Honey, I love pain.

[Guest]

How do you break it to your significant other that you're into bdsm, or that you're submissive and would like to be in a consensual forced sexual situation? I've had sex with my boyfriend a few times and nothing too out of the ordinary (other than doing it in public parks) And he mentioned that he likes inflicting pain. But how do you tell him you're curious or into BDSM?

 

[celticsunspiral]

I would think that was the perfect time to discuss it with him. In fact it sounds like a way he may have been trying to bring it up to you and see what you thought of the idea. Just go, Honey remember when you mentioned you liked inflicting pain, what did you mean? Are you into BDSM? Because that has been something that I have thought about. Hopefully that will start a great conversation that will take you exploring.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Ug. I remember my long vanilla, trying-to-be-normal relationship.

"Why do you always want to hurt me when we make love?"

Ug.

 

[MisterSir]

Ug. I remember my long vanilla, trying-to-be-normal relationship.

"Why do you always want to hurt me when we make love?"

Ug.

Ooh, I've read the books on that, I think the right answer is..."Because it's fun, so shut your mouth and make me a sandwich". I may be mis-remembering, of course.

 

[the captians wench]

Ooh, I've read the books on that, I think the right answer is..."Because it's fun, so shut your mouth and make me a sandwich". I may be mis-remembering, of course.

And if she's into it she'll say, "yes dear"

 

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[skinnysinner]

How do you break it to your significant other that you're into bdsm, or that you're submissive and would like to be in a consensual forced sexual situation? I've had sex with my boyfriend a few times and nothing too out of the ordinary (other than doing it in public parks) And he mentioned that he likes inflicting pain. But how do you tell him you're curious or into BDSM?

I agree with the others, he gave you the opening. As a a significant other of someone who isn't into tying this, I would be using this tactic to see how far my other was interested, he is fishing and awaiting your response. Surprise him, ask him what he meant, has he tried it, does it mean he doesn't like you as much or what it inspires... and come back and tell us all!

 

[Guest]

Well, I let him know that I am into pain. I've let it slip that i'm interested in bdsm and other kinky stuff but he didn't seem to understand much of it. Oh well.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Well, I let him know that I am into pain. I've let it slip that i'm interested in bdsm and other kinky stuff but he didn't seem to understand much of it. Oh well.

Spanking. Ask him for a spanking. Just a nice, playful nothing-weird-happening-here-move-along-please spanking. For fun.

It's a gateway drug.

 

[subish2009]

Spanking. Ask him for a spanking. Just a nice, playful nothing-weird-happening-here-move-along-please spanking. For fun.

It's a gateway drug.

Ooooh! Good advice. Spanking is borderline vanilla at this point, or can be, so it wouldn't be a huge leap to ask him, and his reaction should give you lots of info by which to guide your next move. I definitely agree with this suggestion.

 

[neci]

Spanking. Ask him for a spanking. Just a nice, playful nothing-weird-happening-here-move-along-please spanking. For fun.

It's a gateway drug.

add in the puppy dog eyes, and say you have been a very bad girl. yes. then when he starts spanking, tell him you are becoming very, very wet. then when you feel his cock getting hard under your tummy, say, "honey, i love pain."
*nods*
this shit works.

 

[subish2009]

add in the puppy dog eyes, and say you have been a very bad girl. yes. then when he starts spanking, tell him you are becoming very, very wet. then when you feel his cock getting hard under your tummy, say, "honey, i love pain."
*nods*
this shit works.

Or ask him to do it while he's taking you from behind.... He'll FEEL how much you like it. Might not need much convincing after that. SMACK! That sound is addictive for both parties.

 

[neci]

Or ask him to do it while he's taking you from behind.... He'll FEEL how much you like it. Might not need much convincing after that. SMACK! That sound is addictive for both parties.

SMACK!

 

[FurryFury]

I'd never suggest using the word pain as an opener. It's too much of a shock word IMO. I'd use the word sensation. This is much easier for someone who knows nothing about D/s to understand. Pain is a sensation and it can be sensual as well as other.

Don't stop communicating. Ask HIM what his fantasies are too. Make it a fun and exciting game. Do NOT let him think you aren't happy with him and the sex y'all have already have though. That way lies emasculation.

 

[subwannabe]

I think everyone pretty much already said it - talk to him! If you are worried about it freaking him out or him not being interested in it then you are probably with the wrong person anyway.

 

[Guest]

Thank you all very much for your nice replies! I actually talked to him a little about it, tested the waters so to speak. And as it turns out, we had a bit of a fun time the other day at a park where we were playing a little rough and both of us were really turned on by it. So we'll try that out on the bedroom next time.

 

[celticsunspiral]

Thank you all very much for your nice replies! I actually talked to him a little about it, tested the waters so to speak. And as it turns out, we had a bit of a fun time the other day at a park where we were playing a little rough and both of us were really turned on by it. So we'll try that out on the bedroom next time.

Good for you! I am glad talking to him helped. Enjoy!

 

[FurryFury]

Yay! Glad to hear you both had some fun!