Performing Cunnilingus: Dominant or submissive

[NomadLady]

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I would really enjoy that as a "regular gift".....

 

[ownedsubgal]

ownedsubgal, LOL!

I kind of like the idea of stringing you up by your spread ankles, with your cunt pulled wide open. Let's see how subservient your owner's oral attention would feel then.

hardy har har...i admit it may not be entirely logical, but that's just how it effects me on a gut level. and i'll ask you the same question i asked DG and Simon...what would you get out of the act, on someone incapable of experiencing even the slightest pleasure from it? just enjoying the taste of pussy?! *barf*

 

[where]

hardy har har...i admit it may not be entirely logical, but that's just how it effects me on a gut level. and i'll ask you the same question i asked DG and Simon...what would you get out of the act, on someone incapable of experiencing even the slightest pleasure from it? just enjoying the taste of pussy?! *barf*

the pleasure knowing you get NO pleasure from it?

 

[ownedsubgal]

the pleasure knowing you get NO pleasure from it?

eh, that's feasible for a serious sadist. anyone else, not so much.

 

[where]

eh, that's feasible for a serious sadist. anyone else, not so much.

well I'm a beginner in all this, sooooo....

 

[Stella_Omega]

hardy har har...i admit it may not be entirely logical, but that's just how it effects me on a gut level. and i'll ask you the same question i asked DG and Simon...what would you get out of the act, on someone incapable of experiencing even the slightest pleasure from it? just enjoying the taste of pussy?! *barf*

*barf* huh? Aren't you glad that you and I will never meet in person? because if we did, the first thing I would do would be to smother you under my ass.

And then I would string you up by your heels-- and leave you alone and bored while I ate a different pussy-- one that screamed while it came from my tongue.

 

[where]

*barf* huh? Aren't you glad that you and I will never meet in person? because if we did, the first thing I would do would be to smother you under my ass.

And then I would string you up by your heels-- and leave you alone and bored while I ate a different pussy-- one that screamed while it came from my tongue.

*volunteers*

 

[catalina_francisco]

A curious thought crossed my mind in noticing that some think the one performing cunnilingus does so solely to give pleasure to the recipient, and further, that some do not think the PYL could get any pleasure from it themselves. Why would people who often profess loving giving blow jobs to their PYL (or others) for the act itself (taste included, not submission), assume the PYL would not enjoy being the doer? It sounds like saying, 'Oh, I love chocolate so much I can't stop eating it....but I won't offer you any because how could you possibly like it?!!". It confuses me even more when submissive personalities think it comes down to whether they enjoy it or not....for us that is not the first and foremost point, it is about what he enjoys and wants...if I do to, great, but if I don't, it isn't going to influence his actions to the point of denying himself.

Catalina

 

[Stella_Omega]

*volunteers*

Hope you don't mind some teeth, too.

 

[KoPilot]

hardy har har...i admit it may not be entirely logical, but that's just how it effects me on a gut level.

See, I'm the exact opposite and a bit of a weirdo in that sense.

Even though I'm a smidge taller than S, and sometimes ask him to do things for me, and occasionally demand things (they're usually purely for his benefit tbh, though), I have this odd ability to stay in a s-type headspace almost all the time. I guess that's because I identify more as a "small" or "pet" than the traditional definition of "sub". :B

That's prolly really counter-intuitive for many folks here, but I'm stickin' to my guns!

 

[ownedsubgal]

See, I'm the exact opposite and a bit of a weirdo in that sense.

Even though I'm a smidge taller than S, and sometimes ask him to do things for me, and occasionally demand things (they're usually purely for his benefit tbh, though), I have this odd ability to stay in a s-type headspace almost all the time. I guess that's because I identify more as a "small" or "pet" than the traditional definition of "sub". :B

That's prolly really counter-intuitive for many folks here, but I'm stickin' to my guns!

it doesn't take me out of my submissive "headspace." it just feels very wrong...like i'm engaging in something completely not intended for me, like sex with another woman or giving somebody a spanking.

 

[the captians wench]

it can be either, depending on the nature and attitude of the giver. however it's something i happen to loathe having done to me, more than anything else on earth...for many reasons, but primary among those would be that something about it makes me view the giver as subservient. no matter how controlling they are, no matter how forceful. it's my own personal hang-up and i own it.

but i have a question for DeepGreen and Simon and any other Dominant types who do this...you have both said that it can be a way of controlling pleasure, but what if a female finds absolutely no pleasure in the act at all...in fact they respond quite negatively? would you continue to do it?

i ask because i could at least intellectually (if not emotionally) view the act as dominant if it was done purely for the giver's own enjoyment, with no concern for the receiver's response.

When ever I've experienced recieving, it's been because the PYL wanted to do so and surprized the shit out of me every time. I think that's what attracts them to do it to me, because I don't expect it, at all. They all have liked to shock me. And it's also been a matter of when he wanted to stop and move on, he did whether I wanted more/came/wanted him to stop/was on the edge, or any other regaurd to what I wanted.

Even when it's been done at my request, it has always been done on his terms, and because he really wished to do it.

I can get the same way when I get a cock in my mouth. In certain mind frames I can forget this is suposed to be about him and focas on how it feels to have his cock in my mouth, and how much I love the taste, the musky smell of his crotch, the growing hardness on my tongue, the way I choke when I take it all in. My mind kind of seperates him from his cock and suddenly I don't care if he's enjoying or not, I just want to do my thing, maybe make him harder, maybe I'm ready to drink his sweet nectar, maybe I want to just suck for as long as I can.

It's not until I have that hand pull thru my hair, resetting my pace to satisfy him, that I remember my place.

Giving doesn't have to be a submissive thing.

 

[ownedsubgal]

A curious thought crossed my mind in noticing that some think the one performing cunnilingus does so solely to give pleasure to the recipient, and further, that some do not think the PYL could get any pleasure from it themselves.

not sure who you may be referring to here, but i haven't said anything of the sort. my questions were aimed specifically at the Dominants who spoke up and expressed their enjoyment in the activity due to the pleasure it brought to their partner (and their control of that pleasure). i'm wondering how much enjoyment such folks would get out of performing the act on someone for whom that act was not pleasurable.

as for blow-jobs, i am one who receives great fulfillment from that act, but only when given to someone who greatly enjoys it. i would have no interest in blowing someone who hated it, or who even had a "meh" attitude about it. that's part of my submissive nature, and what makes me different from say my Master, whose sexual fulfillment has zilch to do with his partner's pleasure, or lack of.

 

[Stella_Omega]

not sure who you may be referring to here, but i haven't said anything of the sort. my questions were aimed specifically at the Dominants who spoke up and expressed their enjoyment in the activity due to the pleasure it brought to their partner (and their control of that pleasure). i'm wondering how much enjoyment such folks would get out of performing the act on someone for whom that act was not pleasurable.

If a dominant liked eating pussy because they get off on their partner's enjoyment, then they probably wouldn't want to eat your pussy.

as for blow-jobs, i am one who receives great fulfillment from that act, but only when given to someone who greatly enjoys it. i would have no interest in blowing someone who hated it, or who even had a "meh" attitude about it. that's part of my submissive nature, and what makes me different from say my Master, whose sexual fulfillment has zilch to do with his partner's pleasure, or lack of.

If you pissed me off by calling pussy *barf* I'd make you eat pussy until you barfed, and then I'd make you eat the barf-- over and over again, until you learned the difference between the two.

I would eat your pussy as long as I felt like it, than I'd shove my pussy-flavored tongue down your throat. Then I'd make you eat that barf, too.

Then you could go wash the dishes and make my dinner. With "I love pussy" written all over your ass.

 

[SimonBrooke]

it can be either, depending on the nature and attitude of the giver. however it's something i happen to loathe having done to me, more than anything else on earth...for many reasons, but primary among those would be that something about it makes me view the giver as subservient. no matter how controlling they are, no matter how forceful. it's my own personal hang-up and i own it.

but i have a question for DeepGreen and Simon and any other Dominant types who do this...you have both said that it can be a way of controlling pleasure, but what if a female finds absolutely no pleasure in the act at all...in fact they respond quite negatively? would you continue to do it?

i ask because i could at least intellectually (if not emotionally) view the act as dominant if it was done purely for the giver's own enjoyment, with no concern for the receiver's response.

I wouldn't repeat it if I found it didn't work. The art of sex, like I said, is to give pleasure, and I like to master the arts I practice. You need to be sensitive to your partner. But if you respond immediately to her every expression of displeasure, she's effectively topping from the bottom because you're letting her do it. Much better to make a mental note, take what you're doing to some conclusion which seems natural to you, and next time, not do whatever it was that didn't work.

But the receiver's response is exactly what I'm seeking to control and seeking to enhance. I am the actor: I have agency, she has none (or as little as I can let her have). She is the playing field, the canvas on which I work my art. Her orgasm is the tune I play on my instrument. My pleasure is always - has always been - that I can make her come, and as often and intensely as possible. Making me come is too easy to be a challenge.

All this applies just as much to forced anal penetration as it does to cunnilingus.

 

[KoPilot]

not sure who you may be referring to here, but i haven't said anything of the sort. my questions were aimed specifically at the Dominants who spoke up and expressed their enjoyment in the activity due to the pleasure it brought to their partner (and their control of that pleasure). i'm wondering how much enjoyment such folks would get out of performing the act on someone for whom that act was not pleasurable.

as for blow-jobs, i am one who receives great fulfillment from that act, but only when given to someone who greatly enjoys it. i would have no interest in blowing someone who hated it, or who even had a "meh" attitude about it. that's part of my submissive nature, and what makes me different from say my Master, whose sexual fulfillment has zilch to do with his partner's pleasure, or lack of.

Yeah, I know what you mean... I've got other things that do that to me, though not quite to that extent.

Being on top being one of them. xD

 

[ownedsubgal]

If a dominant liked eating pussy because they get off on their partner's enjoyment, then they probably wouldn't want to eat your pussy.
If you pissed me off by calling pussy *barf* I'd make you eat pussy until you barfed, and then I'd make you eat the barf-- over and over again, until you learned the difference between the two.

I would eat your pussy as long as I felt like it, than I'd shove my pussy-flavored tongue down your throat. Then I'd make you eat that barf, too.

Then you could go wash the dishes and make my dinner. With "I love pussy" written all over your ass.

you're obviously more of a sadist than i originally gave you credit for. that, or you're genuinely ticked off/offended and just going off.

btw...you could not make me do anything...not being my Owner, a regular user, or even in my general vicinity. if i were to be unfortunate to come across someone with your intentions, i would make every attempt to run away, or if that failed, simply cause myself severe physical injury, before anything you so graphically described could occur. but if it does anything for you, i'd much sooner eat barf than pussy. for me they would be basically one and the same, just with the barf you are mercifully skipping the human interaction part.

 

[midwestyankee]

If a dominant liked eating pussy because they get off on their partner's enjoyment, then they probably wouldn't want to eat your pussy.
If you pissed me off by calling pussy *barf* I'd make you eat pussy until you barfed, and then I'd make you eat the barf-- over and over again, until you learned the difference between the two.

I would eat your pussy as long as I felt like it, than I'd shove my pussy-flavored tongue down your throat. Then I'd make you eat that barf, too.

Then you could go wash the dishes and make my dinner. With "I love pussy" written all over your ass.

The midwest judge raises his "10" card.

 

[BiBunny]

Meh. I don't have a problem giving, other than like anything, it gets boring if you have to do it long. Receiving is ok, but it's nowhere near the be-all and end-all of sex that some people think it is. I'm too sensitive down there to be able to stand it very long. Just fuck me, please. Fingers, dildo, fist, cock, I'm not picky.

 

[VelvetSin]

A curious thought crossed my mind in noticing that some think the one performing cunnilingus does so solely to give pleasure to the recipient, and further, that some do not think the PYL could get any pleasure from it themselves. Why would people who often profess loving giving blow jobs to their PYL (or others) for the act itself (taste included, not submission), assume the PYL would not enjoy being the doer? It sounds like saying, 'Oh, I love chocolate so much I can't stop eating it....but I won't offer you any because how could you possibly like it?!!". It confuses me even more when submissive personalities think it comes down to whether they enjoy it or not....for us that is not the first and foremost point, it is about what he enjoys and wants...if I do to, great, but if I don't, it isn't going to influence his actions to the point of denying himself.

Catalina

I agree with this completely. If the giver got no particular enjoyment out of it and did it solely for the receiver's pleasure, then it would be submissive, but the PYLs I've encountered typically do things they enjoy, and if the pyl also likes it, bonus. It can most definitely be a Dominant act as others have described in tasty detail, and either reward or punishment.

For the "what if the pyl doesn't like it" tangent, I apply the same logic to this as a PYL spanking a pyl even if the pyl does not get off on it. The PYL likes it, it isn't a limit, so it's going to happen, deal with it. If it's a defined limit, that's another story, and if there's a revulsion to the point of emotional trauma, I'd say that's a limit.

 

[switchbitch]

Rubbish.

Being dominant means choosing who does what to whom, when (and where). The plaything does not choose when she gets eaten. She is eaten when I feel like eating her, and for as long as I feel like eating her.

That art and skill and mastery in human sexuality lies not in how much pleasure one can take for oneself: it lies in how much pleasure one can give to the other. To force another to pleasure against her own resistance is sweetest and most potent of all.

mmm yes indeed it is.oral sex whether performed on a male or female can be either dominant or submissive. As a bisexual female switch I have a somewhat broad perspective. In dominant mode I enjoy the control of my submissives pleasure at being the recipient of my lips. In submissive mode I enjoy a the element of cock and pussy worship.

 

[intothewoods]

eh, that's feasible for a serious sadist. anyone else, not so much.

I don't think you have to be that serious a sadist to enjoy this.

When ever I've experienced recieving, it's been because the PYL wanted to do so and surprized the shit out of me every time. I think that's what attracts them to do it to me, because I don't expect it, at all. They all have liked to shock me. And it's also been a matter of when he wanted to stop and move on, he did whether I wanted more/came/wanted him to stop/was on the edge, or any other regaurd to what I wanted.

Even when it's been done at my request, it has always been done on his terms, and because he really wished to do it.

I can get the same way when I get a cock in my mouth. In certain mind frames I can forget this is suposed to be about him and focas on how it feels to have his cock in my mouth, and how much I love the taste, the musky smell of his crotch, the growing hardness on my tongue, the way I choke when I take it all in. My mind kind of seperates him from his cock and suddenly I don't care if he's enjoying or not, I just want to do my thing, maybe make him harder, maybe I'm ready to drink his sweet nectar, maybe I want to just suck for as long as I can.

It's not until I have that hand pull thru my hair, resetting my pace to satisfy him, that I remember my place.

Giving doesn't have to be a submissive thing.

Like.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I'm not touching this one with a ten foot pole.


And may I just add this one thing: It's D-O-M-I-N-A-N-T, folks. One can no more be a dominate than one can be a submit.

And it's ATTORNEYS GENERAL. Not Attorney Generals, Goddamit.

Hehe.

 

[NomadLady]

And it's ATTORNEYS GENERAL. Not Attorney Generals, Goddamit.

Hehe.

ROFLMAO at DeepGreenEyes....

But really...you should have your cock in Neci's mouth...she is REALLY craving it....

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

it can be either, depending on the nature and attitude of the giver. however it's something i happen to loathe having done to me, more than anything else on earth...for many reasons, but primary among those would be that something about it makes me view the giver as subservient. no matter how controlling they are, no matter how forceful. it's my own personal hang-up and i own it.

but i have a question for DeepGreen and Simon and any other Dominant types who do this...you have both said that it can be a way of controlling pleasure, but what if a female finds absolutely no pleasure in the act at all...in fact they respond quite negatively? would you continue to do it?

i ask because i could at least intellectually (if not emotionally) view the act as dominant if it was done purely for the giver's own enjoyment, with no concern for the receiver's response.

Hold it! Is this the part where I say I'd consider it a challenge to get the female to enjoy it, and you get pissed at me for me not accepting women who don't take pleasure in receiving oral? "Cause I do so like that part!