Deep Throating Trouble

[LustForHer]

So my girlfriend has been wanting to get better at deep throating. She can do it very well from a 69 position but when I am standing she has trouble with the angle. Any advice for her?

 

[FurryFury]

She should try being on the bed or her back, with her head dangling off the bed a bit. See if that angle works better for her.

 

[graceanne]

I don't know if you looked, or even if there's anything that addresses your particular problem, but I'd definitely check out the oral sex library thread.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=302188

 

[LustForHer]

She should try being on the bed or her back, with her head dangling off the bed a bit. See if that angle works better for her.

We have tried that and it does work better for her but its slightly uncomfortable and its harder for her to breathe

I don't know if you looked, or even if there's anything that addresses your particular problem, but I'd definitely check out the oral sex library thread.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=302188

I shall check that out.

 

[sweepthefloor]

Viscous Lidocaine. I have never used it, but some perverted man nurse that works in the Emergency Room told me all about it. I was shocked. He told me young girls come to ER complaining of sore throats on off hours to get this medication so they can deep throat their guys. It is like a mouth wash that is used to gargle in the throat, it has a numbing action.

I still wonder if he is telling me the truth, or telling me he wants himself deep inside my throat.

 

[graceanne]

KC once said, now that I'm thinking about it, that to deep throat you have to swallow when your SO's penis hits the back of your throat.

 

[where]

Viscous Lidocaine. I have never used it, but some perverted man nurse that works in the Emergency Room told me all about it. I was shocked. He told me young girls come to ER complaining of sore throats on off hours to get this medication so they can deep throat their guys. It is like a mouth wash that is used to gargle in the throat, it has a numbing action.

I still wonder if he is telling me the truth, or telling me he wants himself deep inside my throat.

not sure numbing the throat would suppress the gag reflex that much, would it?

I find that you just need to practice regularly (2-3 x a day) to reduce the gag reflex. Also if you let her have the control, then she can kind of breathe onto it. bit like pushing a stretch. go as far as possible. relax, breathe and then drop a little more. repeat as necessary.

 

[fuckmeat]

Chopsticks.

She takes a chopstick (or similar implement) and runs it over her tongue to the back of her mouth till her gag reflex kicks in. Then pause, try to calm down and repeat, gradually getting control of the gag reflex until the chopstick can be pushed further back into her mouth without her gagging.

Then, she can practise with a dildo, preferably a silicone one, something with some give in it. She can practise swallowing it down while she has total control and can remove it whenever she needs to. Taking the trust element out of the equation makes it easier to relax, suppress the gag reflex and hold her breath for as long as possible.

You might also want to consider a safe signal, to reassure her when you actually stick your cock down her throat. She should be able to tap out, or better still, give her something to hold that will make a noise is she drops it. If she gets faint/euphoric and can't signal, the item will fall from her hand and alert you anyway.

 

[sweepthefloor]

not sure numbing the throat would suppress the gag reflex that much, would it?

I find that you just need to practice regularly (2-3 x a day) to reduce the gag reflex. Also if you let her have the control, then she can kind of breathe onto it. bit like pushing a stretch. go as far as possible. relax, breathe and then drop a little more. repeat as necessary.

No, I don't think it would put down the gag reflex, I suspect he just wants to perv on me, which is fine with me.

Relax, breath, drop a little more. I like it. Drop a little more, I could turn that into a poem.

 

[where]

Chopsticks.

She takes a chopstick (or similar implement) and runs it over her tongue to the back of her mouth till her gag reflex kicks in. Then pause, try to calm down and repeat, gradually getting control of the gag reflex until the chopstick can be pushed further back into her mouth without her gagging.

Then, she can practise with a dildo, preferably a silicone one, something with some give in it. She can practise swallowing it down while she has total control and can remove it whenever she needs to. Taking the trust element out of the equation makes it easier to relax, suppress the gag reflex and hold her breath for as long as possible.

You might also want to consider a safe signal, to reassure her when you actually stick your cock down her throat. She should be able to tap out, or better still, give her something to hold that will make a noise is she drops it. If she gets faint/euphoric and can't signal, the item will fall from her hand and alert you anyway.

I find a bite is a very effective safe signal when deepthroating.

No, I don't think it would put down the gag reflex, I suspect he just wants to perv on me, which is fine with me.

Relax, breath, drop a little more. I like it. Drop a little more, I could turn that into a poem.

would you go further than perving?

and if you put it in a poem, you tube yourself reading it, kay?

 

[LustForHer]

Hello, this is lustforher's girlfriend. Its not the gag reflex i have trouble with, I know how to control it, I just have trouble physically getting it down my throat when im kneeling in front of him. when we are in a 69 position i can swallow the whole thing no problem, but when im in front of him i just cant figure out how to get it down into my throat. I apologize if I'm not being clear enough with what my problem is

 

[CutieMouse]

Hello, this is lustforher's girlfriend. Its not the gag reflex i have trouble with, I know how to control it, I just have trouble physically getting it down my throat when im kneeling in front of him. when we are in a 69 position i can swallow the whole thing no problem, but when im in front of him i just cant figure out how to get it down into my throat. I apologize if I'm not being clear enough with what my problem is

It's an issue with the angle. When you're in the 69 position, the curvature of his cock/to your soft pallet and throat is different than it is when you're kneeling in front of him.

Not to be snarky, but yes, positioning with your head hanging off the edge of the bed is going to be less comfortable and make breathing more difficult... and?

Don't use numbing sprays. Just, don't.

If deep throating with him standing over you is that important, you may just need to accept that it is going to take time. Calm, deep breathing is important, as is the inhale/exhale timing.

If you're able to deep throat in some positions, may I ask why this particular position (him standing above) is so important?

 

[LustForHer]

It's an issue with the angle. When you're in the 69 position, the curvature of his cock/to your soft pallet and throat is different than it is when you're kneeling in front of him.

Not to be snarky, but yes, positioning with your head hanging off the edge of the bed is going to be less comfortable and make breathing more difficult... and?

Don't use numbing sprays. Just, don't.

If deep throating with him standing over you is that important, you may just need to accept that it is going to take time. Calm, deep breathing is important, as is the inhale/exhale timing.

If you're able to deep throat in some positions, may I ask why this particular position (him standing above) is so important?

(GF) it is important because it is his preferred position

 

[NomadLady]

(GF) it is important because it is his preferred position

It will just take time....the more often you do it the easier it will become.

 

[warrior queen]

when i'm kneeling in front of HIM, we find we have the same problem.
or rather, had the same problem.
then one day, during some rather forcefull play, HE 'pushed' HIS cock hard against the back of my throat while holding the back of my head, and voila! down HE went.
seems to require some 'force' when in that position.
but now that we've figured it out, all is well in our world again.

 

[DVS]

She should try being on the bed or her back, with her head dangling off the bed a bit. See if that angle works better for her.

God, it works better for me.

Oh...sorry.

 

[BiBunny]

(GF) it is important because it is his preferred position

And how many cocks has he deep-throated? Until he successfully does so, he might wanna chill the fuck out on the "preferred position" thing and be glad that you can do it at all in any position because some people cannot.

 

[FurryFury]

God, it works better for me.

Oh...sorry.

*giggles*

It works better for me too but I don't have trouble breathing.

 

[FurryFury]

And how many cocks has he deep-throated? Until he successfully does so, he might wanna chill the fuck out on the "preferred position" thing and be glad that you can do it at all in any position because some people cannot.

I agree!

 

[Homburg]

Mine stands up and looks at the ceiling when he's awake, so that means either 69 or having her lay on the bed (or some other handy surface) with her head hanging off. Doesn't bother me one bit.

Then again, I don't mind modifying some mental fantasy thing in the interest of, oh, silly little things like anatomy and geometry.

 

[midwestyankee]

Hello, this is lustforher's girlfriend. Its not the gag reflex i have trouble with, I know how to control it, I just have trouble physically getting it down my throat when im kneeling in front of him. when we are in a 69 position i can swallow the whole thing no problem, but when im in front of him i just cant figure out how to get it down into my throat. I apologize if I'm not being clear enough with what my problem is

Could the problem be solved by changing the height of your mouth off the floor? This could be the case if he were tall and you were short, which would make for a very acute angle between cock and throat. If this is your situation, perhaps a simple solution would be for you to kneel on a sturdy pillow to gain some added height.

 

[VelvetSin]

Could the problem be solved by changing the height of your mouth off the floor? This could be the case if he were tall and you were short, which would make for a very acute angle between cock and throat. If this is your situation, perhaps a simple solution would be for you to kneel on a sturdy pillow to gain some added height.

This.

I have the same problem when on my knees in front of B unless elevated somehow. Height difference does complicate things. Do you have stairs in your house? If He stands on the ground and you kneel a step or so up, it gives us just the right elevation to make up for the angle issue. We have a sunken living room and the single step up is the perfect boost for me if He stands in the living room. If we're on even elevation, it rarely works and different positioning is required (others already went over those possibilities).

 

[graceanne]

I have problems with oral sex, period, when I'm on my knees and it boils down to the whole height thing. He's not that tall (5'9"), but I'm only 5' tall. On my knees I can't reach the top of his penis with my mouth.

With us he has me sit on the toilet, cause that puts me at the perfect height to be able to get him.

 

[LustForHer]

And how many cocks has he deep-throated? Until he successfully does so, he might wanna chill the fuck out on the "preferred position" thing and be glad that you can do it at all in any position because some people cannot.

Haha, no need to get snippy here, calm down. Yes it is my preferred position but I love change in my life, I love to do it every way I can. I am not upset at all that my girl can not get me all the way down in that one position, it gives her something to work at and learn. If she is never able to do it in that position I would still not be upset at all because after all it is still my favorite position (deep throating or not).

 

[YourCaptor]

I don't understand the problem.

Maybe if you stand on a stool?

Apply some force, what she gonna do, scream?