A how to question

[chy_girl]

Is there a way to train one's body to accept more than one orgasm during masturbation.

All the hints and tips that came up on Google were geared towards what the partner should do after the woman orgasms, but my Sir is online, not RL. I've attempted some of the suggestions but the results were less than stellar. Well, with no results really.

Also, does anyone have tips conditioning the body to orgasm with countdown? Are these things even possible in an online relationship?

Thanks.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Is there a way to train one's body to accept more than one orgasm during masturbation.

All the hints and tips that came up on Google were geared towards what the partner should do after the woman orgasms, but my Sir is online, not RL. I've attempted some of the suggestions but the results were less than stellar. Well, with no results really.

Also, does anyone have tips conditioning the body to orgasm with countdown? Are these things even possible in an online relationship?

Thanks.

Practice! I had never even tried to have more than one orgasm with masturbation until I met my Dominant. I can now orgasm on demand. I can't do it without warm up but once I have one orgasm all the rest will come on his command.

The only real advice that I can think of is not to give up. After you have reached that first orgasm don't let up...keep your mind and body in the game. Take a few second breather and keep going.

Are you alone when you are doing this or are you on the phone with him? If on the phone is he doing most of the talking or are you? Figure out which way works best for you (him talking more or you) but you know your bady so you can steer the talk to what you need to orgasm. My hardest orgasm is always right after he cums.

Phone sex isn't as good as the real thing but when you reach a certain rhythm with that someone special is can be awesome.

 

[lostmaiden]

Is there a way to train one's body to accept more than one orgasm during masturbation.

All the hints and tips that came up on Google were geared towards what the partner should do after the woman orgasms, but my Sir is online, not RL. I've attempted some of the suggestions but the results were less than stellar. Well, with no results really.

Also, does anyone have tips conditioning the body to orgasm with countdown? Are these things even possible in an online relationship?

Thanks.

thank you for asking this - it is something i have been dealing with as well

 

[zoe8]

Yea I also have that problem. I can get a second orgasm. But it takes quite a bit of mental work.

 

[Franks_Angel]

I am already multi-orgasmatic. Master has not tried to get me to cum on demand, but i can hold off and not cum without permission. After that he either makes me ask for each orgasm OR will not let me stop cumming for him until either he is ready or I beg to stop I don't know if I could do it to a countdown or not LOL.

Frank's slave Crystal

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I think it really depends on *how* you're orgasming.



If it's all clit, then you're really only going to have the one, maybe two, then need a bit of a refractory period before you'll be ready to go again.

If it's internal/g spot, then you can learn to be multi orgasmic. I think the key is to relax, and just let go, go with that feeling.

YMMV, given that everyone is different and all that jazz.

 

[~Haze~]

It's mental. What I mean by that is most of it is in your (and your partners') head. I don't think it's something that can happen right away (as in "do these 5 things to achieve what your looking for).

I think it's possible... very possible, but, in my experience, more frequent and more intense orgasms are going to have to include more than just sex and physical stimulation.

For best results, your partner needs to include psychological stimulation (or vice versa, depending on who's having the orgasms).

I enjoy getting in someone's head - heart - mind. It's so much more rewarding but it's not easy to do. It takes some time, practice, patience, experience, communication, and trust.

You have to want it. For that to happen, you have to trust them and open up to them and want them. Your partner has to get to know you and your want's desires, turn ons, vulnerabilities, passions.

In my experience, it can be so much better than any... "traditional orgasm". The ironic part is it includes more communication and less sex than your "traditional orgasms".

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Please let us know if you achieve the goals at hand <G> and the method used.

Thanks.

 

[Firebrain]

I think it really depends on *how* you're orgasming.



If it's all clit, then you're really only going to have the one, maybe two, then need a bit of a refractory period before you'll be ready to go again.

If it's internal/g spot, then you can learn to be multi orgasmic. I think the key is to relax, and just let go, go with that feeling.

YMMV, given that everyone is different and all that jazz.

What she says.

With clitoral orgasms, I can get there again once, maybe twice, if I take a little break and then start again (if you're using a vibe though, you'll probably desensitise yourself. Use your hands).

Having little g-gasms inbetween helps.

It's not all that hard to come on command when masturbating, provided that you're able to work yourself up a little first. I can keep myself on the edge for ages.

 

[Etoile]

Weird, I do it all the time with the Hitachi Magic Wand.

 

[chy_girl]

What she says.

With clitoral orgasms, I can get there again once, maybe twice, if I take a little break and then start again (if you're using a vibe though, you'll probably desensitise yourself. Use your hands).

Having little g-gasms inbetween helps.

It's not all that hard to come on command when masturbating, provided that you're able to work yourself up a little first. I can keep myself on the edge for ages.

G-gasms? Is that like an orgasm from internal stimulation? Cause I've never managed one of those.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

G-gasm's can be a bit hard to manage, especially because at first it feels like you have to pee. But basically your g-spot is just inside, think of it behind your clit, when you place a finger inside move your finger in a come here motion. You will feel a bit of spongy flesh and if you feel like you have to pee..keep going and you will work past it to a pretty amazing G-gasm.

 

[chy_girl]

G-gasm's can be a bit hard to manage, especially because at first it feels like you have to pee. But basically your g-spot is just inside, think of it behind your clit, when you place a finger inside move your finger in a come here motion. You will feel a bit of spongy flesh and if you feel like you have to pee..keep going and you will work past it to a pretty amazing G-gasm.

I've had the gotta go feeling and made it past it, but I've never been able to go just from that.

Is that another practice thing?

 

[Imahavah]

I am already multi-orgasmatic. Master has not tried to get me to cum on demand, but i can hold off and not cum without permission. After that he either makes me ask for each orgasm OR will not let me stop cumming for him until either he is ready or I beg to stop I don't know if I could do it to a countdown or not LOL.

Frank's slave Crystal

Yep that's me too.

 

[yourmissl]

It's mental. What I mean by that is most of it is in your (and your partners') head. I don't think it's something that can happen right away (as in "do these 5 things to achieve what your looking for).

I think it's possible... very possible, but, in my experience, more frequent and more intense orgasms are going to have to include more than just sex and physical stimulation.

For best results, your partner needs to include psychological stimulation (or vice versa, depending on who's having the orgasms).

I enjoy getting in someone's head - heart - mind. It's so much more rewarding but it's not easy to do. It takes some time, practice, patience, experience, communication, and trust.

You have to want it. For that to happen, you have to trust them and open up to them and want them. Your partner has to get to know you and your want's desires, turn ons, vulnerabilities, passions.

In my experience, it can be so much better than any... "traditional orgasm". The ironic part is it includes more communication and less sex than your "traditional orgasms".

Yes, this.

My rather brief foray on-line was a bit of a disaster on many fronts, (submission is apparently NOT one of my natural talents ), but this Dom knew how to push my emotional & psychological buttons in a way that had me constantly on the edge of orgasm.

It actually became more difficult to wait... and frankly, so intense even just thinking about him that daily life was getting more than a little uncomfortable.

The brain truly is the engine of sexuality.

 

[WickedSecret]

G-gasm's can be a bit hard to manage, especially because at first it feels like you have to pee. But basically your g-spot is just inside, think of it behind your clit, when you place a finger inside move your finger in a come here motion. You will feel a bit of spongy flesh and if you feel like you have to pee..keep going and you will work past it to a pretty amazing G-gasm.

From there, it's a good time to alternate between clitoral & vaginal (as well as anal) stimulation.
I am one of the lucky women that are multi orgasmic, and personally I prefer a vaginal, a clitoral, followed by many vaginals, with a few anals & clitorals thrown in; then a riding him orgasm which utilises a clitoral & vaginal perfectly.
Dammit where is that lap boy?

On that note..you have to feel it (no pun intended).
If the attraction isnt physical and mental you may not surpass one

 

[Etoile]

From there, it's a good time to alternate between clitoral & vaginal (as well as anal) stimulation.
I am one of the lucky women that are multi orgasmic, and personally I prefer a vaginal, a clitoral, followed by many vaginals, with a few anals & clitorals thrown in; then a riding him orgasm which utilises a clitoral & vaginal perfectly.
Dammit where is that lap boy?

On that note..you have to feel it (no pun intended).
If the attraction isnt physical and mental you may not surpass one

Welcome to Lit...

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

This may not be terribly helpful, but I suspect that we might simply each have a natural 'setting' with regard to this, which perhaps is linked to personal frame of mind as much as anything physiological, or related to practical technique.

The posts here suggest quite a range of personal experiences. My own is that I usually orgasm two or three times when I masturbate, occasionally more. And they are predominantly clitoral. Consciously trying to have g-spot style orgasms doesn't seem to work for me, and for some reason I rarely find it very satisfying to masturbate with a dildo.

It might work for you to take a little pause, and then resume as you feel yourself warming up again. Personally, after I come I usually have a cigarette and just lie back and relax for a few minutes. Maybe try not to force the pace.

And as others have rightly suggested, varying things up slightly might be effective. For example, playing out a different kind of fantasy or scenario in your mind. Or stimulating yourself in a different way. Sometimes, when I masturbate for a second or third time, I stroke my anus or penetrate myself slightly there. But that's strictly an example: don't do that yourself unless you are comfortable with the idea and the thought arouses you.

I think that 'conditioning' yourself is probably not the most constructive word to apply here. It implies a forcing or contrivance - which is wholly unconducive to enjoyable orgasms. Do what arouses you, what feels good, and take your time. If it turns out you do only come once, then make the most of it. Try and hold off, delay it, and go slowly...that may well bring extra intensity and meaning to your orgasm.

 

[Firebrain]

x x x x x x

 

[NekoMimi]

lol i suck. during sex i have alot, like my average is 6, butmasturbating, i cant get one!

 

[ericsquare]

Well I'm a guy and all but I can have multple orgasms if I'm on aderol and sometimes with a lot of control during masturbation...some anal play could help?

So I'm almost always up all night just looking for some hip people that are in the same boat and wanna chat on msn messenger to kill the boredom together. I'm 27 m ny Indie rock style...any cool girls around perhaps?
My msn is mickeymcmockin@yahoo.com feel free to add me and say hi

 

[Kikori]

Since this has been bumped. Did you ever get to a multi-orgasmic point? o:

 

[chy_girl]

Since this has been bumped. Did you ever get to a multi-orgasmic point? o:

Not yet.

 

[where]

Not yet.

are you willing to tell us what kind on things you have been trying?

 

[Cattypuss]

bump

(Mr G's thread in the how-to section is solid gold for this, btw)