lived in. I really don't want the drama. I'd just like this person to disappear.

I know, I know, I'm being whiny. I started off the day by waking up to school closures, a city covered in ice- with a headache and sore throat, I might add- and this has just amped up my misery to 11.

 

[TxRad]

It was several years ago (she and my husband dated for about 4 years), and I got the debts cancelled when I could prove that I hadn't ordered the items and that they had not been delivered to my address, or even the state I lived in. I really don't want the drama. I'd just like this person to disappear.

I know, I know, I'm being whiny. I started off the day by waking up to school closures, a city covered in ice- with a headache and sore throat, I might add- and this has just amped up my misery to 11.

Go over and cough on the ex-GF.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

For some reason I initially thought wanted to get back at your neighbor for the misunderstanding (probably from Cat always having trouble with his neighbors). It took me all this time to figure out you wanted to get back at his ex for the deception. I apologize for the confusion (that you didn't even know I had), and will try not to make that mistake in the future.

What? No, I didn't say that...

 

[FallingToFly]

I'm not driving to Colorado just to give this bitch the crud.

If I wanted to do that, I'd put up really skanky personal ads for her on CL. She left a bunch of naked images on my husband's computer.

 

[FallingToFly]

TGP, you know I love you, right? You're even blonder and more convoluted in your thinkin than I am!!

 

[TxRad]

I'm not driving to Colorado just to give this bitch the crud.

If I wanted to do that, I'd put up really skanky personal ads for her on CL. She left a bunch of naked images on my husband's computer.

Print out the pictures, Cough on them, and then mail them to her. Possible she will get the crud but in any case she will know you have the pictures. Mention her mom in the note you send along.

Seacat ain't the only devious one around.

 

[FallingToFly]

Wonderfully dirty old men are my favorite kind.

And I posted in your thread about characters, btw.

 

[scriptordelecto]

Sweetie, I don't have anything usefully devious to add, but I really hate a bitch that can't get past the high school crap!

I hope your talk with the neighbor will help settle some things.

In the mean time....HUGS and a few es for you babe.

 

[FallingToFly]

TY Script.

*tackles* good to see your sweet self.

 

[SeaCat]

I think the Tactical Nuke would be a bit too dramatic, not to mention it might get her neighbors just a bit irritated at you.

Putting her in front of an avalanch or failing that having her go on a hide and seek in one of the numerous mines in Colorado might be benificial to her education.

My advice for now is to talk with the neighbors and explain that it wasn't you. (I wouldn't go into the family drama right now with them though.)

You might also be able to put in a complaint with Animal Control about someone useing your name on a complaint. It probably won't do any good but it puts you on record with them. (Although they might have a phone number the complaint came in from, if they do and they will give it to you make sure to document it.)

If anything else like this happens make sure to document it.

Unfortunately at this point there isn't much you can do. Keep documenting it though and get yourself on record with the local P.D. if needed.

If it continues and you can identify the person doing it, and you have everything documented then there may be some options you can legaly take.

That being said you can always do a bit of research for an appropriate address then send the local chapter of the Hell's Angels Photoshopped pictures of her while explaining she's been trash talking them.

Cat

 

[FallingToFly]

She'd just chain-bang them, if she isn't already. Did try to talk to the neighbor and got nowhere at all. Going to get Hubby to help, as he has lived here for 2 years and they're friendly.

 

[cloudy]

Nothing much helpful to add, but I'll let you borrow all my karate trophies, have your pic taken with them, and then mail it to her.

She might chill after that.

 

[FallingToFly]

Okay, so neighbors talked to hubby at some point after I tried today, and it's all settled. No more issues, and they're appalled when they started thinking about it and realized it really couldn't have been anyone else. They thought she was their friend (she also had lived here until a few months ago).

Drama over, but I'm still so annoyed. It's still tempting to do something really awful...

But I'm not really that kind of woman. And I suppose therein lies the difference- I recognize the evil urge, but have enough maturity and self-discipline not to act.

 

[DeeZire]

....It's still tempting to do something really awful...

But I'm not really that kind of woman. And I suppose therein lies the difference- I recognize the evil urge, but have enough maturity and self-discipline not to act.

Isn't there a "naked pictures" forum around here somewhere?

 

[SweetWitch]

Hi, FTF! I'd ask how you're doing, but that's pretty obvious.

I have questions:

1. Did you do anything wrong? Answer: No.

2. Did you personally attack the suspected perp? I don't know this answer, but I'd guess not.

3. Why do you keep yourself shut-in? This could be part of the problem.

Stop being a victim. You didn't do anything wrong to warrant such behavior on the part of the other person, so stop taking ownership of the problem. Attitude is important. She was shacked up with your husband, not the other way around. If she's got her nose out of joint because he decided to return to his wife and family, she's the one with the problem. Stop taking the misery of it on yourself.

Okay, so the bitch is interfering with your life. Get out there and live your life. Meet your neighbors. Walk in the neighborhood. Get friendly with everyone and show them your sunny side. Let them see who you are and what you're about. Establish a relationship with them and they'll see there's no way you could do such things.

And follow SeaCat's advice. Document everything. Be proactive and take charge of the situation. Don't give an inch to anyone who is out to cause you trouble. Demand the AC people see this as a phony complaint, register a complaint of your own. Stop being hurt and get angry. You have every right to get pissed, but being sad about it only allows more opportunity to be hurt. Don't give the twit the satisfaction.

Anyway, that's my two cents. The angry woman thing is my shtick. I'd rather get pissed off than hurt any day of the week.

 

[Tx Tall Tales]

Buy this book: Spite, Malice & Revenge by George Hayduke and some other guy.

http://www.amazon.com/Spite-Malice-Revenge-Ultimate-Diabolical/dp/0517676044

Read it. Study it. Get your revenge. Gloat.

It's my personal 'get-even' Bible. And it has some amazing solutions.

For example:

Somebody may have once sent post-cards to their boss at work, knowing the admins would see them when they sorted the mail. The post card was from a 'same-sex' significant other, sent to the heterosexual married boss. They warned the boss that recent STD testing went poorly and the boss should get tested.

How long do you think it took for word of that to get around? Four years later it was still a topic of conversation.

Just one little idea from a remarkably usable reference guide.

 

[FallingToFly]

Hey Sweets!

I'm not exactly a shut-in. The cold hurts (arthritis and still healing ankle and back injuries) so I stay inside unless it's warm and sunny. The car thing is a lack of money thing. And she's just a childish person, nothing more to be said. If she causes problem for the neighbors however, I may give THEM a selection of naked pictures and the chik's email address- they can blackmail her.

Tx:

I think I had to take that book away from my son not too long ago. Will definitely put it on my check-out list.

 

[SweetWitch]

Hey Sweets!

I'm not exactly a shut-in. The cold hurts (arthritis and still healing ankle and back injuries) so I stay inside unless it's warm and sunny. The car thing is a lack of money thing. And she's just a childish person, nothing more to be said. If she causes problem for the neighbors however, I may give THEM a selection of naked pictures and the chik's email address- they can blackmail her.

Tx:

I think I had to take that book away from my son not too long ago. Will definitely put it on my check-out list.

Walking is good for the healing process. Get a jar of Tiger Balm for the aches. Give the neighbors the pics and laugh about what a fool she is. Go to Walgreens and get your oil. Pamper yourself. I worry about you. You need to get out. It's not good to stay inside. I'm sorry about your pain. 24 years after breaking my neck, I still feel it--especially in the cold--but I still want to live.