Performing Cunnilingus: Dominant or submissive

[niv78]

There was a discussion going on amongst a circle of friends last night and this topic came up. Does performing cunnilingus give off the perception of a Dominant being less dominate? I know there are some cultures, like Italians, where it is considered a less manly thing to do. I am interested in hearing what the community thinks about it.

 

[wicked woman]

I don't think the act, in and of itself, is either dominant or submissive.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Depends on the attitude. It can definitely be a dominant act.

To position her body perfectly, roughly hold her thighs open, pin her wrists down while you're eating and sucking her, place her hands where you want them, with yours on top; to take her to the edge over and over again until you give her permission to cum...I love all of these!

 

[sebastianbmt]

I don't think it is inherently dominate or submissive. With the average couple, who ever that might be, it might be slightly more of a submissive act for the man.

Bottom line is he could be very submissive or dominate depending on the scenario. I'm sure you can find plenty of examples of both in the story archive.

 

[SimonBrooke]

There was a discussion going on amongst a circle of friends last night and this topic came up. Does performing cunnilingus give off the perception of a Dominant being less dominate? I know there are some cultures, like Italians, where it is considered a less manly thing to do. I am interested in hearing what the community thinks about it.

Rubbish.

Being dominant means choosing who does what to whom, when (and where). The plaything does not choose when she gets eaten. She is eaten when I feel like eating her, and for as long as I feel like eating her.

That art and skill and mastery in human sexuality lies not in how much pleasure one can take for oneself: it lies in how much pleasure one can give to the other. To force another to pleasure against her own resistance is sweetest and most potent of all.

 

[BiBunny]

Why does it matter?

 

[NomadLady]

Depends on the attitude. It can definitely be a dominant act.

To position her body perfectly, roughly hold her thighs open, pin her wrists down while you're eating and sucking her, place her hands where you want them, with yours on top; to take her to the edge over and over again until you give her permission to cum...I love all of these!

Neci is a lucky lady.....yummmmmmmmm!!!!!!!

 

[PhilGarlic]

Both?

I guess it can be both, a woman takes charge, ordering her man to go down, grinding her pussy onto his mouth,

or the guy taking charge, teasing, nibbling almost bringing her to orgasm until she is begging for more, holding her down by the hips so she cant drive against you,

yeah both I think

 

[PrimoTat]

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l70mj0xFLo1qzi1qgo1_500.jpg

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l70mj0xFLo1qzi1qgo1_500.jpg

Love that.

 

[sb2009]

he can think of it as whatever he wants to as long as I get to enjoy. And I gladly respond in kind ;-)

 

[where]

There was a discussion going on amongst a circle of friends last night and this topic came up. Does performing cunnilingus give off the perception of a Dominant being less dominate? I know there are some cultures, like Italians, where it is considered a less manly thing to do. I am interested in hearing what the community thinks about it.

most of the italians I met were enthusiastic cunt munchers. I think the only 'dominants' who think it's a bit submissive are the ones who need '-' around the word dominant.

 

[midwestyankee]

most of the italians I met were enthusiastic cunt munchers. I think the only 'dominants' who think it's a bit submissive are the ones who need '-' around the word dominant.

This sounds like a kissing cousin to the notion that getting your ass played with will turn a het guy to homosexuality.

 

[where]

This sounds like a kissing cousin to the notion that getting your ass played with will turn a het guy to homosexuality.

that would mean there are an awful lot of het guys turning gay. Might explain why three of my ex's then came out as gay after meeting me

 

[midwestyankee]

that would mean there are an awful lot of het guys turning gay. Might explain why three of my ex's then came out as gay after meeting me

I'm not touching this one with a ten foot pole.


And may I just add this one thing: It's D-O-M-I-N-A-N-T, folks. One can no more be a dominate than one can be a submit.

 

[where]

I'm not touching this one with a ten foot pole.

well if it's just ass play that makes them gay then it can't be me turning them gay, can it?

which is a good thing, right?

 

[midwestyankee]

well if it's just ass play that makes them gay then it can't be me turning them gay, can it?

which is a good thing, right?

Depends on where you like to put your fingers, no?

 

[rekane]

I say Dom

My husband says that he likes to lick me into submission. He loves the power he wields when my body responds to his tongue.
So, in our case, it is an act of domination, and I really struggle to not submit. *wink*

@midwestyankee: best. avatar. ever.

 

[where]

Depends on where you like to put your fingers, no?

I can put them in places other than their ass to make them catch teh ghey?

 

[Dearelliot]

I think many subs want to be "Forced to perform" When in fact they love it...so its up to the individual if he is doing it as punishment or because he wishes to..I for one would pay for the privilege

 

[00Syd]

And may I just add this one thing: It's D-O-M-I-N-A-N-T, folks. One can no more be a dominate than one can be a submit.

THANK YOU.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm a bit too busy to get into this at the moment, but my thoughts (and others from before) can be found in Travellin' South - The Dominant Kiss?

Catalina

 

[ownedsubgal]

it can be either, depending on the nature and attitude of the giver. however it's something i happen to loathe having done to me, more than anything else on earth...for many reasons, but primary among those would be that something about it makes me view the giver as subservient. no matter how controlling they are, no matter how forceful. it's my own personal hang-up and i own it.

but i have a question for DeepGreen and Simon and any other Dominant types who do this...you have both said that it can be a way of controlling pleasure, but what if a female finds absolutely no pleasure in the act at all...in fact they respond quite negatively? would you continue to do it?

i ask because i could at least intellectually (if not emotionally) view the act as dominant if it was done purely for the giver's own enjoyment, with no concern for the receiver's response.

 

[Stella_Omega]

ownedsubgal, LOL!

I kind of like the idea of stringing you up by your spread ankles, with your cunt pulled wide open. Let's see how subservient your owner's oral attention would feel then.

 

[where]

ownedsubgal, LOL!

I kind of like the idea of stringing you up by your spread ankles, with your cunt pulled wide open. Let's see how subservient your owner's oral attention would feel then.

Oh fuck, yes!