Long distance punishments

[ginger2010]

HI,

My Master, we are married but He is out of town a lot, and He would like new ideas on punishing and disciplining His slave , for when he is out of town. He has instructed me to ask for ideas on Lit.We have kids so the punishments have to be sort of discreet. So if any Masters or slave have any ideas they would like to pass on we would appreciate it very much. i tend to forget my place when He is gone for awhile and He wants me to remember my place. Thank you!!

 

[RuReal]

It depends punishments need to be taylored in a lot of cases. What are things that you do not like? Are you thinking real punishment for doing something wrong or more just playful punishment?

 

[ginger2010]

punishments for bad behavior and punishments for reminding His slave that she is a slave. Master uses my butt plug and nipple rings regularly but was looking for new ideas, since He is away and can't actually punish His slave in person.

 

[RuReal]

So it is just a reminder thing. Well there is always the old writing messages on yourself for him. Taking a picture and sending it to him. Seen it a ton of times and works for some.

If you had said punishment for being bad I would suggest kneeling on rice. Have you tried cloths pins? You could do single cloths pins or a zipper.

 

[loneranger8921]

punishments

i have found the green cleaning pads cut to fit inside your bra or panties works well.
i have also used a pair of ill fitting high heeled shoes as a punishment
also siting on an ice pad while on the computer gets your attention too
corsets under your regular clothing is restricting and also a reminder of your place.

 

[satindesire]

I have only one question:

Why do you need to be punished for 'forgetting your place" and bad behavior? If you really loved him and strived with excellence to be a good partner for your Master, frequent punishments and reminders would be unnecessary.

Just the thought alone of disappointing my husband makes me do everything he asks of me as well as I possibly can. That in itself is punishment enough. Kneeling on rice for hours wouldn't do justice to the pain I would feel in my heart if I ever upset or disappointed him.

I'm confused.

 

[RuReal]

I have only one question:

Why do you need to be punished for 'forgetting your place" and bad behavior? If you really loved him and strived with excellence to be a good partner for your Master, frequent punishments and reminders would be unnecessary.

Just the thought alone of disappointing my husband makes me do everything he asks of me as well as I possibly can. That in itself is punishment enough. Kneeling on rice for hours wouldn't do justice to the pain I would feel in my heart if I ever upset or disappointed him.

I'm confused.

I think the OP used the wrong word when she said punishment, but that is just my thought on the matter.

 

[satindesire]

I think the OP used the wrong word when she said punishment, but that is just my thought on the matter.

She was quite clear in her post:

punishments for bad behavior

 

[RuReal]

She was quite clear in her post:

Every relationship has a different dynamic to it and what people want and desire. There is no one true way to do things. With that being said if what she wants floats there boats then there is no harm to it.

 

[ginger2010]

Thank you for the suggestions. i am not perfect and i doubt anybody else is. i am not sure if it is completely possible to always do everything right, no matter who you are. He is gone 4 to 6 days a week and i occasionally step out of line. i do hate to disappoint him but sometimes i do and was looking for new ideas for when i do, as he asked me to do. Thank you, again, to everyone who offered suggestions and not judgement

 

[RawHumor]

If you had said punishment for being bad I would suggest kneeling on rice. Have you tried cloths pins? You could do single cloths pins or a zipper.

Or a broomstick.

 

[satindesire]

Every relationship has a different dynamic to it and what people want and desire. There is no one true way to do things. With that being said if what she wants floats there boats then there is no harm to it.

I didn't say that there -was- any harm to it. I was very obviously confused as to why she would need 'frequent punishments' for 'bad behavior'...most slaves I have met go out of their way to be as good as they can be as often as they can be, and don't need to be punished 'frequently' for 'bad behavior'. That's -why- I was asking. I'm a logical person perfectly capable of understanding the individuality of relationships inside the BDSM umbrella and if you'll go back and re-read my posts, I never mentioned anything about "one true way" of doing things, nor did I even imply it.

Thank you for the suggestions. i am not perfect and i doubt anybody else is. i am not sure if it is completely possible to always do everything right, no matter who you are. He is gone 4 to 6 days a week and i occasionally step out of line. i do hate to disappoint him but sometimes i do and was looking for new ideas for when i do, as he asked me to do. Thank you, again, to everyone who offered suggestions and not judgement

I tried to be clear in telling you that I was confused by your posts, not 'offering judgment'. I am not perfect nor did I imply that I was, but since you would rather cast assumptions and attitude around than have a rational conversation, I'll bow out of this thread. I don't have the time to fight with people tonight.

 

[RuReal]

I have only one question:

Why do you need to be punished for 'forgetting your place" and bad behavior? If you really loved him and strived with excellence to be a good partner for your Master, frequent punishments and reminders would be unnecessary.

No you did not make a comment about one true way at all, but the statement made above. "If you really loved him and strived with excellence to be a good partner for your Master."

I know a lot of people who play different ways and acting up is part of the play. Me and mine are not into that, but we do respect that they enjoy that type of play.

I am sure you did not mean to be judgemental at all, but the above does come off as being so.

 

[redheadedtxn]

i understand what satin was saying, i feel the same way. If i know i've disappointed Master, ugh, just *knowing* is so so horrible.
Although, i have slipped up before.
The only punishment necessary for me is for Him to look at me disapprovingly and tell me "(whatever behavior) is annoying to The Man".
ugh.
Awful.

 

[the captians wench]

I have only one question:

Why do you need to be punished for 'forgetting your place" and bad behavior? If you really loved him and strived with excellence to be a good partner for your Master, frequent punishments and reminders would be unnecessary.

Just the thought alone of disappointing my husband makes me do everything he asks of me as well as I possibly can. That in itself is punishment enough. Kneeling on rice for hours wouldn't do justice to the pain I would feel in my heart if I ever upset or disappointed him.

I'm confused.

I'm the same way. No physical punishment can hurt me as much one little sentence: "I am disapointed in you"

Those 5 little words distroy my world.

 

[CutieMouse]

It's hard to offer advice without knowing A) what sort of dynamic you have and B) what does "forgetting your place" mean?

Are you "forgetting your place" by taking charge and running things while he's not there? Are you "forgetting your place" by making decisions without him? Are you "forgetting your place" by not being the cartoonishly stereotypical meek and accepting sort who never questions anything?

 

[switchbitch]

silk isn't always soft

a silk scarf knotted every 2 inches and passed between the labia then held tightly in place like G. string gradually becomes more and more abrasive the more damp it becomes.as a punishment long distance it can be very effective as the number of hours it must be worn determines the severity of the punishment. The first hour can be so pleasant you can cum simply by sitting on an upright chair and reaching forward to touch your toes then knees toes then knees. gradually you will find the silk becomes more abrasive and irritatingparticularly if one of the knots is placed directly over the clit. Left on long enough you can actually leave a rope burn.

 

[RunningJib]

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Thank you for the suggestions. i am not perfect and i doubt anybody else is. i am not sure if it is completely possible to always do everything right, no matter who you are. He is gone 4 to 6 days a week and i occasionally step out of line. i do hate to disappoint him but sometimes i do and was looking for new ideas for when i do, as he asked me to do. Thank you, again, to everyone who offered suggestions and not judgement

This can be done very easily and even the children can help.

Go to the market where something low-cut. Pick out a squash, zucchini or cucumber that is quite large. As you bend over to make your final selection, have a photo taken.

That evening, insert in your mouth, pussy and ass. Yes, post photos

 

[CutieMouse]

This can be done very easily and even the children can help.

Go to the market where something low-cut. Pick out a squash, zucchini or cucumber that is quite large. As you bend over to make your final selection, have a photo taken.

That evening, insert in your mouth, pussy and ass. Yes, post photos

So let me get this straight -

You're saying that it is perfectly okay for a woman to go grocery shopping with her children, in a low cut top, pick out a phallic shaped vegetable, and have her children take a sexualized picture [of her spilling out of her low cut top while holding the vegetable]?

Boundaries. Learn them.

 

[fuckmeat]

I don't want to sound judgemental either but I'm wondering whether you want enjoyable punishments or genuinely unpleasant deterrents that will correct your behaviour?

 

[Dixiedevil67]

A cam works well in these situations. He can watch you stand in the corner for an hour, or kneel. Though I don't punish often, My sub once found the simple task of standing with her nose to the corner for an hour was harder than she thought it would be.

But, like one of the other posters noted, each relationship is different. What one considers a punishment, another might see as a simple task. Your Master should know the difference between your wants and your needs. If you need punishment, get a cam and let him choose.

 

[LunachickXXX]

I'm assuming RunningJib was being a bit campy when he mentioned "even children could help". Children are very intuitive and they pick up on things. I don't think they would automatically sexualize the object, but if it was hinted at, they will certainly understand the notion at some level and that could cause them -at the very least- to refuse to eat salads anymore.

Verbal nuances aside, it would be nice to know more about the behavior that your husband/master wishes to punish. Is it psychological or more physical? I'm a fan of "the punishment should fit the crime" so it's good info to know.

If you have some spaces in your household that are private or you can somehow restrict access to areas (even a closet that can lock, or a shelf high enough in your bedroom that they wouldn't be able to get to) perhaps your husband could leave some devices there, or a bunch of sealed envelopes w/ some instructions, and when he feels you need to be "reminded" he can say "Go to the closet and open the envelope labeled #3" which would detail some self-punishment instructions, and you could use an auto-set on a camera to take pictures that prove you have completed the assignment. The instructions can ask that you refer to other devices in this sealed box or closet, and he could keep you on your toes by switching them out before he leaves. It takes a little bit of setup, but it could be a good idea?

 

[PleasureDaddy]

naked, holding a penny on the wall with your nose can be fascinatingly irritating. It's more fun in person though. For every time the penny drops over say a ten minute span, it's a hard spank with the belt.

Alternatively..I read this, never tried it, if you have normal round door knobs, you force your submissive to kneel and place her mouth around it. Arms crossed behind her back. I've heard the ache is excruciating. If you are into that sort of thing. More of a punishment situation sort of thing.

 

[TXtaboosexgurl]

bump bump bump

 

[AndyS_uk]

punishments for bad behavior and punishments for reminding His slave that she is a slave. Master uses my butt plug and nipple rings regularly but was looking for new ideas, since He is away and can't actually punish His slave in person.

Punishments for reminding His slave that she IS a slave.

I used to love this between my (former) Mistress and myself and she would take a lot of enjoyment in setting the punishments when we weren't together. The additional disciplines would bring us closer and we could share in things from a distance. One thing that she would do would be to ask me to write about the experience or to weave it into a story; I like to write and to have to sit down and write about things that you may still be experiencing is a torment in itself. It was also a way to give something back and to allow her to become turned on by what I had written.

One thing, Ginger is in your name! A little ginger root, peeled of its outer skin and placed into the anus and held there for a duration. "Figging" is delightfully wicked. I had to get some at the local store, didn't know how much to get and bought several roots. The shop assistant commented, in conversation, that it was a lot of ginger. I went bright red (as I do when I'm embarrassed) and said I was trying out a new recipe from Rick Stein and wasn't quite sure how much I needed.

Another that she liked, if she was leaving for just a couple of hours, would be to tie my hands behind my back and sit me in front of a video (hey it was a while ago ) that she knew would turn me on. That resulted in utter frustration as I would have to sit or kneel, unable to touch myself. It's one of those punishments that is also wickedly pleasurable.

Following on from that was the instruction to masturbate but never to masturbate to completion. The thought of having her slave turned on to the point of needing to orgasm but never being able to...and this was carried out to the letter as, after all, one doesn't want to disappoint one's Dominant partner, as other people here have pointed out.

Just a few thoughts - thought they may be of some help.