I've asked this on another site, and it got a good range of replies and discussion.
Ok firstly I don't want some smart ass reply like ' why do you think I joined Lit duh'? That's a given..but there is surely more.
Adult sites attract adults sure, but there has to be areas of the site you actively looked for..
Was it Personals, or just somewhere to hang out of an Adult nature.., or the Picture threads, or was it the Writing?
And why have you stayed? IE Relationships formed, ..friendships or romances..the love of writing..the love of hanging out..filling in time.
It's not a pole thread, and I'm not putting it up on the General board, cause I find that place scary..So answer or don't answer....But be respectful please of one anthers replies.
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For me, I only got interested in erotica about 3 years ago, and just literally one night I googled up the topic, and found my 'other' site. I was stunned/shocked/amazed that a place existed that fitted my needs without demanding anything back other than its members enjoyment..Through there I found Lit, and joined it a few months later for the writing in srp.
Lits huge, much bigger than my other site, and back then I wasn't so weary. I posted sometimes in the general board until one Sunday morning I posted about the economy in my country in a like minded thread, and I got a barrage of hate mail from a bigot in Great Britain who hated the Irish, and seemed to hate Catholics even more.
It went on for a few days, none of which I replied to, but none of which was dealt with either by the staff I brought it up to, so I left. I was actually made feel ashamed of who I was by that man..That won't ever happen again!..
One thing I've learned on the Net since is to hang back, and not jump in until I've made some judgments..Some are right, some are wrong, but that's life, however I'm also usually very lucky in my judgements.
I came back `18 months later approx, because of an invite from another writer who promptly vanished. My first contact then was with CG in the Pearl, who welcomed me and unwittingly proved via chatting there, that my perceptions of Lit was a little unfair.. esp in the Srp forum where I'd enjoyed myself first time around. I met other writers, one of whom I'm still writing with. Marauder 13, and who I would call a friend at this stage.
The reasons I stay..
Writing. I love writing. I love the buzz, I love doing the ordinary things in RL and suddenly having a little longing to visit, even for a few minutes, just to catch on those that interest me .
I stay because I would miss CG and his chivalry,
And definitely M13 too much, cause he makes me work hard, and scares the bejesus out of me
( yeah right).
Also Firmhanded_Daddy cause he's cute and toyboy material if I were hunting.
I'd miss Minxi and her hormonal attacks lol ( that's said fondly sweetie)..and Yeishia for her dreamy outlooks and good soul.
I'd miss my partners way too much, cause I'm blessed to have attracted some of the best writers on the forum in my view, and they get me and respect my limits, and the fact I'm not looking for more than a writing partner.
There's lots of reasons, and it's all about the super people here in the Lounge . I only go to the Lounge now and my threads in SRP, cause while it's all fantasy, outside the forum is just far too aggressive and angry for my liking, and here, sure there's arguments, but there's always someone there to watch your back.
Yep..I ramble.
Ok firstly I don't want some smart ass reply like ' why do you think I joined Lit duh'? That's a given..but there is surely more.
Adult sites attract adults sure, but there has to be areas of the site you actively looked for..
Was it Personals, or just somewhere to hang out of an Adult nature.., or the Picture threads, or was it the Writing?
And why have you stayed? IE Relationships formed, ..friendships or romances..the love of writing..the love of hanging out..filling in time.
It's not a pole thread, and I'm not putting it up on the General board, cause I find that place scary..So answer or don't answer....But be respectful please of one anthers replies.
__________________________________________
For me, I only got interested in erotica about 3 years ago, and just literally one night I googled up the topic, and found my 'other' site. I was stunned/shocked/amazed that a place existed that fitted my needs without demanding anything back other than its members enjoyment..Through there I found Lit, and joined it a few months later for the writing in srp.
Lits huge, much bigger than my other site, and back then I wasn't so weary. I posted sometimes in the general board until one Sunday morning I posted about the economy in my country in a like minded thread, and I got a barrage of hate mail from a bigot in Great Britain who hated the Irish, and seemed to hate Catholics even more.
It went on for a few days, none of which I replied to, but none of which was dealt with either by the staff I brought it up to, so I left. I was actually made feel ashamed of who I was by that man..That won't ever happen again!..
One thing I've learned on the Net since is to hang back, and not jump in until I've made some judgments..Some are right, some are wrong, but that's life, however I'm also usually very lucky in my judgements.
I came back `18 months later approx, because of an invite from another writer who promptly vanished. My first contact then was with CG in the Pearl, who welcomed me and unwittingly proved via chatting there, that my perceptions of Lit was a little unfair.. esp in the Srp forum where I'd enjoyed myself first time around. I met other writers, one of whom I'm still writing with. Marauder 13, and who I would call a friend at this stage.
The reasons I stay..
Writing. I love writing. I love the buzz, I love doing the ordinary things in RL and suddenly having a little longing to visit, even for a few minutes, just to catch on those that interest me .
I stay because I would miss CG and his chivalry,

And definitely M13 too much, cause he makes me work hard, and scares the bejesus out of me
Also Firmhanded_Daddy cause he's cute and toyboy material if I were hunting.
I'd miss Minxi and her hormonal attacks lol ( that's said fondly sweetie)..and Yeishia for her dreamy outlooks and good soul.
I'd miss my partners way too much, cause I'm blessed to have attracted some of the best writers on the forum in my view, and they get me and respect my limits, and the fact I'm not looking for more than a writing partner.
There's lots of reasons, and it's all about the super people here in the Lounge . I only go to the Lounge now and my threads in SRP, cause while it's all fantasy, outside the forum is just far too aggressive and angry for my liking, and here, sure there's arguments, but there's always someone there to watch your back.
Yep..I ramble.
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