Moms... Sexually Starved

[Chasingfun17]

I just found out about this website from my husband and I am using his login and wondering about how other Moms find time for sex. I just can't get up the energy.

 

[fredrock]

your not alone

My wife is in that club. At the end of the day she dead tired. I don't blame her but I do miss er.

Fred

 

[randy123]

I just found out about this website from my husband and I am using his login and wondering about how other Moms find time for sex. I just can't get up the energy.

When you find out how they do it, please pass that info along so I can tell my wife.

I think she definitely knows how you feel...

 

[Guest]

I just found out about this website from my husband and I am using his login and wondering about how other Moms find time for sex. I just can't get up the energy.

Simply, mine doesn't bother anymore so I'm considering getting her a g-spot vibrator (on the advice of a LIT friend)...once she discovers that pleasure, I am told that she'll go nuts over having orgasms again...that is the plan anyway...we'll see.

 

[irishmarie45]

Lit has helped

Lit has definitely helped our love life in the bedroom. We are parents of three boys (ages 15, 11 and 7), so life is very busy! We have invested time reading the erotic stories and enjoying the amateur erotic pics.


Marie

 

[randy123]

Lit has definitely helped our love life in the bedroom. We are parents of three boys (ages 15, 11 and 7), so life is very busy! We have invested time reading the erotic stories and enjoying the amateur erotic pics.


Marie

Sexually, my wife is fairly conservative.... I don't she'd like the fact that i've been spending time here, even though it's an outlet for the sexual buildup that doesn't get released in the bedroom all that often... but, she recently went off the pill and I wonder if that will improve her libido... we shall see.

 

[SweetHoneyV]

It's so easy to find the energy during the day to do those things that need to get done, work, chores, toting kids to activities...but not look after our needs.

Been there.

Stay at home mom, take a 15-20 minute catnap when the kids lay down.
It helps.

If you work get the hunny to help around the house if you can. Put the energy into doing things together, it leaves more time for later.

Example, Running kids to the activities...If you usually sit in the car and wait and read a book. Go together. Sit in the car and tell each other what you'd like to do to each other.

Have him help you do the dishes later. You may not feel like it but try it and be flirty while doing it. Get each other aroused...kiss each other on the lips, on the neck, suck a finger, suck his finger, have him suck your finger...rub a wet hand on an unsupported bosom under the big loose t-shirt while you rinse and he loads the dishwasher.

Share the load, build the anticipation, send the kids to bed early and then have some you time in a bath, and then some together time in bed.

 

[Indianacouple]

It's so easy to find the energy during the day to do those things that need to get done, work, chores, toting kids to activities...but not look after our needs.

Been there.

Stay at home mom, take a 15-20 minute catnap when the kids lay down.
It helps.

If you work get the hunny to help around the house if you can. Put the energy into doing things together, it leaves more time for later.

Example, Running kids to the activities...If you usually sit in the car and wait and read a book. Go together. Sit in the car and tell each other what you'd like to do to each other.

Have him help you do the dishes later. You may not feel like it but try it and be flirty while doing it. Get each other aroused...kiss each other on the lips, on the neck, suck a finger, suck his finger, have him suck your finger...rub a wet hand on an unsupported bosom under the big loose t-shirt while you rinse and he loads the dishwasher.

Share the load, build the anticipation, send the kids to bed early and then have some you time in a bath, and then some together time in bed.

Great advice. Once I began pursuing my wife again and doing the things listed above, everything about our relationship improved, including the bedroom!

 

[culloden]

Don't lose hope. It gets better as the kids age and require less of your attention, assuming you don't damage your marriage in the dry times. Focus on the marriage almost as if it's something apart from the two of you. This might be hard to understand unless you've had a good and long marriage (22 years for us). The best I can do is to say it isn't about you or your spouse, but about each of you contributing to this third entity, the marriage. It takes maturity few young people have, and which you have to learn on the job. We always did have a pretty good sex life, but there were difficult times. The best marriages have hard times. Often, you have to put your own needs aside when your spouse's are greater. However, this only works if you both buy in. Neither party can be selfish in a good marriage, but ultimately (and ironically), the most selfish thing I ever did was to try to be a good husband. That helped my wife focus on being a great wife. In the end the dividends can be greater than the payments. And if you keep a marriage strong, then you have the basis for great sex. (Of course, sexual compatibility is a key to a good marriage, and that's a catch 22 best figured out before saying "I do.")

We're in our late 40s now, and nearly empty nesters. Yeah, we're a little older and past what pop culture would call our sexual prime, but damn, our sex life is at its best now. I would not trade it for being 30 again.

 

[tonethebone]

I'm a morning person. She is not. I'm dead tired after work. She still has energy. So during the work week, if the mood strikes. We have a mutual masturbation session. It takes way less effort and is very erotic to watch each other get off.

We save the nice long fuck for the weekends when we're both rested and have no alarms to deal with.

 

[mitchmo]

Well, I'm probably not the best to answer this b/c if I was getting it all at home I wouldn't be on lit. However, recently I have felt like I need to be pursused more from my wife, like she often doesn't notice me or takes me for granted. This then made me think she is probably feeling the same way. If she is worn out from the kids and stress of everyday life, how could she have energy left over to pursue me? Therefore I decided it was up to me to lighten her load at home, take over some of those chores or do them together, and to start to pursue her again. Not with groping and demanding but with kind words, a kiss, hug or cuddle. Texting her randomly during the day that I am thinking of her, that i miss her, I love her, I can't wait to spend time alone with her. I try to no longer burden her with the bad parts of my days at work (Hell, why live them twice by talking about them?) and instead tell her of something I saw or heard that was nice, sweet, romantic or exciting. We'll see if this helps...

 

[85bird]

Well, I'm probably not the best to answer this b/c if I was getting it all at home I wouldn't be on lit. However, recently I have felt like I need to be pursused more from my wife, like she often doesn't notice me or takes me for granted. This then made me think she is probably feeling the same way. If she is worn out from the kids and stress of everyday life, how could she have energy left over to pursue me? Therefore I decided it was up to me to lighten her load at home, take over some of those chores or do them together, and to start to pursue her again. Not with groping and demanding but with kind words, a kiss, hug or cuddle. Texting her randomly during the day that I am thinking of her, that i miss her, I love her, I can't wait to spend time alone with her. I try to no longer burden her with the bad parts of my days at work (Hell, why live them twice by talking about them?) and instead tell her of something I saw or heard that was nice, sweet, romantic or exciting. We'll see if this helps...

You are on the right path...

 

[SweetHoneyV]

Well, I'm probably not the best to answer this b/c if I was getting it all at home I wouldn't be on lit. However, recently I have felt like I need to be pursused more from my wife, like she often doesn't notice me or takes me for granted. This then made me think she is probably feeling the same way. If she is worn out from the kids and stress of everyday life, how could she have energy left over to pursue me? Therefore I decided it was up to me to lighten her load at home, take over some of those chores or do them together, and to start to pursue her again. Not with groping and demanding but with kind words, a kiss, hug or cuddle. Texting her randomly during the day that I am thinking of her, that i miss her, I love her, I can't wait to spend time alone with her. I try to no longer burden her with the bad parts of my days at work (Hell, why live them twice by talking about them?) and instead tell her of something I saw or heard that was nice, sweet, romantic or exciting. We'll see if this helps...

...sure couldn't hurt. I agree you're on the right path.

 

[Chasingfun17]

thanks all for the responses. he does do a lot around the house to help... so that isnt an issue but i do like sweethoneys advice about doing things together and trying to connect during the day. i am just not that sexually motivated and he is and while i dont like to find him on these sites... i guess i understand why.

 

[RexDaddy]

Don't lose hope. It gets better as the kids age and require less of your attention, assuming you don't damage your marriage in the dry times. Focus on the marriage almost as if it's something apart from the two of you. This might be hard to understand unless you've had a good and long marriage (22 years for us). The best I can do is to say it isn't about you or your spouse, but about each of you contributing to this third entity, the marriage. It takes maturity few young people have, and which you have to learn on the job. We always did have a pretty good sex life, but there were difficult times. The best marriages have hard times. Often, you have to put your own needs aside when your spouse's are greater. However, this only works if you both buy in. Neither party can be selfish in a good marriage, but ultimately (and ironically), the most selfish thing I ever did was to try to be a good husband. That helped my wife focus on being a great wife. In the end the dividends can be greater than the payments. And if you keep a marriage strong, then you have the basis for great sex. (Of course, sexual compatibility is a key to a good marriage, and that's a catch 22 best figured out before saying "I do.")

We're in our late 40s now, and nearly empty nesters. Yeah, we're a little older and past what pop culture would call our sexual prime, but damn, our sex life is at its best now. I would not trade it for being 30 again.

Culloden - My wife and I are in the same situation and your story sounds very similar. The most frustrating thing I've had to deal with lately is older kids who just won't get out of the house. My wife and I have always been very spontaneous when it comes to sex. But with a 22 year old and 16 year old around, spontaneity gets put on hold. I thought it was just me being frustrated, but come to find out one afternoon in the basement, it was a very shared feeling. My wife works hard during the week which leaves her tired and with low interest, so I've come to the realization that mid-week sex ain't going to happen. But I do know that small touches, massages, being a human pillow now and again as well as just listening to her vent scores well in the weekend release department. It also relaxes her to face another week, too. And, as many have said, pursuit never hurts. This is a man's point of view, I realize, but I firmly believe that such sensitivity and contact can make a difference. Hell, grope him! You might be surprised at the response. Don't get upset if you get rejected. It is also thinking ahead and about the other person. What non-sexual act would help get their mind off other things a bit so that they can start thinking sexually again. Not specific recommendations, but hopefully it will spur some ideas.

 

[rcthumper]

We have been married 29 yrs. Of course there were years that just was tough for either of us to have engery at the end of the day. Those times are tough but need to be worked through. We flirt everyday, I flash him every chance I get, he just smiles most of the time.

Keeping the tease going everyday possible makes the days when you can have the one on one time will be so great the big "O" will be great for you both......

 

[culloden]

Culloden - My wife and I are in the same situation and your story sounds very similar. The most frustrating thing I've had to deal with lately is older kids who just won't get out of the house. My wife and I have always been very spontaneous when it comes to sex. But with a 22 year old and 16 year old around, spontaneity gets put on hold. I thought it was just me being frustrated, but come to find out one afternoon in the basement, it was a very shared feeling. My wife works hard during the week which leaves her tired and with low interest, so I've come to the realization that mid-week sex ain't going to happen. But I do know that small touches, massages, being a human pillow now and again as well as just listening to her vent scores well in the weekend release department. It also relaxes her to face another week, too. And, as many have said, pursuit never hurts. This is a man's point of view, I realize, but I firmly believe that such sensitivity and contact can make a difference. Hell, grope him! You might be surprised at the response. Don't get upset if you get rejected. It is also thinking ahead and about the other person. What non-sexual act would help get their mind off other things a bit so that they can start thinking sexually again. Not specific recommendations, but hopefully it will spur some ideas.

Good points, particularly thinking about the other person. Closeness is very important.

And I hear you loud and clear about the older kids. I feel a little like a teenager again, having to sneak around to get laid. Only this time, it's the kids we're hiding from, not our parents. We buy Fandango tickets sometimes and send them off to the movies.

BTW, we could be neighbors. Isn't that a little freaky?