Excellent places to shop are Blowfish and Good Vibrations but my favorite is Babeland. It’s important to remember that you’re not buying "a strap-on dildo" as such, you’re actually buying a dildo and a harness to put it in. They’re generally two separate products.
The harness I recommend the most is the Jaguar and the Terra Firma is a close second. These are often hard to manipulate if the wearer is pretty large, though, so I usually mention the Crown Harness as well because it’s designed for bigger bodies. All of these have straps that go around each leg, which I prefer because they’re more secure. If you want one that’s just got one strap (thong-style) go with the Buzz Me Tender (which has a spot for a bullet vibe). By the way, I don’t like synthetic (nylon) fabrics for harnesses. Backpack straps are also made out of nylon, and that’s what these sound like…the one time I used a synthetic harness, I couldn’t stop laughing because it sounded like a backpack bouncing along.
Dildos are hard to recommend because everybody wants something different…and so there are hundreds (if not thousands) of styles. Look through babeland.com, goodvibes.com, and blowfish.com for something you like. If you want a double dildo, I can’t recommend the Nexus (and its smaller cousin, Nexus Jr.) enough: they are designed to feel good for the person wearing the harness, too (most boomerang-style doubles just feel like they’re going to fall out). The Share is extremely popular, as is the Feeldoe, but I have no experience with those...just the Nexus. Just make sure that if you get a double, you get a harness that has the hole all the way through. I also recommend silicone over other materials: it’s safer, easier to clean, lasts longer, holds heat…there are a lot of reasons to use silicone dildos! (Price, unfortunately, is not one of them, but they’re worth the extra expense.)
So take a look around and pick out something you like. If all else fails, get a kit - there are several kits to choose from. You should be able to find them at just about any sex store, but they won't necessarily come with the female-focused, sex-positive vibe you get at the other places! (If you want to tell me your city I can maybe find a store for you.)
By the way, for tips on using it, Babeland has a guide to sucking strap-on cock and Fairy Butch wrote a book called The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex. Also, for more tips on choosing a harness, try the Harness Coach from Babeland.
Hope this helps!
We are F/F.
I apologize. That was stupid of me, and thank you for being so nice about it.
Espie
Extremely good information for F/F also.
Etoile,
I love all the links and suggestions you gave, as well as all the firsthand information. I'd love to spend that kind of money on a sex toy, but can't, at least not now. Anything wrong with a thirty or forty dollar harness + toy?
I really do appreciate your input. I have a lot of link bookmarking to do.
That's the perspective from which it was written...it's the only one I know!
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I like Doc Johnson because of the realistic attachments
And funnily enough, that's a major reason I don't like Doc Johnson/Vac-U-Lock.
I guess it's different for lesbians. At no time have I ever thought a strap-on was a penis substitute...it's just a way to play. "Reality" would turn me off...penises are funny-looking.
I prefer the fakes because I want the reality, and none of those DJ products look like my dick.
Well, I know you have one of those Dick Rambone dildos. They're pretty realistic other than the proportions. I'm sure that was probably intended as a fisting substitute, though, since that monster is about the size of an arm.Me too. None of our dildos are realistic. Doesn't bother me in the slightest! We have one that has balls but it's blue.
Well, I know you have one of those Dick Rambone dildos. They're pretty realistic other than the proportions. I'm sure that was probably intended as a fisting substitute, though, since that monster is about the size of an arm.
Of course, I freak a lot of people out with the memory thing.
