A few tips for Submissives questing for a Beloved

[satindesire]

It means he learned from his last mistake and made a profile but this one is now fucked too so back to the drawing board I guess.

We have some of the best troll busters I've ever met right here on this board. He's too full of himself to stay under a mask, we'll find him.

 

[zarngash]

IP ban

Done

 

[satindesire]

IP ban

Done

I don't know if they do that here or not. The mod told me that he hadn't been banned by IP, so...I don't know if that meant they never do it or just haven't yet in Blardo's case.

 

[Seurat]

Blardo

Heh. That one should go into the 'what made you smile today' thread.

 

[satindesire]

Heh. That one should go into the 'what made you smile today' thread.

*giggle* Thank you!

 

[paiselyavenger]

Um Hey - Ya'll have no reason to believe me when I write this and that's fine, that's what I get for putting myself out there, and posting late at night. Whatever. I'm not an alt (if that means that its Bloved posting as another person). I used 'questing' because I thought it was evocative language. I wrote what I did because the post made me feel less lonely. I spelled paisely the way I did because it's been my nick-name like that for a long time - sorry if I offended any grammar police. Bloved's post made me feel less alone. And I'm curious why it seems like you all enjoy insulting eachother so much. Clearly there's some backstory I'm missing. Anyhoo, carry on with making a new, tentative person feel less welcome and more out of place in the community. Either way, it seems like Bloved could do a better job with an alt.
Regards.

 

[Kikori]

... Out "there" (here) and the time don't matter. People who practice BDSM don't bite without permission and a reason.
Any new members who just randomly try to come to Bloved's rescue are either seen as alternate accounts, or just very, very uninformed people. The first post in any given topic by him is usually well constructed, and while the idea of love over abuse is a good side to take, it's well agreed that such message he's arguing for is sane. It's how he proceeds to talk to others that gets him the reputation he has. Anyone who ignores that point usually loses any credibility when trying to discredit the rest of the world for being "aganst" him.

He brought about his reception through his own behavior. Make what you will of what he posted, nothing he said actually had anything to do with BDSM in specific.

 

[CutieMouse]

Um Hey - Ya'll have no reason to believe me when I write this and that's fine, that's what I get for putting myself out there, and posting late at night. Whatever. I'm not an alt (if that means that its Bloved posting as another person). I used 'questing' because I thought it was evocative language. I wrote what I did because the post made me feel less lonely. I spelled paisely the way I did because it's been my nick-name like that for a long time - sorry if I offended any grammar police. Bloved's post made me feel less alone. And I'm curious why it seems like you all enjoy insulting each other so much. Clearly there's some backstory I'm missing. Anyhoo, carry on with making a new, tentative person feel less welcome and more out of place in the community. Either way, it seems like Bloved could do a better job with an alt.
Regards.

I'm afraid you stumbled into a post-apocalyptic Lit BDSM board... While there was some good advice offered (in the most generic sense of the word), the poster known as "BLoved" did a bang up job of both spamming and insulting pretty much every person on the forum. For example - he believed anyone attending seminars, social events (no sex involved), or seeking information in a public BDSM venue (including online forums) was condoning abuse (as defined by BLoved). My most recent relationship was (in BLoved's opinion) unethical and abusive, because I felt it imprudent to declare an obsessive love for a man I'd been dating less than two months...

I'm afraid people are still a bit gun shy to trust anyone agreeing with his posts.

Welcome to the forum, please feel free to start threads, ask questions, post opinions...

 

[paiselyavenger]

Oh! now I get it. I didn't really realize what I had stumbled into. I see how I must've looked. Thanks for the back-story. I should probably read more of the conversation before I respond to the main post. And good point about it being pretty generic advice, that's true. thanks for the welcome, and explanation. the reaction seems much less dramatic given more information.
hope I didn't offend anyone

 

[Evil_Geoff]

...
hope I didn't offend anyone

Nah, not seriously. Might have annoyed a few but that's gonna happen, don't sweat it.

We tend to be a forgiving bunch when someone can say, "Oh! Okay, I can see your point. I don't agree with it, but that's cool, you can roll that way if it works for you."

It's the ones that come in shouting "I am the Truth, the Way, and the Light! Follow ME or be cast into eternal damnation! I will teach you The One Twue Way© To Be A REAL _Insert-Scene-Role-Here_..." types. And when someone has the audacity to question their One Twue Way© they get all pissy and start throwing insults, that's when we start having issues.

Welcome aboard, paisely!

 

[Etoile]

You guys are awfully trusting. This part is very suspicious to me.

And I'm curious why it seems like you all enjoy insulting eachother so much.

I hope for all our sakes that I'm wrong, but until I see more, I reserve judgment.

 

[chy_girl]

*snip*
It's the ones that come in shouting "I am the Truth, the Way, and the Light! Follow ME or be cast into eternal damnation!
*snip*

Personally, I think eternal damnation is kind of fun on occasion. Especially when someone brings that cheese and cracker try with the olives in the middle... They're especially good olives.

That whole flogging and setting people on fire thing isn't bad either.

 

[paiselyavenger]

Geoff, thanks for the welcome! and I'm glad I read a little more, because most of the other threads I've looked at are way more laid back. Guess I know which thread starters not to browse, that sort of moral rectitude could get old really quick.
Thanks!
and the one twue way made me smile
Etoile, if i were in your shoes, I'd probably be just as dubious. Thanks for taking a wait and see with me though.

 

[Etoile]

Thanks!
and the one twue way made me smile
Etoile, if i were in your shoes, I'd probably be just as dubious. Thanks for taking a wait and see with me though.

Thanks for understanding. As one of the mods here, I had to deal with the whole situation pretty closely, so I'm quite skittish now.

Geoff spelled it wrong though. It's the one TWOO way.

 

[paiselyavenger]

Ugh, I bet that gets pretty irritating. The more I learn, the more it seems like ya'll are being pretty gentle with mr. one twoo way

 

[Stella_Omega]

As lambs.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

As lambs.

To the slaughter?

 

[satindesire]

Geoff, thanks for the welcome! and I'm glad I read a little more, because most of the other threads I've looked at are way more laid back. Guess I know which thread starters not to browse, that sort of moral rectitude could get old really quick.

The only person you'll really need to avoid is flesh4fancy, at least on this forum. Until you get your sea legs, avoid the General board and stick to the two BDSM forums and the How To board. Much less in the way of trolls there.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

And I'm curious why it seems like you all enjoy insulting eachother so much.

Well, it's not that we enjoyed it so much as we're good, decent people, and if some asswipe with a god complex throws shit at us, we're going to pick it up and throw it back.

 

[satindesire]

Well, it's not that we enjoyed it so much as we're good, decent people, and if some asswipe with a god complex throws shit at us, we're going to pick it up and throw it back.

We put on gloves first, though. I promise.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

We put on gloves first, though. I promise.

Given the origin, I'd say they were more like biohazard suits.

 

[WriterDom]

Why oh why are people bumping Bloved threads?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Why oh why are people bumping Bloved threads?

Cos we're just talking shit?

 

[satindesire]

Why oh why are people bumping Bloved threads?

This coming from a guy who started a Blardo thread.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

This coming from a guy who started a Blardo thread.

Muahahahahha