Constant Sexual Arousal

[FungiUg]

One of the things I am trying with my girl is working out ways we can keep her constantly aroused. Some of that is with verbal triggers, but we're also looking at toys such as nipple clips, clit clips, anal plugs, balls for her cunt, and the pièce de résistance would be a chain that goes around her belly then between her legs to keep a dildo in her cunt and another in her arse in place.

Has anyone had any experience doing something similar to this? If so, how did it go? What worked and what didn't?

The other thing I am considering is long term health issues, particularly with the frequent anal penetration. Anyone have any thoughts or comments?

 

[FurryFury]

I'm in a near constant state of arousal due to my mind. I'd suggest that might be where you apply your efforts.

 

[Bette_coquette]

I'm in a near constant state of arousal due to my mind. I'd suggest that might be where you apply your efforts.

Thank you for bringing this up. I can only imagine the yeast infections from 24 hour penetration!

 

[eastern sun]

I'm in a near constant state of arousal due to my mind. I'd suggest that might be where you apply your efforts.

I agree. I stayed in a state of constant arousal for a few years, and it was all through mental triggers and sexual rewards based on everyday events. In my experience, all those toys, in fact, most physical stimulation gets irritating if its extended over time. Gradually replacing them with devotional practices, like mental exercises, kegeling, bathing rituals, and other behavior rituals was more effective in generating continuous sexual energy without irritation when carried out over a period of years.

I also found that my body needed a break after a while. My blood pressure began rising. And, since our play also stimulated a lot of adrenal reactions, I felt like my immune system was weakening. I caught every virus going through my kids' schools, developed virulent infections, and had a much harder time getting rid of them.

I'll be curious to read other people's responses.

 

[FungiUg]

I'm in a near constant state of arousal due to my mind. I'd suggest that might be where you apply your efforts.

Excellent! We can give up actually having sex and just think about it.

I do a lot of mental stuff with her already. I'll often give her triggers where she will be cumming when something happens during the day. But variety is the spice of life (failing that, chilli!) So I want to do some physical stuff too.

We've already started with her wearing bands around her nipples, butt plug and balls in her cunt. I had her walking around the mall in a sexual daze the other day. Fun stuff!

 

[FungiUg]

I also found that my body needed a break after a while. My blood pressure began rising. And, since our play also stimulated a lot of adrenal reactions, I felt like my immune system was weakening. I caught every virus going through my kids' schools, developed virulent infections, and had a much harder time getting rid of them.

Wow, some interesting stuff. Don't get me wrong, I will be working on the mental stuff too, so any ideas in terms of rituals and the like are good. But knowing there can be health issues is what concerned me. So as with everything, some care needs to be involved.

 

[FungiUg]

I can only imagine the yeast infections from 24 hour penetration!

Er... yes. I did say constant arousal, not constant penetration. Daily use of toys perhaps, but certainly not 24 hour.

I'm looking for something practical here and wanting to know the types of health issues that may be involved. Thrush is one I am already aware of.

 

[CutieMouse]

I agree with the other ladies - work on her mind.

Example - I once had a... thing... with someone who had this intense little obsession with binder clips. Not clothespins - binder clips. Nasty, horrible, mean little things, binder clips. I still keep a little tin of them on my desk, and can't even glance at them without thinking of... [ahem] things, and even now the response is damn near Pavlovian. (I should probably also mention Pavlov and I are old old friends. )

My last lover? We're still on friendly terms, and if I hear a hint of a "growl" or a certain sort of chuckle - I have to remind myself we aren't lovers anymore. LOL

The down side of being that easily aroused, is that it tends to be distracting as hell. So I've had to learn to keep those thoughts tucked away in one corner of my mind, while managing work, life, kids, budgets, stress... IMO teaching arousal in a responsible manner should involve teaching coping mechanisms, so that the arousal doesn't interfere with the submissive's other obligations in life. Make sense?

 

[00Syd]

I just bought some Luna Beads for this very purpose, and so far have been very pleased with the results

 

[eastern sun]

I had her walking around the mall in a sexual daze the other day. Fun stuff!

I agree, this is fun, but one more cautionary warning. I had a lot of really inappropriate things happen when I was in that sexual daze in the middle of an ordinary life.

(examples: a father took my face in his hands and kissed me quite deeply at his six-year-old daughter's birthday party. fortunately I looked surprised as hell, because the other moms' were all watching . . . another dad chased me up the stairs at a school function, calling out that he'd been dreaming about me; he then sat next to me, instead of his wife, at the presentation and surreptitiously pressed his body against mine. . . )

I was not actively courting their attention, but I was in a constant state of sexual arousal and interacting with them. They picked up on it. And I know my eyes expressed a lot. I was surprised seeing myself in the mirror. My husband curtailed my activities (and I became more isolated) after that for fear of the social repercussions in our solidly middle-class life.

 

[FungiUg]

The down side of being that easily aroused, is that it tends to be distracting as hell. So I've had to learn to keep those thoughts tucked away in one corner of my mind, while managing work, life, kids, budgets, stress... IMO teaching arousal in a responsible manner should involve teaching coping mechanisms, so that the arousal doesn't interfere with the submissive's other obligations in life. Make sense?

Pavlov? For some reason, that name rings a bell.

My whole motivation for starting this thread was to talk about stuff that works. Pull it out and ask "I want to do this, how do I do it effectively and safely, and not just have it as impractical wank-fest material?"

So yes, dealing with coping mechanisms is part of it. We're experimenting with what works and what doesn't. As I mentioned in an earlier reply, I've already been doing the mental stuff, but I would also like to do some physical stuff. She responds really well to both.

She has two part time jobs, as well as some voluntary work, is an avid gardener, has an awesome collection of friends and family. She's also sex mad. So balancing all of those is a bit of work, but a lot of fun.

One rule I have for myself, for example, is not to interrupt her at work. So while I can make her cum simply by txting her and telling her to, I don't do it as a rule while she is working.

So yeah, life style issues are part of what I want to achieve. Because if I ignore those, the reality of it all will be just a mess.

Thanks CM

 

[FungiUg]

I just bought some Luna Beads for this very purpose, and so far have been very pleased with the results

Luna Beads? Do tell! What are they, how do you use them, what effect is it they are having that you are pleased with?

 

[FungiUg]

I agree, this is fun, but one more cautionary warning. [...]

Wow. Now that's not something I would have considered, and quite potentially scary.

Thanks for that. Mostly the idea is to keep it low key and then ramp it up a notch (or three) when she's around me. So when I had her at the mall, she was on my arm, which was good because otherwise I think she would have fallen over.

I'm glad I asked the question now, because I never would have even considered a side effect like that. Thank you.

 

[00Syd]

Luna Beads? Do tell! What are they, how do you use them, what effect is it they are having that you are pleased with?

http://en.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme&groupName=LUNA-BEADS

They are sort of like a new take on ben wa balls. They are a larger plastic ball with a smaller, loose, weighted ball in the middle, which jiggles around as you move. They are kegel exercisers, that also feel lightly erotic. I say lightly because it's not an overpowering sensation, but a light reminder as you walk, wash the dishes, get the groceries, dance, whatever.

I like them a lot

 

[FungiUg]

They are sort of like a new take on ben wa balls. [...] I like them a lot

Nice. She's already doing much the same with these:
Smartballs

At the moment I have her using them for an hour a day, and also when she's around me (which is not daily). As you said, they are lightly erotic, enough to know they are there but not too arounsing that she's turning into CutieMouse.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Apparently near enough to 24 hour anal insertions are possible, with practice. There was a profile I read on FL, where the woman was wearing an enjoy plug constantly.

Also, if you want to go there, a hood piercing can do wonders for one's arousal. Less in the creating direct stimulation, and more in the making you aware in general of yourself, kind of way.

 

[ecstaticsub]

For the past 5 years I have worn a buttplug (or anal toy of some sort) for between a couple hours up to 10 hrs a day one day a week.

There has been no long term negative effects. I have had to do make-up days if my digestive system wasn't cooperative. Other days I choose a anal toy that was less intrusive because of work or social obligations. He has been flexible in his requirement of how I obey and I have listened closely to my body.

Another something that we have done on occasion is the use of a camera. From the time I get home until the end of the day I record a "Day in the Life of My Pussy". I won't go into details but it is a fun and effective way to keep the focus of arousal (obviously not done on a work day)

 

[neci]

i've been in a near state of constant sexual arousal for about a year, maybe a bit more. the smallest thing triggers reactions. it's like a daze that i am stuck in sometimes. i go through these manic sexual states, then it lessens to more of a relaxing background noise. my good friend pointed it out to me. she said that i had been exuding some kind of sexual vibe, and i had no idea it showed. now i'm very self conscious of it. sometimes it makes me anxious. like when i'm in public, and i don't want people to pick up on it. i find that i avoid eye contact with men.

there are certain triggers - foods i eat on a regular basis. i can't whisk eggs without thinking, this is a good wrist strengthening exercise. there are smells that trigger strong reactions in me. lots of things. i don't know. i don't think that it was an intentional sadistic plot on His part. it is more the byproduct of everything going on. there are times i enjoy it, and there are times it drives me crazy.

 

[SirLeo]

I think that anything done repitiously will lose its pizazz factor sooner or later. So if get extreme with toys for awhile, just remember to switch it up. I find that springing unexpectd, yet deliciously wicked little things gets a much better response. To use aautoanalogy, I like watching m go from 0-60 in 6 seconds much more than thinking she woud be going at 60 all the time.

 

[satindesire]

Wow. Now that's not something I would have considered, and quite potentially scary.

Thanks for that. Mostly the idea is to keep it low key and then ramp it up a notch (or three) when she's around me. So when I had her at the mall, she was on my arm, which was good because otherwise I think she would have fallen over.

I'm glad I asked the question now, because I never would have even considered a side effect like that. Thank you.

Men absolutely do pick up on female arousal, easily, due to the huge amount of pheromones women release when sexually aroused. It's ridiculous the amount of male attention a horny woman can be subjected to. Not only does out body language change, but our facial expressions and even nonverbal physical cues like flushed cheeks, swollen lips and dilated pupils (Men find these almost universally sexually attractive) are massive indicators of our physical state of 'readiness'.

Please understand that if she is social with anyone of the male gender (and probably some of the female and other genders as well) she'll probably have some rather awkward and unwelcome attention. Keep this in mind if you really want to do this.

ETA: "Constant" sexual arousal can also negatively affect her daily life, becoming a distracting nuisance at best and dangerous at worst. You really don't want to risk her getting into a nasty car wreck because she drifted off fantasizing on the hiway, do you hon?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have been told that a triangle piercing is the most stimulating of all piercings for women. It goes under the bundle of nerves that make up the inner shaft of the clitoris. The woman must have the right anatomy for it-- you must be able to lift her clitoral shaft up from her body.
http://piercingbible.com/female-genital-piercings#Triangle

Just saying...

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I have been told that a triangle piercing is the most stimulating of all piercings for women. It goes under the bundle of nerves that make up the inner shaft of the clitoris. The woman must have the right anatomy for it-- you must be able to lift her clitoral shaft up from her body.
http://piercingbible.com/female-genital-piercings#Triangle

Just saying...

That's what I have, and yes, yes it's damned good.

As above, best discussed with a piercer first, to see if she's anatomically suited. Oh, and if the piercer just looks at you blankly, run. Run far, and fast.

 

[FungiUg]

ETA: "Constant" sexual arousal can also negatively affect her daily life, becoming a distracting nuisance at best and dangerous at worst. You really don't want to risk her getting into a nasty car wreck because she drifted off fantasizing on the hiway, do you hon?

I guess it depends on what level of arousal. You're right, I don't wish to cripple her ability to function in life around friends, family, work and so on. Nor do I want her to have to put up with every male she meets hitting on her (that's my job!)

The experiment will be to find the right level and the best way to achieve that where she can function, isn't swamped my horny men and women wherever she goes, and yet there's always something going on.