How would you feel?

[OZtm]

I just took my wife out for lunch, and while we were enjoying our meal. A very attractive lady walked in, I mean this girl was CUTE!!! And sadly all by herself. My wife and I wanted so badly to go over and invite her to join us for lunch, but we respected her privacy and let her dine alone (Silk Scarlet always hated when people come over and hit on her while she was trying to eat)

But it got me to thinking, if you where eating alone, how would you feel if a couple came over and politely invited you to join them. I myself wouldn't mind at all.

 

[dragonrazor]

I just took my wife out for lunch, and while we were enjoying our meal. A very attractive lady walked in, I mean this girl was CUTE!!! And sadly all by herself. My wife and I wanted so badly to go over and invite her to join us for lunch, but we respected her privacy and let her dine alone (Silk Scarlet always hated when people come over and hit on her while she was trying to eat)

But it got me to thinking, if you where eating alone, how would you feel if a couple came over and politely invited you to join them. I myself wouldn't mind at all.

It would depend on the couple.

 

[monique_minx]

And the invitation would make me wonder why

 

[Vail_Indigo]

I would mind it. Because I can't imagine you doing that to a guy.

 

[zydrate]

Depends on if you're buying or not? LOL jk....

I normally don't dine alone so yeah...won't be an issue for me....

 

[monique_minx]

Well yeah, as Vail said, if any guy/girl or even a couple approached me like that, I'd think they'd have ulterior motives to it.

Hell I've met and played with some incredibly kinky couples and while I wouldn't mind personally, the thoughts would be there. You'd have to be incredibly naive not to be thinking that wouldn't you?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I just took my wife out for lunch, and while we were enjoying our meal. A very attractive lady walked in, I mean this girl was CUTE!!! And sadly all by herself. My wife and I wanted so badly to go over and invite her to join us for lunch, but we respected her privacy and let her dine alone (Silk Scarlet always hated when people come over and hit on her while she was trying to eat)

But it got me to thinking, if you where eating alone, how would you feel if a couple came over and politely invited you to join them. I myself wouldn't mind at all.

Actually, I have met some really cool people from just that thing. So I wouldn't have any problem at all with it.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Well yeah, as Vail said, if any guy/girl or even a couple approached me like that, I'd think they'd have ulterior motives to it.

Hell I've met and played with some incredibly kinky couples and while I wouldn't mind personally, the thoughts would be there. You'd have to be incredibly naive not to be thinking that wouldn't you?

I don't mind the ulterior motives so much as the subtext of "Guys can handle themselves...a sad little girl needs help"
While that may not be the intent in many ways, I can't imagine them seeing a guy and thinking "Oh, he needs our company"

 

[monique_minx]

I don't mind the ulterior motives so much as the subtext of "Guys can handle themselves...a sad little girl needs help"
While that may not be the intent in many ways, I can't imagine them seeing a guy and thinking "Oh, he needs our company"

It's really the hot girl alone thing that makes me think ulterior motives...but then well I have a dirty mind and threesomes aren't ermmm *coughs* uncommon for me. I...yeah....oh look pretty shiny things *goes off to look at anything else!*

 

[Vail_Indigo]

It's really the hot girl alone thing that makes me think ulterior motives...but then well I have a dirty mind and threesomes aren't ermmm *coughs* uncommon for me. I...yeah....oh look pretty shiny things *goes off to look at anything else!*

Oh sure, definitely.
The mix of ulterior motive and underlying sexism would skeeve me out even if I was bizexual.

 

[Alana_]

I would mind it. Because I can't imagine you doing that to a guy.

I'd be of the same line of thought.

 

[Light Ice]

I don't mind the ulterior motives so much as the subtext of "Guys can handle themselves...a sad little girl needs help"
While that may not be the intent in many ways, I can't imagine them seeing a guy and thinking "Oh, he needs our company"

That belongs in the feminist handbook, my dear Vail.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

That belongs in the feminist handbook, my dear Vail.

which makes sense since I am an unabashed feminist

 

[Light Ice]

which makes sense since I am an unabashed feminist

You've done your studying, that's for sure.

 

[Drunken_Angel]

That belongs in the feminist handbook, my dear Vail.

You say feminist as if it is a bad thing.

 

[Light Ice]

You say feminist as if it is a bad thing.

I see your lure and raise you a skillful evasion technique.

Look. A hamster!

 

[Vail_Indigo]

You've done your studying, that's for sure.

only way to survive and cause change

 

[Drunken_Angel]

I see your lure and raise you a skillful evasion technique.

Look. A hamster!

Analyzes the sexist underpinnings of just such an evasion.

 

[Light Ice]

Analyzes the sexist underpinnings of just such an evasion.

Thankfully for me, DA, your ability to analyze such nimble techniques of evasion is severely limited by your smaller, female, brain.

 

[IAboy]

How sad is it that we've come to a point where we would question a couple wanting to give some company when we're alone. I would welcome the invitation. Now would that same invite be made to someone who was just plain looking or not that good looking at all? Would it be made to a man, for example, with severe achne? Would it be made to a woman regardless of looks? I think we need to feel comfortable enough with each other as a human race to accept whatever kindness is offered to us. I've felt alone many times in my life and have always welcomed whatever company and kindess which was shown to me never questioning the motives. Believe in your fellow human being until they give you reason not to.... Just my opinion.

 

[Drunken_Angel]

Thankfully for me, DA, your ability to analyze such nimble techniques of evasion is severely limited by your smaller, female, brain.

*laughs* Did you know Einstein's brain was four ounces smaller than average? I guess in the vernacular you males are so fond of: size isn't everything.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

How sad is it that we've come to a point where we would question a couple wanting to give some company when we're alone. I would welcome the invitation. Now would that same invite be made to someone who was just plain looking or not that good looking at all? Would it be made to a man, for example, with severe achne? Would it be made to a woman regardless of looks? I think we need to feel comfortable enough with each other as a human race to accept whatever kindness is offered to us. I've felt alone many times in my life and have always welcomed whatever company and kindess which was shown to me never questioning the motives. Believe in your fellow human being until they give you reason not to.... Just my opinion.

Yes, which is a perfectly fine attitude for a guy.
Forgetting the sexist subtext, safety is a massive concern. Might the couple just be being nice? Sure. Is that probably the case? Sure. But you have to be really really certain before you go and put yourself in a (even more) vulnerable position.

Quite simply put, the world men live in is VERY different than the one women have to live in.

Is this ugly? Yes.
Is this true? Yes.
Work to change that.

 

[Light Ice]

*laughs* Did you know Einstein's brain was four ounces smaller than average? I guess in the vernacular you males are so fond of: size isn't everything.

Did you know if you weren't exclusively into chicks I'd get you drunk and try a clumsy, blatant, pass at you?

 

[Light Ice]

Yes, which is a perfectly fine attitude for a guy.
Forgetting the sexist subtext, safety is a massive concern. Might the couple just be being nice? Sure. Is that probably the case? Sure. But you have to be really really certain before you go and put yourself in a (even more) vulnerable position.

Quite simply put, the world men live in is VERY different than the one women have to live in.

Is this ugly? Yes.
Is this true? Yes.
Work to change that.

Can we have an intelligent discussion on this somewhere else, and remain on friendly terms? We agree on some things. Disagree on others. And I like a healthy debate.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Can we have an intelligent discussion on this somewhere else, and remain on friendly terms? We agree on some things. Disagree on others. And I like a healthy debate.

of course