Three Dates

[bronzeage]

Actually I am saving myself for marriage. I wish to God I could find a woman who could say the same.

This would be sad, close to pathetic, if a word of it were true.

But, let's pretend it is true and you are a virgin, who is waiting for another virgin to make a lifelong commitment, so the two of you can experience the most intimate experience imaginable. Since neither of you have any experience in intimacy and you have little imagination, it is sure to be a dreary experience.

Instead of saving yourself for marriage, you should be investing yourself. This means meeting many women and exploring all aspects of human relationships, so when you meet the right woman, you won't make all your mistakes on her.

Then you can tell her about how much fun you had creating morally indignant porn board personas.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

There are people who can't wait to have sex because they think it's the most important thing in the world and they must have as many conquests as possible as quickly as possible and then there are those who have grown up.

There's also people who are grown adults who like having sex that choose to have sex with other like-minded people because...they're grown adults who like having sex and they want to have sex with each other because they're attracted to each other, on one or many levels, without all the quantification crap.

Yeah, I know. Funny animals, them humans beans.

This would be sad, close to pathetic, if a word of it were true.

But, let's pretend it is true and you are a virgin, who is waiting for another virgin to make a lifelong commitment, so the two of you can experience the most intimate experience imaginable. Since neither of you have any experience in intimacy and you have little imagination, it is sure to be a dreary experience.

Instead of saving yourself for marriage, you should be investing yourself. This means meeting many women and exploring all aspects of human relationships, so when you meet the right woman, you won't make all your mistakes on her.

Then you can tell her about how much fun you had creating morally indignant porn board personas.

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[richard_daily]

This would be sad, close to pathetic, if a word of it were true.

But, let's pretend it is true and you are a virgin, who is waiting for another virgin to make a lifelong commitment, so the two of you can experience the most intimate experience imaginable. Since neither of you have any experience in intimacy and you have little imagination, it is sure to be a dreary experience.

Instead of saving yourself for marriage, you should be investing yourself. This means meeting many women and exploring all aspects of human relationships, so when you meet the right woman, you won't make all your mistakes on her.

Then you can tell her about how much fun you had creating morally indignant porn board personas.

Bronzeage nailed it... no pun intended.

 

[toshiskitten]

Bronzeage nailed it... no pun intended.

I want to know why it's so hard to believe that he's a virgin and saving himself for marriage?

 

[kotori]

I want to know why it's so hard to believe that he's a virgin and saving himself for marriage?

Aww, read Bronz's post. It's only slightly tongue-in-cheek.

 

[sasaou]

I want to know why it's so hard to believe that he's a virgin and saving himself for marriage?

Because he's a guy, and they crave sex. He'd have to be on a pretty serious Jesus trip to be that convinced that pre-marital sex is a sin. Even decent church kids still practice "safer" sex and tout their purity rings.

 

[toshiskitten]

Because he's a guy, and they crave sex. He'd have to be on a pretty serious Jesus trip to be that convinced that pre-marital sex is a sin. Even decent church kids still practice "safer" sex and tout their purity rings.

Not all guys are like that though. It's rare but there are still guys (and girls) that want to wait until they're married to have sex. It's a very nice feeling knowing that you are your first's first.

 

[sasaou]

Not all guys are like that though. It's rare but there are still guys (and girls) that want to wait until they're married to have sex. It's a very nice feeling knowing that you are your first's first.

Sure some guys I suppose in some place, are virgins until marriage. Mormon's? I don't know. What I do know is that if my first time was with someone who didn't know what they were doing, I'd have been terrified. I'm sure it's nice for someone to feel great that they were first, but sex is almost never something one is immediately good at, it takes a lot of practise.

 

[kotori]

Read Ian McEwan's novel On Chesil Beach.

 

[toshiskitten]

Sure some guys I suppose in some place, are virgins until marriage. Mormon's? I don't know. What I do know is that if my first time was with someone who didn't know what they were doing, I'd have been terrified. I'm sure it's nice for someone to feel great that they were first, but sex is almost never something one is immediately good at, it takes a lot of practise.

Of course it takes practice. My first time wasn't mind blowing but it was special because I gave my virginity to someone I love and that loves me. I'd rather get better as a couple then have sex with a bunch of others guy who had more experience.

 

[sasaou]

Of course it takes practice. My first time wasn't mind blowing but it was special because I gave my virginity to someone I love and that loves me. I'd rather get better as a couple then have sex with a bunch of others guy who had more experience.

It wasn't mind blowing? Not at all? Not even like "wow, so that's what sex is?!" eek. I know it gets better, but having someone who knows at least the basics of where to put it is a big help. And as far as getting better as a couple, it's sex. The more you do it the better you get! Having steady practise with your man is good, but there's much to be said about variety. lol and yes, he knows I feel this way too.

 

[ace_high]

You will one day.

Thank you, that feels really good to hear!

 

[toshiskitten]

Thank you, that feels really good to hear!

No problem. I believe that everyone has someone on this Earth that they are destined to be with. Some people don't find them until later in life, some find them right away, and some may have to go through a few bad eggs before they find them.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

Would you like to see video evidence? Because I have lots of it...

trust me.

As KRC says: show me the video.

 

[ace_high]

Because he's a guy, and they crave sex. He'd have to be on a pretty serious Jesus trip to be that convinced that pre-marital sex is a sin. Even decent church kids still practice "safer" sex and tout their purity rings.

For the record, I never said pre-marital sex was a sin...at least not to my knoweldge and if, from what I have said, you got the idea I did think pre-marital sex was a sin, then know it wasn't meant to sound that way.

 

[ace_high]

Toshiskitten:

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and posts, they are very much appreciated.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

For the record, I never said pre-marital sex was a sin...at least not to my knoweldge and if, from what I have said, you got the idea I did think pre-marital sex was a sin, then know it wasn't meant to sound that way.

I knew two virgins way back. They did everything but intercourse. Is that what you have in mind, to do everything butt intercourse?

 

[sasaou]

For the record, I never said pre-marital sex was a sin...at least not to my knoweldge and if, from what I have said, you got the idea I did think pre-marital sex was a sin, then know it wasn't meant to sound that way.

So if you don't think it's a sin, then what are you waiting for?

 

[toshiskitten]

Toshiskitten:

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and posts, they are very much appreciated.

You are very welcome. I truly hope you find the one for you soon.

 

[ace_high]

I knew two virgins way back. They did everything but intercourse. Is that what you have in mind, to do everything butt intercourse?

No, not at all. I will have my first sexual experience of any kind on my wedding night.

 

[ace_high]

So if you don't think it's a sin, then what are you waiting for?

I am waiting to share the most intimate experience two people can share with the love of my life.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

No, not at all. I will have my first sexual experience of any kind on my wedding night.

So you do not masturbate?

 

[sasaou]

I am waiting to share the most intimate experience two people can share with the love of my life.

Sex is not the most intimate experience that two people can share. There is so much more to share with someone than just sex. Not saying that it isn't wonderful and special, but you're building up to this huge thing that's just an animal act.

 

[pornstarwannabe]

Sex is not the most intimate experience that two people can share. There is so much more to share with someone than just sex. Not saying that it isn't wonderful and special, but you're building up to this huge thing that's just an animal act.

I agree. It's the intimate moments outside of sex that are meaningful

 

[Kruge]

I am waiting to share the most intimate experience two people can share with the love of my life.

Meeting someone and having sex on your first encounter can be a wonderful experience.

Given that, I would say that the sexual experience with a partner becomes much more of a powerful experience once you have built a relationship. The emotional aspect of making love, or even a simple kiss becomes much more meaningful if you genuinely understand and care about your partner.

Best wishes for finding that special someone