The collar

[bisexualsmoker]

Lately the idea of wearing a collar has got me so horny.
It would help me feel even more like a used slut.
What does the collar mean to you?
It must be more a submissive thing, I would think.
I'd just like to know what other people think about the collar.

 

[Noira]

For me a collar means that I own myself. It means that I'm free to chose what I wear, think, and desire. A collar means that I have the right to control any animalistic urges I have and because I was born in a free country, I can wear what I will as paradoxal as it may be. A collar means that I am anything but a used slut, because here, in my free country, I own myself. It means that people can look at me and make all the conceptions they want about me, but in the end, they'll be wrong because I'm the one who makes me me.

But I guess you were probably looking for replies from submissives. >_> My viewpoint will likely not be reflected in a single other soul here.

 

[Stella_Omega]

For me a collar means that I own myself. It means that I'm free to chose what I wear, think, and desire. A collar means that I have the right to control any animalistic urges I have and because I was born in a free country, I can wear what I will as paradoxal as it may be. A collar means that I am anything but a used slut, because here, in my free country, I own myself. It means that people can look at me and make all the conceptions they want about me, but in the end, they'll be wrong because I'm the one who makes me me.

But I guess you were probably looking for replies from submissives. >_> My viewpoint will likely not be reflected in a single other soul here.

You know, that's exactly how I feel about *my* collar.

Putting my collar on someone else, means I hold their power for them. Wearing someone else's collar means I allow them to hold mine.

 

[thelovingsadist]

To me, aside from the obvious proof of power exchange, it's meaning is much the same as a vanilla relationship ring. And so, putting my collar on someone is certainly not something I take lightly.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

You know, that's exactly how I feel about *my* collar.

Putting my collar on someone else, means I hold their power for them. Wearing someone else's collar means I allow them to hold mine.

Hey Stella_Omega, I've been trying to grow a goatee like you have for so long, but to no avil!
How you do it, I don't know. I guess I'll just have to keep on trying.

I guess I'm different in the way I assosciate the collar with submission.
I thought it was for subs.
Then again, I've never had an easy time fitting into bdsm.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

For me a collar means that I own myself. It means that I'm free to chose what I wear, think, and desire. A collar means that I have the right to control any animalistic urges I have and because I was born in a free country, I can wear what I will as paradoxal as it may be. A collar means that I am anything but a used slut, because here, in my free country, I own myself. It means that people can look at me and make all the conceptions they want about me, but in the end, they'll be wrong because I'm the one who makes me me.

But I guess you were probably looking for replies from submissives. >_> My viewpoint will likely not be reflected in a single other soul here.

You sound so sweet! Thank you!

 

[bisexualsmoker]

To me, aside from the obvious proof of power exchange, it's meaning is much the same as a vanilla relationship ring. And so, putting my collar on someone is certainly not something I take lightly.

You should elaborate!

 

[chy_girl]

What does my collar mean to me?

My collar, either day collar or play collar, isn't a fashion statement. It's a tangible symbol of choice, honor, devotion, and loyalty. It's commitment and caring regard. It's tangible proof that, even in the most difficult periods, my People have found our relationship worth the effort. And when we are out "in the community" it's also a form of emotional safety, if not physical... I'm collared, I have a Mistress and Sir, the line is drawn and protocol needs to be followed or the offender will answer to them.

For me, a collar symbolizes the commitment both ways. Yes, there is something about me that made my People decide the time and effort was worthwhile. But it also says that there is something about *them* that makes the time and effort worthwhile. And, though some may disagree, being under their collar also shows that they are mine just as much as I am theirs.

The wearing of my Mistress' collar makes me feel cherished. But it doesn't make me a slut... It makes me their girl who just so happens to double as their slut when they wish it.

 

[vintage63]

What does my collar mean to me?
For me, a collar symbolizes the commitment both ways. Yes, there is something about me that made my People decide the time and effort was worthwhile. But it also says that there is something about *them* that makes the time and effort worthwhile. And, though some may disagree, being under their collar also shows that they are mine just as much as I am theirs.
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That is exactly how I imagine the feeling. If I am ever to be so lucky that is what I imagine.
sighs

 

[FreakMyWhatNow]

For me, it is a submissive thing. The collar I wear when I am with my Master is an outward sign that I am His. I wear it because I want to be His. Wearing a collar can create new feelings. You should explore them Feelings are good. If you want to feel like a used slut, it may help. Go with it!!
The very first thing my Master does when we see each other is to place a collar on me, and the last thing He does is remove it. It does make me feel... ready...

 

[bisexualsmoker]

For me, it is a submissive thing. The collar I wear when I am with my Master is an outward sign that I am His. I wear it because I want to be His. Wearing a collar can create new feelings. You should explore them Feelings are good. If you want to feel like a used slut, it may help. Go with it!!
The very first thing my Master does when we see each other is to place a collar on me, and the last thing He does is remove it. It does make me feel... ready...

Yes. That's the way the collar idea feels for me! I want to exolore.....
Thanks.....

 

[FreakMyWhatNow]

sure just remember that you will always be different to everyone else and that its good you for to try things out for yourself. everyone has their own opinion. have fun!

 

[bisexualsmoker]

sure just remember that you will always be different to everyone else and that its good you for to try things out for yourself. everyone has their own opinion. have fun!

That's so true...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hey Stella_Omega, I've been trying to grow a goatee like you have for so long, but to no avil!
How you do it, I don't know. I guess I'll just have to keep on trying.

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I guess I'm different in the way I assosciate the collar with submission.
I thought it was for subs.
Then again, I've never had an easy time fitting into bdsm.

Yes it is a symbol of submission-- one way or another.

 

[KoPilot]

I like how the collar can mean so many different things. :3

 

[MasterPhoenix]

To me, aside from the obvious proof of power exchange, it's meaning is much the same as a vanilla relationship ring. And so, putting my collar on someone is certainly not something I take lightly.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[where]

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I'm devastated!

I feel ambivalent about collars. on one hand I wear one, but then I also made it. I liken it to a confirmed spinster designing, making and wearing engagement rings.

 

[MotherLovesYou]

@the loving sadist:

Exactly! To collar another is a very serious event, do not ever take it lightly. This signifies ownership; it is very like a marriage. I hope with a better outcome than most marriages. For the one collared has volunteered to be a slave. I have witnessed two very beautiful collaring ceremonies. One union has lasted 25 years so far, the other 17.

 

[Stella_Omega]

@the loving sadist:

Exactly! To collar another is a very serious event, do not ever take it lightly. This signifies ownership; it is very like a marriage. I hope with a better outcome than most marriages. For the one collared has volunteered to be a slave. I have witnessed two very beautiful collaring ceremonies. One union has lasted 25 years so far, the other 17.

How lovely and romantic and bourgeois, my dear.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

How lovely and romantic and bourgeois, my dear.

I agree. That one had me reaching for the Kleenex.
I guess I'm just too sensitive sometimes.

 

[thelovingsadist]

You should elaborate!

The traditional BDSM relationship (or at the very least, traditional BDSM as it was taught to me) progresses as the level of trust and devotion increases and submission deepens, from the Dom/sub stage, to the training stage, to finally the absolute Master/slave relationship. It doesn't take much imagination to see that this is a perfect mirror for the traditional vanilla progression of boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance and finally marriage.

So as MotherLovesYou stated, a collaring is a very serious thing. In my opinion, far more serious then even vanilla marriage. Why? Because now days all you have to do to be married is sign a peice of paper, put on a ring and your husband and wife (or wife and wife, or husband and husband, depending on such circumstances )--the ceramony isn't even necessary anymore in most places, so long as the legal stuff is done right. But to be someone's submissive, or to be someones Master, there needs to be a very strong foundation of trust--even more so in the deeper and more absolute Master/slave relationship, and even more so still when it's a 24/7 lifestyle relationship--even if the 24/7 relationship doesn't involve a slave.

Collaring does have many meanings to many different people. But to me, and at least a few others it seems, it is a very deep and romantic event.

 

[NomadLady]

Being so new here and back in the lifestyle after a long absence I am very new to the concept of collaring. I've read a lot lately and am curious as to one thing. In this thread is seems as though the common thread is how personal, intimate and lasting this type relationship is once it progresses to the point of collaring.
My question is....I've heard a doms that have more than one slave/sub. What is the general idea about collaring more than one slave/sub?????

 

[Stella_Omega]

I wear two rings on my left hand. The giving and receiving of those were deeply important in my relationship.

I wear a ring on my index finger right hand, which was chosen by myself, and really symbolises me in very important ways-- more than my wedding rings do. I have a ring on my thrid right finger, that I picked mostly to balance the weight of the two on my third left finger.

And I have one on my left thumb, which I wear because it fits my thumb.

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I have, very sadly, lost the old wine-red dog collar which I got when I was 17. it had a locking tongue on the buckle and I had a great old heart-shaped padlock-- I had to fabricate a key for it-- and I wore it much of the time, for about fifteen years. It used to drive some people crazy that they couldn't take it off, but it was empowering to me to know that I held my own key. I haven't ever replaced it.

I have a really wild collar trimmed out in chrome plate, that I wear for other people if they happen to not have one for the occasion. it's kind of a compliment to my top-- "Look how good a top you are, I wear this for you!" I do not put it on anyone else.

I have a chain collar, and a really sexy dog collar for my bottoms, if the scene dictates such.

Different meanings, yanno? All in the same person for the same kind of accessory...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Being so new here and back in the lifestyle after a long absence I am very new to the concept of collaring. I've read a lot lately and am curious as to one thing. In this thread is seems as though the common thread is how personal, intimate and lasting this type relationship is once it progresses to the point of collaring.
My question is....I've heard a doms that have more than one slave/sub. What is the general idea about collaring more than one slave/sub?????

The atmosphere in this forum tends toward the hopelessly romantic

 

[chy_girl]

Being so new here and back in the lifestyle after a long absence I am very new to the concept of collaring. I've read a lot lately and am curious as to one thing. In this thread is seems as though the common thread is how personal, intimate and lasting this type relationship is once it progresses to the point of collaring.
My question is....I've heard a doms that have more than one slave/sub. What is the general idea about collaring more than one slave/sub?????

It all depends on the group of people. I'm collared by my Mistress who is in turned collared by our Sir (so in a way, her collaring me is his by extension), but she is his primary. And committing to more than one person works for some, it all depends on the polly relationship and how it's arranged by each group... the understandings and such.

The atmosphere in this forum tends toward the hopelessly romantic

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