The 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'

[BLoved]

We already have evidence of how the casual community handles stalking by one of their own.

Why should we believe they are any more responsible when it comes to rape?

I am sure the astute reader has noticed that stalking isn't "stalking" when casual players stalk ...

... just as rape isn't "rape" when casual players rape.

To them, it's all semantics.

Rape, stalking ... just a joke to them.

At least till they get caught: News Article

As long as they get what they want, they just don't care about ethics.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Bump.

Hehehe.

 

[00Syd]

Would that mean that someone could be described as being 'Trollier-than-thou'?

Absolutely.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Where in that news report you are referencing does it mention 'casual BDSM', or even BDSM at all? It states 'dating website', of which there are many, aimed at creating vanilla relationships.

What that guy did was wrong, just the same as many of the abuses/rapes that happen every day in ALL types of relationships are.

 

[FloggingMolly]

We could do with having some form of 'Trollier-than-thou' award... a sash perhaps?

 

[BLoved]

Where in that news report you are referencing does it mention 'casual BDSM', or even BDSM at all? It states 'dating website', of which there are many, aimed at creating vanilla relationships.

What that guy did was wrong, just the same as many of the abuses/rapes that happen every day in ALL types of relationships are.

Readers will have already noticed your lack of concern for stalking when a casual player is responsible.

Why should they believe you are any more concerned about rape when a casual player is the rapist?

Let's face it, you'll turn a blind eye to anything as long as your popularity with the casual players is on the line.

 

[Etoile]

For those who are interested, that rabbit's name was Oolong. He passed away a couple of years ago, but the owner has a new rabbit called Yuebing who also does head-performances.

 

[neci]

Where in that news report you are referencing does it mention 'casual BDSM', or even BDSM at all? It states 'dating website', of which there are many, aimed at creating vanilla relationships.

What that guy did was wrong, just the same as many of the abuses/rapes that happen every day in ALL types of relationships are.

Readers will have already noticed your lack of concern for stalking when a casual player is responsible.

Why should they believe you are any more concerned about rape when a casual player is the rapist?

Let's face it, you'll turn a blind eye to anything as long as your popularity with the casual players is on the line.

Let's face it BLoved, it is clear here that you will attack a newbie submissive female when it suits your personal goals. She is correct about the article. It said nothing about BDSM. She called you out, and now you are calling her names. (wait - i thought only casual players did stuff like that?! not loving committed men?!) In my book, there is a huge difference between a rape victim and an online attention whore who gets his panties in a wad when people disagree with him. Stooping to new levels of low this morning, huh?

my goodness.

 

[Homburg]

Readers will have already noticed your lack of concern for stalking when a casual player is responsible.

Why should they believe you are any more concerned about rape when a casual player is the rapist?

Let's face it, you'll turn a blind eye to anything as long as your popularity with the casual players is on the line.

I can call what you do "goat-fucking", but without an actual goat it will be precisely as accurate as your stalking accusation.

 

[FloggingMolly]

I can call what you do "goat-fucking", but without an actual goat it will be precisely as accurate as your stalking accusation.

And now I need a new monitor, as mine is filled with spat-out orange juice!
Epic

Readers will have already noticed your lack of concern for stalking when a casual player is responsible.

I seriously doubt these 'readers' give a toss what I, one random person sat at a computer whose opnion doesnt affect their lives one little bit, think about any of this. I should imagne they give equal amounts of disinterest to yours also.

Why should they believe you are any more concerned about rape when a casual player is the rapist?

I am against rape full stop, be it some creepy guy in a mac, a 'casual' player, a drummer, someone in a santa suit, a hot girl way out of your league, or the tooth fairy. Rape is wrong. I think we've all agreed this about a billion times.

Let's face it, you'll turn a blind eye to anything as long as your popularity with the casual players is on the line.

Oh what a bunch of bollocks. Firstly, whether they lke me or not is their choice. They're all grown ups who don't need to be told what to do, and won't be persuaded to like me on something as utterly trivial as whether I say I disagree with you. Secondly, I don't really give a monkeys whether they do or not. _I_ am more than welcome on any BDSM board, because _I_ haven't gone around them ranting, raving and trying to antagonise people far beyond what is necessary to make a point

For simplicities sake, why don't you just put in your signature that people/subs/newbies should be responsible and careful when exploring BDSM, especially in the 'casual' community, should do plenty of research about the dangers and how to reduce the risk, and try to create a meaningful relationship before handing themselves over? That way, instead of hijacking each thread, they can just see your signature when you post normal, interesting things like flogging methods, new restraints you've tried, whether or not adult interest n spanking comes from the sort of discipline one had as a child?
You're getting the word out, but people start thinking of you as someone worth talking to, not a troll.

:shrugs:

 

[SirLeo]

Dear Grace, you had mentioned something about an asshole troll in your post above. I was just making an attempt (obviously failed ) at humor...

 

[graceanne]

Amen.

Those that nag 'trolls' tend to become trollier. Trolly-er? Whichever.

It's teh lame.

I ignored him. No one else did. Now I'm just gonna annoy him until he GOES AWAY. You all's way of getting rid of him didn't work, because you keep trying to be logical and assume he will be. He's a troll, they are not logical.

I am sure the astute reader has noticed that stalking isn't "stalking" when casual players stalk ...

Great, stalking isn't stalking here, either. Rape isn't rape. The sky is purple, and the grass is neon pink.

Rape, stalking ... just a joke to them.

.

No, the joke is you. Duh!

Dear Grace, you had mentioned something about an asshole troll in your post above. I was just making an attempt (obviously failed ) at humor...

Oh, ok. I just didn't get it.

 

[Netzach]

For those who are interested, that rabbit's name was Oolong. He passed away a couple of years ago, but the owner has a new rabbit called Yuebing who also does head-performances.

We need stuffonmyrabbit.com

 

[BLoved]

I found myself wondering yesterday how many stalkers, rapists and abusers in general have decided to join their local casual 'bdsm' community.

Given all the evidence demonstrating how much the casual community wants to turn a blind eye to such behaviour when a casual player is responsible, I am sure quite a few stalkers, rapists et al have come to realize the casual community is the place to be.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

*yawn*

New flavour of inflamatory commentary = bland

Running out of A material?

 

[WriterDom]

I found myself wondering yesterday how many stalkers, rapists and abusers in general have decided to join their local casual 'bdsm' community.

Given all the evidence demonstrating how much the casual community wants to turn a blind eye to such behaviour when a casual player is responsible, I am sure quite a few stalkers, rapists et al have come to realize the casual community is the place to be.

As opposed to what? The faceless nameless "Formal" internet community?

 

[FloggingMolly]

I think you're thinking about how you'd get into the scene to abuse people far too much for someone who is just a 'concerned bystander'.

:shrugs: Just saying...

 

[neci]

*yawn*

New flavour of inflamatory commentary = bland

Running out of A material?

i'm starting to think he has some kind of public humiliation fetish, and every post on here helps get him off.

 

[graceanne]

I found myself wondering yesterday how many stalkers, rapists and abusers in general have decided to join their local casual 'bdsm' community.

Given all the evidence demonstrating how much the casual community wants to turn a blind eye to such behaviour when a casual player is responsible, I am sure quite a few stalkers, rapists et al have come to realize the casual community is the place to be.

You'd know, I'm sure.

I think you're thinking about how you'd get into the scene to abuse people far too much for someone who is just a 'concerned bystander'.

:shrugs: Just saying...

QFT

i'm starting to think he has some kind of public humiliation fetish, and every post on here helps get him off.

Maybe, cause he's getting his ass handed to him, but he keeps coming back! Talk about not knowing when to quit.

 

[BLoved]

Maybe, cause he's getting his ass handed to him, but he keeps coming back! Talk about not knowing when to quit.

If I was writing for your benefit, I probably would.

 

[graceanne]

If I was writing for your benefit, I probably would.

You're back?

Good lord, you're not the brightest bulb in the package. But, please, try and piss me off again. I don't mind handing you your ass again.

 

[BLoved]

I think you're thinking about how you'd get into the scene to abuse people far too much for someone who is just a 'concerned bystander'.

:shrugs: Just saying...

~smile~

If we ignore the fact that I have a beloved, that I do not have private messaging turned on, that the only way to communicate with me is in these discussions, and that it is abundantly clear I have no interest in joining the casual scene ... then maybe you might have a valid point.

 

[graceanne]

~smile~

If we ignore the fact that I have a beloved, that I do not have private messaging turned on, that the only way to communicate with me is in these discussions, and that it is abundantly clear I have no interest in joining the casual scene ... then maybe you might have a valid point.

Well, there is real life munches, but we all know you're too young to do those . . .

 

[BLoved]

You're back?

~smile~

I never left.

Good lord, you're not the brightest bulb in the package. But, please, try and piss me off again. I don't mind handing you your ass again.

~smile~

You do that.

The more advocates of casual 'bdsm' who demonstrate their immaturity in public, the more you make my case.

 

[graceanne]

~smile~

I never left.



~smile~

You do that.

The more advocates of casual 'bdsm' who demonstrate their immaturity in public, the more you make my case.

Nyah nyah nyah.

The fact that you continue to think that calling me immature is going to annoy me just shows how dim you are. ~smile~

And what case? Everyone here knows your an idiot and a troll. You're a joke to this forum, our own resident troll. Duh!